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March Bus - the journeys may be different but destination for all - BFP land!

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mummyofonesofar · 05/03/2015 21:18

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Another March bus for us chatty lot! No religion or politics but feel free to bitch away about life/DH/work/too much sex/not enough sex.

Remember to update us with your changes in stats in a separate post with lots of #### to signify an update.

Let's get our BFPs!!!

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wotsits1 · 07/03/2015 08:33

Oh my god spinning barristers like that are unnecessary. Sympathy with clients is essential (although I mainly prosecute on behalf of the victims of penetrative rape so sympathy and understanding is a must). Divorce barristers have clearly never been loved and hate marriage.

Aurora that sucks... AF at 6dpo! Gutted for you.

Well... its 13dpo here. I got AF at 10 dpo last month (although we weren't TTC.. it was my first month after the coil removal so I was just monitoring to see where I was up to with cycles). If AF hasn't arrived by Monday (15dpo) I will test. Although the bfn I got at 11 dpo has disheartened me.

wotsits1 · 07/03/2015 08:34

awww Heir... I know nothing about temping but could this be caused by an early morning?

coffeenut · 07/03/2015 08:37

everything crossed for you wotsits! can't believe the level of willpower on this thread! (I would be testing every hour!)

wotsits1 · 07/03/2015 08:54

coffeenut I'm just scared its my body out of whack after having the Mirena coil removed. If I test and it's neg I'll be sooooo impatient waiting for AF to arrive.

coffeenut · 07/03/2015 09:02

Totally fair enough wotsits ... I'm the type that just needs to know IMMEDIATELY either way IYKWIM? Ie ZERO willpower.

Southy84 · 07/03/2015 09:20

dojo I feel the same! Luckily DH bought me a nice caffeinated coffee in bed Brew

tessiegirl · 07/03/2015 09:22

Oh thank you for your kind words ladies, I honestly didn't want sympathy I just got on a bit of a roll talking about my past... Blush

My dad is extremely remorseful about what he did and has tried to make it up to me since I found him. Our relationship is strained at times and I wish I felt he was there for me more emotionally at times. I still have moments when I can't accept what he did and I have shouted at him which he says he wants me to do. He says he wants to hear my anger. Although at the end of the day we also need to find a way to move on and draw a line under what happened but it is hard. It upset me that I didn't feel he could give me away at my wedding, but I felt he hadn't earned the right to. Plus what the hell would he have said about me if he had made a speech?!!! Smile You have to laugh about it....

Spinning Sorry to hear about your dd, how old is she? You say she has never met her dad, has he never tried to make contact with her? When I was young I sometimes remember getting upset on fathers day, wondering why I didn't have a dad. I also remember going to the cinema to watch that Christmas film, Miracle on 34th Street, when at the end the little girl gets a dad and I came out sobbing and saying to mum that I wanted a dad for Christmas. But quite honestly I don't think it really affected me until I got to my late teens and I realised I had questions that I wanted to ask him and had started having proper relationships of my own. My mum has always been completely open with me and we are so close. I also have such a strong relationship with my maternal grandparents and as DH said I wouldn't be me if I hadn't grown up in the environment I had.

tessiegirl · 07/03/2015 09:23

Sorry about the me post...I shall read back and check on everyone Smile

tessiegirl · 07/03/2015 09:23

Sorry about the me post...I shall read back and check on everyone Smile

gennibugs · 07/03/2015 09:23

Morning all.

Hope we are well. Lovely day here! I'm planning a long walk later.

spinning how are the family doing?

wotsits - a barrister! I'm a lawyer myself but am always in awe of the barristers and how awesomely confident they are on the rare occasion I go to court! Grin

tessiegirl · 07/03/2015 09:39

Just to add Spinning I am so pleased the surgeon is going to look into why what happened to your uncle did. Getting answers helps in the grieving process. Sorry to hear your dad is doing yours and your mums head in, it is a very tense time Flowers

Welcome itants!

