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THINGS AREN'T LOOKING GOOD

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melliek · 06/04/2004 19:08

Does anyone have any insite on this??? I am only 4 weeks preg but already I am having pain and spotting. This is my third preg and the past two were mc. I have a very bad feeling about this already. I went to the docs today and basically its a waiting game. I am booked for a scan on the 26th of April but I dont know what to do until then. I feel so depressed because I think its inevidable that this one is going to end up the same as the others...all of the symptoms are the same. Pain in the left ovary (sharp) and slight brown spotting yesterday...and today there was a little red. I just dont know what to think or do...

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kid · 10/04/2004 22:43

I know it must be tearing you apart having to wait and see what happens. Is there any chance that you might not miscarry? My sister has a m/c and then went on to have 2 Ds's. During the early weeks of her 4th pregnancy, she lost blood almost every day for about a month. Her 3rd DS was born safely in Nov. I know you won't want to get your hopes up, but surely an earlier scan will set your mind at rest, one way or the other? I hope you are get the support you need and deserve xxx

hana · 11/04/2004 01:01

melliek - I've only just seen this and hope that you've been able to see a doctor or go to a hospital to get some answers. There are big hospitals in Moncton, St John or Fredericton, and the smaller towns would still have regional hospitals that would be able to scan you.
Let us know how you are doing,
hana

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melliek · 11/04/2004 05:22

Hi all...still so far no bleeding. The spotting has even subsided from red to brown. I really dont believe that there is anything left because every time i go to the bathroom there is ususally a small fragment of tissue. I do mean very small but none the less there is still some being lost. Its hard right now because the clinic is closed until mon and there is no use going to the outpatient,,,what can they do right? I think I am ok with it now though. My strength and faith gets me through. Its just not the perfect baby yet....my time will come! There are worse things in the world that I could be suffering through, right! I'll keep you guys posted if anything comes up. I do still wonder when the bleeding and pain will start....strange. Hugs to all,,,you guys really are the best support anyone could hope for.

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kid · 11/04/2004 10:52

well done for hanging in there. I really do feel sorry for you. I hope you can get the scan done quickly and let us know how you are doing.

aloha · 11/04/2004 19:14

Melliek, don't lose all hope yet. My friend (the one I told you about, lots of mc and trying for a baby for four years) had bleeding a lot like yours, lots of 'stuff' as well as blood, and she is definitely pregnant. I'm certainly not saying that you aren't having a m/c, but don't give up until you get your scan. I am keeping things (mentally) crossed for you.

bunny2 · 11/04/2004 19:41

Aloha, that's a good message. Melliek, I am still thinking of you and hoping there is a chance everything will be ok.

nightowl · 12/04/2004 01:01

Im sorry melliek, i dont have any experience of this so i cant really help but i just wanted you to know that my thoughts are with you ((hugs))

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melliek · 13/04/2004 17:05

Well, went to emerg today. They did some blood work and an ultrasound. My Hcg is at 9320 which is normal for 5 weeks...this is good. In the ultrasound they could see a sak and a yolk but no fetal pole. So....I have to wait another week to get another scan done before I will know for sure if this pregnancy is enevatably doomed. What a roller coaster ride.

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bunny2 · 13/04/2004 17:48

Blimey Melliek, what an anxious time you're having. It looks hopeful though, I dont think they should see a fetal pole at 5 weeks should they (pls correct me if Im wrong). I have my fingers crossed for you.

eyelash · 13/04/2004 18:15

melliek

I think this sounds really hopeful. When I had my scan at 5 weeks plus 3 days, they could only see a sac and a small dot they took to be the baby but they weren't a bit concerned. Also your hormone level is excellent. We will all be keeping our fingers crossed.

eyelash · 13/04/2004 18:18

I meant they weren't concerned there wasn't a foetal pole visible!

kid · 13/04/2004 19:17

Sounds like good news to me melliek. I can't wait to hear how you get on at your next scan, fingers crossed that it goes well. It is early pregnancy so it is normal for them to only see the sac, my own pregnancy dates were wrong and the scan had to be repeated, it all turned out well for me, DD is now 5.

