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The wheels on the February bus go round and round

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juneybean · 18/02/2015 22:10

Ta da!

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Nomio230 · 20/02/2015 22:07

Sending you big hugs, Lucie. This stupid ttc malarkey is soul destroying at times.

BowiesJumper · 20/02/2015 22:40

Aw I'm sorry lots of you are feeling down tonight.

I've just eaten far too much.

My chart still isn't showing I ovulated and the opk's have been negative since my last positive 8 days ago. But today I've got lots of ewcm and pangs in the ovary area.

Confusing!!

Glad I'm off to the docs next week!

mummyofonesofar · 20/02/2015 23:23

Purdey me too! I hope the ewcm is a sign! It's annoys me when GPs blame the system - they are the ones with the ability to refer to community mental health. I was a high risk case - sexual abuse as a minor, rape in my teens, self harm, teenage pregnancy. My post natal check up my GP said "are you depressed? You have put on some weight" That is not helpful at all. They don't ace the holistic approach they need to properly care for their patients. Shit system. Sorry rant over, I hope you get the right support now, we will hold your hand.

Sorry Nomio Flowers and sorry raviolig you seem to be having a tough time too Flowers

WinterBabyof89 · 21/02/2015 00:04

Just to piggy back on the MH convo...Mental health referral/diagnosis is pretty shocking.. My DH found himself on a downward spiral into depression last year.. It took me forever to get him to go to the drs & ask for help. When he eventually did, they sent him away with a questionnaire and told him to come back two weeks later. Wtf!
If he had a chest infection, antibiotics would have been prescribed. If he had a broken arm an immediate referral for xray and cast would have followed. For MH they give a pissing questionnaire & ask if you're suicidal.. What if you're not suicidal but the further two weeks you have to wait send you further into the black hole and closer to those feelings. I was pregnant at time. Two weeks later our life went to shit when dd died. It took me until January (6months later) to get him back to the Drs and he had to wait a further two weeks before he was prescribed ADs.. The change since he's been on them is amazing.
My life was falling apart around me last year & now things are beginning to look up.

Mental health system within the NHS needs an overhaul quite simply, because it just isn't meeting need quick enough.

Anyhow.. Rant over.. Boils my blood it does..

I hope everybody is getting the vaginal discharge they are hoping for and that bfps follow!
Sorry for those having a shitty time.. FlowersFlowersFlowers

WinterBabyof89 · 21/02/2015 00:05

We are almost in the last week of February!

WinterBabyof89 · 21/02/2015 00:06

mummy sorry to hear that you had such a difficult time of it growing up Flowers

BabyBumpHopeful · 21/02/2015 07:20

Late Friday night here, early Sat morning really. I decided not to dtd today because of the enormous cold sore on my face :( I'm drained (anyone else get that with cold sores?) and my jaw hurts in the place it does when you get one.

On the plus side, we have dtd the prior two days so I hope we have sperm in situ. Hoping my temp rises with my next test to indicate Ov but with the cold sore it probably would have anyway!

lucieloos · 21/02/2015 07:35

Yes it really is nomio. Are you due to start ivf soon?

loopylou1984 · 21/02/2015 07:43

Morning everyone, sorry for the lack of posting, busy with family stuff at the moment and got a wedding today!

I hope everyone is feeling a bit better this morning. Xx

PaddingtonFromPeru · 21/02/2015 08:05

Morning all. CD30, just did a test and got a BFP. Things I did differently this month:

  1. DTD on CD14, as well as CD13 and 15.
  2. DTD even though I thought I was getting a bug (and then did). DH is now worried DC will have something wrong. I took ibuprofen - not dared tell him that.
  3. Was so convinced I wasn't pregnant,I rushed out and bought a basal thermometer and 50 OPKs.
  4. was so convinced I wasn't pregnant, I had a glass of red wine and some baked Camembert.

I am simply in shock.

Hope your PND improves Purdey and good luck to the rest of you. This has been such a lovely supportive bus, I'm going to stick around and send you all BFP vibes.

mrscatmad31 · 21/02/2015 08:09

Congratulations Paddington!

nightandthelight · 21/02/2015 08:13

Congrats Paddington so happy for you :)

PurdeyBirdie · 21/02/2015 08:16

Oh, Lucie and Nomio, I am always hopeful that my words don't sound successful-IVF glib. There's nothing worse than someone ranting about how they got their baby when you feel as though you are still in the starting blocks, or worse; back at the stables. I think the very worst part of ttc is coping with others' seemingly easy conceptions. You begin to imagine that you are languishing at the very back of some long, snaking queue of women trying to get pregnant and you see utter twats instadiffers pushing in after waiting no time at all and seemingly sending you further back in the queue. It's like all the babies are being snapped up by those at the front. Will they have sold out of babies by the time we get to the front? Of course not. There is no finite number of babies waiting to be given to mums. And the best bit is yours can't be given in error to someone else, either. Your baby is waiting, with your genes and evryfink Smile

Thanks for being complimentary about me. I love writing but not because I like to hear myself speak (see myself read?) but because I love words and I like the liberation that can be found by over sharing. I will definitely look into it.