Hope you enjoy the conference MrsG

Sorry AF has arrived so early aurora crap

DizzyNorthernBird · 07/03/2015 09:42

wotsits fx for you! Well I think being a barrister is soooo glamorous, I would love to be able to do what you do! I often go to court through my work and I love the show, I always compare it to the theatre and you guys are the actors Smile. I also work within the legal system, except I'm much much earlier on in the process....if you know what I mean....?!

spinningirl10 · 07/03/2015 09:44

Tessie, my dd is just 19. She saw her father at her grandmothers funeral. He had got my number from his mothers phone and called to tell me the sad news. This was last year. Dd and I had always kept in touch with her and we went to the funeral. He had asked me when he phoned if dd wanted to speak to him. She didn't. Some days after the funeral I asked her again if she wanted to make contact but she said no. She's fiercely protective of me and we have a good relationship. That was the only time she's ever seen him and the first time I'd see him in over 18 years. I was so proud of her that day, it must have been so hard.

DizzyNorthernBird · 07/03/2015 09:44

Gutted for you aurora Flowers. Too many of us are getting dumped on by AF this last few days Sad

spinningirl10 · 07/03/2015 09:52

Genni, you're a lawyer! I'm super impressed at you ladies with these fantastic careers. I know you must have worked very hard to get where you are. I'm a little jealous. I don't even own a suit! I often wonder what difference our upbringing makes to our career choices and I think it's massive. I grew up where I am now, in a small seaside town. Uni was never mentioned although the youngsters here now are all Heading off to uni but when I was young it was very rare. I've always told my dd she can do whatever she likes if she puts in the hard work. She hated doing her a levels but enjoyed the social life. She didn't go to university and is currently working in costa coffee which she loves. She works with a fab team who are very understanding of her troubles and for this I am very grateful to them.

spinningirl10 · 07/03/2015 09:57

Oh and Genni, the families doing ok thank you. Just very sad as you'd expect. We feel a long way away and a bit helpless here. I guess the boys have the sad task of sorting out the funeral arrangements today. The eldest lives with his gf and her parents so I hope they'll help.
I think my aunt is kindly going to pay for the funeral since his bitch ex cleared out his bank account! We will see what today brings.

Wotsit, rape cases must be so hardSad

PurdeyBirdie · 07/03/2015 10:20

I don't see what the fuss is about Wotsit being a barrister. Any old dunce can serve coffee Grin

Spinning, those poor boys. So young to lose a parent Sad

Tessie, yours sounds a wonderful relationship with lots of security and love. Well done for finding that man and working through your issues Smile

What is the definition of a geek, MrsG? A computer nerd was a geek when I was at school: a socially inept, spectacle-wearing IT freak.

Aurora, when are you going to the GP with that absurd LP length?

I only have bad experiences with laywers/barristers. When I was in rehab I was called as a witness for the prosecution at crown court when my ex was up for assault and kidnap of me. Despite photos being passed around of my mashed-up face he was found not guilty because my being alcoholic made me an unreliable witness. Thee defence also produced photos of my ex when I broke his nose (in self defence) and everyone was like: 'Ooo! Look what she did to him!'
I fucking hated that jury. If only they had been within those four walls every time he smashed my head in and stole my glasses and shoes and phone and locked me in he house. The problem was, when I was stood in the box giving evidence I was sober, having already spent three of my nine months in rehab. But I couldn't remember that stuff I had said to the police at the time of the attacks. There were so many of them and they had all blurred into one horrible vista of violence that my sober recollections didn't match the statement, I guess.

Oysterbabe · 07/03/2015 10:25

I'm a lawyer too. Seems like there's a lot of us about!

I don't know what's going on with my body this month. My period started but was then just one day and not proper blood. Then it stopped for 3 days then started again for 2 days and was heavier. I'm not sure what to count as CD1. Also I've just started temping and from that should be about to die from hypothermia. I've also got some opks and not sure when to start using them. I'm only on cycle 3 hopefully I'll get the hang of it soon!

