TTC after mc #4

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Hello ladies - is there room for one more? Very excited to be here instead of the miscarriage forum. I have a couple of questions I could do with an opinion on and you all seem like you know what you're talking about :)

I had a mmc on 8th Jan (12 weeks but empty sac measuring 6), and first af 2 weeks ago. I have a 37 day cycle (so frustrating!) and since the mc I've started tracking ovulation on Ovia. The first time I got pg really easily without tracking (although I was aware of my cycle and when I would more or less be fertile) so hoping it will be just as easy this time.

According to Ovia, if I'm having a 'normal' cycle, next week between Weds and Sun is my optimum time, and I'll probably ov on Sunday 15th. I've read that it's the days leading up to ov that count as much as the day itself, am I right? Planning to just dtd every other day over the next couple of weeks and hope for the best, but here's the thing: I have a hen do next weekend which involves us going away Friday and coming back Sunday. But there is an option of just going for Sat night.

Now we could dtd Friday morning (set alarm extra early!) and then Sunday afternoon when I get back. But would we be giving ourselves a better chance to dtd on Saturday too / instead? I could potentially just go to the hen do on the Saturday and stay for one night instead. If it means I'm giving myself a higher chance of conceiving this month then I'd rather do that. But am I just being daft / clueless about how this works?

I have a feeling my friend wouldn't understand if I tried explaining to her. I've already opted out of cocktails on the hen do so I'm super-healthy and I'm not sure she really got it. But she did stay two nights for my own hen do last year so I'd feel a bit guilty missing half of it.

Am I making sense? Please tell me I'm not an idiot for obsessing over this! It's just so frustrating and I want to feel we've given it our best shot after waiting two months to even reach this point again.

Thanks in advance for any advice and sorry for the massive post!

Hi Tomcat, sorry your here but I'm glad your into your new cycle.

Honestly? Don't cut the hen do short. You still have to have a life. DTD Friday and Sunday would be enough. You may not ovulate until Monday anyway? That's just my opinion anyway, do whatever feels right for you. I'll have every thing crossed you catch this cycle.

Also yes, if you DTD up to Friday, then skip Saturday and then Sunday I think you'll be well covered. Sperm lives for up to 5 days so you'd have sperm from wed/thur & fri waiting for the egg.

Hey TomCat, Ovia is really weird like that- insists you ovulate in the middle of your fertile window. In reality you are fertile the four-five days prior to, and the day of, ovulation. Ovia is bollocks. Well, it's useful for keeping track of things but it can start assuming you are fertile at really odd moments.

Tomcat I'd say do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. Going through an MC has made me feel like it is imperative to get prego again ASAP so I totally get where you're coming from.

On the other hand sperm are viable for several days in utero so it should be more than enough to dtd loads before you go away!

And you are not an idiot

Hi Tomcat Sorry you find yourself here but it is the best shit place to be :)

I agree with the other ladies. I think you are still likely to catch without dtd Saturday. I know what you mean though I was so desperate to get pregnant after mc I felt like I put my life on hold just waiting for a BFP! Are you using opks?

Ladies, I've done something a bit stupid.

I poas an ic earlier for some stupid dumb reason and got a very faint line. Just used a frer and I've got a line. 12dpo according to FF.

I'm terrified. I don't know what to do. I'm freaking out that maybe it's HCG left over from my MC. But I did two tests post MC and they came out as negative which the EPU said if that happened it was fine to start ttc again. I don't know what to do. Should I wait a few days and then test again maybe? I can't tell DH as I just can't get his hopes up. Sitting here shaking, I can't think straight.

Aside from that, if it really is a true BFP then I'm terrified after what happened last time. Or that it might be a chemical. I wish I hadn't bloody poas now.

oh genni if you have had previous negatives then I am sure that is your BFP! whispers congrats!

I know how you feel, get yourself on the grads thread over in pregnancy (we don't wanna go to a proper thread yet as like yourself we are just so scared and not believing just yet!)

I am also 12dpo and so is guy! I think the plan for me is to keep testing until AF is officially late and then contact MW x

Thanks amyy. I will pop over to that thread when I'm feeling brave enough as would be good to have people to chat with. I'm kind of kicking myself for testing early. I should have waited until AF was late!

