MARCH BUZZ..Come and get thy babbies!

[PurdeyBirdie]

STATS LIST

Are you fed up of your glittering career? Do you want to destroy your sexual relationship with your uvver 'alf? Do you like to imagine the impossible, like conceiving on your first cycle? Do you like ferretting around in your cervix, hoping to find something resembling a bellend covered in snot? Are you, like, so over being slim and having pert tits? Then come and join us in trying to make a baby.

awww bean don't be too hard on yourself. As some very lovely ladies said yo me yesterday... we all feel like that and its fine. My bf got a bfp yesterday and, whilst I am so pleased for her, I was a little gutted too. Fingers crosses this is your month and you will have bouncing new babies together.

Purdey Excellent news on the job interview! Congrats! (also... think I was in your neck of the woods today!)

Thanks girls, I told her when we started ttc but as the months have gone on ive always brushed the subject under the carpet. I kind of want to explain so that she knows if im being a bit distant it's not her fault at all, but on the other hand I almost feel embarrassed to admit we are struggling as she has been successful so quick on both occasions. The only person I can talk to is dh, he's fab and is always so positive, I fear im going to drag him down if I get too emotional about it.

I really hope you all have your long awaited bfps toovery soon xxx

Hey bean. Hope u are ok. Totally get you. All my friends are getting round to number 2 and we've only started trying for our first. It's difficult to not to feel glum, but I'm sure your pal would understand if you chatted to her and would prob be super supportive.

Purdey congrats on the interview. Sounds brill!

I'm going home now to demand one last bash off dtd at CD 17....Last two months have started the dtdathon on cd 10 and stopped at CD 15...this month couldn't start til CD13...might as well keep going, see if its the key! ....poor dh....

Yes I expect you're right babs

Well done on this dtdathon lol! Do you know which day you usually ovulate?

Sorry you're feeling left behind bean, its tough when people seem to fall preg all around you. How long u been trying hun?

bean sorry to hear you're down. This place is amazing for venting about this sort of stuff, so many of us are in the same position being surrounded by others having their babies and easy pregnancies. You've got all of us here and your lovely DH for support. I know it's easier said than done but try not to withdraw from your friends, it's not going to help you in the long run emotionally either if you lose those that you're close to. I hope you can find a way to talk to your friend, I'm sure she'll understand.

Bean, not a bloody clue. Have always had mid month pain, but since I've started looking for it, it's like I can't feel it anymore!

I think if we are bfn this month, I might get some opks as I'm impatient and don't do well with uncertainty!

Men are so very weird about donor sperm. They would rather adopt the offspring of another man than allow a donor's sperm to fertilise his partner's egg so that she can know the joy of pregnancy? Weird. My DH was the same; when it became apparent his sperm was poor (16 million per ml) and we had just a couple of months until IVF I freaked out and demanded he consider donor sperm (we had already decided upon a donor egg). He flat out said 'no'. In other words, he was happy to raise a baby that was not biologically mine but he wasn't prepared to raise one that wasn't his. I thought that was rather twatty, actually - especially as he already had a child from a previous relationship.

Merry, you said you have low diminished ovarian reserve. This is unusual at 34. How did you find out? What is your AMH?
Yes, I will post a picture of the cake...when it's done The power blew in the house today, leaving us with no telly (the baby was not impressed), no microwave..nothing. I was just about to start the cake but couldn't focus with the nipper kicking off so I lobbed her in the pram and went to my mum's. I will make it in the morning

Thanks, everyone, for being so pleased for me. I can't say for sure that the job will be mine but I know it is until I have had this introduction to 'Leanne' who will ascertain I am a psycho a fabulously well-rounded human being

Still on page 8...

You temping babs?

Nope Miss northernbird. It occurs to me that I don't really have any idea what I'm doing. Thought making a small person would be easy....

Spent long enough as a Catholic irishish person thinking I only had to lie next to a fella and it would happen....

MrsB, how blooming great that your job has been a revelation. Who needs the misery of a burdensome job? Good for you.

Nomio, I am not going to pretend I think that's implantation. I have heard of some women implanting at 5dpo but it is purely anecdotal and I have vowed not to use anecdotes to lift ladies' spirits here. Once I watched the DVDs at the IVF clinic that showed the journey of a fertilised egg I realised how tiny the chances of very early implantation are.

