We might be over 40 but we are young at heart, taking our supplements, shagging on time and waiting for the precious BFP!Over 40's TTC, join us here...

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Starting the new thread, Cloudjumper.

Anyone over 40, trying to conceive, whether it is your first or 6th (or more), we're facing the obstacles together.

I've been at it for 6 years now, but there are plenty of good news stories from these threads over the years.

Come and join us with your worries, woes,successes and milestones, we are here to support one another in our quest.

Gum what a lovely reaction from your DH,you obviously make a good team!
So happy all is going well with your pregnancy, how soon do you think you'll get your scan?

Hi Freckled. I just phoned to make an appointment, and nothing is simple. Apparently my Dr should have faxed through the referral, but she didn't, so I have to take the referral in, then I might have an appointment on Thursday afternoon. I was hoping for sooner, I need reassurance at the moment. But I am sure it will be better for waiting a couple of days: probably able to se more. I will be 7+2.

I am at home with DS today who is sick, so I won't be able to do the blood tests till tomorrow either.

I just wish my symptoms weren't so mild: I have a bit of breast tenderness this morning, but it's very slight and not feeling very sick. It just makes me so worried.

That's great news Gum about dh's reaction. You must feel tons better on that front . Try not to worry about symptoms. I remember reading somewhere that they tend to be less obvious with the more pregnancies we have (the old hg website which had accounts of those with 4 plus children often feeling less sick with 5 plus pregnancy. I remember my symptoms disappearing completely ay 8 weeks last time, and fibbing to Dr that I'd had spotting so as to get a scan (I did actually have a bleed the morning of the scan,!). As you say, that first scan will help a lot, plus I'll bet your symptoms will be back with a vengeance soon xxx

Thankyou Diege- wise words - as I sit here typing feeling a little worse for wear, sipping lemon and honey to take away the nasty taste in my mouth, and boobs nice and tender! I wish I could let the worry go, but it's all part of it. I do feel rather amazed and excited that I've got this far, but also acutely aware that I am heading into 'danger time", where I lost my two little boy beans. I have a feeling this one isn't a boy this time, but I am inclined to think my hunches are all bullshit

I can't tell you what a relief it is to have DH by my side in this. However, it actually makes me feel there is more too lose now, IYSWIM?

Only two days till the scan. It can't come soon enough.

How's your brood, and work and life? Are you able to find some time for yourself? I have to admit to being a bit concerned about giving up all the time I get to myself lately, now that DS is 6, but I am sure I will love every minute

fatty You poor thing, that sounds horrendous! Agree with what others have said, that is definitely not normal! Hope you can get someone to take a look soon. And make sure you keep your iron levels up - I got iron supplements from my GP after my first mc because everything dragged out for so long.

annie How are you? Sorry for not remembering, are you having another scan lined up soon? Hope you are holding up.

gum That is excellent news about your DH being happy! You've been worrying for this for so long, and now it's finally resolved, I'm so happy for you. Will he be coming to the scan with you?

As for myself, I am not too good... 9+1 today, and my hopes are dwindling, even though the sickness has come back with a vengeance. But (and I can't believe I am writing this, it sounds sooo stupid) it's a different kind of sickness - no more coming in waves with ravenous hunger and having to eat all the time, it's now more constant, underlying, a bit like travel sickness. Eating doesn't help, at least not very much. I am wondering if this is the progesterone giving me symptoms that are not really there? I've heard that this is a possible effect of progesterone.
The spotting is still there, now more or less constant every day, mostly red. And I'm feeling quite crampy today... So all in all, it doesn't look good (purely based on past experience).
I will try calling the EPU to see if they might scan me again this weekend, if not, I will try and get a private scan. I need to know asap - we are going on holiday in 3 weeks' time, and the longer I wait, the more chance there is that it will mess up the trip, if any 'measures' will have to be taken.