PurdeyBirdie · 07/03/2015 10:30

Spinning, yes, parental involvement in childrens' education is massive in terms of outcomes of educational attainment. If you look at Night's parents' steering of her career and the demands they have tried to make on her and then compare that to my parents who left school at fifteen with no qualifications and never pressured us into anything academic or even tried to direct our 'O' level choices. University wasn't encouraged as there were no grants back then and my parents simply could not afford to send us. I only went to uni at 36 but was an in-denial alcoholic so never finished.

I am worried that my values will rub off on Nancy: have your children young; don't assume you can put motherhood off until your mid-thirties and then just drop a sprog out; there can be painful journeys to motherhood even in your mid-thirties; a degree does not guarantee a glittering career; it is a criminally expensive path to take to end up earning the same as a non-graduate.

None of the above is very helpful in terms of parental involvement, but that is how I feel right now. And I know that is coloured by my own experiences with higher education and late-in-life TTC. I must find a way of just encouraging her to excel at what she is good at and to make lots of money. There is no getting around it: money is important and she will grow up seeing none of it around here Sad

victoria401 · 07/03/2015 10:33

Morning campers!

Sorry to those af got. Especially at 6dpo! What happened there?!

I got plastered on 2 wines at a leaving do last night dojo I would say I was a cheap date but the wine was £7 a glass! Had all the banned stuff, to hell with it. Prawns, crab, soft cheese, wine mmmm mmmm

Interesting that iui happens 1dpo purdey. In my instruction sheet it says you take the trigger jab and insemination happens 36 hours later. At my clinic they inseminate at 11am so you jab midnight the night before the day before! Is that 36?!

Omg! Just watched Johnson's baby bath ad! Torture! Me and hubby were chatting in bed just now about how sad it would be that his folks might not have grandchildren from their 3 children. There is dh the oldest who is 'subfertile', his bro 2 years younger who is confirmed bachelor, and his sis 5 years younger again (and 30 this year) who doesn't have a maternal bone in her body. Who knows, her clock might kick in at some point. I wasn't sure about kids til I was 32 and started to panic. If I'd have known there were issues..... Sigh....

victoria401 · 07/03/2015 10:36

I'm not a lawyer, I'm a scientist, I spend all day in a white coat. Proper geek yes? Grin

nightandthelight · 07/03/2015 10:37

You are very right purdey, I actually think that parental involvement has more impact than schooling! I did very well at school and university because that was what was expected of me. However it hasn't translated into major gains in my adult life (although I don't regret any of my education). Seeing my parents work their butts of for people who will forget about them five minutes after they retire has made me turn away from ambition etc.

I think there must be a middle ground between helping your children achieve their potential and turning them off for life. With my parents I think it is that they only have one concept of success. I hope to be proud of my children regardless of their level of education and employment.

Cariad2014 · 07/03/2015 10:46

Waves at everyone. Hope you're doing ok Spinning.

Victoria - I feel similar about my parents. I think they'd be devastated if they didn't have grand-children and right now I feel I'm letting them down on that front. Sad

10dpo at this end and so symptoms whatsoever so I reckon I'm out this month. AF due on Thursday. I rather stupidly POAS on a CBFM hpt this morning and it was as white as now. Admittedly the instructions tell you that you have to put it into the machine to read it and that you can't test until 3 days before AF is due (I'm 5 days off) but it wasn't very reassuring.

Feeling a bit blue at the moment. It would have been the EDD for my first pregnancy yesterday and I really thought I'd be pregnant again by now Sad. Meeting up with some of my friends with bumps and babies for coffee this afternoon which I'm dreading.

Sorry for the me me me post.

Yay for the longer lp MrsG - I really hope this is YOUR month.

How are things with you Trixie?

Cariad2014 · 07/03/2015 10:48

Snow not now.

nightandthelight · 07/03/2015 10:49

Oh Cariad major hugs for you, sounds like this is a very difficult time Flowers

You will get your BFP though and no one is letting down their parents by not having children! Grandchildren are not a human right and anyway it's hardly your fault that you are struggling.