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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The wheels on the February bus go round and round

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juneybean · 18/02/2015 22:10

Ta da!

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Hairstylisttoboris · 22/02/2015 08:48

mrscatmad sorry for the bfn, hope your bfp comes soon.
oyster hold off if you can, how many dpo are you? Average date for implantation isn't until 9dpo. Hormones that your hpt detect don't come until implantation. Even the most sensitive tests need a few days for the hormones to build. You can do it; hang on in there

BowiesJumper · 22/02/2015 08:52

Good luck to anyone testing! And yes hold off a few days oyster and mrscat.

Hope you're all well.

mummyofonesofar · 22/02/2015 08:59

I wish I could hold off! Sorry for bfn Flowers

mrscatmad31 · 22/02/2015 09:04

Thanks Smile
have just bought ovulation tests (haven't used them before) , first response tests and some cheap pregnancy tests in the hope that the law of sod will give me a bfp now.
have officially gone madGrin

Oysterbabe · 22/02/2015 09:05

Thanks, I know you're all right :)
No idea when I ovulated as I haven't started tracking temperature or anything yet. My last cycle was 28 days, which is the longest one for a while. When I first came off the pill in October/ November time they were more like 21.

PurdeyBirdie · 22/02/2015 09:21

MrsB, so glad you found comfort.

Sparkly, I've pm'd you Thanks

Oyster, I would never test that early as I don't see the point when it is likely to be a false negative. What are these symptoms of which you speak?

I'm on 12/13dpo and have had a drop in temp but not depressingly so. I don't bother testing for pregnancy after three years of ttc; I just don't expect a bfp.

babsbunny · 22/02/2015 09:22

Hey girls. Hope everyone is good today.

Sorry for bfn mrsmadcat , still early. Fx for you.

Babybump, thanks for input. Sorry I didn't reply, I flopped last night, so tired. Went to Winchester for the day, lovely, but took forever to get home last night, so simply fell into bed when got home.

Still no af this morning. No doubt she will show up later today Sad

babsbunny · 22/02/2015 09:27

Morning purdey. Hope you are ok. I have been thinking lots about your love of words. I think the girls are right, coupled with all your life experience, you have the potential to write an amazing book. I'm a little jealous of your skill, I love words, but have no flair for expressing them. Writing a book is on my lifetime bucket list. But for now, I stick to baking....

Oysterbabe · 22/02/2015 09:32

I had some AF-like cramping a couple of days ago. I've been very windy the last few days too, burping a lot which is pretty odd. We were in the pub yesterday and the smell of the food at the next table was making me feel sick, it just smelt strong and sour, I would never normally be bothered by stuff like that. Could easily be nothing, my hormones are all over the place after 18 years on the pill. FX though!

spinningirl10 · 22/02/2015 09:40

Morning Grin

Mummy, I'm so sorry that you had to go through such terrible things in your childhood. It amazes me how many strong women we have on these buses Thanks

Babs, do you bake for a living?

Purdey, how many dpo are you now?
I agree that you should be writing for a living, you really have a flair with words and a great sense of humour.

babsbunny · 22/02/2015 09:49

Hi spinning.

No, I draw buildings. I bake to relieve stress and anxiety. I also make paper bouquets. I find anything process orientated helps regain calm Smile. Would like my own crafty business in the future so can one day focus less on this building drawing business which is all very stressful.

At the moment it distracts me from wanting to per on sticks...

Do you bake?

PurdeyBirdie · 22/02/2015 10:01

Babs, I am really touched by your kind words. I don't know how to handle compliments in real life - despite being a rather braying and opinionated comedian - but I really do feel buoyed by yours and other's (Spinning) comments, so thank you. I don't know how to fully enunciate quite how lacking in career confidence I have become. My failure to complete my degree due to alcoholism (three times I got to January in my third year) haunts me still and no..I would never, ever, ever consider going back. You know..'cos of the ghosts of my addiction. I can even see myself sat in the same lecture theatre chair I always sat in where the tutor couldn't possibly see that I was drinking neat vodka out of an Evian bottle. I collapsed, too, several times in lectures and on one occasion was carted off in an ambulance. I know I'm a coward but I just cannot go back.

So I now don't have the belief in myself to try owt else. Never mind. I have been saved from my addiction and I believe it to be my greatest triumph Smile

PurdeyBirdie · 22/02/2015 10:06

Babs, you sound like someone who didn't drop out of uni due to addiction. You sound like you have an amazing job which you are downplaying on here so you don't out yourself as London's leading architect. I'll bet you produce brilliant stuff. I'm sorry it's stressful. How bad is the stress? Is it deadlines that make it so?