Hi Chewy, yes I was about to give up! Felt like TTC was consuming my every thought. Now worrying about an mc is consuming my every thought! You are right though - must stay positive & keep saying 'I'm having a baby.'
So sorry you have had such a rough time. Pleurisy is sooooo painful. Maybe the break & the cysts being sorted will make all the difference.
Glad dh was happy Gum. Will he come with you to your scan? I can't decide whether to let dh off the hook. We've never had a good scan & he doesn't cope well. Half of me thinks I have to hear it so he should too & the other half thinks I don't need the added worry of him passing out! (Actually happened at our last 'I'm so sorry scan!)
It doesn't sound stupid at all Cloud. We know our bodies well enough to know when things feel different. It might just be different though & not necessarily bad. Do you have to wait for the weekend to get scan?
How are you Fatty? Have you spoken to dr?
And you Annie? Are you still having symptoms?
I have a sharp pain in my side which I'm ignoring. Trying to keep busy before scan on Thursday but going to visit my pregnant cousin might not be the best plan!

I cannot believe it. I simply cannot believe it. Had beta bloods taken this morning and will go back Thursday to have the second lot done. The cross came up as I was still weeing on the stick! I really am stunned, and it just proves to me how wrong we can be about our chances of conception; as the months roll by and everyone else seems to have all the luck...it really is so blooming random. I wish everyone here a happy ending very, very soon... I will be back to catch up later as I can see there have been lots of posts and I'd love to catch up with all your news..

Oh Cloud, how worrying. It must be terrifying when you have a history and it feels like it is repeating itself. I agree you should have the scan..and I am wishing you all the luck in the world

Grizzer, hang on in there.

Gum, you sound so happy to have DH on side, well done you. The scans are scary, but your symptoms are good, no matter how erratic

Chewy, goodness, you've been through the mill. How do you feel now, health-wise? It's annoying to have lost three months but what a relief to see the back of those obnoxious cysts. Good luck with ttc from now on (and hurrah! for proof of ovulation).

Fatty, I winced and grimaced reading through your account. You poor, poor sod. Please let us know you're okay and someone has sorted this mess out for you. No-one should have to suffer this on the back of a supposedly-resolved loss

How are you, Fireflies? And Jass?

Could someone please advise me? Are there any of the following supplements I need to stop taking now I have my bfp?: Maca root; co-enzyme (400mg); magnesium; selenium; vit B complex + vit C.

Thank you.

Annie, how are you coping in this awful limbo? Is your next scan next week?

Congratulations Flotillas. Lovely news xx

Congratulations, flotillas, that's great news!
Not sure about the vitamins, but I would switch to a good lot of antenatal vitamins with folic acid and leave the rest (which is what I did). Were they not mainly for ttc? So they've done the job... Baby aspirin is very controversial, some say yay, others nay. Do you have a history of recurring MC (sorry, I can't remember). Might be worth discussing the supplements with you GP/consultant.

Big Congratulations, flotillas, that is a beautiful bfp.

About the vitamins: my doctor and I had a long talk about it, she wants me on a prenatal,folic acid,iodine (which may be in the prenatal),aspirin, probiotics,Vit D,CoQ10 and magnesium. I read that magnesium will help with morning sickness. I am also taking a B spectrum for that reason.

Cloud - have you been able to organise a scan? Hopefully all is well and a scan could be reassuring. I certainly understand how you'd like to know what's going on before you go on holiday.

I haven't had the chance to talk to DH about the scan. He was home late from work, I was early to bed, I will try to ask him this morning. It is difficult to discuss things as the kids are often around. I would have liked to have told my daughters, they are 18 and 15, but the 15 year old suffers from anxiety and I don't want her to worry.

How is everyone else? Anyone coming up to ovulation or testing?

Flotillas!! That's great news! Congratulations on your BFP!
I take Pregnacare, Omega 3 fish oils and I'm taking 75mg aspirin daily.

Cloud Oh i feel for you so much, it's so hard isn't it? Just getting through it day by day, bathroom visit by bathroom visit. I also totally understand how "a different kind of sickness" can send your hopes plumetting. You are quite right to try and have a scan before your holiday so you can know how things lie and mostly to let your mind rest.

