Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

English, I am so so sorry, hope you don't have to wait too long. Take care of yourself.

English, that is so completely and utterly shit :( it's the most devastating news anyone of us could get. I'm sure that it's just a horribly cruel hand and one day you will meet your baby, I know that doesn't help you much at the moment though :( xx

Oh english I'm so sorry to read your news. You know we are all here for you hun xxxx

english am so sorry to hear that. How awful for you. I wasn't on here before but I am in the twice in a row club too and it's a shit club. I know platitudes from strangers probably don't mean much but I'll carry on anyway. The most likely scenario is this is just shitty bad luck. One day you will hold your baby and it will be the baby your were meant to have and you won't be able to imagine it any other way.

That being said there is still hope. I was in a similar situation and it didn't end well for me. I know all too well just wanting it to be over. The waiting is just awful. Sending you lots of positive thoughts. Life is indeed shit sometimes.

Ladies I went and met my new nephew. He is just gorgeous and it wasn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be. My SIL is so lovely and we had a good cry and I had a lovely cuddle of the baby. Sigh. One day, one day hopefully.

Aw Monten, that's great! I sometimes feel the pregnancies are harder to handle than seeing the actual babies... that might just be me though!

Monten, thank you for your lovely words. I'm amazed by the kindness of strangers. It truly is a shit club. I hope that it isnt long before you too have a little bundle of joy to help heal the pain of this shittyness.

I'm feeling a lot better about this mc than the first. I don't think I'd properly allowed myself to get excited or attached.just had my first glass of wine in 8 weeks...

Glad it went ok with your SIL and nephew, Monten.
I've decided to start blogging. It might be cathartic, and perhaps it will be interesting. Anyway it's at justonemoretimeagain.WordPress. com if you fancy a look. I will proof read tomorrow and probably find all sorts of errors...

So sorry to hear your news English I know that there is nothing I can say that would make this horrid situation any better. I to had to wait a week between scans just wishing for it to be over, take care of yourself and enjoy the wine.

Moten I'm glad meeting your nephew went well, you give me hope. I am 11 months post my molar pregnancy and I can now manage to be in the same room as a baby but I still cant cope with getting too close or picking one up.

Just - I will look up your blog. Are you are writer by profession?

I also find baby bumps harder than children. I can't wait to get my own baby on board badge but I never seem to progress far enough for it.

I find baby bumps much more difficult than babies too!! I wonder why that is?

english I think you do become more pragmatic. I had no idea what was awaiting me with the first and was blissfully ignorant. The only thing I was worried about was a MMC at the 12 week scan, it never crossed my mind that the baby would be very ill due to chromosomal abnormalities that were 'incompatible with life' (I ended up having to make the decision to terminate, so not technically two mcs in a row but as good as in my eyes).

That being said, I was terrified and SO apprehensive about that 12 week scan and this time, right from the word go, I said to my partner 'this doesn't feel right'. Both times I think I knew something wasn't right. What does everyone else think about intuition?

Brummie I didn't wait one cycle post tfmr and carried on as usual also. I found setting a date in my mind that I would test on really helped me , it meant I could kind of put it out of my mind before then. I'm quite strict with myself when I know my af date too and will only test when am few days late. That's because I always found af less disheartening than a neg pregnancy test - it's so individual to each person. Setting a date helped me tho.

50degrees I'm so sorry to hear about your molar pregnancy. For me it depends on the woman. I find first time pregnant mums much worse, probably because I identify with them. This is my SIL's 3rd so for that reason not so hard. I know four people ( who I don't see day to day thank god) who all got pregnant first few months of trying around when I did first time and all of them are now at home on maternity leave with their babies. I can't even think about them without getting upset and horribly jealous .

I'll tell you a funny story that happened that cheered me right up. Whilst my SIL wasn't looking, my older nephew (who's four) pulled off little ones belly button. He stood there, shocked, holding it in his hand, and then burst into tears when he saw the look of horror on SIL's face. Priceless. (Baby is fine !)

I did a preg test today and it's still showing a line but much much fainter so that has cheered me up.

Who can talk to me about opks? I've never used them, my friend did and thought she wasn't ovulating and went to doctor panicking and it turns out she was ovulating just fine. So I have always stayed clear. But it sounds like a lot of people on here do use them and I really like the idea of feeling more in control. Would be grateful if people could share their thoughts/experiences.

Sorry for the epic posts everyone! I'm still off work so have lots of time on my hands. This threD has been my lifeline

Opks do work for me and allowed me to recognise when I ovulated. I didn't think they were any good when I was first trying as I could never get a second line on them. I realise now it was because I wasn't ovulating due to breast feeding. Directly I stopped my body starting working again!!

I use the CBFM and it's a good piece of kit although the sticks are expensive! The first month I used it I fell pregnant although all my fucked up cycles due to miscarriages have not helped as it learns your cycle over time and uses that information to plot the following month.

Anyhow, opks have always worked for me so I have no complaints with them, even the cheap strips!

So I had my first session of reflexology yesterday. It was perfectly pleasant and she said there was nothing of note to mention, all the systems, particularly my reproductive system were working fine. I have no reason to suspect she is wrong but perhaps I was hoping she would say something that could be corrected or something. I know it's a bit hocus pocus anyway but it's harmless and affordable do I shall stick with it for the foreseeable.

