Immune/natural killer cell treatment when TTC or pregnant (aka the 14th pred thread)

[sunnyday01]

Continuing from 13th thread

Sunny sorry to see you had a bfn , I hope it's just too early to tell and you are still in with a chance yet!
Sometimes this road seems impossible to travel down.
Can I ask, slightly awkward question? Do you ever feel upset with your oh feeling they don't seem to have to do anything? At the moment I am feeling I do the drugs, the timing , the tests, whilst he does nothing? I am feeling really he could be more supportive when I feel like a failure. I get sick of hearing it will happen and if not then we tried. Am I alone feeling this? Have I totally lost the plot? X

no i can understand that - my husband is very supportive, and he is also very positive when i get a negative test etc he is always like we tried everything they said and there is always next month, and he beleives it will happen etc etc. But i don't think he truly understands what its like - i am the one having all the feelings in my body and constantly second guessing what is going on!

I can't really complain about him too much as he is very supportive

I know wot u what mean dildoos. My Dh sounds like urs sunny hs v supportive and caring but he still doesn't quite feel it the way I do. He's like - it will happen, it will happen. And doesn't feel like why I have a kinda rush? He doesnt seem to have as many anxieties as me. i think its a boy girl thing? Also he still drinks(not alot but maybe 8-10units a week while i have hardly nothing). he seems to be more balanced about it all while im a bit more desperate?? He also said a few times if it doesn't happen he could be happy with just us (which didn't go down v well!) I do sometimes worry how far he will go but for now he's promised to go as far as needs be. But he is wonderful about it and so I shouldn't complain.

Have u spoken to ur partner about how u feel? I think men just deal with it differently?

How long did it take u to get preg in 2013 sunny? I suppose that I'm worried that even though I've been preg 3 times I've suddenly stopped working?! U still have 2
More Months of So to go, so lets hope it happens in that time. My
Dad keeps telling me it's just nature. It doesn't have to happen quickly every time and that after miscarriages it can take time for body to recover etc...he said he won't discuss SO with me till next may when lll have been trying a year...I hope he's right! I was hoping that by goin part time and starting acupuncture it would just happen but it hasn't ;(. I hope I don't find myself going down the ivf path in time To come and dealing with miscarriages. But then women do, and get through it on the other side.
Hope u all have fun Xmas plans
And hopender hope ur still feeling postive from ur scan
X

Ps yep def get sperm checked at end of SO. Lets hope u don't need to do though.

I miscarried the first time st after a flight and so now refuse to fly if preg. I cant shake it even though evidence shoes it doesnt make a didf. It means I can't book holidays till af arrives which drives me crazy and also means its exp. I quite fancy going away for Xmas and just not dealing with family being happy and tip toeing around me( more my Dh's).

It's got to work out at end. We just all have to keep going.

i got pregnant the first month of trying (couldn't believe it!) which was january 2013, and then again in october 2013. I'm concerned that what was just a miscarriage problem is not a getting pregnant problem too!

I'm scared of the thought of doing IVF - not that it has ever been mentioned at any time but I guess if thats the only way then I would do it.

Well I suppose it just shows that sometimes it just takes longer? U managed in 1 month and then 7ish months. I've done 2, 2 then 5.
So it has to happen again at some
Point!
I think ivf a long way away for us both. I'm scared of the thought of it. So lets just not think about it! Hard to keep positive ALL the time! I think despite my DH wishes I might go back to the sticks next month. Each time we got preg it's been the same pattern so I'm convinced a few more times like that and it should do the trick (although I've tried that way at least anther 10 times and failed but still success on 3!)
Go buy urself something nice and remember u still haven't had af x

i know - it is fustrating though that it was 1 month, the 7ish months and now 12 months though!!

One good things is i have lost 5lb doing ww again so making progress with that!!

I was wondering how ww was going' that's really good' maybe loosing some
Weight mug

Whoops!

Was going to say maybe loosing some weight might help too! I really need to start again but Im not in the right headspace. After new year I'll hopefully get back on it!

It's so frustrating .

Evening all,
Yes spoke to him lots over weekend and he is going to try be more supportive and thing like a lady. I just feel so desperate at the moment and think Christmas is a lot to do with it, but next breath I feel guilty for being desperate for another when I have a beautiful lo already. hormone alert

Don't feel guilty for wanting another one. U deserve to have as many as u wish. It's so shit this situation! Xmas def making me more thoughtful of it all.

