Looking for mid twenty ttc buddies..

[McRem]

Hubby and I are keeping it a secret that we're trying, and I need to speak to people in a similar boat, im newly off the pill and going crazy trying to work out pregnancy symptoms from pill withdrawal symptoms x

26 ttc #1 since Dec 14. Not temping not opk ing as worried that focusing too much on ttc is going to cause unwanted stress and be counterproductive. Trying to trust nature to do its own thing. Trouble is now I'm stressing that I'm not doing enough

Haha rio that sounds just like me! I haven't even started TTC yet (next Sunday woo!) but I'm already stressing about whether I need to do more or just attempt to let nature take its course. I remember once missing the pill by 12hrs and it was a mad panic to take it again. Pfft!! If only it was that easy.

Logged onto facebook this morning and of course there was another pregnancy announcement. My friends (and people I barely know but still keep on facebook for some reason) seem to be breeding like rabbits at the moment! Hope it's catching

I know friends of ours just keep popping them out for a hobby I think they are now up to #4 and they weren't even trying! And our nephew was conceived on the pill! So like you say hopefully it is catching and it won't take to long.. I'm quite impatient!

Hi I'm 22 try #1 with my long term partner. Stopped pill only 2 weeks ago but havnt even had withdrawal bleed. Did Pregndncy test 2 days ago to be sure got BFN ??

Now just looking out to see if I ovulate as I've had no period! Good luck to everyone x

I've also only been trying since September, but I seem to becoming more and more obsessed during the 2 week wait than i was in the beginning. I cant seem to concentrate on anything else- not idea in my final months of university.

Hi all,

I'm susurration, 26 and married for nearly three years. We've just started ttc#1 and I'm new to MN. I have PCOS and also mental health illness so am on Anti-depressants.

Sort of TTC at the moment, but mostly supposed to be waiting till i've seen my psychiatric consultant on the 9th march.

good luck everyone!

Hi all!

So glad I found this thread. I'm 23 my partner is 27 and we are TTC #1. We've been TTC for 17 months now having come off the implant in Sept 13. Feeling a bit fed up with it all now, every month watching, waiting and being disappointed. Currently 2 days overdue AF, I was overzealous and tested today obviously came back with a resounding "not pregnant". I think when I do eventually get a "pregnant" test I'll not believe it!haha. Think I'll give it until Friday and retest then if it hasn't turned up. I'm certain it'll come tomorrow as tomorrow will be cycle day 30 as I'm normally 27 however have gone to 30 days before on odd occasions. I have my fingers crossed for you all and I look forward to joining in with the chats!!
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Hi Bertie so sorry to hear of your struggles. Have you been to the GP and had tests done? Fx you get your bfp soon!

No Night, we haven't. Part have me has wanted to for quite a while But we wend up saying "just a bit longer". I've used ovulation strips, the Clearblue advanced fertility monitor, charting. I stopped doing everything last month as mine and my fiancé's relationship was starting to become frought as I had become a woman on a mission throwing myself at him all the time. Looking back it's rather humorous but not for him. Poor thing. He felt like a piece of meat. We booked a holiday last month with close friends (a couple who struggled to conceive and we're told they'd never have children and BAM now they have a little girl), so we've said if nothing happens whilst on the holiday then we'll go to the doctors so I'm just counting down the months to the holiday but equally aware that when we come back I may be under the spotlight at the doctors. I'm just so worried about what they're going to say. Several years back (with my fiancé) I fell pregnant - I didn't know as I was on contraception at the time and my periods were a little unpredictable but I was 2.5 weeks late, a close friend had convinced me to test and bold as brass "pregnant". I found out on a Tuesday ;my OH was on a course so I wanted to wait until he got home to surprise him which was the Friday. Thursday evening I started to have cramps and I started to bleed really heavily I remember distinctly passing a really sizable clot and just feeling totally deflated. I didn't say a word to my partner as it was during the run up to the festive period and I didn't want to ruin the atmosphere so I kept it to myself and I tested again the following weekend (so about a week later) and it was negative. I chose not to go to the doctors, I just thought well its happened and asides from feeling glum about it I felt ok in myself. So no if I go to the doctors and they say something is wrong I'm going to be totally baffled as to how I fell pregnant in the first place. Or was I even pregnant, can you get a false positive..I did eventually tell my OH and he was gutted I didn't tell him at the time but understands why I didn't. We haven't spoken about it since. I said I didn't want to, I like to pretend it's never happened I'd rather focus on the here and now. Anyone who has been to the GP to seek advice what do they do on that initial consultation.
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So sorry to hear that Bertie. Appreciate that you are concerned about seeing the GP but after 17 months I would definitely recommend it. It may be something so small and simple and easily fixeable that is standing in your way! Fx for you! X

Hello all
I'm 26 and me and my fiancé are TTC after me not being on any contraception for a year. I have been working away as a live in carer but when I was home we managed to fit it in with my so called ovulation days, though this was hard to confirm as I have had irregular periods for a while now.
I've always worried that I wouldn't be able to have kids, I'm sure an irrational fear all of us have but real to us all the same.
My fiancé already has a son of 7, so we think he is fertile, although some lifestyle choices may have hindered that somewhat over the few years.
The doctors have done a hormone blood test, told me it was fine, no more other details, on day 21 of my cycle, a rough estimate of the day of course.
Is there anything I can do to improve our chances?
My partner is supportive but if I have to hear one more time that it didn't take him and his ex long at all to conceive their child then I think I may well give up! I don't know if he is trying to be hurtful or whether he truly believes once I am home and not working away it will merely take months before I'm Pregnant with a litter!!

