TTC and still Breastfeeding? You are not alone - come to our BF-friendly cafe for a chat and some cake!

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Over here all breastfeeding TTCers! Welcome to our thread - a place for us to come for support, information and to talk about the extra challenges of TTC while still breastfeeding.

Seeing as I filled up the old thread I thought I should start the new one!

For anyone who is new to the thread or needs a reminder, here are a few links to some useful websites (thanks Waiting for putting these together). I hope I've worked the links properly.

kellymom.com/bf/normal/ttc-while-bf/

kellymom.com/bf/normal/fertility/

www.llli.org/nb/nbmayjune04p114.html

www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Fertility-charting-while-breastfeeding.html

Hi ladies

Mary, I thought I was on the same page as you and Frazzled but my body had other ideas and OV much later and so tomorrow will be cd1 for me. However, I have zero hope in hell that I will get a BFP because if going by the last 3 cycles then AF is due in 7 days. It does mean that I won't be POAS in the 2ww. I might even have a glass of wine on Valentine's night. I just don't want to stress anymore this month!

Hmmm Frazzles! I wonder what that was!

like Austral says though there is still a little bit of hope for me but I'm not going to get myself worked up over symptoms as I also didn't get any before my BFP with ds!

And I meant DPO1 not cd1

I think a relaxed approach sounds very sensible pear! Just wish I could do the same.

My parents are coming over tonight to babysit DD so DH and I can go out for dinner. I would kill for a glass of prosecco but am a bit terrified of doing anything to scupper things. Ridiculous I know. I am having a cup of weak coffee at the moment tho. After the 5am start this morning I need it to stay awake...

Hallo bf-ttc imaginary friends! Happy commercial manipulation day valentines day!
I've had a rubbish morning and have name changed to try and get a grip on myself. New me. I poas this morning even though I KNOW it is stupid. Wtf is wrong with me? sobs
Took DC to a play group and there was a dad with his 16 month dd whose wife is at home due to give birth in the next two weeks.
Cd11. No ewcm. Not even a hint of a positive opk. Aaaa-aaaaah! Need . Or a new life. Either will do.

Austria is that you? Hold on cos you haven't even made the average cd14 yet. You could OV on Monday

Frazzled - I opted for Jasmine tea with my meal tonight. Playing it very safe and boring

Oh and there is only one thing that is stopping me from thinking about a baby at the moment. I am decorating my kitchen. Painting everything including the dining room table and kitchen cabinets. It is much harder then I realised and also requires my full attention at nap time and after DS is in bed! Seriously time consuming but I've been talking about doing it for 12 months now and we all know that these things don't get done when you have a huge bump or a baby to look after so it is now or never 2 years away!!

Morning ladies!

Pear wow that sounds like a lot of work. I keep half heartedly looking at the living room and kitchen and thinking we should repaint but haven't quite got around to it but then we did -pay someone else to- redecorate when I was expecting DD. What colour are you going for?

I had some fizzy water with dinner last night in the end... I wouldn't have enjoyed wine - would have just felt paranoid. It was bad enough that I had some mozzarella and I kept thinking "is this unpasteurised!?"

I am putting a bottle of champagne in the fridge this week for when AF rears her ugly head. Then there will be a small silver lining!!

aurora how are you doing today? Sounds like you had a rough day yesterday!

I bloody hate toddler groups because it feels like everyone has a bump or a baby as well as their toddler. It has been known to make me cry before (later, at home).

I hope you managed to get some cake. I made a "healthy" chocolate cake with very low sugar and wholemeal sprouted flour. Tastes nicer than it sounds. I am telekineticaly sending you a piece with some ice cream!

And CD11 is still relatively early. This cycle you are much more likely to ovulate and have a proper luteal phase. Fingers crossed for you!!!

Scrap what I said yesterday about being more relaxed on the 2ww. Just heard that another friend has popped out dc2 (that is now 2 friends in one week). Both friends have DC1 the same age as my DS. Not feeling at all Also feeling a little peed because I'm getting pre AF signs...slightly irritating boobs and more cm. Grrrrr Off I go to take it out on a paintbrush. I so want to curl up and sleep

Frus - the grown up dining area I'm working on is mostly grey and whites. Trying to create a calm and relaxing area that does not have any primary colours in it

Sorry I mean frazzled

That colour scheme sounds lovely Pear! I want to do the living room with some soft greys.