When are you due af trying? Are you going to test soon? X

Af due thurs. not taking a test. I know I'm out
Found out SIL preg. Her DH is only 14 months. I'm not taking it very well :(. She's a bit hard work and a obssed with having kids and not leaving it late as she told me once when I was 28!
It's hard coz the whole family then gets so obssed with the coming of the new baby and I feel like such a failure.
So af due and this news. Double whammy this month.

I'll be happy for her tmrw. Today I'm being a horrible person. Sorry guys. I wouldn't feel like this if she wasn't so self righteous.

My SIL is a nightmare too, Trying. I think I told you the story about her asking if she could call her new baby the same name as our little boy who died when I was six months pregnant. It was only four months later! Don't best yourself up for feeling bad. It is brutal and you are going through an incredibly tough time. The good news is that when your babies arrive - and I bet you end up having at least four - they will grow up to be kind, strong and sensitive human beings because they will have you as their mummy!

Thanks hope. I did think of u last night when my DH told me the news! That must have been so so hard for u I can't imagine.
She does my head in to be frank. Not looking fwd to hearing all about how wonderful it is for her to be preg and have a perfect family. She's great at making me feel really shitty about it all without trying go be intentionally mean.
Right now I'm loosing all hope and the pressure to be preg again feels more.
Need to see my acupuncture lady and get perspective.
And yes I would be a brilliant mummy!!!

Oh hope and trying I know this feeling I truly do! Your not horrid you are normal!
My sil has had 2 pregnancies I have had to live through massive selfish complainer not falling, complainer when pregnant then complains about no sleep! I want to slap her half the time and say get your head out of your arse and notice we are still trying raaaaaaa!
I feel for you both!
Trying hope you do t mind but I am hoping your wrong and af doesn't come xx

Ps when is ur next scan? Must be just after Xmas?

Haha! Thanks dildoos! Ur message made me chuckle! Good to know I'm not alone in feeling like this! I felt like a really bad person yest the things I was feeling. It's not her fault I'm going through this. But it is her fault some Of the highly stupid things she says and does!!!! She is literally the biggest complainer. If I have to hear about how hard life is for her one More time I'm going to loose the plot! dH family seem to forget what's happened to us and don't seem to act like its an issue. We come across very brave and together and are very good actors!! so I think they forget that behind closed doors we are both very sad. It's hurt DH a lot how they have been which has in turn really hurt me.

Oh well. My parents have been hugely supportive so I'm lucky that way.

I'm lying in bed, literally slept maybe 2 hours. Take a test or not? Can't bear to see a negative but then have acupuncture tmrw so should let her know either way. I'm 99 percent sure its on her way I usually know pre preg I am preg.

This miscarriage malarkey has so many knock on effects. It's had impacts on all of our relationships, jobs, friendships,fiances. It's really rather shit.

Sorry for the me me Posts right
Now. I'm hoping the slightly calmer and happier Me Will be back tmrw!

You aren't being me, me, me trying! We all have our good days and bad days on mumsnet. Just think of what I was like at the weekend! Total meltdown! It is terrible when people make it harder for you too. As Dildoos says, raaaaa!
I'd test if I was you because then you know for sure. That way you can also plan for next time if needed. If it doesn't happen this time, it really will happen soon. This time last month I was busy googling surrogates!
I have my next scan on Monday morning at EPU at 8 weeks one day. Please hold on until then bean!
Hello to everyone else! X

Hi trying...how you are feeling is totally normal. It all seems so unfair and no one but those who have gone through it never really understand (SIL is preg with no 3, due July same as my third loss announced at 5 weeks). It's hard but i find staying focused on our 'prize' keeps me going and knowing when I celebrate others our time will come! (Otherwise it hurts too much). The reward will be simply amazing and you will get there in the end...like hope says...I would test so you know where you stand and can plan! (I found out I was preg right after sils news...could be a repeat (but the more successful addition ).

Hope you are keeping well hope and feeling good?

More successful version I meant

Thanks guys ur all very sweet and made me feel better. Ur all very lovely ladies :)

Sorry ur SIl due same time. Sometimes things feel so cruel when things like that happen. I had medical management the day my SiL went in labour last time. I've never cried so much. It was quite perverse and felt so mean! I hope u have good news soon.

Oh how good u have a scan so soon! It will be great for reassuring u. The bean will stay put! Ur on the plan and I'm looking fwd to hearing
More of ur good news as weeks past :)

Oh no that's just insanely cruel, such horrendous timing! If I could give you a big hug I would so sending e-hug xxx