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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The March Bus is rolling through Spunkland stopping for BFPs only!

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juneybean · 02/03/2015 17:56

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I'm weaning you guys off the gin, it's not good for the eggies! Instead we have some of Sparkly's green gunk! Wink

Happy shagging/syringing! Grin

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Hairstylisttoboris · 05/03/2015 08:18

Re CM loads of environmental (food,drink, drugs, health) stuff can affect it. Try not to worry. Sometimes I have to root round up there to find any as it doesn't always hit your pants. Try not to worry,

wotsits1 · 05/03/2015 08:19

Night... I only find ewcm if I go looking for it. It never seems to make my pants!

Mumof1sofar · 05/03/2015 08:20

So sorry rainy & mama. Dizzy sorry af seems to be on her way. She really is a witch!

Eek fingers crossed for you wotsits. What test are you using?

Night it sounds like you might have just ov'd. I would keep dtd for a couple of nights for good measure, but others may have better advice. If you're worried the Dr can do a blood test to check you're ovulating & everything is as it should be (I had it 1st time ttc as the whole thing stressed me out so much).

Spinning hope the 2ww goes quickly for you.

Mumof1sofar · 05/03/2015 08:20

So sorry rainy & mama. Dizzy sorry af seems to be on her way. She really is a witch!

Eek fingers crossed for you wotsits. What test are you using?

Night it sounds like you might have just ov'd. I would keep dtd for a couple of nights for good measure, but others may have better advice. If you're worried the Dr can do a blood test to check you're ovulating & everything is as it should be (I had it 1st time ttc as the whole thing stressed me out so much).

Spinning hope the 2ww goes quickly for you.

PurdeyBirdie · 05/03/2015 08:27

Dizzy, your GP is on more than £100k a year. Ask him about the cm.

I'm really sorry about AF's arrival for so many of you. There are no words to describe this disappointment Thanks

MaMa, the way I see it, I am unsettled because I am anxious; I am anxious because DH has lost his job and is (for reasons I won't keep banging on about) largely unemployable; I feel unfulfilled because I honestly thought having a baby would change my life irrevocably, changing me with it. I thought I would become calmer, kinder, more patient, more lovely, less ragey, more loving of myself, more tolerant, less opinionated, more in love with the world. But I'm still me.

MaMaPo · 05/03/2015 08:35

Purdey, that's plenty to be getting on with. I don't want to derail the thread bit are you seeing anyone professional? It's hard to ask that sometimes because the point when people really need help is often the time they can least afford it, on terms of cash and time. But it sounds like you could really use someone to talk to, especially about your self esteem.

Have you every practiced mindfulness? I know wet talked about these things as a group yonks ago so sorry if I'm rehashing old stuff.

AF indulgence night tonight. I'm at the local hip pizza spot getting take away (and having a cheeky half while I wait) and watching all these bright young things who probably think you have to use birth control to avoid pregnancy when all you actually have to do is have well timed sex. Bah.

Anyway, then it's a bottle of red wine, pizza and House of Cards.

nightandthelight · 05/03/2015 08:35

Thanks guys :) My coil came out in January and it wasn't a hormonal one so I think everything should be back to normal. I guess I'm just confused as this is the first month that I have gone looking for CM rather than relying on what arrives in my pants and yet no EWCM despite the fact that usually it does make itself apparent (had no idea what it was until I joined MN but was aware of it).

Like you say will just have to keep dtd and hope for the best. Am getting way too stressed for my first cycle Hmm

DizzyNorthernBird · 05/03/2015 08:43

My brown cm purdey? I thought it was ok to get it as long as it wasn't for too long before AF.....do I need to speak to gp?

DizzyNorthernBird · 05/03/2015 08:46

Ps purdey, sorry you're having a tough time. You've been such a support to so many of us on here but make sure you look after yourself too Flowers

nightandthelight · 05/03/2015 08:48

Hugs Purdey, appreciate that you may already be doing this but would definitely recommend that you seek out professional help Smile

PurdeyBirdie · 05/03/2015 08:56

Purple, great news your womb is in good nick. I wish they could check the tubes at the same time; it was only when I had my lap & dye they found a blocked tube. I think probably it will just take you a little while longer to conceive because of your age (I know you're not old like me). Then again, you could fall pregnant this next cycle - there's no rhyme or reason to this malarkey.

Rainy, you sound utterly fed up, love. I'm sorry you feel the need to step back from ttc but I think it's an excellent decision and a wise thing to do if you are young enough. Best of luck for the future Thanks

I'm off to a baby group shortly. Yippee Hmm

PurdeyBirdie · 05/03/2015 09:09

No, I'm not seeing anyone about my hang-ups; I've had them forever so they now seem to be part of me. When my GP told me I had PND the other week, and I mentioned that I felt resentful that my husband is currently undertaking a six-week CBT workshop provided by the NHS (hint, hint: could I have some help too?) he replied: 'You know, Purdey, sometimes you just have to fucking do it, you know? Get out there and just...work..or something. I think your placement with Lancs County Council will do you the world of good.' So that was that.

