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4 days late CD36

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Ronnie85 · 10/03/2015 09:11

Hi Ladies

This is my first time posting on Mumsnet but I'm looking for some reassurance from anyone who might be in the same boat as me!!

Just had our 10th cycle of TTC and we used a Clear Blue digital OPK this month, which said I ovulated on 22nd Feb. So I'm currently on CD36, my cycles tend to be between 30-32 days usually. AF was due Friday 6th March but as yet, no sign! I did a test on Saturday afternoon that was a BFN and another on Sunday, which was another BFN. I haven't tested since. I don't really have any symptoms to report other than some very light cramping/twinges over the last couple of days.

What do you ladies think?! I'm too scared to do another test yet for fear of yet another BFN.

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wlrg14 · 10/03/2015 13:12

Hi Ronnie!

I'm in the same position! Due on the 7th so 3 days late and all bfns ...also got the mild cramping here, and (tmi sorry!) Very small amount of brown spotting (when wiping) Sunday and Monday...nothing today

I guess we just have to wait...Confused

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Ronnie85 · 10/03/2015 13:36

Hey!

It’s so nice to hear from someone in the same position! Are you quite regular usually? I never used to pay any attention to my cycles before TTC (regret that) and didn’t really for the first few months of TTC either as I just assumed it would happen easily and without much effort! Oh how wrong I was! I’ve been using the Ovia app since September to track and my last 6 cycles have been between 30-32 days, so this is definitely the longest so far. I’m just telling myself that I’m not pregnant and that AF will rear her ugly head soon as I’ve grown so used to the disappointment now that I don’t want to get my hopes up. Have you been ttc for a while?

Maybe a good sign for you that the spotting has stopped today as it would have continued/got heavier if it was AF? When are you going to test again? I’m trying to leave it until Friday as I’ll be a week late if AF hasn’t come before then. I think I’d rather see AF than a BFN.

xx

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wlrg14 · 10/03/2015 14:34

yeah i think keeping an eye on my cycles was a good idea, but i mainly used to do it so i knew around the time i was due af so i could be prepared! they are usually like clockwork! (around 26/27 days) so this is completely out of the ordinary Sad
have been off bc for about a year, but only really started actively trying about 5 months ago, how about you? been in this awful ttc thing for long? Grin
and yup the spotting has stopped! i was so sure it would lead to af as i usually spot a little a couple of hours before the whole thing really kicks off Grin but it just seems to have stopped and this cramping iv noticed isnt like af cramp its more just dull and uncomfortable...

i think, like you, i will leave the testing for a few days as i also cant bear looking at those stark white bfn's but also not getting af!
i think i also may have to stay away from google Grin all sorts of late bfp success stories are getting my hopes wayyy to high Smile

wlrg14 · 10/03/2015 14:38

oo i just read you also use opks... wish id done that! the batch i just brought to start out with had been delivered but i dont know whether a delayed ovulation may be causing a delayed af this month :/

its strange isnt it, you kind of expect when you miss af that your definitely 'up-duffed' Grin but when the tests are all bfn its really confusing! Confused

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Ronnie85 · 10/03/2015 15:08

It must be about 3 to 4 years since I was last on bc as it just didn’t agree with me and I was limited to which type I could go on as I suffer from migraines, so I really should have kept an eye on it better as I didn’t have bc putting it out of sync. I just didn’t even think about it back then though, it turned up when it turned up, which always seemed too soon!

February was our 10th month of TTC. We got married in May and have been trying ever since. It’s such pain isn’t it? You spend all that time when you’re younger taking every precaution possible to avoid happening and then when you’re ready for it and just expect it happen like magic, it just doesn’t!!

They sound exactly like the cramps I’ve been getting. I don’t usually get AF cramps until a few hours before I come on, but have had these since about Saturday now and they’re nowhere near as bad as AF cramps. They are off and on as well and every time they start again, I think ‘oh here we go AF is on the way’ but it never gets any worse. Last night after dinner I was massively bloated as well, which I don’t think I’ve noticed before but sometimes I just have to try and not read into every little thing as it could have just been something I ate.