Ugh it's really hard watching the baby parade. I had another of announcement this week and another 2 friends due DC2 in the next couple of weeks! Trying not to feel jealous (and failing)

Yes pear! Massively impressed by your kitchen painting! How on earth do you find time? DC takes up all the time I have! And when asleep I kind of have to hang around if dc fell asleep next to or on me for fear of disturbing the precious zzzz's. Ah yes, tis me.
Thanks for the cycle day wake up comments. I'll try be a bit more patient and forget the signs and opk. tries, collapses from effort
I'm feeling better today thanks frazzled. Except not looking forward to the week. It is always so relentless this child-rearing thing during the week in particular.
The chocolate cake sounds good! I was wondering if you could add some almond flour in with the spelt?
Am sure mozzarella is just fine! Try not to stress about these small things like brie or accidentally tripping tongue first into the neck of a champagne bottle. The risk is very low. Many times lower than getting into your car in the mornings. I know it is still worrisome, but don't beat yourself up about it if you did eat or drink something without planning it.
Babied people can ruin your day. sighs dramatically
CD12 about to be put to bed. Did two opks today first one a better line than yesterday the second one almost non-existent. But I'm taking not your advice and have dtd anyway.
Have a prosperous week with freshly painted walls and more cake!

*taking BOTH YOUR not "not your".

Desperately trying to ignore twinges around ovary area both sides Bugger off! I know you're just messing with my head!!!!

Ooh yes aurora you could totally add some almond flour! I also added some chia seeds and some coco & berry flavonoids (I know). I slightly ruined the effect by having it with (organic but full of sugar) ice cream. Ah well. I needed something since no wine is on the horizon.

LOL at tripping into a champagne bottle. I LOVE champagne. Am looking forward to AF coming so I can drink several glasses of it next weekend.

Thank you for your reassurance. I kind of know all that but I always have the little voice saying "what if" and I feel too guilty!

OPKs sound like things are building up. And don't forget the LH surge can come on really quickly so you can go from nothing to ALL SYSTEMS GO in 24 hours (or less perhaps). So good idea to DTD just in case!

Ha ha Pear!
I have been convincing myself that I can feel really light period-light cramps and keep thinking I should check in case some implantation bleeding has happened. Ridiculous.

I think any cramps (which may be entirely in my head), if they do exist are due to my having carried DD up and down hills on a countryside walk this afternoon and hurting my back in the process.

So, I asked Dr Google and he says that it's soooooo common to get twinges around your ovaries leading up to AF arriving. Boo to that! Got to keep my sensible hat on!!! On another note I am seriously struggling to feed my growing son on a chair. I practically hang off the chair to get the angle right. Time to wean?!!

Aurora - finding time is a nightmare!! I'm having to paint 1.5hrs during nap time in the afternoons and then whenever I get the chance in the evening but it is really hard to paint when it's dark as our lighting is really bad in the kitchen I'm shattered and I'm still so far to the end but I will be pleased when it's over!! I'm currently painting the dining room table and chairs. Hopefully ill be ready to move onto varnishing tomorrow!!

Another friend announced pregnancy major baby fever & jealousy ....joining the pitty train...

Yaay on new kitchen decor! Pear

Choochoo pity train.
sighs
Morning all. I'll post properly later. Suffice to say the ff news is NOT good this morning.

Yes I will join the train. Off to see friends this morning. One 8 months pg with DC2, the other with 5 month old DC2.

Ian 9DPO. No symptoms. Didn't POAS this morning but might do an IC tomorrow if I can't wait til Wednesday. AF due Saturday so not much point either way. I don't feel this is our month tho!

Choo choo pity train

Frazzled I think you (and Mary) will get a BFP this month. One of us has to. I would be sure it was me but obviously with the late Ov and everything I've changed my tune. AF is due on Friday. Dpo3 for me. I'm a little concerned how I will manage my sadness and anger this month. Best not to think about it until the time

Pear thank you for the vote of confidence! . I'm not really feeling it today. Bad headache, nausea and bone achingly tired. I'm pretty certain it's a bug as I'm only 9dpo so far too early for 'symptoms'.

Don't lose heart about late ov. Maybe you'll just have a longer cycle this month, to compensate. Fx.

Oh, and massive respect to you for decorating while dc is asleep. I am so lazy and usually do very little. My excuse is that dd is a very light sleeper.

frazzled don't do it! (poas that is). It's still really early and a bfn will prove nothing, and only make you sad. That was me last month and I'm so determined to wait until at least 12dpo this time. Looking for you to be my moral support!

Hi also to Rosie and Aurora and everyone else!