April TTC girls, the thread where everyone gets their BFP! :-)

[Ducky23]

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Wow Cupcake, you moved fast there! I had tea and a snooze and watched Downton and came back to that!

Are you OK? You sound OK but that was a bit of a shock. Are you really ok?

Hope you're ok cupcake

I think Tori has made some really valid points about what's best for you and DS. I really don't see that kids with different dads have a tougher time than kids where the parents are as unhappy as 'd'h makes you. FWIW my sister is a single mum and has a lovely 10 year old DS who she has a great relationship with. Many families have unconventional set ups (no dad, different dads, same sex parents, blended families) and are very happy. It won't necessarily be the same as your experience.

In other news, baby is getting very active now and we've finally agreed on a name, rah! :)

lulu, I had an epidural, it rocked! I was induced, so they gave me that before the syntocin. The only pain I felt was right at the end when they used a ventouse to get DD out. I actually slept through a chunk of labour. Because of existing health problems I can ask for an early induction (DD was 39 weeks) and have it all medically managed and that's what I'm aiming for! It's not the route for everyone but it suits me just fine!

Thanks everyone.
And Lulu im okay at the moment. But that's probably because this is the first break ive had away from him. And DS went to bed early and stayed asleep all night! He's been incredibly good! I have had texts all night asking to come back and he's sorry and he just wants to be a family. I've just ignored them so far.
I dunno what to do, whether to talk to him today or not? Cuz he's coming back to get some more stuff as he only took a night bag. :/

Bears that's true, and I do think after last night he will be just fine. If not happier. :) DS is so bubbly this morning! And great news on baby! :D and good uve chosen a name! How exciting! :D

Honestly, I would put his stuff in a bag ready and have your mum there and her just pass him it. You need a break from him before you talk. You need a bit of time to think and get your head round it all and be certain what you want.

He causes stress and you need a bit of stress-free time. Don't respond to the texts and calls or it will never stop. Just have some time to think.

Did you get the key back?

I agree with lulu cupcake, pack his stuff for him and make sure someone is with you when he comes to get it. Maybe after a couple of days apart you will be more clear about what you want. At this stage your likely to not be thinking straight with all that's happened.

Hope you had a nice night

Thanks Lulu and Ducky. I'll do that.
And Lulu he never took his key so I've got it. My mom told me to hide it last night just incase.

But tes thank u Ducky I had a nice night :) and it's so calm this morning!

Do something nice with DS. It's lovely here- is it a nice day there? Go out for a walk and get some fresh air and he can have a play and use up some energy!

Booked my gender scan yesterday for the 10th of November. I'm apparently in my second trimester now so hoping I start feeling better all week soon.

Hope your having a nice day today cupcake

Ooooohhh exciting stuff siarie!!! Do you have any feelings about what youl have?

Wonder if youl break the trend!

I honestly don't know, I have no feelings either way at the moment.

I'd like a girl for the first (to get a girl out the way) so I expect it will be a boy lol!

Cupcake sorry for whats happened but you are dealing with it really well. Big hugs you will get through this you are a really lovely person and you deserve the best

Lulu I did exactly that! We went out with my mom and my brother for a lovely walk :) and stopped at a cafe for cake and tea. I've had such a nice day. And now DS is in bed having a nap and I'm relaxing it's lovely. 'H' is coming back any time now to get some stuff and he wants to talk. I've said, we'll talk at the end of the week where we have both processed this and taken time out. But I think from today, I know what should happen and what I want.

So exciting Siarie !!! :D not long to find out then!

And thanks 21 :)

I think waiting is sensible cupcake.

will someone be with you wen he comes to get his things?

Cupcake your so strong ! I have no idea what I would do your definately handling it in thr right way .

Sounds like you are feelng calm and collected Cupcake and that is good.

Please be very careful about him getting in the house. Have you packed his stuff? Are you alone?

Are you alright cupcake? Did it go ok?

I hope they can see the gender by then, otherwise I have no idea if they will make me come back or pay extra lol!

It's okay my mom was here. And yes I'd already packed a bag for him he only went and grabbed a few more bits that I'd missed. He's coming back Saturday to talk. DS will be at my moms so we can talk on our own as it's not fair if DS was there.
I think I'm only calm as I rele needed the break from him. Since we've met we've never been apart at all. We moved in together only 4 months after meeting as I fell pregnant with DS only a month after we met! So it all went quickly, and then we got married very fast due to DS. Things went far too fast with us. So a break is needed.

That's a good idea cupcake

Siarie, from the private scans I had if they can't tell or something they get you back for free another day so you shouldn't have to pay for another one.

Yeah Siarie when I had my private scan they told me before that if they couldn't tell or wasn't as sure as they can be then I'd come back and be rescanned a week later free of charge :) so like Ducky said u wouldn't have to pay again, I was exactly 16 weeks when I had my gender scan.

How are you tonight Cupcake?

I went to see a friend this afternoon who has a 5 week old baby and a 3 year old. I am never going. back and have changed my mind about having a baby. DH will have to take the maternity leave and I am staying at work. There was not a minute's peace and quiet. No one was naughty - just needy. I hated it! I was only there an hour and came home really tearful. DH thought I had crashed the car!

When I said I have changed my mind he just laughed and hugged me and said 'Too late now love - we just have to get through the next 20 years and the house'll be ours again'.
I think I will be rubbish at this and not like it.

I'm okay thanks Lulu just keep thinking things over that's all.
And other people's children always seem worse u'll be fine once ur baby is here :) ull take to motherhood naturally and ull love and enjoy it :) trust me.

Well, I haven't got a choice now!

You need the time to go over it and think it through Cupcake. You want to make the right decision for you and DS.

Get some sleep.

Bless u Lulu
It's been a busy morning for me today! I need a sit down and a coffee! But for some reason I feel father queasy today :s ever since I woke up.

When are you testing cupcake? I'm off to the hospital for my weekly testing, I may aswell have a permanent bed there!

Am feeling good today as baby has been wriggling away, he even woke me up the past two days.