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TTC after mc #4

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 12/02/2015 14:44

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chasingtherainbow · 24/02/2015 08:11

Thinking of you here too sebsmummy x

We told family at 6wks with dd. Then fb announced Blush after a 10wk scan.

This time we'll tell my dh family early as they were amazing during mc.. but I don't think I'll start shouting it from the rooftops till 16 wks or so. she says now

Nic89 · 24/02/2015 09:43

Hey guys,
So after what I thought was a positive result back in December was in fact negative, got my period 33 days in ... Bad cramps never had them as bad, potentially I think another missed miscarriage ... Hopefully my fingers are crossed this month for all of us, I'm 32 days in now (biting my nails) xx

Amyyy27 · 24/02/2015 11:12

Chasing my OH wants us to wait until 12w scan before telling family and close friends, and wait until 20w scan before 'publicly announcing' on facebook lol. I'm gunna struggle majorly with that. Both of our families were great with us through early pg and mc, but even his mam said she didn't want us to say anything to anyone until we know baby is ok. We shall see... hopefully we get to discuss it again when we get our BFP next month!

3dpo.. yawn.. Time. Dragging. So. Slowwwwly.

Someone should definitely invent the 'Instant BFP Gadget!' Can be used instantly after intercourse and guaranteed a BFP Grin

chasingtherainbow · 24/02/2015 11:26

Instant bfp gadget would be godsend. I had a sudden sharp twitch to my left ovary at 9am this morning. I calculated it to be exactly 8 hrs from sex and decided that I'd obviously felt the sperm pop into the egg. I'm growing a blastocyst right now this second.

getting carried away with the positive thinking

Here's my thoughts Amyy. Telling everyone the pregnancy was over was fucking hard. Esp as we'd only found out and told everyone a week before. But pregnancy is this sacred, amazing, few times in a lifetime (for some) thing. DH said we should have kept it to ourselves. But for me I felt like this: today I am pregnant. I don't know what tomorrow bring ..but right now this second I am pregnant and I deserve to voice my happiness and enjoy this moment for however long it lasts. I will never ever forgot the excitement of my last bfp and the feeling of telling my sister and friends who had been rooting for me for months on end. They were so happy and excited for me. Yes. It was heartbreaking to tell them I was mc.. but it was a hell of a lot easier than the phone call to my MIL- we'd been planning a special announcement at a family dinner two days later.. I had to call her and say I was miscarrying and I needed her. . And she was just so shocked because she hasn't known I was pregnant and I had to explain why we hadn't told her yet iykwim.

Anyway. My two pence. Right now I'm zoning right in on my positive thinking... visualising holding that positive pregnancy test.

Is it weird that the last week or so I seem to have a mental block whenever I think of a baby girl? My head Instantly places an image of a baby boy in my scenes where I think of us as a family of 4 - side note I actually couldn't care less either way (didn't find out sex of dd either) but it would be admittedly cheaper and easier to have another girl.

Amyyy27 · 24/02/2015 11:40

Chasing those are my thoughts exactly. I know where he's coming from because it was so heart breaking telling people, but we were so excited we told our parents the same day we found out... and I want that feeling again. We are a close family and I really wanna share good news straight away. I don't think he is thinking that even if we lose the baby before telling people we are pg... we are still gunna have to tell people we have lost the baby. Its not something we can go through on our own.

ANYWAY that is not going to happen :) positive thoughts! I'm sick of worrying so I'm gunna join you seeing that bfp in my head!

ooo very strange! I see a boy too.. but I think that's because I know my OH deep down would love a boy. I'm happy either way too.

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 24/02/2015 12:38

Is there anything proactive that can be done during the tww?
3dpo I think. Still annoyed with myself for being so aware of everything. I was so relaxed about ttc before. MC has taken a piece of my sanity.

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Amyyy27 · 24/02/2015 13:23

Guy 3dpo here too. Don't be annoyed at yourself, I think it must be natural after MC, its the worst thing to go through and unfortunately removes the rose tinted specs we must be born with and shows us how shitty life can be, and makes us more paranoid!! At least for me anyway. Hope you get your bfp in March x

StockingFullOfCoal · 24/02/2015 13:48

I've fallen behind again!

AF was due 4 days ago at the earliest and today at the latest. My boobs hurt a lot. But there's no achey/draggy stomach pains that would indicate AF is about to start.

Did a One Step this morning which was a clear negative but I've had them in my drawer for 2 years now so DH is picking up a Clear Blue after work today.

brickiemum2 · 24/02/2015 13:48

I've been for a scan today to check all was well after the erpc/mva. All looked good and no sign of left over tissue. On her 20mlu test I was a bfn but since I've come home I've done a 10mlu one and it's still a bfp but that must mean my levels are very low? I'm still struggling to read my opk though. I "think" it's showing negative...but then it is quite dark. Would tiny amounts of hcg still be affecting it? I want to catch it if I'm ov.

brickiemum2 · 24/02/2015 13:57

Still got a faint bfp (blue) but what do you think about the opk? It has been longer than 10 mins since dipped, does that matter?

