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[Justonemoretime]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Carly darling I feel the same, hardly any familiar faces now - which is fantastic!!! But also makes us realise we are sadly still here which is upsetting.

Are you enjoying the weather? It's been beautiful here which is marvellous for lifting the spirits. If I didn't have my son I would be sitting in a pub garden right now, so try and enjoy all the spontaneous things you can do with your partner right now that you won't be able to do in the future

I am now waiting to ovulate, I'm on CD8, normally ov CD13. It's been 2 months since we've been able to try due to mc no.2 and it's been so frustrating!!!!! I know I'm going to be devastated if I don't fall pregnant this cycle, I'm almost scared even thinking about it.

Ladies the spotting I had yesterday is now red bleeding. Do I take it as a period? Or mc related?

It is when I'd expect af in a normal cycle but only 2 weeks after I stopped bleeding from the mc.

Treacle they say for it to be AF there needs to be 20 days between bleeding. However there was only 16 days between my mc bleed and AF and it arrived when it would have arrived according to my regular cycle. So if the bleed is around the time AF would have arrived I suspect it is AF.

Congrats blank and marshmallow!

Carly think positive you are meant to be more fertile after a MC so positive thoughts your body feels better now after this cycle and is now ready for your little bean!

I can't believe it's only been a week since getting my BFP it's been a long week with lots of different feelings and LOTS of worrying!!

Carly I totally get how you feel. My husband and I were so certain that we had to have our children close together but our plans are all ruined now because we just can't get no2. I had a miscarriage and then a missed miscarriage and I'm currently having my third period since. Which is pants cuz I feel like I've tried my hardest too! But like littlemisssunshine says you are meant to be more fertile after a miscarriage. I conceived again very quickly after my first mc.
Oh and to treacle I was also told that you had to have 20 days for it to be AF but actually when I went to the doctor about my sudden reappearance of bleeding they told me it was AF. And that was about 2 weeks.

Congrats to the BFPs!

English so sorry to hear the news and have you back on here, life is crap sometimes.

I also understand how tough it is Carly, Sebs & Red I was desperate for 2 close together and rather foolishly thought that as DS was conceived so quickly we could wait to financially afford # 2 and still have them close, my plan nearly worked out...., Now it's just another month of a growing age gap and another month of me getting older-rubbish. This week I also had a colleague (who knew I miscarried at the start of March) ask if I wanted a 2nd child- you can imagine my face!!

Anyway, let's try and be kind to ourselves, hold it together and put chins up and tits out, good news will appear soon. Hugs to all x x

I'd like to have just one. :(

Oh my! How did you not punch her lights out florence? Jeez, talk about insensitive!!

carly big hugs xx I know that's not nearly enough to help you but you know I mean well at least

Thank you so much ladies :) ive been so worried it might not be af. Also excited that we can try again soon :)

Ah I'm sorry justonemoretime. Before I conceived my daughter I had been told it would be very difficult to get pregnant and it felt so awful. Fortunately my doctor had gotten it wrong but before I knew this it was awful seeing everyone with their babies and helping to look after my husbands son. I know it must be so painful.

I was impressed by my self restraint Broody I think I was just having one of those chilled days during ovulation where there is hope and all seems well. I'm now on the 2ww so don't think it would be the same story this week!
just I'm so sorry you haven't got your baby yet, we thank our luck stars for our DS every day and a big part of wanting #2 is so that he is not an only child. I am certain that in time you will be holding your precious baby and this heart breaking journey will seem worthwhile. Big hugs x x x

I'm sorry everyone is feeling so low.

I know sebs - hardly anyone from my "cohort" here anymore.

I feel the same way. I wish we hadn't waited so long for #2 (waited till we could financially afford and now all that money is being spent on mc diagnosis and fertility clinics instead).

Justonemoretime, sending you big hugs. I know that I'm already one of the lucky ones here, no matter what happens I have one child and I thank my lucky stars every day I have her.

I don't ever take it for granted, & I hope you get your lucky star too. x

Thanks all, I don't mean to be a grump; sorry. I know this is shit from every angle. Just had a bit of a scare with a missing cat, spent half an hour walking the streets peering into bushes with a torch... She's back, thank goodness. I'm not sure I'd get through the loss of a pet (we lost her brother to the road in 2012) at this stage of the game... I know where mad cat ladies come from... ;/

Aww just glad you found your cat!! Again didn't want to sound insensitive - I hope it's your turn soon. It can only be a matter of time. Any news from your follow up with prof Q? You mentioned its after 3 months of progesterone.