When I look at things rationally I can see that I am kind, I am a good person and I'm a great mum, but I am very very good at self-flagellation too (I don't know how I didn't end up Catholic). I don't want to derail the thread either, so let's talk about summat else, please...

spinningirl10 · 05/03/2015 09:10

Dizzy, well done on the marathon, what an amazing achievement. I'm not a great runner but I quite enjoy it. Don't like the treadmill but I use it while it's cold. I do about 4 miles.

Mumof1sofar · 05/03/2015 09:21

I know you want to talk about something else purdey so I won't mention it again but I read your posts & just wanted to say I'm sure all your friends, family, dh & all of us here wouldn't want you to change at all & think you are perfect as you are Thanks Hugs x

PurdeyBirdie · 05/03/2015 09:24

MaMa, do you know what? I find mindfulness the singularly most difficult thing in the world to do. I suspect that is because I can't bear to 'sit with myself' or to 'live in the moment'. I am forever regretting the past or projecting into the future and finding only more of the same there as is in the present. It was discussed at length in group therapy during my nine months in rehab how low my boredom threshold is; how I am never happy to just 'be'. When I am on holiday - even when I used to be able to go to exotic places - I would lie on the beach and try to just, you know..appreciate the beauty, the serenity, the gloriousness of the day. But I would end up, five minutes later, feeling like: 'Yep, what's next...?'; 'I'm bored of this, what can I do to make this holiday even better?' Hmm

PurdeyBirdie · 05/03/2015 09:28

Mumof1, I'm ashamed to say that made me cry. I thank you very, very much for that (and I don't care how needy that sounds) x

Dizzy, did I address you instead of someone else? Wasn't it you who said they had no ewcm and didn't want to bring it up in case two issues would be frowned upon at an appointment? Sorry if I'm confused! Yes, a marathon is an enormous achievement and I actually think it is one of the more incredible human feats.

gennibugs · 05/03/2015 09:28

Morning all.

Thanks To all those feeling down or anxious and to those got AF. Sometimes life is hard isn't it.

lucie lovely to see you! Glad things are going well. Keep us posted.

spinning woo hoo for ov, hope the 2ww doesn't drive you too mad Grin.

I am looking forward to getting back out for a run now it's getting lighter and the weather starts to turn. I've been gymming it all winter but I like to I like to mix it up with running esp on those cold crisp but sunny mornings!

auroraboringalis · 05/03/2015 09:38

I can't keep up!!!!!!!! collapses in heap onto floor

Amyyy27 · 05/03/2015 09:51

night if its any consolation I had no ewcm at all this month and I think that I always get it. Definitely while we have been ttc I have anyway. But just watery cm this month!

dojo123 · 05/03/2015 09:54

Well, the ibuprofen I look over an hour ago looks like it might have finally kicked in about bloody time and I'm feeling less achey, was about to fill the hot water bottle yes I do keep one in work!

Happy St Piran's day everyone Gool Peran Lowen! for all you natives
Pasties for dinner tonight might also have to have some Saffron Cake, Splits with Thunder and Lighting and a bottle of Cornish Orchards Cider. Ansome!

Just to let you know I don't have a Cornish accent neither does my DH but my FIL has quite a broad one

scrunchiemount · 05/03/2015 09:55

morning ladies, can't keep up with all the new messages but just want to say hope everyone is feeling ok today x

dojo123 · 05/03/2015 09:55

Oh and a revision to my stats (based on my CD1 not CD1 queary earlier)...

Dojo123 Age#33 tcc#1 cycle#3 BPF due#1st April

tessiegirl · 05/03/2015 09:59

Hello everyone!

Many congratulations to MrsCat Smile

Great that ff has confirmed ov Spinning I am definitely going to look up that curry recipe you mentioned as I bought sweet potatoes the other day and didn't have a clue what to make with them!

Purple great news your scan went well, really pleased for you

night maybe you could try cough medicine Robitussin to increase your cm? I have used it and it gives me lots! Tmi Blush or Evening Primrose Oil....

Sorry to those of you caught by the witch. It really sucks.

Sorry Rainy that you are finding things difficult and totally understand your need to step away for a while. Wishing you the best Flowers

Oh Purdey, sorry you are having a rough time. I echo what others have said about maybe seeking professional help. You seem to have been stuck in a rut for quite some time. I hope things improve for you, I really do.

Mama thanks for the offer of asking you questions. I was very interested in criminal psychology at college and when choosing a course at uni, its an extremely fascinating subject and must be such a rewarding, although challenging job. However, I chose a path in forensic anthropology/archaeology.

Ugh, it has been heavily snowing here since the early hours. I was so hoping the snowy season may have been finished with this winter, but obviously not!

MaMaPo · 05/03/2015 10:02

Purdey if you every want to chat via pm then I'm very happy. You're very good at encouraging all of us to be assertive and proactive about our fertility but I don't get the feeling that you're equally as proactive and assertive about your own mental health. You should be: you're worth it as a woman, a mother, a wife. And I think that if you can find an avenue for it, mindfulness would and could do wonders. It's not supposed to be easy...

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juneybean · 05/03/2015 10:04

purds just a quick one but I'm sure you can self-refer to MIND I did it in 2013 so not sure if it's still available x

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