TTC for ten months, and the rest. Ten plussers welcome.

[MrsGingerbread]

A friendly and welcoming thread full of lovely women.

Trixie/Lucie - I feel the same st the moment, I so wanted to be one if those women who fall pg straight after the HyCoSy but it doesn't seem like that's going to happen :(. Got mild cramps which is fairly normal at 10dpo for me. Xx

Lucie, glad I made you feel better. A luteal phase of 10-16 days is deemed normal so yours is just fine. I am going to take a leave out of your book and stop worrying and be positive. We are really lucky that IVF is an option.

Sammy, I am 9 or 10dpo and am analysing my cramps and symptom spotting as per usual - force of habit!

MrsG, yes, I had the internal scan though I hadn't realised it was going to be internal so was a bit it was absolutely fine, it was a while ago now but I don't remember any real discomfort and it didn't last long. They just measure each ovary, check that everything looks healthy and count your follicules.

Yes I agree trixie, trying to stay positive although have good and bad days. It's hard after one failure, I just think what will be different this time but hopefully something will be!

MrsG - internal scans are fine, smear tests are more uncomfortable. Please don't be worried about it.

Trixie - I'm 10dpo today so we're cycle buddies! I'm analysing EVERYTHING!!! I also dreamt I got my bfp last night but dh wasn't the father... It was a faceless man! Plus I'd been going to IVF consults with another totally faceless random who was pretty annoyed that faceless1 had got me pg before IVF could start! Weird! Xx

Oh no wait.. I'm 11dpo! Lol. Xx

Lucie, I so hope that it works for you this time. If the chances are 50/50 with a good embryo then if I were to have a failed cycle then I would expect it to work the next time based on the odds, however that is easy to say when I have not been through it! I am terrified of it not working but have decided to tell myself that it will and do lots of visualisation.

Sammy, hopefully the BFP part was a premonition! I had a dream recently that I went to my first scan and they decided to collect all my eggs then even though they weren't mature?!
Are you going to test or wait and see if AF arrives? I start my medication to delay AF tomorrow so really not sure when to test seeings as there will be no AF for a while....tempted to do one tomorrow just in case as don't really want to start the medication if I am though the clinic said it is fine.

Lol Trixie - would be amazing if it was a premonition, but it doesn't feel like it. I don't think I'll test. My temperature should drop in the next couple of days if af is coming so will know then. Although I do have some ICs in the cupboard so I might end up giving in... Xx

Thanks for reassuring me ladies. (smile) I'm not as worried about tomorrow now. I too have been dreaming about it. I dreamt that they took eggs out of me then mixed it with hubby's sperm in a dish. Then they scanned me and said they could hear a heartbeat.if only... X

Thanks trixie, I like looking at it that way and it does make sense. It's just I've seen so many women go through this time and again and get bfns it just scares me. I used the Marissa peer book the first time around which did help a bit with visualisation and positive thinking. I also have the zita west ivf cd although I haven't used them yet this time.

I poa-internet cheapie. It was the last one in the cupboard and now it's gone so no more early testing for me!

It was bfn obviously! Xx

No problem Mrs.G, let us know how it goes.

Same here Sammy! I wasn't as disappointed as I thought I would be though. Going to do a test on Monday or Tuesday next week just to check but concentrating on getting myself psyched up for IVF. On meds to delay AF now and actually feel a little bit excited that things are happening!

Deep down I'm scared too Lucie, I worry that we won't get any good embryo's and obviously that it won't work. I have the Zita West CD too- listened to it daily for a while and nearly had the whole thing memorised! I'm going to try and be as positive and happy as possible. My DH got me the box set of one of my favourite comedy's for my birthday recently, it really makes me laugh so plan is to watch a lot of that after transfer. I read somewhere that laughter helps

Hey everyone, now 10 months ttc for me. DH has two children from previous relationship so I know any problems are with me! I had the implant removed August 2014, cycles seemed to return to normal straight away but nothing yet. I'm giving it two more months then going to the docs.