I've had the second-highest temp of my cycle today at 11 or 12dpo. It was taken after only 2 hours and 50 mins of sleep (toilet trips and baby checking). Can I have it? Canna..canna...canna...CANNA???

PurdeyBirdie · 21/02/2015 08:30

I'm still catching up but wanted to say that you, mummy are incredible and are clearly made of whatever it is that is the strongest material in the world. What horrific stuff to have to survive and then process as a child. I want to scoop you up and hug you. And I'm not going to apologise for that Thanks

You, too, Winterbaby. I already hold you in the highest of regards and I'm sorry you had the added burden (for that is what it can feel like when our loved ones are ill or deeply troubled) of watching your husband's MH decline Thanks The human spirit is a remarkable thing. I attribute my return from the gutter to God's grace, but I can also see that we are given these strong and resilient spirits that will fight and fight and fight.

Bowie, keep rumpying! Can I see your chart, please?

Enjoy the wedding, Sammy.

Paddington! What a thrill! Well done, old girl! What CD did you ov, please? Thanks

babsbunny · 21/02/2015 08:31

Congrats Paddington! Flowers
that's a great start to the weekend ladies.

I just caught up on posts. Gosh I hope everyone is ok today. Hugs to all who need them x

nomio please keep going. Your baby is sat in the future waiting. for you. We are all here to support till then.

Purdey, please keep your chin up. People here can see so much positive in you, use this as a spring board when things are really crap. Have they talked about referring you for and counseling or cbt? I owe getting through the last 15 yrs to antidepressants, bit have recently had a course of cbt and it has been fantastic.

Sorry to all those who have had a rough time with mental health and things in the past. I understand. Support services and attitudes really need to shape up. I also hate the taboo around talking openly about it. As winterbaby said, it's no different to having a physical illness, but society deals with it really badly.

PaddingtonFromPeru · 21/02/2015 08:38

Sorry Purdey,no idea. I'd bought the BBT to work that out in March. law of sod.

Thanks for the congrats ladies. As an older, maturer sort (38), I' hoping it goes smoothly.

babsbunny · 21/02/2015 08:39

Sorry, I've stopped ranting now.

On the plus side, still only brown creamy discharge after spotting (sorry). No full on af YET.

However this has happened last cycle, spotting on due date (cd 26) and then messing about for the 2/3 days before af really got going.

Af has a perverted sense of humour.

WinterBabyof89 · 21/02/2015 08:39

paddongton congrats!

purdey to read about the lives of many of us here I certainly second the resilience of the human spirit - it's bloody marvellous at times. I hope that you get some good support with your PND & that your bfp arrives soon! You & your DH deserve it. (I try really hard not to take a deserving/non-deserving attitude to life but will make an exception for you!)

PaddingtonFromPeru · 21/02/2015 08:41

Just to add to previous post, CB digi said LH was present CD13 and 14, hence the shagging on those dates. Previously I'd used cheapie OPKs, which said only CD13, which at my oh so advanced age I believed.

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juneybean · 21/02/2015 08:41

Yay paddington great news!

I had a low temp today 97.07 (5dpo) but took it again and 97.48 so wondering if my bbt is knackered!

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mummyofonesofar · 21/02/2015 08:42

There is a huge stigma around MH issues. My friend lost her teenage daughter to suicide 2years ago. A trigger set off her ability to get out of bed and come to work. She is in a bad place now. Her physiatrist said she is suffering PTSD, her Gp signed her off with anxiety. Was like a slap in the face for her.

Thanks Purds I just get on with it. But am terrified of having a daughter and not being able to protect her.

Congratulations paddington!

Hairstylisttoboris · 21/02/2015 09:08

paddington brilliant! So pleased for you! Your stats and story are giving me renewed hope :) thank youFlowers

PurdeyBirdie · 21/02/2015 09:22

How kind you are, Babs and, Winterbaby, you have buoyed me, thank you Thanks

Mummy, I am terrified, too, for Nancy. I haven't been through what you have but I am very afraid of her becoming addicted, being promiscuous, having MH issues like me (although she does not have my genes I do believe MH issues can be learned from our parents; I know I learned how to panic/worry/try to top myself from my father after watching him in and out of mental hospitals as a very young child and then as a teen). I think the world can be a very dark place a lot of the time; it is godless and scary but it is also beautiful and there are exceptional lives to be had, too, for our children. All we can do is show them our resilience; our indomitable spirits and love, love, love them.

Juney, yes, that will happen almost immediately after taking your temp if you take it again: it will rise, even after only those few seconds. Don't worry about peaks and troughs at this early stage; it means nothing. Post-8dpo is when the 'fun' begins Hmm

PurdeyBirdie · 21/02/2015 09:23

Mummy, I hope your friend finds the strength to get through this utterly appalling horror Sad

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juneybean · 21/02/2015 09:24

Thanks purdle should I record first low temp?

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