Yep completely agree about google, it’s better to keep a level head about it but that’s easier said than done isn’t it?! It’s SO confusing and it’s not like we’re just a day late either. I then worry that all my thinking about it and analysing every little thing is what’s causing AF to be delayed!

Yeah we used them in Feb for the first time. Before that we were just going by the Ovia app which gives you a predicted fertile window based on previous data you’ve entered. So we were just making sure we got busy plenty of times during those 6 days but as it didn’t lead to anything, decided to give OPKs a try this time. I used the clear blue digital one. It’s meant to give you a 4 day window, so it flashes a smiley face when it detects a rise in estrogen, which means you’re fertility is high and you’re due to ovulate soon and then a solid smiley when it detects the LH surge which means your ovulating. Most people get the flashing smiley for a couple of days but I had it for 7! So was stressing out as I thought I was never going to get the solid one which showed I was actually ovulating and maybe I didn’t ovulate at all, which was why we weren’t having any luck! I eventually I got the solid smiley on 22nd Feb xx

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wlrg14 · 10/03/2015 16:12

well sods law...right after writting my reply to you im pretty sure af is just starting, mostly still brown but theres actually a little bright red mixed in there which it wasnt over sunday and monday Sad (tmi sorry again!) but it wasnt enough to even cover a low absorbency tampon so im still unsure!

and yes Smile defo staying away from google! at least you can be sure that you did ovulate when you think you did and that isnt the reason youre delayed...hopefully its a late bfp for you! Grin

the first time (and last!) i saw a bfp was a few years ago and i was already about 6 weeks (unfortunately the pg had to be ended due to some complications) and that was an accident but it happened so easily i spent years worrying about it happening again accidentally! its actually harder than i perceived it to be when you want it to happen! Hmm

as for the opks i think i may be missing my ovulation because im only going by the predicted day on the glow app so at least ill get to try those out if this is af starting...

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Ronnie85 · 10/03/2015 17:53

Oh no Angry sorry to hear that. At least your not in limbo any more and can't trying again soon.

I caved and did I test when I got in as I had one left. BFN as expected. I shouldn't have done it. I don't know what's going on but if I'm still getting a BFN when I'm 4 days late I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant. I bet af comes tomorrow.

Sorry to hear about your last pregnancy. I'm sure it'll happen for us both soon. Keeping everything crossed!! Definitely give the opks a go, it's worth a shot x

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wlrg14 · 10/03/2015 20:50

Well it looked to be AF at first but it would seem it was just some spotting?! Confused

I wouldn't mind seeing AF tbh at least then we know where we stand! Smile

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Ronnie85 · 10/03/2015 21:44

that's good news! You're still in! I know what you mean. It's been the two week wait and then some!

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EllaRoseMummy · 11/03/2015 17:26

Ronnie - I could have wrote your post lol I too was due Friday all bfn's including today, cramps and sore boobs also like you i only cramp a few hours before she shows up. So freaky how our cycles are exactly alike lol

wlrg14 · 11/03/2015 18:14

well i think i can officially count yesterday as cd1 as today it got worse and is more like a normal af, at least theres no more limbo and we can get onto next month Smile

how are you doing today ronnie? still no sign of af?

and hello ella! sorry to hear your in the same position! it really does suck not knowing if your coming or going...but its not over until af shows Grin

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Ronnie85 · 11/03/2015 18:27

Oh my word really?! That's uncanny. Are you usually pretty regular too?
I don't have sore boobs, wish I did as it would be more of a signal but I've just got the off and on cramping. I haven't tested today, waiting till Friday now so I'll be exactly a week late. When are you planning on testing again? It's so frustrating isn't it?! Fx for us both.
When I got the bfn on saturday I was so fed up so my hubby and I booked to see a consultant with Bupa on Monday to arrange some fertitily testing so if still bfn on Friday and AF has still not shown I'm hoping he might be able to ease some of the confusion!!
Do you know if you ovulated? Someone mentioned that if you didn't that's what could be causing the late AF and bfns. But I'm sure I did as I used a OPK xx

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Ronnie85 · 11/03/2015 18:29

Wrlg I bet you're glad you finally know what's going on and like you say, you can start thinking about trying again in no timeSmile

Still no AF for me, getting so annoyed!

