November bus opening doors- all aboard for BFPs!!!

[IamEvan]

I know its waaay early for a November bus to set off but AF arrived today kicking me off the September bus and with DH away next month the October bus is not an option. Anyone fancy joining me in the long wait? I don't expect much action on this thread for a few weeks but it would be nice to have some company. My stats are below:

iamevan, 35, TTC#2, cycle 6, BFP due 7th November

And yes butterfly it is so much more stressful than u think isn't it!! Even though u know it doesn't happen for most people straight away u still hope you'll be the lucky one that it does and it's heartbreaking everytime AF arrives.

Butterfly Dozygirl We haven't started ttc yet- still waiting for my first post-pill AF but Husband insists that as soon as we are ready to ttc I will fall straight away because he has (in his words) "Trojan sperm!!!"

His ex-partner fell instantly with both of their children so now he's convinced that the same will happen with us!! Makes it quite stressful in itself because what he forgets is he was 12 years younger then and didn't have a Wife with PCOS!!! Bless his enthusiasm though!

Oh gosh rosebud let's hope he still does have Trojan sperm! Lol that's funny. I wish my DP had Trojan sperm. No luck so far I think they're lazy but I'm Prob just worrying over nothing. Good luck!

I seem to have accidentally bought epo meant for horses. Well that's the only assumption I can make going by the size of them. Wow!

Cd4 here, how dull. This is the most boring bit of the cycle definitely. Hoping af will sod off soon!

How is everyone else?

Haha where did u get them from??

I don't even know what cd I am this month because my period kept coming and going so wasnt sure when cd1 actually was. ill just go off opk this month and await period 12 days after a positive one.

Thanks for the stats April, nice to see some of you ladies are similar age to me ttc #1 exciting :)

Dozy seven seas ones from Boots. They are epo and starflower oil apparently. :)

Hi ladies!

I'm new, can I hop on?

I was on the buses about a year ago but had to stop ttc due to illness, all better now though so fx for a speedy bfp as it's been a long wait!!

My stats are:

Pixie1985 29, ttc #1 cycle 2 (this time, in total about 15 lol!)

Hi guys, may I join you?

Ttc no2, month 14, cycle 4- depo has screwed me.

My cycles are long and irregular and I guess I'm due first month on November so it feels like I've got forever to wait even though I'm already cd 27 right now! I'm expecting a 50 day cycle or thereabouts. It'd be lovely if it were less, but I'm hoping to just get a bfp!

Have no idea when I will ovulate.. ibs invalidates any pain or cramping and I get ewcm sporadically all blooming cycle. Opks don't work. Clear scans and blood tests are find but can't confirm ov because it's like fishing in the dark for the right day to take them. So its just a lot of sex (Oh my word, I'm exhausted!) Heartbreak and hope.

Is there a window seat for me? I'm gonna need a distraction to cope with the next few weeks!

Hello ladies! Jumping on this bus now to grab a seat by the heater! Got kicked off the October bus today when AF arrived 4/5 days earlier than expected. Have always had irregular cycles - seafoam I feel your pain! Lucked out with DD second cycle and fingers crossed, cycles seem to have regulated a bit since her. Last three were 45, 38 and most recently 34 days so heading in the right direction I guess, but still a bugger for predicting ov!

My stats are:
Orangeisthenewbanana, 34, ttc #2, cycle 3, bfp due approx 13th Nov?

sea and orange that sounds tough for u both. Fingers crossed DTD marathons work out for u.

Evening ladies,

rosebud lol at trojan sperm fx he is right but i dont blame you feeling a bit daunted!

mrsg my epo are massive to im taking to many tablets now!

Welcome to all the newbies and bus transfers fx for you all!!

seafoam im on cycle 18 because of depo im not ovulating so have been but on clomid. I still have regular 28 day cycles and positive ovulation tests though so we had no idea until had tests.
Can they not put you on metformin (sp) ive read it regulates cycles for people who have long cycles (often used for pcos sufferers)

Hi blueberry.