Fatty what did the clinic say? Hope thinks have improved xx

Gum I'm so glad your DH was happy! You did so well to keep quiet for so long. It's great that they're sending you for a scan straight away and 7w+2d is better in terms of confirming viability.

Chewy I agree completely about me being treated like training exercise. I found out the girl that was learning how to use the equipment was not actually a midwife but a radiographer which it better but I wish someone had told me that. They all wear the same colour uniform so I just assumed she was a midwife. Anyway it's behind me now!

Grizzler I feel the same as you about bringing DH. I find he's an extra worry as he asks random questions and I never know what he's going to come out with! I can deal with that but we live on an island and I'm better at getting in and out of Maternity without being seen that he is!

Jass and emmaline how are you getting on?

Hello to everyone else!! I'm so sorry to miss people off I'm reading this on my phone so can't keep track very well will need to check again tonight at home.

My symptoms are mild too but they're definitely there. They came back the day after the scan. Tender boobs, drooling a lot and feeling slightly sick all the time. By pouring busy into my life I've made this week fly by. Just one more week to go until the next scan. Feeling quite calm about it. I don't feel any pain, I don't have spotting but I'm not expecting to see a heartbeat as I never have. I feel quite well other than the constant quease.

I was watching an RSPCA programme last night and a dog had 8 puppies - poor pup was having an ultrasound and the vet was rubbing her nipples with blue gel. Ouch!! My nipples were throbbing just watching it!! So glad I've only got two.

Congrats Flotillas on your BFP! Wonderful news!
Just curious - can I ask what beta bloods are and where you had them done? It wouldn't have occurred to me to get those blood tests straight after BFP, so I just wondered whether you might be outside the UK (and maybe its common practice elsewhere)?

I'm trying to remember who's pregnant now: Flotillas, Cloud, Gum, Annie, Grizzer, Seewot ... anyone else?

Brilliant news of course, although having an inexplicable, teensy tiny "everyone's pregnant apart from me" moment. Sob. Must get a grip. And hopefully me and Fireflies, Gerald, Jass (bound to be!) and everone else can join you in the upduffed club before too long.

Congratulations Flotillas that is really great news. It seems that we have more preggers ladies on here now than non-preg ones. I'm afraid that I've slightly lost track of where everyone is on dates and scans etc, so wishing you all a universal 'good luck' for the next milestone and everything that's coming up.

Chewy - I have to confess that I also had a 'it's not me' moment when I read about another BFP. Really happy for everyone, but also that thought of 'when will it be my turn' - is that a bad thing to think??

Let's hope that the rest of us get lucky soon. I've completely lost track of my cycle this month. Gave up temping after forgetting for 3 days in a row, and then couldn't be bothered with the opks either. We have dtd pretty much every other day since CD7 though. DH is going away on Friday for nearly 2 weeks, so I'm hoping to get a couple more in before then, and then that will be it for this month thank god. I'll be around CD18 by then, so hopefully will have OV'd although goodness only knows when!!

Annie and Cloud when are your next scans due??

Oh no, I really hope I didn't just come across in any way mean-spirited??? Its genuinely wonderful to read of such a glut of BFP's. I do need the encouragement that pregnancy after 40 (particularly any case of quite some distance after 40) is very possible. But I'd just so love it to be me (and Joey and everyone else ...) as well! #desperate Never mind, maybe next month ... x

Chewy! Of course you didn't. Everyone thinks like that. It's all so bloody unfair! X

I was thinking exactly the same thing when the four ladies got pregnant in a short space of time on here. When I got my bfp yesterday it brought it home to me how wrong we are when we think 'It's never going to be me', because we just don't know what's around the corner. And I think that's good

Chewy, having suffered a mmc at eleven weeks I'm not letting myself be deceived again. At least a doubling HcG after 48 hours will settle my nerves until the first early scan at seven weeks. I got my beta HcG score today actually from yesterday (13dpo). It was 272. Jass, oh wise lady, is this good?

