40+ and TTC? Join the club...

[cloudjumper]

To continue the support for everyone 40 and over who is or wants ttc. Lots of hand-holding and understanding, we're all together in the uphill struggle.

Missbone and Goldengirl71 and Viviennewestwould and Gailplattschin and fivepounds, all rolled up into one. If your beliefs are so strong- why do you keep changing your username? I change my name all the time, because my beliefs change as I learn more about other people's experiences.

Who said anything about their husband "vetoing" DE IVF? Why should a woman's desires be of greater importance than those of her husbands? THe analogy of a donated kidney is preposterous. A kidney, I would argue, would save her life. A baby...not the same thing at all.

Doe you get a discount if you recruit others to the clinic?

I was wondering that, too- especially when you asked them for a date.

Why are you changing your name again? Because your views change? What's that got to do with the price of cheese? If you're so brave come and tell us who you are.

I would have thought, Gumblossom, that you of all people would understand that a woman's need for a baby outweighs her husband's utter repulsion at the thought...

Pa ha! So I have to be working for Gennet because I am so enamoured by their brilliant success rates? What planet are you on? I was childless and on the wrong side of forty and opted for DE IVF, which worked the first time. I am the happiest I have ever been and want to shout from the rooftops how easily your dreams can be achieved when you are living in a nightmare. I won't be bullied form any thread due to absurd suspicions about name-changers - especially from a perpetual name- changer!

Oh please do. Strange creature.

... and had I listened to your particular brand of poisonous negativity Fivepounds, I wouldn't have conceived a baby naturally aged 43 + 3 months. A point that you appear either too stubborn or stupid to acknowledge.

Fivepounts: If you're suffering from PND, I'll be the first to apologise (and hope you get the help you need). Otherwise, I can't fathom why, given that (i) you're not TTC yourself, and (ii) you apparently find babies so exhausting that you would disapprove of anyone having a baby at any age older than you are now, you would bother to lecture us that everyone should make exactly the same choice as you did yourself, or else give up entirely. Maybe you're a banned poster, or on commission from a Czech clinic, but whatever, I reckon you're a fake.

Welcome Grinch - your DS sounds fab! You may also have noticed that Fivepounds fertility cliff is suffering from some erosion. She can't decide whether it should end at 40, or 41/42, but unless my maths is quite remedial, I figure you must have conceived your own anecdotal little boy at around 42 +3 (?), once you'd fallen over the edge of her metaphor. And that deserves adding to a TTC list I think! Good luck to you.

Note to any lurkers: please do join and feel free to re-post (and/or correct) the list below yourself!

Oh my goodness! You are weird; you have actually changed your username today to come here and abuse me!

I have reported you.

Erm..if you had read my post properly you would see that I am indeed TT naturally (until my next cycle, of course). My point about waiting until you are 47/48/49 to pop abroad for a DE cycle is that there are a plethora of setbacks and dangers for a woman of that age carrying and delivering a baby. It may be a donor egg baby she is carrying but her placenta and blood pressure and pre-eclampsia risk is that of a woman racing towards fifty. I do not have PND (thank you for your concern, though) and am a very fit runner and weight trainer who has found raising a baby easy (thank you, Gina Ford!) I couldn't say the same for your average 47 year-old not that I see anyone of that age pregnant

Sorry Fivepounds I posted without reading your last pearl of wisdom update. I'm posting the TTC list without you on it. Please do re-post it, adding yourself, if and when you decide to be rather kinder to others - and less proselytising.

Fivepounds - what on earth do you mean by this:"I would have thought, Gumblossom, that you of all people would understand that a woman's need for a baby outweighs her husband's utter repulsion at the thought..." ?

Please explain?

And there we have another coincidence: "a very fit runner and weight trainer who has found raising a baby easy (thank you, Gina Ford!)"

If you are not goldengirl I'll eat my hat!

Chewy, I'm not entirely sure how you got promoted to Head Girl around here but you may want to cast an eye over that comprehensive list of yours and see how many babies were conceived and delivered over the age of 43. A handful. That's how many. The stats are real and your experience has no bearing whatsoever on what will happen to the women posting here or their chances of success.

BFP's for 2015 please ...

