MARCH BUZZ..Come and get thy babbies!

[PurdeyBirdie]

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Are you fed up of your glittering career? Do you want to destroy your sexual relationship with your uvver 'alf? Do you like to imagine the impossible, like conceiving on your first cycle? Do you like ferretting around in your cervix, hoping to find something resembling a bellend covered in snot? Are you, like, so over being slim and having pert tits? Then come and join us in trying to make a baby.

Congrats knit, coffee and Disney :)

So a weird one for me. Has anyone else ever had sore boobs from 2dpo to 9dpo and then they dissapear? Usually mine arrive at 7/8dpo and go 11/12 dpo

Aww, Knit and Coffee, what an amazing couple of pieces of news! Congratulations, you lucky, lucky girls

Sparkly and Cariad, please try to put those would-be dates and stupid premonitions from irresponsible doctors out of your mind. This could take another six months - 8 months - 10 months and you have to banish the demons that tell you it isn't going to happen for you. It will, but you mustn't add to your anxiety by placing undue pressure on yourselves. It is hard on these threads, seeing the seemingly easy bfp's roll by. It is much, much harder when you have had a miscarriage; an ectopic feels particularly cruel. It does not mean you are broken. Both your bodies can and will do this when the time is right and not before. Please be kind to yourselves in the meantime.

Cariad, please make huge efforts to do things that make you happy. Your friends' lives are not perfect, it just seems that way because they have what you desperately want. Everything - everything - looks skewed when you have lost a baby - to lose two is horrendous. You are very brave and you deserve to give yourself a break. Stop looking at calendars, because your future baby doesn't have a sense of time.... it is just waiting

Thank you for asking about Nancy. She is a different baby today: absolutely full of giggles and smiles and performing like a circus chimp. Nutter.

When I look back at this last year of Nancy's life it feels like five minutes. Literally. But when I was ttc first time around a year felt like a decade. The year after my mmc felt like a lifetime. This ttc journey becomes very un-fun and stressful the longer it goes on, and this is why I implore you ladies to seek happy times doing stuff that is entirely away from ttc. I wouldn't want any of you to spoil your lives with unnecessary angst if your journey is going to be a long one. I hope this isn't an upsetting post; it is supposed to encourage you to look up to the sky and find ways of putting this ttc 'project' to one side for an evening or a weekend and doing something that gives you pleasure. I didn't do anything for fourteen months except look at charts and spend hour after hour on ttc forums and IVF talk boards. It was relentless. I wasn't working either and getting pregnant became my full time job. I wouldn't want any of you to make yourselves miserable like I did. It became a kind of illness

Thepug - I have eaten AND I am going to bed. Awesome night! Excited to sleep! Thank you for asking. :) x

You are so right purdey this whole ttc business takes over your whole life. I was like that the first time I was ttc, I just couldn't think of anything else and just plodded along with life/work. Each month I would think of what I could do differently and go off to try some vits, acupuncture or any other magic potion I'd heard about. This time though I refuse to be so consumed by it all. I am open to trying things but within reason and not go in with the mindset that it will solve all my problems. This will be cycle 13 but thankfully for the most part I have remained focused without making it the main focus of my life.
Wise words on this bus. You lot really are amazing

Glad that Nancy is well and back to her normal self purdey

Gosh, so many highs and lows today. A hat trick of bfps is great – congratulations heir, coffee and Knit

Sparkly and Cariad I’m so sorry that you’re feeling down. I can’t add anything extra to the brilliant advice already given by these lovely ladies, but I just wanted to send you my kind wishes.

I’ve been feeling low today, but for different reasons. My mum passed away 15 years ago and so never got to meet dh or dd, both of whom I know she would have adored. We will take flowers to her grave tomorrow. When I told dd who the flowers were for she replied “oh, those are lovely flowers mummy. Grandma Mary (my mum’s name) is going to love those”. (She’s a good talker for her age.) Bless her.

