Hi. MN long-time regular here, namechanging just in case anyone who I don't want to know the below has worked out my normal username. Just wondering if anyone has experienced similar and can advise?
Pushing 40, already with DC but wanting to TTC since last January - never had difficulty getting pg before but accepted that it could take a while as I'm that much older this time around - Mirena coil removed. Started using monitor (2nd hand but with all old data cleared) when first AF arrived. Monitor signaled O on day 19, my normal cycle length has always been circa 35 days since I was a teenager and sure enough (decided not to go for it in month 1) AF turned up again on day 35. I noticed on the O signal day that the test stick had a second strong line on it so it's clear that the hormone change was very definite that day.
Month 2, again monitor signaled O on day 19, DTD and hurrah on day 40 got that BFP. Then at 12wk scan discovered MMC, went all through that hell and then eventually after it was all over back to square 1.
Again decided to have a clear full cycle before DTD but used monitor and again saw a the O symbol on day 19 and AF came on day 35. But then when we were ready to start again, that's when it got weird. That cycle no O symbol at any point and none of the test sticks had a second line on them. It was odd but I assumed I must have messed up one of the tests somehow and not got enough wee on it or something.
The next month we made a decision I now hugely regret. Even though I got a nice O symbol and saw the strong line on the test stick, we decided not to DTD as there was a job that I felt I was absolutely perfect for that I wanted to apply to, and I'm so miserable in my current job it seemed right to put off the TTC and focus on getting the job. I didn't get the job.
And now, 3 months later, I haven't had an O symbol since. Each month around day 14 there is a tiny faint half-line on the test stick around the place where the second strong line used to be, but it's never strong and the monitor only shows high F not O. The other weird thing is that I now have a 28 day cycle regular as clockwork rather than 35 days as before.
So - no idea what's going on but would like to know if you've experienced similar whether it led to happy BFPs or perhaps led to referrals for fertility treatment (if I might need the latter I should get my skates on). Could it just be a batch of dud test sticks? Or has my body just suddenly stopped doing what it is supposed to? Seems unlikely as surely I'd be getting some kind of menopause symptoms if that happened? Should I start agitating my GP for treatment right away or might things just suddenly click back to how they are supposed to be? Any advice?