March Bus - the journeys may be different but destination for all - BFP land!

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Another March bus for us chatty lot! No religion or politics but feel free to bitch away about life/DH/work/too much sex/not enough sex.

Remember to update us with your changes in stats in a separate post with lots of #### to signify an update.

Let's get our BFPs!!!

You may say that night but mil is forever moaning that she's the only one of the aunts and uncles that isn't a granny. Her nagging us for kids became stifling! It was so upsetting because we were struggling. It was only after 18months ttc I begged dh to tell her we were infertile to shut her up!

Night, Purdey and Spinning, totally agree with you on the 'education' front. I come from a long line of teachers, and, as a result, never wanted to be a teacher; however, that is what I have ended up as. When I was growing up, any conversation about my future started with 'When you go to uni...' It was just 'expected'. My dad has a motto carved into the beams of their house: 'Education is the builder of a classless society.' They follow this to the letter.

However, DH is from a very working class background, having grown up in a mining/steel workers family in Rotherham. He is a stringent believer that having a job from leaving school and gaining experience is much more valuable than 3 years at university.

We have had many conversations about our future family, should we be lucky enough to have them, and, whilst I will push for my children to go to university so that they have an education to 'fall back on', (it's difficult to go against long instilled beliefs and attitudes), I will also support them if they choose to get a job straight afterwards.

Victoria, about your DH's parents possibly not becoming grandparents- DH and I have had the same conversation about mine! I have a younger brother and an older half-sister who is my dad's daughter. She is 46, and has shown no signs of wanting children or ever having them, despite being in a very long-term relationship with her DP. My brother is 30 and his wife and him have been trying for 7 months for a baby, however, she has cysts on her ovaries, although I don't think it is officially PCOS. She has been to see her GP and I think they are being referred to a fertility specialist, after he gets his swimmers checked. Even if they do have babies, they are planning to move to the US in a couple of years, as she is originally from California, so I don't think that my parents will see their kids very often. As for me, I am still waiting on AF to arrive, having come off the pill in November, so who knows!

The twinges seem to have gone... I am scared to hope that they were implantation twinges after last week's positive OPK. That would be far too good to be true...

Cariad, Sorry you are feeling :( I am going out tonight for a meal with four of my besties, one of which is 4 months pregnant or thereabouts. They have been having a conversation on Facebook about what to wear tonight and she has put 'not sure... probably a leopard print top and my skinny jeans, if they will button up...' :( I wish my jeans wouldn't button up for that reason.

Hi ladies. May I have a ticket for this bus?
###Stats: 29, ttc #2, trying for 3 years (1 mc last April), AF/BPF expected 11th or 12th March###

8dpo at the moment. Have creamy cm, sore boobs, very mild cramps but not feeling very positive!

Sorry to those of us feeling

I am possibly 10dpo here but no twinges or symptoms at all. Meh.

Wow, yes Spinning your dd did so well that day at the funeral. Bless her, must have been hard for you both. My mum would have quite happily gouged my dads eyes out when they first met again after 21 years but I think mum has finally moved on from the heartache he caused her. Maybe your dd won't ever want to have anything to do with her dad and she will be ok with that. I was so fearful that having any contact with him would be hard on my mum but she reassured me I had to do what I felt I needed to and I think getting answers from him herself has done her good. You know what? I have never ever called him 'dad' - it is an alien word to me. I write in in his cards but can't call him it to his face. I'm not sure I ever will now . You said your dd suffers with anxiety?

Also, had a temp dip yesterday 7dpo, and a rise this morning plus a near positive OPK, but I'm sure my body is just trolling me again!

Welcome StrawbRhi I like what you did with your username there!!

Thank you tessie, I likes me puns!

Welcome strawb!

I had a terrible dream last night, my body decided to ovulate dead early so I had to cancel the spermz.

eskimo that's the worst! I hope you enjoy your meal out anyways!

Oh cariad you are such a sweetie. Let's hope it is OUR month.

You tested way too early (as you well know!) Sorry you are having such a tough time. Cwtch. Xx

The last few months af has caught me before I got to poas. Even thought I am pretty symptomless I might just poas tomorrow (if no witch beats me to it). 12 dpo would give a pretty good answer, wouldn't it? but either way lp - woohoo! :)

I posted a card to the little girl we have sponsored in Kenya yestetday. That has helped a lot to put everything into perspective a little.

Everyone having a good saturday? I've found a pick and mix bar at my conference. I'm dodging caffeine so sugar high instead!

Another lawyer here...Genni it's funny when we were talking about work stress before I thought maybe you were too for some reason - though obviously loads of jobs can be stressful. I am constantly worrying about my clients cases/upcoming trials etc. really need to try harder to switch off outside of work.

I had a massive temp dip this am and some cramping so looks like AF is lurking in the wings. Woke up with an urge to get a tattoo, something to represent hope....does anyone have any ideas?