Where is that bucket of fish - I need a massive slap! Stupidly POAS yesterday morning after saying I wouldn't Of course it was a BFN. Then this morning I actually bothered to look at my temp chart after I had recorded my morning temp and I'm only on day 23 of my cycle anyway. FFS what an idiot I am. I'm not convinced I ovulated this month, but if I did, it would only have been about a week ago maximum (got some symptoms but no actual +ve opk). Sigh. I'll test again next Friday if af stays away until then!
Trying to see the positive side - there is still hope this month.
Trying to ignore the negative side - I have clearly lost the plot.
Gah!
We will all be mad cat ladies by the end of this journey, not just you, justonemoretime!!

Hi ladies, took me awhile to find you again. I'll probably be a lurker rather than a poster on this one as going through a bit of a tough time just now. Went to receive my all clear by hsg after my last erpc to be told asherman's has occurred again, it was suggested to me that we don't try until we see the consultant in Aug!! Really pissed off. Trying to decide what to do now whether to try or not.

Sorry English, that sucks. As a bit of an expert on hospitals and birthdays ( I have had hysteroscopy's the last three years on my birthday - huge coincidence), I'd brace yourself for most people completely not acknowledging or the other worse alternative of asking if doing anything nice???! Fx it happens for you beforehand.

Hello all

I joined you a few weeks ago and then vanished on holiday. I need to catch up but I just wanted to say "I HATE FOOKING FACEBOOK". And baby announcements in texts. And reserve the right to be to be unreasonably grumpy and bitchy around anything baby related.

Thank you I feel better now.

Thanks, the latest from Prof Q is to stop the progesterone at day 21 and just have it from bfp. I can see the logic, if I was slightly hyper fertile, they're trying to create the balance between receptivity and selectivity, and maybe the progesterone swung me too far the other way. Maybe. It feels like its never going to happen, anyway. Off to train for my swim in a bit without aggravating my back (pulled a muscle on Monday so training's been a write off). Woa is me (I'm ok really).

Thanks girls :)

just having just one would suit me fine too! and I never thought I would utter those words :(

broody thanks! just a few up and down days recently and we all know you come out the other side :) ....eventually!

sebs thanks sweetie! I think maybe reading the rawness of some posts on here brings it back a little too! as in time life starts going back to normal doesn't it? And then reading about other people going through the pain you went through is just heartbreaking and difficult.

I definately appreciate my life and love the freedom I have, but am so ready to give that up to be a mummy :) glad things are finally getting back to normal a little for you now, you really have been through the mill x

I'm getting cramping. Damn it! Stupid AF. It's not due for another week or so either but guess my cycle is so messed up that it's just doing what it fancies!

Just -Really glad you've found your cat, I'd be lost without my hound at the moment. Xx

Thanks. As with cats, I didn't find her, she decided to come home. Little Madam! :)

Sorry to hear about the ashermans cava Would you share your dtory around this? PM me if you prefer. I have diagnosed myself by consulting dr google and it all seems doom and gloom. I had erpc #2 in Sept. Since then af has been almost nonexistent and painful. All 3 of my bfps came within 3 cycles but nothing this time I am waiting on apt at fertility clinic

Morning everyone, and hello to all the newbies and returnees, am sorry one and all

blank and marshmallow that's amazing! Huge congratulations, every BFP gives me hope.

Carly I'm sorry you're feeling low. My DP always says the past is the past and none of us know what will happen later today, let alone in a few months time. The past does not predict the future. We can only be certain of now. Now, I can't pretend I'm very good at taking his advice on board but thought I would share in case it helped!

After my erpc on monday I ended up back at the docs yesterday with a fever and have been prescribed antibiotics in case of an infection. Slept on the couch from 10am till 6pm and then back in bed at 10pm for 11 hours sleep. Still have no energy and am on the sofa. Has anyone else experienced this? Am supposed to be back at work on Monday and am feeling the worst yet

How does everyone feel about doing introductions? I can't keep up with everyone's stories.

I'll start:
TTC since May 2013
TFMR in Jan 2014 after Edwards syndrome diagnosed at 13wks
MMC beg June 2014 at 9 weeks (baby measured 5/6)
ERPC 9 June
Waiting to start again