Basically my bmi is 37 so they won't until I've lost the weight... but as an emotional eater, it's a vicious circle, lose a few lbs.. get another bfn.. binge. Gain. Lose a few lbs. . Bfn.. you get it. I wish I could crack it. It's hurting me almost as much as the bfn.

I do worry that I'm not ovulating. Someone mentioned soy inso, but I'm too scared.

We caught month 1 with Dd- off depo in sept, pill in Oct. . Caught Nov. So this has been a massive shock.

X

Just to add, I don't crash diet, I cook from scratch and eat v healthily but the binges are the cause of my weight- I do worry its effecting things though

Im over weight to seafoam they wanted me to loose weight before clomid but even with exercising everyday and eating healthy i lost inches but no weight.

But i told the doc i couldnt handle waiting any longer im right on the edge of depression all the time!

Hi all AF got me today -day 35 :( so I'm well onboard the nov bus now!!

Blueberry, if she gets me this cycle I'm going to get straight back up the Dr's. Thank you x

Sorry to hear that alien. It sucks doesn't it

Fingers crossed seafoam that u get ur BFP soon. I totally get the binging thing especially when ur down. I'd lost weight this year but it's slowly creeping back on for the winter as it usually does. I'm trying to focus on losing weight again rather than focus on symptom spotting and obsessing over ttc. Prob not gonna work but I need to have something to distract me.

I'm trying the same Dozy, putting my energy into something I do have a bit more control over and hoping it distracts me from ttc!

Ladies, may I ask something?

Prior to ttc I'd say we had sex a few times a month, so obviously not loads. Just as and when we could, but his sex drive has always been higher than mine. In fact he once said his ideal was 3-4 times a week.

I told him to be careful what he wished for!

Ofc I'm aiming for every other day. He's exhausted and says he can't keep up (i can't help but fund a sense of smugness over this admission given his previous requests!) I've been sure to play it cool and keep it interesting as I know how tedious it can get, a mistake we made early on..

The thing is, I only have very rough ideas on when I may ovulate through the month, so if we don't manage ever other day for a week I don't always worry as I'm not feeling like I might be at that time, but during the times I think it's likely obviously I want to make sure I've got a fresh supply waiting for that egg.

But I'm so worried! It's possible I ovulated Thursday, we dtd Wednesday night.. We were both soo tired Thursday so I initiated again Friday- but he couldn't get there, same yesterday. I won't initiate today as it'll build the pressure on him but am aware that we need to do it tomorrow. Equally I may not ovulate for another week so this could all be unnecessary, but I don't know so we have to keep at it.

Anyone else's husband not able to keep it going consistently? I suppose it's alot of work!

I too could do with some healthy eating. :) if your bmi is a bit high then you can get 5mg folic acid from your gp which is recommended.

I am planning a 'get more organised' campaign for the next few weeks which I hope will distract me from ttc a little bit.

I have also bought this really handy pill organiser that I have done for the whole week now - stop me rattling around with so many bottles first thing in the morning! And I really like the funky colours! :)

I also have long cycles... 38 days this time, and sure I'm not ovulating anyway. As long as you're dtd 2-3 a week that's all you can really do! My hubby is keeping up fine with every other day!!! Although tend to slacken off towards end of day 33/34!
If nothing happens this month I'll be asking for bloods and possibly trying soy!

seafoam if you drs Wednesday and ovulated Thursday that's great timing as the swimmers will be there to meet the egg :)

Upps... Means dtd! Not drs! Auto check on phone!!!

I believe that the egg can only fertilised in the 12-24 hours after it's released. However sperm can live in the woman's body for up to a week in favourable conditions (though I think average is 48-72 hours?). So even aiming for every 72 hours should theoretically be enough for some of them to still be around to fertilise, if his sperm are good quality and decent quantity.

With ttc DD, we just aimed for dtd at least 3 times a week, every week except when AF was around. Have tried OPK's for first time last month and actually found more stressful! Got a surprise positive but the pressure got to DH on that day and think we missed our window .

Also agree with butterfly, dtd immediately prior to ov is probably the ideal scenario!