On the subject of words: I honestly drink words as I find them and learn their meaning. I have a repertoire of favourites that I unashamedly lob into conversations. Non-one in my peer group understands what they mean and there is a certain incongruity to a very broad Lancashire lass spouting them. I don't care. Life can be dull enough without saying 'chatty' when you could be saying 'loquacious' Smile

PurdeyBirdie · 22/02/2015 10:10

*My friends are not thick, by any means. One has abio-chemistry degree but constantly says, 'Eh?' when I'm in lexical heaven.

*Actually, I have a couple of thick friends but they are emotionally intelligent..and they are absolutely the best kind, right?

babsbunny · 22/02/2015 10:24

Purdey. You really are amazing. I don't blame u for not wanting to go back. Associations are powerful triggers for painful past experiences. I have people who I love dearly, but cannot be around due to association with painful memories. I get it.

I also get your lack of confidence. I got through uni on anti depressants and a pile of counseling, and despite how it may appear, have no confidence in my ability in work or life. I have no idea how I arrived in this big old city and found a job. I have a lot to thank dh for. Given my way I would be living down the road from my folks in a safe small village!

You are so brave (And you don't need to respond to to that compliment). Your achievements in life are immense, and you should be proud of each and every one.

BowiesJumper · 22/02/2015 10:26

You really should write a memoir purdey. And writing is very cathartic!

Sparkly, hope you're feeling a bit better.

eskimolaura · 22/02/2015 10:27

Morning ladies. Hope everyone is ok this morning. Apologies in advance for the 'me-orientated' post, but I am feeling rather down today and haven't yet read back on the thread.

I am CD31 today and still no sign of AF. I am fed up. I haven't had a natural period since coming off the pill in November last year, but really thought that things were starting to occur this month. Do you think I'm worrying unnecessarily? I had the flashing smiley from CD10, then a peak smiley on CD15. I thought I had EWCM on CD18. Then I had bad cramps for about 3 days from CD26 and since then, nothing. But, if I ovulated on CD18 (despite it being 3 days after the peak smiley), then I'm not yet 'late' am I? As it's only 13 days since then- CD18 for me was Monday 9th Feb).

I have POAS twice in the last week- one on Tuesday (CD26) and one on Friday (CD29) and both times got a BFN. But again, if I didn't ovulate until Monday 9th, would this still be too early (Twerly as Juney says?) as 9dpo would have been last Wednesday 18th?

I'm really sorry that I don't have a chart for people to look at, that might provide more answers. I do have a basal thermometer, but I haven't looked into the technical side of using it yet Confused

I just have this niggling feeling that there is something 'wrong', although I went to the doctors in January and was prescribed Norethisterone in order to bring on a withdrawal bleed (hence the fact that I can count CD10 etc) and he did the day three blood tests and everything was fine.

I just wish something would happen! Either a BFP or AF would be such a relief. If it was AF, then at least I could get on with my next cycle, but the waiting is just torturous. Has anyone got any advice, or, looking at my dates, could tell me anything? I am going insane going upstairs every half an hour to check my knickers! Sad

babsbunny · 22/02/2015 10:28

Never assumed your friends were thick. I have a friend with a doctorate in some sciencey thing who has v. limited vocab and shocking geographic skills (i mean embarrassingly so). I am continuously amazed by the varying capacity areas of the mind.

babsbunny · 22/02/2015 10:32

Hey Eskimo. Sorry I don't have much advice, but it all sounds ok. I'm quite naive but sounds like every thing happened right this month.

Hold on and something will give either way Flowers

babsbunny · 22/02/2015 10:34

Right I'm going in search of this bitch af.

She's been fannying around for too long now. Running should do it.

BowiesJumper · 22/02/2015 10:40

Oh Eskimo. Must be really frustrating. But it does sound like you have a few more days before a bfp or af would show up? I guess it takes a while for it all to get back in sync.

BowiesJumper · 22/02/2015 10:43

I should go for a run. Haven't been for a few months and I used to go three times a week. It's just too colllllld (rubbish excuse).

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juneybean · 22/02/2015 10:55

Eskimo I would definitely wait until the longest possible date before worrying so let's say you ovulated day 18 add a 16 day luteal phase just in case that's 34 days, so if aunt flo still isn't here by then I'd be doing another test and asking the doctor for help

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eskimolaura · 22/02/2015 11:04

Thank you everyone. I'm just a bit over-anxious because I've been on the pill so long I can't actually remember what my cycles were like before I went on it. Juney, that sounds sensible. CD34 will be Wednesday. It's comforting, knowing I have a few more days before I need to take some kind of action! Just hate this waiting! It's maybe worse because I've been on half term this week, so it's seemed like the longest week ever!

Maseface11 · 22/02/2015 11:57

I have been lurking for a while soaking in everyone's advice to each other. Just wanted to say to babs that I also draw buildings for a living and know how stressful it can be and how low your confidence in your work can be. But I've decided that you have to put on a brave face and look like you know what your doing and no one will know your shitting yourself! Fingers crossed for all your BFPs!