Grab your Ganeshas and collect your cats: The Elderberry Pavlovas in the Quest for the New Year clusterdiff (thread 25)

[happylass]

The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 12+ months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot and definitely no mention of baby dust or baby dancing).
Those not abiding by the rules may be escorted from the premises.

Aww Smidge cross post! Sounds like a tough day for you both. I have a rule that I don't look, I don't ask and I don't need to know. I trust dh regardless but I think you can make stuff out of nothing if you are the tiniest bit insecure so it's not worth it. I hope he gets over it ASAP and enjoys Christmas and I hope you don't worry too much, there's nothing you can do about it. Hugs and to you.

Exactly beaky. I've always said I have nothing to hide so I'm not madly protective over my things/ emails/ photos etc so he is welcome to look - but seriously, why bother if you are going to get all insecure over it?! I certainly have no interest in sneaking into his stuff, but he's definitely one that can't leave things be, once he has an idea in his head. And clearly it hasn't done either of us any good as he's all worked up and now I'm all concerned too and it's ruining Christmas for both of us, for absolutely no good reason. Of course it is only because we are on opposite sides of the world - am sure a cuddle would sort it all out.

Pah.

Someone get me another glass of Port please

Yay Nolly - it's a Christmas miracle!

I'll second that 'yay' for nolly!! God bless us everyone! Happy Christmas berries

Merry Christmas Berries!

Merry Christmas Berries and Happy Birthday Beaky!!
Am currently in bed at the MILs having been awake since 5:30 as I'm full of the lurgy. Am going to have to wake DH up now so we can do the present swap and have 10 mins before our nephews and niece arrive. There's no way that DH will agree to getting up this early though so I'm going to have to tell him it's at least 8am mwahaha!!
Hoping to avoid last year's Christmas morning chat with MIL which went along the lines of relax, eat more sprouts and tilt your pelvis after sex and you'll be diffed in no time . Actually last night she told me of a couple she knows that had been TTC for years then got diffed after they just 'forgot about it' and went on holidays to Thailand!
Well have a lovely day all! Indulge in lots of fizz, pâté and smelly cheese!

Merry berry Christmas one and all.

It's a bugger isn't it Happy. People mean well and are trying to help but they don't realise it makes you want to scream at them.

Merry Christmas berries and happy birthday beaky!

Just dropping in to say a huge happy Christmas to all the berries and a happy birthday to beaky. Hoping that by this time in 2015, you're all in the chopper and beyond.

Also, congratulations on your Christmas miracle nolly!

Thank you Berries off to drink champagne to celebrate being 35 and of course, I can at this time of day haha!

Feather thank you, hope everything is going well with you! How far along now? You must be due soon!

Happy best of luck with the mil! Sounds like a tricky situation after her 'helpful' comments previously!

Hope all berries have a wonderful day today!

Merry Christmas berries! And happy birthday beaky. I'm still comfy in bed, 'having to' wait for my turn in the bathroom!

Merry Christmas all you lovely berries

Wowzers! Nolly that's brilliant news. I can hardly believe it. Did you get a visit from the angel Gabriel?
I have a list of names you can choose from: Gabriel / Gabrielle, Noel/ Noelle, Jesus, Holly, Rudolf, Santa. Let us know what you decide.

Aw, Smidge , he is being a bit silly, frankly. Get on the outside if that port and don't let it spoil Christmas.

Tiger your descriptions of your holiday with in-laws is highly entertaining. Keep it coming. It sounds like you definitely have a free pass on Christmas with the rellies for a good few years.

Happy Birthday Beaky . Happy Christmas Berries one and all!

OMG Nolly that's fantastic news. Congratulations!!!

Merry Christmas fellow berries, I hope it has been a peaceful one with lots of goodies!

I'm currently hiding upstairs at the inlaws psyching myself up to start down regging again having just been told off for saying merry Christmas in Italian to DHs Nonna....oh well!