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melliek · 13/04/2004 20:55

Hey all...I made a mistake! My Hcg level was 923....sorry. So I just got the results back from my other test. Now, keep in mind that yesterdays was done at 3:30 and todays was done at 12:30, so not even a full 24hrs and its gone to 1100. Now i know that it hasn't doubled but if there was no fetus growing at all wouldn't it start to drop by now? I am thinking if there was no fetal pole , basically nothing there, then it would be low. I am confused, there is too much to go by.

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Mirage · 13/04/2004 21:15

Hi Melliek

I'm sorry you are going through this.The uncertainity is awful.I just wanted to say thatyour HCG'S sound good.If I remember correctly,the levels should double in 48 hours,not 24,so don't worry,it sounds as though they are going in the right direction.Plus it is rare to see a heartbeat before 6-7 wks.

I had 2 episodes of horrendous bleeding with DD & was convinced it was the end, especially as I'd previously had an ectopic pregnancy.But by some miracle,she hung on & was born fit & well.

I will keep everything crossed for you & your little one.

hana · 14/04/2004 15:26

this all sounds hopeful melliek - taking things 1 day at a time is incredibly hard though.
Where abouts in NB are you?
hana

littlemissbossy · 14/04/2004 15:30

Hi melliek, just read this thread. I will keep my fingers crossed for you for next week. Make sure you rest/put your feet up!
Take care

bluestar · 14/04/2004 20:26

melliek, hope everything works out for you, keeping my fingers crossed x

Quackers · 15/04/2004 19:39

Melliek, this uncertainty is awful. I know when I lost my second they were looking for a foetal pole at 6 weeks and there wasn't one. At 5 weeks they expect to see a sac and yolk, just as they saw and nothing more just yet. It is a plus that your bloods are increasing, but they did them too close together as you know! Hang in there, hoping everything might turn out positive, you just never know. Also, if there is an intact pgcy sac, then you have not been passing tissue. xxxxx

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melliek · 16/04/2004 01:30

Thanks for the support ladies, but....last night I passed more tissue. This time it was of substance, not just thin pieces. The color was almost flesh toned and it reminded me of a small piece of wet bread (sorry ...gross I know). All in all i passed what seemed to be about 1/2 inch long and thick. The scan tech told me that if I had passed the embryo thats pretty much what it would look like, soooo. I think its over. Tomorrow after work i'm going to go to emerg and get another Hcg test done just to confirm it. After they give me the go-ahead I will get a D&C to get it finallized so I can move on. Is it always going to be like this? Such a roller coaster ride? I mean lots of women have mc's but not three in a row with no children at all. It makes me wonder if there is something genetically wrong....My cervix is fine, I had them check that last time, he said it is normal so its not that....for some reason or another God has a test in mind for me but I just dont know!

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fairyfly · 16/04/2004 01:40

So sorry, i never post on threads like this, but i just wanted to say how horrid for you, and i wish you a lot of luck, it really isn't fair. x

emmatmg · 16/04/2004 07:04

Melliek, I really don't know what to say......... I'm so sorry.
Do you really have to go into work today? I'm sure they would understand.
Oh, I'm so so sorry.

LOts' of love and cyber hugs to you and your DH.

bunny2 · 16/04/2004 08:21

Melliek, I am so sorry. Be kind to yourself and take time to come to terms with this. It is so unfair, you just dont deserve this. When you are ready, please demand more tests. Now you have had 3 miscarriages you should get some medical intervention. you may have aproblem that is easily solved. Hugs Bunnyxxx

Helsbels · 16/04/2004 08:38

Melliek
there is nothing anyone can say to comfort you at the moment and no-one can know how you are feeling. Obviously, on this site there are a lot of people who can empathise with you and there are a lot of stories to help you be strong. All I can say is that when it is right, it will be alright and there are always reasons - though often they are unreasonable and impossible to understand. Be kind to yourself,sweetheart and keep believing hugs to you x x

Mirage · 16/04/2004 09:04

Melliek,I am so sorry to her your news.

Please take it easy on yourself.

Love
Mirage

gothicmama · 16/04/2004 09:07

So sorry to give you hope I had 5 mc's and an ectopic before I had my dd ask them to investigate why Big hugs thinking of you