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EllaRoseMummy · 11/03/2015 20:11

I plan on testing Friday as I have a dental appointment and don't want to have anesthetic if I am indeed pregnant. Yep pretty regular 32 day cycles. I tried temping to predict ovulation but my bbt came from China and stopped working after one use. I am usually a really early ovulater or a really late one never in between lol I conceived my daughter on cd10 lol so pretty early and then my miscarriage was conceived on cd27. I had o pains and ewcm about 9 days ago so I probably o'ed late.

I never have sore boobs only nipples when af is due but none yet only the boobs

The tww is hard lol Smile

Since having my daughter ( conceived on clomid) I O every month without fail as my body has reset itself thanks to pregnancy lol but before the pregnancy I never o'ed but always got my period every 32 days so I dunno how not o'ing can delay periods as I always got mine

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Ronnie85 · 11/03/2015 20:48

It's so much harder than I ever imagined!

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage Sad it sounds like you definitely o'ed this month then so you're late AF can't be down to not ovulating.

I'm thinking now maybe I didn't even ovulate?! How did you know you weren't before you're first pregnancy??

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EllaRoseMummy · 11/03/2015 20:59

I have PCOS and blood tests before having my daughter showed no ovulation - post pregnancy blood test shows ovulation

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Ronnie85 · 11/03/2015 21:13

Ah I see. could very well be good news for you soon then Smile

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EllaRoseMummy · 11/03/2015 22:00

I'm hoping lol

Good luck to you Smile

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Ronnie85 · 11/03/2015 22:24

Thank you, you too. Let me know how you get on x

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wlrg14 · 11/03/2015 22:56

Glad to see your both doing OK today Smile

I think I'll see how the next few months go and if no joy I think I'll go and see the gp about why we are struggling to concieve! I'm just worried the gp will take one look at me and laugh (I'm only 23 and just finishing my degree) Blush

I'm interested to see what happens with both of your cycles though as its out of the ordinary! Confused

lindsaybobs · 11/03/2015 23:55

I'm in the same boat! AF was due on Saturday. BFNs Monday. Still no AF. Haven't tested since. I've been TTC for four years now and this is only the second time my cycle hadn't been 27-29 days.

I've got my fingers crossed for you.

EllaRoseMummy · 12/03/2015 07:50

Ok I caved and tested this morning - bfn, kind of expecting it.

Wrlg14 - your gp won't laugh at you, my gp referred me to a gynecologist when I was 18 the only bad thing about that was appointments with my gynecologist were every 6 months so it took me and my partner 2 years to conceive my daughter.

Libdsaybobs - when do you plan on testing again.

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Ronnie85 · 12/03/2015 09:22

I know what you mean about the GP wlrg but it's worth going to see them. I felt the same more because we hadn't be trying for a year not because of my age (I'm 29). A lot of my friends said they wouldn't take me seriously until it had been over a year. I think it just all depends on the GP you have. Mine wasn't much use and didn't really tell me anything that I didn't already know myself, which is why I've bypassed it and arranged a private consultation but I know that we're lucky to be in a position to be able to do this, I know it's not as easy for everyone.

Fingers crossed for you Lindsaybobs. Keep us all updated xx

Sorry to hear about your bfn this morning Ella. I was so tempted to test as well still no sign of AF for me. I just about managed to resist because I was running late for work! I will test in the morning though and let you know how I get on. I'm 100% expecting a bfn

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EllaRoseMummy · 12/03/2015 10:24

I only took it because I have a load of cheapies in the drawer lol. I'm obsessed with POAS, i pull my hair out when I haven't got any left lol. Hopefully one of us or both will be announcing bfps in the morning lol.

When I got referred I didn't have to try for a year as I had my diagnosis of pcos at 16 so my gp knew I more than likely wouldn't conceive naturally in that year.

Omg this post was so hard to write with my 6 month old sat on my knee pulling at my phone lol

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Ronnie85 · 12/03/2015 10:50

Yeah I think it's all down to personal circumstance and how sympathetic the GP is! I think mine thought I was just being impatient, which maybe I am but with good reason I think!

Aww 6 months?! So if (everything crossed) you do get your bfp soon, you're going to have 2 under 2 you brave lady!!!

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