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TTC after mc #4

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 12/02/2015 14:44

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epskie · 04/03/2015 21:28

Yeah I had one last week, I want to try now to be honest, it's been so long

HeavenKnowsImNotSoMiserable · 04/03/2015 21:46

Hi all, it's been a long day spent at the EPU. It's not confirmed that I'm mc-ing but I think I'll be very shocked if anything shows up on my scan next week. I should be 5+3 but they couldn't see the sac on my scan and my hcg levels are only 30.

I'm sure it'll hit me soon but I'm feeling oddly calm about it all.

chasingtherainbow · 04/03/2015 22:04

Oh heaven :-( I'm so sorry.

Amyyy27 · 04/03/2015 22:12

So so sorry to hear that Heaven i am devastated for you. Try and get some rest for now xx

MsJupiter · 04/03/2015 22:30

I'm really sorry to hear that Heaven. I have been thinking of you and hoping for better news. Much love to you (and your partner) and I hope you have lots of support around.

Allthequeens I just asked as I know they sped up the process of investigation for me as I was over 35. But I think 2 years is a long time to go through what you have done. I hope you can get somewhere with the GP.

Teenie i was treated for infection at the time of the mc but it was in hospital so I had an IV line. If you experience any worse pain you might want to consider going straight to hospital. It will get better but these things should be taken seriously.

chasingtherainbow · 05/03/2015 06:10

So I stupidly. . For reasons unbeknownst to even myself. . Poas last night. I actually thought it was morning. Turned out to be 1 am and my pee had probably only been held 3 hrs or less.

It was a bfn. Twice I thought I could see The faintest of faintest lines. . But actually I think I was just willing it there. I'm only 10dpo but truthfully had thought maybe I'd see somthing. I'm not sure how I feel now.. my logical brain says it's so.. so early. The other feels... hurt. . I guess. I just needed the slightest indication that I'm right. Now I feel overwhelming doubtful.

I'm going to leave a frer in the bottom of my bag but I'm not sure I'll pee on it before Sunday now.. If at all while we are away. So much for a birthday bfp

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 05/03/2015 06:35

Oh heaven I am sorry.
chasing about half of pregnant women get a bfp at 10 dpo, much less than that with late in the day poas. So the bfn doesn't mean anything at this stage.

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Amyyy27 · 05/03/2015 06:36

Chasing hun im sorry for the BFN Flowers it is early though so dont give up hope! Everything crossed for you xx

Gr33dyeggs · 05/03/2015 07:27

heaven I'm so sorry you're not reporting better news. Look after yourself Flowers

chasing fx you are just testing too soon, especially with your symptoms. Try to enjoy your break this weekend and not worry about everything (easier said than done).

Bristolian1 · 05/03/2015 07:30

So sorry heaven to hear your scan news. Hope you are doing ok. Flowers

chasing I totally know how you feel, but dont count yourself out yet CakeBrew

Just POAS and... BFN Sad not completely sure of ovulation date, but am cd29 today and my last two cycles have been 28d (though it can be anything up to 35d). But am nauseous and have really sore boobs. So disappointed. Then husband got narky with me for POAS too much. He thinks it's 'obsessive'. Then had a huge argument, basically along the lines of: me: 'trust me this is normal behaviour' him: 'I don't trust you, it doesn't seem normal to me, I will look into it'. Grrrr. Probably straight after wife gets a BFN is not the best time to have a go!!

Amyyy27 · 05/03/2015 07:35

No not the best time bristolian :( sorry for the BFN but you arent out yet! Ive also been told off for testing too much... men are so clueless! Wink

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 05/03/2015 07:58

Bristol, what does he mean "I will look into it"? That's a wierdly controlling thing to say. I know it must be annoying when your partner is obsessing but it's more annoying being the obsessing partner! They should try living in our bodies for a while and see how it feels to have this constant uncertainty.

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Bristolian1 · 05/03/2015 08:10

Thanks Amyyy

chasingtherainbow · 05/03/2015 08:12

He's going to look into it?! What a bizarre thing to say. Point him in my direction and ill show him how crazy ttc women can really be!

I'm a bit meh. I think perhaps I've just read far too much into my 'symptoms' maybe the cm was just odd. I dunno. Feeling a bit stupid since the conversation at home has been going like this :

Me: I feel sick.. god I'm so nervous.
Dh: you haven't tested yet.
Me: yes. But I know. I just know
Dh: you can't possibly. Why don't you just test! (No comprehension of dpo etc..)
Me: why don't you just trust me? I'm a good 97% sure
DH: look. Just calm down will you.