Welcome Boobear, it is nice to have some newbies on this thread though obviously it would be brilliant if no one had to get to the 10 month ttc point. Hopefully you have just been unlucky so far. Have you been doing anything to pinpoint ovulation?

So we've been for our appointment and it turns out that hubby's sperm was fine but the count was low and I have 1 healthy ovary and 1 that they think might be polycyctic. My bmi is a tiny bit higher than it should be but I'm on a health kick anyway and have lost almost a stone so I can sort that out easily. We've got to have more tests and then we will discuss the results. I'm a bit gutted but at least the ball is rolling now. I just feel like I don't want people to know about any of it. I just need to get a grip! What's the zita West cd? X

Trixie, not been doing anything specific to pinpoint ov, just try to dtd lots round the middle of the month! We are both shift workers so sometimes don't see each other for days which doesn't help. I did buy some opks not long after i came off the implant but they were all neg so i should probably buy some more as that was about 6 months ago

Jumping on board! 12 months 10 cycles. Mainly because my cycles startes going 50ish days from october. Went to the doc who tested for pcos. Ultrasound said.womb looked good. My one remaining ovary had a few follicles but with that and the blood test the GPs conclusion on 'pcos' was 'you kinda have it'. Because I am healthy bmi/weight, he didn't seem to care much. Heh

To quote the DH, his ' love juice is boringly normal' so hurray.

So I've been reffered to a fertility clinic the paperwork i was promised in 2 weeks is MIA and even then I've been told it's a 3 month wait. Yawn! Also missing smear test results which I was promised So i tried soy last month which got me back down to my normal 30 day cycle, but sadly no bubba.

Perseverence until I can see an expert I suppose!

Welcome dizzylemon :). Xx

Welcome to boo too :). Xx

Temp has dropped this morning so that's another cycle over. Cycle 20 here I come.

I remember when I first joined here at the 10 month mark and saw people on cycles 20/30 and thought I'd have a baby before I got there.... Yet here I am :(. Xx

Sorry Sammy it is hard. I know how you feel moving onto ivf as I found it exactly the same. I didn't want us to have to go through that I wanted it to happen naturally the same as everyone else. I've managed to come to terms with it now and as long as we get a baby it doesn't matter how it got there. As soon as that baby is in my tummy ivf will be forgotten and we will be the same as everyone else. You are young and I'm convinced it will work for you first time. Not long now.

Thank you Lucie, I know. If someone said that I had to go through 4 ivf s but at the end I'd have my baby I would do it in a flash.
I think it's the fear that it won't work that's getting to me the most. If I knew there was a problem that it was going to rectify then I wouldn't be as concerned, it's the unexplained bit that worries me! Xx

That is exactly how I feel Sammy and how I have explained things to people. If I knew it would take me a certain amount of tries but we would definitely have a baby at the end of it then I would be completely fine. It's just the uncertainty that's the hardest part. After one failed cycle I have convinced myself that's it and it's not going to work now but plenty of people get their bfp on their second or third go. It's completely normal to feel how you feel. We all want to take control of the situation and feel helpless when we can't. You just have to go with it and try and take it in your stride. You will get there in the end and it will all be worth it.

What is your history Sammy? Have they found absolutely nothing wrong with either you or DH? Do you have any allergies or auto-immune conditions?

Dh had slightly low morphology in his first SA (3%), but was 5% on his repeat and all other numbers really good. The doctors (nhs and private) don't seem worried about it at all. All my tests have been fine. No allergies in either of us as far as we know, I sometimes get slightly sniffly if pollen count is really high but never need medication. No auto immune issues as far as we know either.
Unexplained infertility is so frustrating, and I'm just concerned that there is something there which will prevent the IVF from working... Maybe we're just incompatible? Xx

Sorry, my posts sound really negative today don't they? I promise to cheer up soon! X