Genni! ! Congratulations! !!

Tomcat welcome, and I agree with the others.. best of luck for this cycle!

Just arrived at hotel. Went to the loo and had loads of cm. Kind of thick and sticky almost. The stingy/sore/uncomfortable 'thereness' comes and goes but was pretty constant when sat in the car. Almost felt like it was radiating from both ovaries out and around to my back. Reminded me of labor.

Totally zzzzzzz still. Off swimming in a mo.

Think I'll test sat or Sunday. Not sure yet.

Welcome tomcat, sorry for your loss, I agree with the others - DTD before and after hen then try to go have fun! It's such a lottery and this hen will only happen once.

Congrats to the new BFPs, what a great month March is so far! Really happy for you all and also jealous.

Chasing, holding hands if you need it, be kind to yourself.

I went to Doctor today on day 11 of mud-cycle spotting, she thinks it's an infection, got me straight onto antibiotics with firm instructions to go straight back if anything gets worse or changes, even at weekend. Now I'm really scared! Have I damaged my uterus by waiting to go to doc? Why oh why can't my body just work, get pregnant, carry a healthy baby? I feel surrounded by babies and pregnancies and just want to hide and cry. Instead I've got to be the strong positive leader at work.

genni! I'm 12 dpo too and faint bfp was on Tuesday! AF is due Sunday so I'm going to test on Monday and assume that we are go after that. Congratulations!
Chasing your symptoms really do sound very promising. Fingers tightly crossed.

Aww genni I know what you mean I wish I had too!

Chasing hope you have a lovely holiday! Do you have any lower back pain too? Just curious :)

MrsC I hope its your turn soon! I know how shitty it is to see other people's BFPs and not your own, but you will get yours! Sorry about the infection I don't think you would have damaged your uterus, I would think she just has to say that to you in case you get more poorly.

MrsC- I hope you're ok. What a stress. Fwiw I had an infection after birth of dd and it was extra painful- it was like there was a nail hammered through my uterus pinning me to the seat and immobilising my entire tummy with pain. Ouch. . . Dr said there would be no long term damage once treated.

Amyy on and off but I've frequently got a lower achey back thanks to the constant lifting of small people.

Hi all!
Just popping in to see how you're doing :)

Lovely to see some BFP's :) Congrats ladies.

Argh I know i can feel SOMETHING in there. I need to see that bfp so I don't feel like I'm going fucking mad. Come on 12dpo. Give me a pretty little line!!

Even send me baby/sticky/bfp vibes please!

Sending vibes chasing. What kind of tests do you use? I have found the supposedly super sensitive early detection internet cheapies to be completely fucking useless and to give a negative when ever other test is giving a strong positive.

Can I tell you all my weird pregnancy symptom. I've had it all this week which is what led me to test early. I had it when pregnant with dd but interestingly not with mc pregnancy.
It's a feeling of nostalgia. Before even missing period, I keep getting sudden flashes of memory / emotion. It seems to relate to a slightly increased sense of smell so I keep noticing that I'm suddenly reminded of the summer I spent in Paris when I was 16 or whatever because of the blossom trees. It is so powerful and I had forgotten what it was like until this week. Odd. Has anyone else had this or am I insane?

Sending sticky bfp vibes chasing!

I have had a sense of de ja vu at least once a day for about a week!

Sending loads of baby vibes your way chasing!

Guy nostalgia is a cool symptom... I haven't experienced it myself but will be on the look out

How cool is that! Nostalgia is a lovely symptom I think.

Have felt extremely out of it for the past hr.. maybe I'm getting really anxious. I feel so hot. I can't work out of its the hotel. My Lower back is suddenly very saw and having just got back to room after dinner to change I spotted both boobs are vieny.

If this isn't my bfp then my body is playing very cruel tricks.

Sore!!! See. Not with it at all.

Ooo fx chasing!! Not long now

chasing fingers crossed! When are you testing? Hope you find a way to relax and have a nice time in the meantime! I know it's impossible though...

I'm going to race to the loo first thing in an attempt to get rid of fmu and resist testing. I'll only be 11 dpo tomo and can't face another bfn.