10000Fireflies: 45, TTC #2, DS age 2
Allthefours: 40, TTC #4, DS 19, DS 18 and DD 14 from first marriage, and DSD 16
AWombWithoutAFoof: 44 (only just!), TTC #2, DD 4
Bernad105: 41, TTC #1
Berriesinautumn: TTC #2, 1 DS, (MC at 20 weeks)
Calibee: 44, TTC #4 (with IUI), 3 DC's aged 24, 20 and 17
ChewyGiraffe: 45, TTC #2, DD 18 months
Cloudjumper: 43 (in Jan 15), TTC #2, 1 DS age 3.5
Cobbler1: 43, TTC #1
Crispiecrunchie: 41, TTC #2, had DC #1 at 40
CurlyJay 44, TTC #1
Daftgeranium: 43, TTC #1
Druscilla: 41, TTC #1
FattyFishwife: 43, TTC #6, DS -21, DD -17, DS -15, DS -11 and DS 4
Foggywytch: 40, TTC #3, 2 DD, 9 Angels
Fridgedooropen: 41, TTC #2, DS nearly 6
Fromwesttoeast: 42 (and a half), TTC #6, DC#5 is 3 years old
Grizzer: 42 (only just!), TTC #2, DD age 4, (MC at 18 weeks)
Gumblossom: 48, TTC #6, DS age 23, DS 21, DD 17, DD 14 and DS 6 (had youngest DS at 41 and 9 months)
ICallHimGerald: 42, TTC #2, DS 6
JassS: 45 (in Dec 14), TTC #5
JessieMcJessie: 41, TTC #1
Joey38: 44, TTC #2, DS age 2.5 (had DS at 41)
Kimkat: 40, (41 in March), TTC #2, DC age 2.5 (OE IVF abroad)
LastMinuteMother: 42 (almost 43), TTC #1
Londongrrl: 42, TTC #2, DS 4.5
Mummy23Monkeys: 41, TTC #4, 3 DCs - DD -8, DS1 -5, DS2 -2
Notsoold: 43, TTC #4, 3 DC's - DD age 20, DS1 15, DS2 11 months
Pessimoptimistic: 40 (almost 41), TTC # 2, DD 3
Puppydogstails1: 40, TTC #4, youngest DC age 6
Rosiejo1: 43 (just), TTC #1
Rhootintootinboo: 39 (nearly 40), TTC #1
SeasonsEatings: 40, TTC #2, DD aged 26 months
Sicksquid:
Stupidhead: 46, TTC #4 (first with DP), 3 DC aged 16, 14 and 13
TheCSLibraryPree: 42 (43 in a couple of months), TTC #1
TheGrinchWearsStripes: 45, TTC #2, had DS at 42
TheHappinessTrap: 42, TTC #1
Trumadison: 45, TTC #5 (first with DP), 4 DC's
Wiltingfast: 40, TTC #3, DC aged 5 and 3
WipsGlitter: 44, TTC #3

Oh heavens above! 'Woman in forties runs and lifts weights' - call the cops! Gumblossom, you know exactly what I meant in my post. Aren't you TTC without the full knowledge of your husband? A husband who absolutely and irrefutably is repulsed at the idea of having another baby? Do you care? No. Why? Because you feel your desire for another baby trumps the concerns and wishes of your husband.

I see kimkat, that you have joined the Gennet forum on Fertility Friends. You will find an amazing bunch of ladies there and I wish you the very, very best of luck

See! Evangelising can bring someone a step closer to their dream

That last message is exactly like another nasty one Goldengirl71 posted before

No, actually, and I find what you are saying offensive. I don't recall saying that I was ttc without my husband's knowledge on this thread? Can you point out where I said that?

As for being "repulsed" at the idea of a baby - that is highly offensive. You don't know me or my husband.

You've been reported, Fourlanes. Now do run along....

Crossed posts (and cross posts, too)

Yes, I reported myself- so they could see that you are back

Yes, FourLane - it is exactly her style. Goldengirl has had it in for me for years. I've no idea why?

I have read it! Over and over again on here, how your DH is completely against the idea of another baby and would be deeply upset if it were to happen. I am not being deliberately inflammatory here; you made a comment that a woman's desire for a baby should never be seen to be more valid than her husband's reticence..this makes you a hypocrite.

Can you point out exactly where you read it? You see, I may have said that, after my second miscarriage, three years ago, on a different thread, that he didn't want to try again. What has happened between us, since, is none of your business. So, I am guessing, you are talking about something which was written years ago, and that would indicate that you are in fact, the nasty Goldengirl.

I don't care if you think I am a hypocrite.

I am still curious why you have it in for me, and why you are on this thread at all?