I am also starting back with Slimming World tonight. I have put on a stone since hitting target last year and whilst my BMI is still fine, I actually look like in 3 months gone, I don't think my stomach has ever protruded this much!!! So something has to be done before I have nothing that fits me bar my pyjama bottoms!!

Had a lovely message from the nurse I saw yesterday to check I was ok.

Mont - I always used OPKs with varying success. I also temped. I know after my last mc I didn't ovulate every month but try telling that to a dr! They looked at me like I was a right weirdo!
I think I will def start using them again. As soon as I've started bleeding I'll temp.

I dont use OPKs or temp chart, I just take the sex every other day approach, that way I dont stress (too much) and dp is happy

I also find bumps much harder to deal with than actual babies, which is handy since im a nanny! I find myself eaten up with jealousy when I see a pregnant women which then upsets me.

Triple, thanks. I'm not a writer (although I do write as a hobby), and, to be honest, I no idea what to do with a blog, how to tag and get traffic etc. But I'm going to give it a go, anyway. Thanks for taking a look. Here's the link again in a proper url (hopefully). justonemoretimeagain.wordpress.com/

Count me in. I'm hoping to POAS on July 17th for the first time after my MMC (April 29). AF is due July 29. Began TTC this month, fingers crossed.

Wishing baby dust for you all...

Hi ladies, can I have some advice please?

I stopped bleeding from the mc about 2 weeks ago.
Today I've been spotting again.
Is that counted as a new cycle starting? Or is it left over from my mc? :/

I think you'll have to see how it develops treacle. My first cycle last time was anovulatory and my 'AF' was quite light and brown. Next AF was more normal.

Got my date set for erpc if I don't start to lose it naturally. My 30th fucking birthday! Because of DH booking us back to amsterdam to tie up some loose ends that's the first date I can do! Happy birthday me!

Thanks English ill see how it goes.

Sorry you have to go through that on your birthday :( the main part of my mc was on my bday too :/

Crap huh?! Shittest birthday I'll ever have.
Just want my body to cotton on and kick in before I have to go through all that.

Evening all.

monten I defo believe in intuition. I said to dh that I didn't feel right/the same as when I was pg with Poppy. I was quite nauseous from the get go but wasn't ever sick and I ate cheese like it was going out of stock (whereas before, I couldn't eat much at all as I was so sick) but I put that down to possibly carrying a boy this time around (cheese apparently hints at a boy, if you believe all that!) Then all of a sudden, my symptoms stopped and my tummy got flabbier but smaller - I was 12 weeks when I mc and I did have a bump already formed so I knew things weren't right. Still hard though isn't it?

sebs I gained a lot of weight in the immediate wake of the mc. Food is always my weakness and in times of sorrow and delight, I always turn to munchies [piggy]. I started the Cambridge diet though and lost just over a stone in a few weeks. Not at all a sustainable diet - it's 600cals a day, made up of shakes, their soups and porridge, no carbs, very restricted - but it has kick started me by giving me a great loss early on. Did you have your success with SW last time? I've heard great things about their plans. Good lck for tonight xx

In other news - not at all related to ttc or babies! - we've finally had our mortgage offer come through after five very long weeks of waiting and answering personal questions about our spending habits (inc how much do you spend on your hair every month?) because of the new legislation. We are so pleased! Will probably be moving early July! Yippee!

Congratulations on your new house!! What a delight and relief. It's so difficult getting a mortgage these days.

Ovulation kits are very useful, I fell pregnant within the first four months of using them especially if you work and are busy and don't have time to dtd so it's easy to plan it. I highly recommend the clear blue digital ovulation test with dual hormone indicator. Expensive but cheaper on amazon.

My first AF after mc was very heavy. It depends on your body. Give it a few more days if you're still spotting let it be, just more it down somewhere and keep track of your dates. I record all symptoms on my period tracker app, it helps.

Best wishes to everyone trying this month.
My heart goes out to all you ladies who have miscarried again, big hugs to all xxx

Hello! I'm new! waves

I've just got my period after having two sodding miscarriages in 7 weeks. I had an MMC at 9 weeks in March, ERPC, then fell pregnant again straight away and miscarried at 5.5 weeks. Pish.

So, am marking my place for later in the month. I can't have three in a row... Can I?!?

broody were also hoping to move early july, the new rules are a nightmare arent they?

had a really upsetting afternoon at work, we had a little girl round for tea, she said she knew what had happened to my baby and that it had died, then asked how, so I had to explain to two 5 year olds why babies sometimes die before they are born

I was ok talking to them but on the way home had to pull over and have a cry.

I've been using the ClearBlue with duel monitor thing. I has told me when I've ovulated but also told me I was in the high fertility zone for about a week before hand. To be honest I use it to make me feel like I have some sense of control and to give me something to focus on, that said we've been dtd every night incase the monitor thing is lieing to me and just wants to trick me into never getting pregnant again! Think I'm turning into a crazy lady!

I only got half a day of really light spotting about three weeks after my second eprc and a couple of days of cramp, the doctor said that if it was after 20 days post op to count it as AF before that it maybe your body settling down - I don't really trust the doctors anymore than the opk though! Think I'm definitely loosing the plot! Xx