Hi ladies, i have finally stopped bleeding! things had improved slightly by the time monday morning came, so I decided to take a wait and see approach.....really I didnt want to take up an appointment from someone who may have needed it more than me, as the clinic is only open such limited times.

anyways, by last night, things had really slowed down, and today is the first day i havent had to wear a super long night time sanitary towel in about 4 weeks...in fact none needed at all! I cannot believe how its gone from hourly changing of a pad to nothing in just a few days!

i really thought i was going end up looking like a raisin!

thanks for all the good wishes, and wonderful to catch up on all the good news and BFP's...congarts to you xxx

Chewy, don't be daft,lovey! Everyone feels that way. After being on these threads for years, I have had many moments of "when will it be my turn?". I hope it is just around the corner for you.

Fatty, I am pleased to hear that you are feeling better. It must have been horrendous.

Well, it's my scan this afternoon. Time will move like very thick treacle today, me thinks. I haven't slept much, trying to prepare myself mentally for all the possible bad outcomes: smaller than it should be, slow heartbeat, no heartbeat, empty sac, molar pregnancy....I've thought of it all, because all I want is a healthy heartbeat and right size for dates. Then of course I convinced myself that I have no symptoms at all and I am probably not even pregnant...It is going to be a long day. At least I have exam marking which will keep me busy. There's no avoiding it, I just have to get on with it.

Dh asked if I wanted him there, I said I wasn't really all that bothered, and he declined. I said it might help him feel the reality of the situation, but he said he isn't quite ready to believe it 100%(which I fully understand). It turns out that he needs to stay home with our sick DS anyway. He said that he'd been awake at night worrying about the future - it's his typical modus operandi- he will worry about money,and the size of our house, the stress a baby will bring. But he'll work through it and eventually just accept it will all be fine, just as he's done in the past.

Although all those things worry me a bit too, I know that my lack of income will be temporary and I'll probably go back to work when babe is a year old (all going well, of course). I also don't think we should be worrying about any of that stuff until I get a clear result from the harmony and a good scan at 19 weeks.

Flotillas, I don't know about betas, I think what's important is the "doubling rate", so your next beta number will tell you more. I have everything crossed for you.

Wow, this thread is moving fast, so much going on! Congrats Flotillas!
Will be watching out for your update Gum, willing you a perfect scan.
I guess I could be coming up to ovulation, but I'm not temping or anything this month, just letting things be.

Well, not the best news I'm afraid. Apparently the yolk sack is a bit too big (6mm) and baby measures 6weeks 3days but I know when I ovulated so it should be 7+2. I'm in tears, despite seeing a heart beat in healthy range. what happens now? My doctor is away so I can't talk to her. Should I try to get another scan in a week or two? The lady doing the scan wasn't very positive and said I shouldn't expect too much at my age. Feel so sad right now, worried that I am just waiting for another miscarriage.

Sorry if I sound ignorant Gum but are things that negative? Here until 8'weeks they consider 6 days 'out' either side to be within normal range. Plus heart beat very good? I can of course understand your worry - when will your next scan be? Thinking of you and willing gumbean on xxxx

Gum, I wouldn't get too despondent over this result at such an early stage. Definitely book a scan for next week, IMO. Meanwhile, rejoice in that heartbeat

Just popped on to wish scan ladies well for today. Think Grizzer might have a scan today (???) but seems I miscalculated Oz time difference for Gum.

Gum - wise words from Diege - great news there's a heart beat. And the idea that 6 days 'out' on measurements is still within normal range sounds very reasonable. (Although I don't know much about this sort of thing, it makes sense that 'normal' measurements this early one would be highly variable. Even if you're sure of your ovulation date, thousands of women turning up for scans probably aren't, which has got to skew the calculation of average data, doesn't it?) Of course, I'm sure you could have done without the unhelpful age-related comment from the machine operator. But remember that whatever she said or didn't say can't possibly have any bearing on the outcome, she's just speculating. Yes, maybe try to get another scan in a couple of weeks, just because it sounds like you'll worry if you don't. And also remember you've got a little heart beating away, so don't you go giving up now!