Hello, how is everyone doing? Kit it sounds as though you haven't perhaps been always able to time your dtd due to your work. Are you at home more now? In which case the advice is dtd eod throughout your cycle :)

Hi night

I'm struggling a bit really. We've decided to hold off TTC now until I've seen my psych consultant on the 9th.

Bit pissed off with my friend as well. I've just poured my heart out to her about my PCOS and how worried we are we might have issues, she's come back with 'I know how you feel'. Apparently her whole maternal line has a history of struggling to conceive. Except she got pregnant first time both times. SO i gently suggested, 'i think these things don't always apply to every person in a family' and she contradicted me saying 'yes they do, i mean obviously everyone in my family has had issues.'

Well NO THEY EFFING HAVEN'T IF YOU GOT DUFFED UP FIRST TIME BOTH TIMES!!!!!

Anyway. moving on now.

How are you all?

SU haha I have moments like that most days when I come into contact with other people. I swear they don't even realise what there saying.

Well I had an emotional breakdown at a shopping centre when myself and my OH we're with our two friends and their little girl. I was cross anyway as I'd popped off to a cashpoint and had gone straight back to the shop I'd left them at. They weren't there so I rang my OH. "Oh we're at next now" so off I run to next (this is a huge shopping centre nothing is close) I wander around next getting cross cause I can't see them then I call my OH again and he laughs...yes laughs loudly and replies with "we're not there anymore we're in the disney store"...I swear I wanted to murder him. Then we sat waiting with their pushchair whilst they took their little one off to change her and I just felt sick watching all these parents walking past with babies, toddlers, pregnant bellies. Sat there with tears pouring down my face lip quivering. It's the first time my OH has even acknowledged that fact that I'm upset about something and it took him the rest of the day to try and get it out of me what was wrong. He never normally wants to talk so I felt like I didn't want to tell him as I was just being stupid. He's told me to just forget about it all, like our friends said last night try to put it out your mind and the pressure goes and it'll happen. I mean seriously...How do you put it out of your head??? I'm going stir crazy. I have a few days were I can keep my mind off it but then it comes up again and i'm daydreaming or with friends or family that have children. Counting down until the 22nd June when we go away to tenerife with the friends we went shopping with really hoping it helps me relax and clear my head... :(

So sorry to hear that you are struggling susurraition and Bertie :( Your friend sounds very unfeeling susurration, she obviously has no idea what you are going through, do you have anyone else IRL to talk to? Good luck with the psych consult, I hope you get the outcome you need!

Nothing worse than a shop full of children when you really want one Bertie, hugs

Bertieboo really sorry to hear you were so upset. How awful :( I'm so sad that your OH didn't think about how you would feel running around after them all in the shops.

night she's not an unfeeling person, she just speaks without thinking sometimes I suppose. I wouldn't have told her, but I had to ask her opinion on a TTC related matter the other day and now she's wanting to know about it. I talk to my mum and husband a lot about it and MiL knows too. But otherwise I keep it to myself really.

Glad to hear that you have people to talk to :) I mostly rely on MN as no one else in my life is TTC (that I know of).

Thank you night and thank you susurration. I guess I just need to work harder on just being chilled and staying calm. my OH has had to work over tonight and is only just on his way home and it's annoyed me for no reason...I'm not doing anything special, I'm lying on the sofa with a headache so it's not like I need to noise or company lol. Our friends were so good though,they're so understanding with how I am at the moment as she was just the same and he felt the same as Carl so it's nice to have that support. My cross trainer turns up on Wednesday so I'm hoping to put baby making to the back of my mind and focus on getting a bit healthier and slimmer (in my dreams) for our holiday. I'm only a size 12 but I feel I'm getting a little chubby around the midriff which I've never been always had a slim waist and big bum haha.

I had a big heart to heart to heart with our friend (female) via text last night and she suggested I show my OH the messages so he knows how I feel. So I sat on the landing whilst he was in a bath and proceeded to read them all to him through sobs. I cried especially hard when I finally told him my biggest fear what that I'd lose him if I couldn't give him a child. To which he sweetly remarked that he would never leave me and there's other ways around it.

Oh guys why can't it just be simple to have a child! why must some people struggle so horrendously.

Two week wait. It's driving me crazy. Again.