Mothers’ day is hard for those who have lost their mum, but I’m sure it’s even harder for those who have lost a child. I am very grateful for my beautiful daughter. –-even if she was a little tinker a bedtime tonight--

Aw purds. You are wise. And correct.

No one ttc wants to hear this but... Once the babies you long for arrive your worlds will change dramatically, mainly in a good way, but you will never again have the freedom you have pre babies to enjoy your partners, friends, hobbies etc. Enjoy all that while you can so you have no regrets when the next sleep deprived and more restricted but wonderful chapter of your lives comes along. I wish you all so much baby luck and happiness. Xxx

Aw Mary. Good luck tomorrow. Now we know where your surname comes from. Xxxx

Congrats to the BFP's!

Hope everyone has a lovely day tomorrow, mummies, mummies to be, and mummies in waiting...

Username, not surname. Garg. Xxx

Ah Mary, what your dd said is lovely. Sorry your Mum was taken too soon

I just spoke to my Mum - her card hasn't arrived in the post :( Annoyed with DH as I'd asked him to post it on Thursday and left it out for him to do on his way to work but he denies all knowledge. I put it in the postbox yesterday but Royal Mail have failed me unsurprisingly. This after I ran around getting MIL's card 2 weeks ago so we could give it to her before they left for a 3 week holiday. Extra sad for my mum too as she is currently with her brother at my gran's bedside whose health has seriously deteriorated over the last week and they think she may not have long left.

Those of you with DC already, look forward to hearing about the cute things your kids of made/done for you for tomorrow.

To be honest I'm not excited about Mother's Day, despite it being my first one. Perhaps I will when the tot can make me a card by herself or summation.

giddy what you said was spot-on. It's hard to convince those ttc their first baby that they will want these child-free days back. It's true though! Just for one day I want to be not responsible for this bopper! I want to be abroad. I want to stay up til 3am watching True Movies. I want to patchwork ALL DAY. I want to never again have to get up in the night. I want a lie-in! I want a plastic-tat-free house! I never EVER want to watch CBeebies ever again...

*summation? I meant summat. Oh, and I think I had my first mother's day last year. Yes..I remember it was rather dull

Mary big hugs xx

*bopper?? That is meant to say nipper!

I would like to have my bed back to myself for just one night of unbroken sleep. this would not be a problem in purdey's house. the rest of the time I know how very very lucky I am. Right, why am I not asleep?!

Thanks Giddy, Spinning and Purdey. I've had my first glass of wine or two in weeks and I think it's made me a tad emotional!

Definitely agree with the longing to have an entire day off from dc and a lie in. I fantasise about booking into a hotel, just by myself. I probably still wouldn't sleep though!

Purdey make us a new thread please! Your intros are fab xx

Bean, has joined fb......is that your horse Bean? It's a beauty and I love the rabbit

Purdey, funny you should mention cbeebies, I was thinking this morning how thank full I am that I no longer have to endure that endless crap! Dd was a toddler when teletubbies were popular!!

Thanks for your wise words Purdey and Merry. DH has been trying to get me to focus on other things for a while - I just find it so difficult. I am glad Nancy is better.

Daisy - your cockapoo is SO gorgeous. Thanks for posting a pic. We're picking ours up at the end of April. I cannot wait!

Congrats on the bfps.

I totally second what giddy said - enjoy going to the cinema, having 8 (or more) hours sleep, going out with friends... Personally I've found all these so much harder to do with a little bubba who first of all wouldn't let me sleep through the night & was also attached to my boob at all hours of the day & night so I couldn't have an evening out for ages. Having said that, being a mummy really is the best thing you will ever do imo - I love my little dd more than I ever thought possible

M

Has everyone migrated to fb?

Marys - sorry you lost your own mum far too soon. Your dd's words sound wonderful.

Hi all! It's great to be able to post in here as I feel like maaaaybe I'm looking at the chance of a BFP in a few days - time is going so slowly!! We've been TTC for 30 months now and this is the first time I've felt like I might actually get to see a double line - eee!!