Cariad, sending hugs and yesterday must have been hard. 10dpo is still early, am crossing everything for you xx

mrsg hard to know either way, 12dpo COULD give you a good answer, but I wouldn't be too disheartened if it was BFN, you hear so many stories that people didn't get a positive until a week after a missed period.

cariad it's not over til it's over lovely! 10dpo is still early! x

victoria that's 35 hours so close enough. I had my jab at 9am-10am and then insem at 11am the next day so 26 hours and it pisses me off that they don't scan on the day of the insem to make sure it's timed right. Especially when I'm using shitty frozen sperm.

Sorry to the AF arrivals! What a cow she is.

Aw guys a mixed bag on here today.

mrsg yay for normal lo

Welcome newbies, good luck to you all.

I love hearing what everyone does for a living, I am technically an estate agent but haven't worked since having DC2 10 (nearly 11) years ago!!
I love being a stay at home parent. Can't imagine not doing that now.

Teacher over here (secondary)! Although still on maternity leave from having dc1.

I'm now on cd13, think I'm ovulating & have just dtd Woohoo, fingers crossed.

Welcome newbies & sorry to any bfns & anyone the witch got. Fx for us all this month... Let's hope the sunshine brings out the bfps

Hey all I'm a day late and had a BFN this morning so just waiting for AF. Have a friends wedding reception later so at least can enjoy a few. Enjoying a vanilla vodka and diet coke as we speak... the weather is lavely. X

Cariad, I'm so sorry it was your edd yesterday. I've been there and it's tough. I hope you have a nice weekend planned with your dh. You know 10dpo is too early to poas! I can't wait for you to get your sticky bfp and I'm sure it's coming soon

Glittery, enjoy the wedding and a few drinks in the sunshine

Tessie, I imagine having your dad in your life later on must be very strange. I can see why you wouldn't call him Dad.
Yes dd has anxiety but she was smoking weed for while(too frequently I think) she's stopped that now thankfully and the anxiety seems to be improving. Would like to add that dp and I don't smoke weed but it seems rife in her friend group. Sensibly she's cut ties with most of them and I'm hoping that's the end of it.

There are some depressing threads on Mumsnet, just found the "if you could turn back time would you still have children" and so many people said no?! Wondering if I should stick with cats?!

Hi ladies! Have been lurking for a while trying to keep up with the mad buses! Congrats to the BFPs and ?to the one who AF gate crashed.

No news from me. Currently on something like day 85 and no sign of AF. I have been temping but had to put a fake period in to FF so that it would actually map out my temps (clearly 85 day cycles aren't the norm!). I'm completely confused by the results. My current thinking is that it is just showing I am not ovulating at all :( We're DTD just in case. It's 10 days now until my appointment with the gynae doctor so hopefully she'll be able to shed some light on the situation.

*ones who AF gate crashed. Not one. Unfortunately.

Ab Can I ask for the background behind your lack of AF? Do you have PCOS? Or have your recently come off BC? I only ask because of my current situation, not having AF since coming off Loestrin in Nov. Have you had any cramps or twinging? I have had both in the last couple of months, around the time when AF should be making an appearance. I'm hoping it's my body gearing up to AF, but just not having the right combination of endometrium or hormones to actually do it yet. Hope your appointment gives you some answers

Hi eskimo! I'm both actually. I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 14 and have been on metformin since I was 16 and BC. I came off the pill at the beginning of December and had AF then, but nothing since. I've never had a normal cycle but assumed 12yrs of metformin would have helped that. Seems not!

I've had what I thought was ovulation pain and the odd mild cramp over the last 2 weeks, but nothing to show for it yet. I'm really hoping I'll be able to start down the path to clomid at this appointment

Have you tried agnus castus yet? I ordered some a while ago but not got it yet. Seems you can't buy it where I live

Oh bloody hell, Abfab, what utter awfulness. You are clearly not ovulating but the great news is that your fertility cons will soon get those ovaries ticking over. Moreover, a huge proportion of women for whom anovulation is their only issue get pregnant very quickly with the right dose of drugs. Will you come back after your appointment and let us know how it went?

Glittery, you always make me laugh. I can't remember what you said but it was summat along the lines of 'my mn username ought to be ilovecockandballsacksandmainlingneatvodkawhilstteabagging.

Cariad, I can't say any more than the others have said. I know how MC EDD's feel when another pregnancy is eluding you. I'm sorry you are so low

Kissing, I love that you love being a SAHM. I think I would feel exactly the same if: a) I had a bit of money b) I had a car c) my husband wasn't usurping me in the home leaving me feeling entirely redundant and inadequate d) I had left a glittering career knowing that I had left my mark on the world somehow.

Eskimo, we are not allowed to talk politics on here and so I can't tell you how much I disagree with the mantra that education creates a classless society. The rich go to the best schools - even if they are thick - and end up managing hedge funds or leading the country Sorry. I'll shut up now.