Me: bath> chocolate> pj's> grumpy.

Bristolian1 · 05/03/2015 08:17

Guy I know! That's what really hacked me off, though he says he just needs to find out about things for himself.
Have now told him everything that's been going on in my mind and I think he understands What's going on a bit better. I guess I'm more worried about TTC now as I've recently been diagnosed with endometriosis which can reduce fertility so now it's possible that not only am I unable to carry a pregnancy, but also might struggle to conceive! It's only our first cycle of TTC since my last MMC which was 5 months ago so I think I'm a bit crazier than before!!

Bristolian1 · 05/03/2015 08:18

And by the way, thanks ladies - you're such lovely support

Allthequeenshorses · 05/03/2015 08:44

Thanks MsJupier I will do that.

heaven thinking of you this morning.

epskie hope you are ok. I am not the most knowledgeable person but here is what I did. I printed off a a4 year planner and marked on af dates and mc date as best I could. It took me 4 weeks after to get a negative test and then two cycles after that to settle down with random bleeding inbetween. I did feel up to trying and infact after the first mc I was almost frantic to start again. It helped me to have it in black and white so I could work out roughly when I should be ov if it were a normal cycle. Everyone is different and I feel so sad for you.

chasing I am keeping my fingers crossed for you. I have never ever managed to get a bfp until af was late!! despite me continually poas just to check and see. Costs me a small fortune.

chasingtherainbow · 05/03/2015 09:50

I've got that low level "there'ness" dullness pre AF thing going on today. Surly my AF won't come this early?

Amyyy27 · 05/03/2015 10:00

Argh chasing I am on tenterhooks! I don't want to get your hopes up in case AF does arrive but you are describing all my symptoms! What I had planned to do this month though was write down all my symptoms this month so I knew what to ignore next month if AF got me. As I swear the previous 2 cycles at least I was adamant I was pregnant. It was only this month I had serious doubts after AF type cramps (although looking back they were too early in my eyes - I normally only cramp the day before, sometimes just on the morning of AF)

I have also found my first month of charting to be really helpful too although really annoying at times!

northdownmummy · 05/03/2015 10:22

chasing I've had that dull full feeling for 3weeks now, 1week before my BFP and 2 after.

Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you

chasingtherainbow · 05/03/2015 11:05

Amyy, I have done that every single cycle since July last year- this month I got rid of them and didn't do it in order to 'relax' .. so now I've got nothing to go on and I'm even more stressed out! ! Lol

Currently on car (not driving obvs!) .. bad back. . Nausea --car sickness- and the "feeling" down there is stronger.

I also can't help but feel like I'm gonna burst into tears at any given moment. Burst into tears over 60 minute makeover yesterday. That was a new low for me! Grin

Bristolian1 · 05/03/2015 11:23

Chasing I can totally relate to everything you're going through - nausea, sore boobs, cramps bad back, headaches, tears (thank goodness I'm not in work today!!). I'm just not sure if the mother of all AFs is coming to get me or I ovulated later than I thought/am having a longer cycle this month! In some ways I wish the witch would just show up so I can reset and start again. I'm mainly coping by comfort eating today, which I can highly recommend Grin

Amyyy27 · 05/03/2015 11:30

Aww ladies they all sound like really good signs. I am hoping they turn into BFPs shortly x

gennibugs · 05/03/2015 12:26

Afternoon all, another one here with every symptom under the sun. I've had the strongest cramps for days, (though strangely none today), a really strange stabbing pain in the lower back and I feel sick. Annoyingly the month I finally got my BFP I had gotten so fed up with ttc that it was the only month I didn't temp or insert my symptoms etc into FF and I can't for the life of me remember how I felt leading up to my BFP. I don't recall feeling sick or anything so assume it's just my mind playing tricks.
Still I'm going to be sorely disappointed if AF shows up though in my heart I know it will Blush

I can't remember if I congratulated all the bfps yesterday but congratulations to you all - so pleased for you all Grin

HariboBrenshnio · 05/03/2015 12:34

I have zero symptoms! My boobs have been stabby and sore but I know that happened last month in the 2ww. So I'm totally in the dark about what's going to happen. I'm getting anxious about test day though. Earliest I could test is Sunday.

Chasing I have my fingers tightly crossed that it's just too early for you. Your symptoms sound promising.

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