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Rolling rolling rolling, the February bus is still rolling!

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juneybean · 09/02/2015 21:04

Here we are...

Rolling rolling rolling, the February bus is still rolling!
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MissMrsMummy · 10/02/2015 20:56

Ok laura I will let you off! Good point about it being a distraction in the 2ww!

victoria401 · 10/02/2015 20:59

nomio been under a huge amount of stress actually, hell of a lot going on. Thought I was taking it in my stride but it pops out in other areas of my body like my eczema so says my reflexologist I have got so much frigging worry about fertility treatments and dh is not helping himself or us by not looking after himself and I hate his guts as its all his fault we couldn't start treatment last month after gearing myself up for it. Everyone talks about their lovely caring husbands and mine is a lazy hyperchondriac who won't try to eat better unless I force kale down his fecking throat and he won't come for walks with me or leave his fecking computer screen!! He is ruining everything! Plus I'm going through a load if changes in work at the moment with a big merger and building move planned for a few months time! I'm inwardly screaming and calm on the outside. Ok no wonder my period is fecked this month. Rant over. Sorry.

MissMrsMummy · 10/02/2015 21:01

Oh victoria Flowers

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juneybean · 10/02/2015 21:02

get it all out

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eskimolaura · 10/02/2015 21:05

Victoria It really is no wonder you're totally stressed out with all that going on. Flowers

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juneybean · 10/02/2015 21:06

Have just paid for a month of VIP membership at fertility friend. Shits about to get serious!

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mummyofonesofar · 10/02/2015 21:09

Victoria bless you lovely. We are here for you Flowers

victoria401 · 10/02/2015 21:10

Sorry, usually pretend everything is rosy :-(

Am now blubbering over last night's Catastrophe, if anyone is watching that? I think the ginger lady is 43 in RL

PurdeyBirdie · 10/02/2015 21:16

Sorry...still catching up.

MaMa, I am so sorry. What will you do today to pick yourself up? The progesterone crash is a killer. I don't want to be glib, but this is the truest truism I have known - and I cherish it: This, too, will pass.

Nomio, I may sound interesting, but I wish with all my heart I had made different, healthier decisions in my past. I still suffer the consequences of my hedonism now (psychologically, I mean; I don't have AIDS or owt). I got up to some pretty risky activities (escorting, dogging) that I deeply regret, but you can't turn the clock back. I have so much to teach Nancy and so much to shield her from. That's why I keep her locked up in the basement.

MarysPrayer · 10/02/2015 21:35

yes Sammy I watched it. Dd is two and all the programme taught me is that it really doesn't get any easier!

PurdeyBirdie · 10/02/2015 21:35

Aenor, can we have some stats? How old are you? Is this going to be your first child? Have you been to prison? Do you like quinoa? I am thrilled you said that about the sperm taking 14 hours to get to the tubes (I thought it was ten, but who cares?) I thought I was going mad because I haven't been able to remember where I read it and I'm sure these ladies think I'm making this stuff up!

loopylou1984 · 10/02/2015 21:48

Lol mary - I thought it was funny, but so cringy in places! Especially the little girl who was pretending to be on the phone and said 'stop calling me, you're not the dad. I don't love you any more' talk about giving away family secrets! X

MarysPrayer · 10/02/2015 21:51

Yes that bit was especially cringe worthy. Brave parents to volunteer. Wonder how much they were paid?.....

MarysPrayer · 10/02/2015 22:01

'tis quiet on here tonight.... what are you all watching on tv? Smile

3dpo and bored, bored, bored!

mummyofonesofar · 10/02/2015 22:03

So if the egg lasts 12 hours but sperm takes 14 to get there would my 5:40 sex be pointless?

mummyofonesofar · 10/02/2015 22:04

Assuming I get a rise tomorrow to indicate I've already ovulated.

PurdeyBirdie · 10/02/2015 22:07

Right, Vic darling...let's talk. You poor love, going through all this and trying to maintain a veneer of okay-ness. Is your husband a general all-round selfish lump or is his nonchalant bullshit behaviour reserved for trying for a baby? What is he doing on the computer all the time? Why won't he go for a walk? Does he have any hobbies? Is he depressed? What are your biggest worries/fears about IVF? I've been there and will help you. All the way through the journey if you want me to.

Don't keep stuff bottled up on here..we are here for each other.