TTC after mc #4
Amyyy27 · 24/02/2015 13:59

Ooo Stocking good luck hun fx!

Brickie good news about the scan. Sorry I'm not sure about opks, but someone will know :)

northdownmummy · 24/02/2015 14:30

brickie sorry to be the bearer of bad news but the OPK is picking up the very low levels of HCG that the pregnancy test picked up. The hormones that both test for are so similar that an OPK would show up like a very weak BFP on an early pregnancy test. I think that's what this is

northdownmummy · 24/02/2015 14:32

Oh stocking just read your post..... Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you

brickiemum2 · 24/02/2015 14:37

Bugger, I had hoped that the hcg levels were so low now that they wouldn't affect the opk. This means that as long as my hcg won't dip to absolute zero that opk are pointless? The mw today said I still may ovulate as my hcg was undetectable on her nhs standard test. Anyone know much about this? Does low level hcg prevent ov and therefore delay af? I need an expert lol.

chasingtherainbow · 24/02/2015 14:47

North Down is right. You won't ovulate until your hcg is 0, it's obviously 10 or more but less than 20 for hers to be bfn..are they not checking with bloods? I've heard it can linger on those last few digits. It is certainly not impossible for your body to try or perhaps even manage to ovulate, while your hcg is hovering above zero, but it is extremely rare. Also consider this for thought, an egg that releases while your body is still detecting a pregnancy hormone is unlikely to be accepted by the uterus while it already thinks it's pregnant. It is my understanding that this is exactly how my eptopic occurred, so quickly after my mc.

I think I'd ask the hospital for one last blood test, and although very hard, disregard the torture of opks until you know for certain that your body is on board. X

chasingtherainbow · 24/02/2015 14:49

*disclaimer I am not an expert and only relaying the information I take at face value from the consultants and drs involved in my personal case

brickiemum2 · 24/02/2015 14:52

Thanks, the mw today seemed dismissive of the fact that I'm getting a bpf, she just kept repeating that the test she did was negative and that on scan my womb lining is thick and normal looking. She asked if was having unprotected sex and at first wondered if I was pregnant again (before she did her test) then she just said all was normal...go home.

chasingtherainbow · 24/02/2015 15:12

Brickie I had my own mother and a locum dr trying to tell me my positive tests 2.5 weeks after mc thst were a billion times stronger than the ones I'd first got with bfp where nothing to worry about. I felt like banging my head against a brick wall. Was fucking livid with my mother too. They made me feel like I was over reacting.

In the end I demanded a 2nd opinion and lo and behold a 7 week long saga of eptopic pregnancy. I am still so angry about the dismissive asshole now. I could have gotten so poorly. I have a dd. The idea that my life was I'm danger because he wasn't willing to accept my worries and let me go home Infuriates me.

I digress.

What I'm saying is ..is.. If you are worried. Demand that blood test and don't leave without it. I'd give it 1 more week and if there was even the faintest line on a Internet cheapie I'd be doing just that.

Hope you are ok. Xxx

brickiemum2 · 24/02/2015 15:19

I'm ok Smile thanks. She did scan my ovaries and tubes and mentioned at the time she was checking for ectopic. I think it's likely there is just some tiny bits of tissue producing a bit of hormone still. I've made a gp appointment for Thursday to ask for an appointment for a blood test so I can get an actual number. That will take until mid next week to get a result though so I've got the ball rolling now.

HariboBrenshnio · 24/02/2015 15:40

Hi everyone. I took a little break from MN and the conception boards after becoming a demented person the last few months. I was becoming obsessed and so desperate to be pregnant that it was taking over my life. Then AF was cruelly 12 days late which really sent me to a dark place. I had taken an OPK a few days before AF was due and it was positive which I though meant a BFP but in actual fact, I must have been ovulating as AF came 14 days after that.

We're 4 months, nearly 5 month past the MC now and finally I'm starting to feel a little calmer about it all.

Iv been keeping an eye on you all and have seen chasing and amyy on the March bus. Here's hoping we all get a November baby. I got a nearly positive OPK today so I expect to ovulate today or tomorrow though we'll be keeping DTD through until AF or BFP after last months late ovulation.

Sorry to see new people joining the thread but it really is the best shit place to be.

HariboBrenshnio · 24/02/2015 15:42

Waves to romeolovesjuliet. We're on the October 13 FB group together.

Amyyy27 · 24/02/2015 16:24

Hello Haribo !! I took a break too just came back this month! Ah gosh that must have been horrendous :( Glad you're feeling calmer. Good luck with ov'ing hope its on time for you this month x

Romeolovesjuliet · 24/02/2015 16:31

Ha ha haribo I was wondering if that was you before I read your second message. Very glad to have you back and sounding more positive Smile

chasingtherainbow · 24/02/2015 16:56

haribo glad to see you back Brew

Snooky17 · 24/02/2015 17:52

Hi ladies forgiven me for barging in, this forum was a godsend for me after my 2mc in a row, I'm now 28 weeks pregnant and have a bag of IC ovulation sticks think it's about 15 in total if they are of any use to someone PM me and I will post them to you, hope everyone gets their BFPs soon x