See you on the other side!

How did the downregging go, HB ?

Can't see why you got told off for speaking Italian to your DH's nonna. Is your accent truly terrible? Christmas, hey?

Oo Nolly yes! Loving Wilds name list! I'd add Gabriella and Hollie for a girl haha. I should have had a Christmassy name I suppose. Nol how's Mr Nol taken it all? Has it sunk in for you yet?

Wild how are things with you? You're starting in jan too right? Are you feeling ok about things? I'm quite nervous but excited. I've bought Zita Wests IVF book for my kindle so I'm going to read that in the next few days as we are off to the in laws.

HB how did your first stab go this time? Do you speak much Italian?

Tiger how was Christmas Day abroad?

Lumen any news from you? I am maintaining the crossed fingers/toes for you!

Hope everyone had a lovely prosecco and gin filled day! I got Hendricks from a good friend so may crack that open later

thanks guys! I love the names wild. told mr nol about them in the car as we were driving back home, much chortling was had. Rudolph? weird christmas day pretending to drink and being 'too full to eat cheese'

Obviously desperately hoping not tempting fate by even thinking about it

One minute am telling myself to relax and enjoy it, next minute googling 'early mc' as no symptoms for a while, beaky. mr nol is a real pragmatist so no comfort but on the other hand he's not a mentalist like me.

smidge I second what beaky said. insecurity is a tricky problem, but ultimately one he has to learn to manage himself. You've done nothing wrong.

happy I had the same chat from my MiL on christmas morning. For god's sake! just one day a year not thinking about it is hard enough, can't people mind their own bloody business and not ram it in your face ALL THE TIME

btw didn't realise we were birthday buddies too beaky! happy birthday! mines tomorrow

No news from me beaky, still no sign of AF but still at SILs so no testing until tomorrow. Have been feeling nauseous the past two days but think it is all in my head Will let you know when I test.

Just popping by to say congrats to nolly and there is a spare seat in the chopper when you are ready

Oh lumen I think if there was a cat near by it would be sitting on your lap!! Still no sign of AF?! I would be getting v excited.. Can't you get a test tomorrow? Shops will be open!

I have a good feeling about this - how late are you? I know we are good at creating symptoms in our heads, but this is sounding real to me. fingers crossed.

Evening all.....back home and watching trash tv which feels surprisingly good! Not sure why the Italian didn't go down well and no, I don't speak much but gave it a good shot.....perhaps it was the wrong thing to say?

Down regging is going ok, although the injections are stinging a little more than before. At least I get to stop taking the pill tomorrow!

nolly please don't google early miscarriage symptoms, it will do you no good whatsoever. Try & relax ( I know it is very hard to do!! At present we are veering between excitement and cynicism to protect ourselves. Dh's MIL was asking about my parents on Xmas day saying we should get together. Dh just said to me how about 2nd w/e of January ( after our 12 wk scan) I replied if it's good news, and he said that's all he's been thinking about & why he keeps asking me have I got any symptoms.

We watched cool runnings earlier in our jamas- love it!!

I've got a good feeling about lumen too!

Yes Nolly as Bushy says, step away from Dr Google! Very difficult, I know. Will you be able to get an early scan or owt? I keep getting asked by my 9yr old niece if I'm going to have a baby and she follows the questions up with many more questions also happy birthday for tomorrow! Ill be travelling but no doubt will be checking in anyway!

Bushy not long til your 12 week scan then, all fx for you, lovely.

HB boo to the stingy injections, I'm hoping they aren't too bad as I was very nervous with the gonal-f! How long til your first scan?

Lumen all fingers crossed for a bffp! I really hope it's your time too.

Smidge how long til you travel back? Is Mr S ok now?

Gil not long til your op, how are you feeling?

We are away to visit oh's family for a few days tomorrow, looking forward to a break at least. I've felt quite sad today and do not know why It's taken me ages to catch myself on!