Beansprout, you are on the stats list but there are zero details. How old are you and how long have you been ttc? Best friends' pregnancies are evil. I don't care what anyone says, you want to stab them in the eye with a basal body thermometer. How dare they have such an easy time of it? Don't they know how much agony we are in? How long we've been trying? How much pain this journey is causing us? Well..no, they don't. I suggest you tell her. Have a really good cry and explain the mish-mash of feelings re her news and your personal misery. She's your bezzie mate and will comfort you and be there for you.

(Up to page 10...)

Bean. I reckon that you'll both be way more relieved if you talk to her. If she already knows you had started trying, then she is prob avoiding talking to u about it too as she doesn't want to upset you. She is prob feeling awks about her news to you. So if you have a good chat over a nice cuppa bet it will do wonders for both of you and your friendship.

Give temping a try, it only costs a fiver and 30 seconds of your time every day and if you use it alongside opks it helps you suss out wtf is going on! Also gives you another thing to obsess over but hey, it's half the fun . I felt exactly the same as you to begin with and its only this last month through temping that I've been able to confirm that I am actually ovulating!

Oh..I've caught up

Beansprout, do not give up alcohol and do not give up exercising. We need lots of serotonin in this game and exercise is paramount to good mental health. I know booze is a depressant but if you are really missing that large glass of red after a tough day then bloody have it; it won't be the odd glass of vino or a strenuous workout that's making this journey longer than you would have liked.

Beansprout We completely understand how you feel My sis in law fell pg totally by accident xmas time, she's just had her 1st scan and I am finding it v.hard. I try to be supportive and upbeat, as I am a baby maniac! lol But she is not as excited as I would be when pg, so just drives me mad!

Just keep thinking how amazing it will be when you get your BFP! Try to stay strong. We are all here for u!

I'm off the March bus. AF arrived this evening - about five minutes before an exercise class, which was nice of her. Ah well. Who gets preggers in their first month anyway, right? At least that's another few weeks of my life that I get to drink wine, eat bloodied steak and be a size 8. Not sure if I will join the April bus - feeling a bit "meh" with the whole TTC shebang tonight - but thank you for having me :) x x

Right. May buy a thermometerthingy.....like you say, gives something else to add to the obsessive daily routine!

Purdey thank you for making me smile with the stabbing of a basal thermometer in the eye :)

Bean its normal to feel that gutted. I feel it every day, the glib comments about well ours was just an accident get right on my goat

Glittery has given me something new to obsess over! That calculator says that as of tomorrow I enter the period where implantation is common. Am going to be studying my pants like a crazy lady!

Hugs bean you will get there :)

Here you go babs, done the hard bit for you (if link works)
Link: www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00PQKUWNE

malibu , there's a few of us on April bus already, we're here when you're ready.

Argh, dammit. Just been writing Mother's Day card and remembered that when I started my journey in December then plan was to send my first scan pic in mums and DP's mums cards. Pants.

Purdey congrats on the interview

Sorry to everyone who's feeling sad this evening. This journey sucks. Especially when it's taking ages.

My cat just threw up on a stack of clean washing... WHY?!!!!! X

Babs, I would definitely recommend temping. I started last month & didn't think I had ovulated as I didn't get a positive OPK, but the experts on here knew I had because of my chart. It is always good to have as much confirmation as possible because TTC is such a stressy nightmare.

Bean, I know how you feel. It is so hard when those around you get pregnant instantly and you are struggling. I once avoided my friend for a couple of months as I didn't think I could handle seeing her bump. She got really upset and after I tearfully blurted out why she was so lovely & understanding that it reminded me why we were friends to start with. I also found once it was out in the open it didn't seem to bother me as much.

Purds, thank you for not feeding my delusions! I guess I will just have to wait and see.

I am all on my own for the next few days, so will be expecting you guys to entertain me! DH has gone to a conference abroad & won't be back until about midnight Friday.

Thanks Dizzy Aww, I had thought it would be nice to announce a pregnancy to my mum on Mother's Day (as she would've clocked me the split second I refused wine with lunch anyhow) - I completely convinced myself this would be the perfect month to become pregnant because then I could still be a mum at 35 and not still be expecting by Christmas! Argh, stupid imagination!! for you too x x

Basal thermometer in the eye hahaha!!! Purdey you make me giggle!!!