P.s..we don't all have lovey-dovey, selfless partners. My DH and I are just about coming out through the other side of some pretty relationship-rocking stuff at the moment. He almost lost us and if I had had the finances I would have left. I'm glad I didn't, because he is a good, good man. But he was weak and imperilled our little family (it wasn't infidelity or owt like that; nor did he relapse and have a drink, thank the Lord). All our partners have a side that causes us to want to stand very hard on their ballbags in stilettos, but if they are good and humble and loving and demonstrative and put us first in all they try to do, then they are keepers.

aenor · 10/02/2015 22:13

PurdeyBirdie I'm in my forties and am trying to conceive my first child. Am very law-abiding, haven't even got a speeding ticket. Smile

I suffer from fibroids which make it tough but not impossible for a baby to implant.

My weight loss journey was triggered by a throwaway line on the NHS website which said that fibroids were common in people over 11 stone. After investigating why this should be, it turned out that fat produces estrogen (on top of what your ovaries produce), and the estrogen feeds the fibroids. Estrogen produced by fat is also what causes over-weight men to develop man-boobs, and can cause endometriosis and PCOS in women too. The best way to shrink the fibroids is to shed the weight which reduces the estrogen.

When that light-bulb went off in my head, I started getting serious about weight-loss - before that I was half-hearted about it, you know, try it for a few weeks and then find some excuse to come off the diet.

The timed eating thing does work, as does cutting back on wine. My top tip - eat a bowl of tinned grapefruit for one meal (say breakfast). Apart from producing lovely ewcm, it's an appetite suppressant and after the bowl of grapefruit you no longer feel like snacking. I've gone from 13 1/2 stone to hovering around 11 stone - am trying to get below it but am also hoping I've done enough for a bean to stick.

victoria401 · 10/02/2015 22:16

Is your husband a general all-round selfish lump or is his nonchalant bullshit behaviour reserved for trying for a baby? he's been shit for about 5 years of our 7 year marriage
What is he doing on the computer all the time? he is addicted to computer games and I'm lucky to get one evening a week with him plus up to an hour for dinner
Why won't he go for a walk? coz it involves leaving his computer games and doing exercise
Does he have any hobbies? see above
Is he depressed? very probably. He's hated it since he moved from his hometown and family when we first met and came to the big city to be with his lovely wife, who can't make him as happy as hanging with his brother
What are your biggest worries/fears about IVF? I don't know anymore, I did have loads. Its just so Fecking awful!

BowiesJumper · 10/02/2015 22:20

Oh thanks dizzy. I'll have a look on amazon.

purdey, it looks like it was this crowd that made your doc.
www.pacific.uk.com

MarysPrayer · 10/02/2015 22:21

Oh Victoria, I'm so sorry. Don't really know what to say (I'm not the best talker) but have an un-mumsnetty hug. Keep talking on here. We're all listening.

PurdeyBirdie · 10/02/2015 22:23

Aenor! Forties, you say? I'm 43 and there are two other 43 year-olds on here, plus some late thirties. Your weight-loss is great, well done. Do you fret about your ovarian reserve/quality of eggs? Don't know how much of the threads you've read but I have a baby daughter conceived via egg donor in the Czech Republic.

Nomio230 · 10/02/2015 22:25

Victoria, I am so sorry to hear that.

As Purdey says we all have our own relationship issues. Dh and I are really good the last few years, but before that we almost broke up several times as I could hear the manic ticking of my body clock & he wasn't ready for children.

Even though I love him to bits I still hate him at times now I am struggling to get pregnant & think that if we had started when I was younger, we might have a baby by now.

I am in a similar situation to you as I have just been referred for IVF & am absolutely terrified about it. Maybe we can help each other through.

If you ever need to talk, feel free to vent to me at any time.

PurdeyBirdie · 10/02/2015 22:26

Bowie! Yes! It was Pacific! Thank you. I'm going to ring them tomorrow...

PurdeyBirdie · 10/02/2015 22:32

Victoria, you are not alone with a husband like that. Loads of women are saddled with a computer-addicted manboy. I'm not, but that's because DH can barely operate a computer, despite his intellect. The question is: are you young enough to find someone else? Because you can't invest in a whole life with your husband the way he is behaving. Would he go to Relate? I've been recently when we were crumbling..and they are brilliant. Can't praise them highly enough. Does he know exactly how unhappy you are? If not, will you spell it out to him? What will you do when he continues to to behave like a sloth when there is a baby in the picture?

Don't be afraid of IVF. It's ace. And it works. Anyway..you have other stuff to worry about. Do you have great friends? Close family who know the truth about your marriage? Bless you, I'll be praying about this (whether you like it or not) Thanks