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July Bus to BFP land with onward flights to Thailand at TTC Airport

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TheGrandHighWitch · 09/06/2014 09:28

Hi everyone, I know this is probably a bit early (since it isn't July yet) but I thought I would start a new thread for those who lost their tickets for previous busses and for those who are beginning their bus journey now. Please feel free to add your stats to the list and grab a good seat while you can. Best of luck to everyone TTC and I look forward to getting many BFP's posted on here.

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Treaclepie19 · 14/06/2014 06:54

Haha good thinking ginger!
We are indeed special :)

Fingers crossed.

Hi blue :)

angelaham · 14/06/2014 07:10

Hi everyone, i am going to reserve a seat, i am due AF on Tuesday , hoping i don't need a seat for July , will post on Tuesday my stats for July or not (hopefully in a nice way) Good luck everyone x

KittyVonCatsington · 14/06/2014 09:01

Morning!

Maybe I hear you, regarding it taking a while. So far, I have viewed each AF as a new 'chance' or beginning, if you like. Makes me feel better. To help with lots of DTD, we've added humour sometimes - laughed about it. I suppose the desire to have a baby outweighs the tough times getting there. Mainly though, these buses have been a saviour. Laughing, crying and stressing together, makes it that much easier. I hope it helps you too!!

MrsG could this be a new BFP line? I really don't think you could still have HCG levels from your loss, can you? Not sure how you can check for certain, but i really think it could be!

angela fx you won't need the seat!

MrsGingerbread · 14/06/2014 09:16

kitty Much as I would love that I really don't think so. I have been having positives all month (eg 2 dpo) So way too early. This one may be slightly sooner than the last, but they go a bit yellow don't they, so it is hard to compare.

The hormones can stay around for quite some time so it is tricky to know what is going on.

I'll give it the weekend for af to appear. After that I'll pop to the gp for a blood test. It was a very early miscarriage and the scan showed no sign of the pregnancy, so I am very confused. :S

KittyVonCatsington · 14/06/2014 09:59

Bugger. I can see why you're confused. Really hope you get answers soon. The waiting is the worst Sad (((hugs)))

MrsGingerbread · 14/06/2014 10:17

kitty yes, very confusing. If am so pleased I thought to do the frer last week, otherwise I would have been over the moon today thinking it was a new bfp.

I just need to be more patient! Getting a baby is worth waiting for, but patience isn't a strength of mine! . :)

Treaclepie19 · 14/06/2014 10:21

Must be so confusing Mrsgingerbread. I'm quite lucky as I poas this morning and it is now negative.
I know what you mean about being impatient. I'm counting down the days til af finishes so we can try again. DH will be pleased, we haven't managed to dtd since the mc.

angelaham · 14/06/2014 12:40

Im not so sure Kitty, not to be disgusting but iv got a slight discharge this morning and it looks like its not white lets just say!!! so think AF will be on its way in a few days, will keep you posted!!!

skippingthroughthefarm · 14/06/2014 14:32

AF has surprised me by arriving 1 day early Sad im out for a week now before i can start testing again

Treaclepie19 · 14/06/2014 15:37

I need some outside perspective.

I'm really upset right now because DH and I have had a few conversations about how the mc has affected him (he's seemed fine and not been upset). He says he was upset when it first happened but he hadn't really got used to the idea anyway.

Now today, his band have split up. He is devastated and just came into the kitchen saying how upset he is and he is feeling really down.

Hit me hard as I feel like he cares more about his band than what we've lost.

Feel free to tell me I'm being horrible. I know he is probably feeling like everything is falling apart but at the moment I'm not very rational.

Spotti · 14/06/2014 16:08

hugs<

Men are weird creatures. He probably was really upset about the MC initially but because it wasn't happening to him, he has found it easier to detach himself from the situation and move on. You on the other hand, are still living in uncertainty, unsure what's going on with your body, and anxiously waiting to find out where you can go next. It's a really crappy situation to be in and if only he knew just how hard it is for you then I'm sure he'd be more supportive/less obviously sad about his band.

But he's a man. And men are weird.

You've got us though. And I at least have an unlimited supply of >hugs< if you need them xxx

Treaclepie19 · 14/06/2014 16:14

That's very true, you're right.

Thanks spotti, i needed a hug :)
Just went off for a drive and feel a bit better now.

Men.

MrsGingerbread · 14/06/2014 16:59

(((Hugs for Treacle)))

I agree, mc for us is so much more real. We have each grieved in our own way, but it is very different for each of us. We have tried to keep taking though, which has helped to bridge the gap a little. Xx

Treaclepie19 · 14/06/2014 17:31

Thank you xxx
I honestly think DH just didn't think it was real anyway so he hasn't felt so much like he's lost something.

Pompatrol · 14/06/2014 22:55

Sorry for your losses treacle and MrsG.
Treacle, that would have made me upset too. It sounds like you're right about it not seeming real yet to your DH and maybe he feels optimistic about conceiving again whereas the band splitting up maybe feels very real and final?

Treaclepie19 · 14/06/2014 22:59

Thank you pompatrol, i think you're right.
We just had a big chat about it and he says that's what it is.
Think I just need to be open with everyone about how I feel!

MrsGingerbread · 14/06/2014 23:54

Thank you pom :)

ChandlersFarang · 15/06/2014 09:42

Hi July bus birds!! Smile Marking my place on the July bus... Not holding out much hope for June (although still only 8DPO!). Will read back shortly!! Hope everyone's doing well at te start of their cycles Smile

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ChandlersFarang, 31, ttc#1, cycle#4 (soon!), BFP due approx 28 July (if I have another 40 day cycle..!)

Blueskygirl30 · 15/06/2014 09:59

Treacle, I hope you are feeling better today having discussed it with your DH. It must be a really hard thing to go through, especially if you are feeling like your DH isn't as bothered about it. I'm sure it's just that it never felt as real as it did for you and he's being optimistic for the future.

Sorry for your loss Treacle and Gingerbread, wishing you both extra special luck on the July bus!

I'm feeling really impatient at the moment as I know I should be ovulating in a couple of days time but my DH is adamant that we use protection until we have exchanged on the house we are buying....it seems like such a waste of sperm!! Unfortunately for my case, his best friend got pregnant the very first week of not trying to not get pregnant so he thinks it will happen straight away.

lp2014 · 15/06/2014 10:05

Hi everyone! Lovely to see a July bus underway!

I am 28, ttc number 1, bfp due 5th July. Only on cycle 1 but been reading posts for a long time and wanted to hop on this bus! Xx

Cpt1sock · 15/06/2014 10:46

Morning all,

I forgot to take my temp again this morning. I need to get the thermometer out when I get in bed. With my older 2 being 15 & 11 I'm probably going over the top in hiding the ttc fodder! My friends daughter is older too and came across her mums ttc vitamins, had a good read of the pack. It made the bfn that month harder, luckily she got BFP next cycle.

treacle hope you're feeling better today.

mrsg I hope you get your answers soon. The not knowing must be a killer.

Helloooo to new passengers.

Dh & dc2 are watching despicable me 2 while I have to go shopping, pants!!

Have a lovely Sunday xxxx

Aprilray · 15/06/2014 11:54

How frustrating for you Blueskygirl! I really wanted to start ttc on honeymoon in November but DH wanted to wait until after Christmas to try and get some savings under our belt after the expense of the wedding and honeymoon. Wish we'd had those extra few months of trying but I guess you just never know how quickly it is going to happen.

Welcome lp2014

CD5 here and AF is on her way out - come on July BFP!

KittyVonCatsington · 15/06/2014 12:14

Treacle I could have written your post above. I'll write about me and my DH to show you this seems to be some mens reactions, to help you feel better.

When I told my DH I had a positive result, he was 'low key' and said he'd wait until 12weeks before getting too excited. When I miscarried, he hugged me, but was very quiet and seemed 'unemotional'. A month on and I got a bit drunk and asked him how he actually felt over the loss. He said that of course he was sad but it is very common bloody biology teacher and we'll keep trying.

I still wish he showed more emotion, to help me feel less of a fraud for being so distraught over an early loss. Which is why on Friday night, I was really happy when he volunteered his thoughts on actually wanting a positive result and being sad AF had arrived. (btw, still recovering from that-had 6 drinks but still feel hungover. Totally lost my tolerance!)

My thoughts are that mother nature makes us more emotionally connected to our little beans at the early stages. Our other halves do care, but they go into self preservation mode on the big things, so on smaller things like bands breaking up, they are "allowed" to be upset. I bet this is his outlet, after bottling it up. (((hugs)))

MrsGingerbread · 15/06/2014 13:23

Thank you bluesky and sock*. I am okay, a bit crampy with sore boobs so I suspect af isn't far away. Even if she turns up I will still go the gp tomorrow to talk it through.

I'll be cross if it is retained tissue or something similar - I asked so many times if I was okay to start trying again straight away and epu and gp both said yes. Thank goodness I did a frer off my own bat mid-cycle otherwise I'd be so excited about yesterday's bfp . :'(

Treaclepie19 · 15/06/2014 14:32

Thank you everyone, you're all so lovely.

Kitty, you could be right. I think me just are more able to distance themselves from it all.

Thanks for sharing, I'm glad I'm not the only one! Seems like everyone's partners on here got so upset and I'm like... Mine didn't :/

We are better today, I am worried about my observation tomorrow though so no doubt I will be evil later.

Sorry you're so confused Mrsgingerbread :( hope you get an answer soon.