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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

oneday I was the same as all the other comments. As soon as I was left alone I cried n

Woops!

I cried all of the time. It does get easier and the hormones make you so emotional!!

oneday I agree with everything said by others. Big hugs to you and give yourself a bit more time, it's really not been long especially with hormones crashing about

One day take more time off work. One week is definitely not enough and it's normal to cry and try and stay strong for your family and DH. When you need to cry let it out as bottling it up is more harmful. It will get easier with time.. Time heals

oneday I remember sitting in the house, 6 weeks ago literally wishing time away and wanting AF and ovulation here do bad. Today I am 3 x bars on CBFM and although it's been tough, I am here and moving on. Before you know it, AF will be in town and you will be ovulating again. Just get through one day at a time. I said it last week, masculine box sets pulled me through it!!!

Like I said watch suits on Netflix!!!!

Hope26 crossing all my fingers and toes for you. Really hoping to see you come back to the thread with a BFP.

Boozle that's such a lovely way to put it: "hope this is the one we were meant to meet". It's so sad and hopeful and bittersweet and lovely. So true.

belt it's an emotional fuckery and the not knowing what's happening is the worst. At least when you know you've ovulated, you have the sense of being in control - even though it's still a 1 in 4 chance of catching. hope to hear of AF making an appearance very soon! Have you POAS yet to completely rule it out?

Oneday it's only been a week after a very traumatic experience. There is no "should" or prescribed amount of time to get over it. A week is a very short time, i would still be in pieces. No one can judge how long or how to move on from it. Please be kind to yourself - holding it together for other people is exhausting and doesn't give you the space you need to grieve. Maybe more time off work, and some time to yourself, is what you need to process it.

I need a moment to scream very loudly and in a super fucked off, the world isn't fair, manner if that's ok? One of my friends rang and asked me for a lift as she doesn't drive. It's my day off so no problem there. It was to her twelve week fucking scan at the same unit I found out about my mmc. Slight swerve ball to the side of the face. Currently sitting in the car having refused to go in and wait in the waiting room with her and her DP trying very hard not to have a complete breakdown. Fucks sake! Why the bollocks couldn't she get a taxi, just this once?!!!

ARGGGHHHH! Does she know you had an MMC? God that's a huge tub of salt right in the wound. Poor you :(

Yes, yes she does... I'm learning the lyrics to frozen and singing very loudly in the car pretending to be somewhere/ anywhere else...

I'm not having very peace loving hippy thoughts ATM..!

Boozle - WHAT TF????? This is SO out of order - to ask you knowing exactly what you've been through?!?!?!?!

I would have said NO. I really admire you for helping her! AAARRRRRGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

Stay strong and perhaps you should say : "I hope you understand I won't be taking you to the 20-week scan and it was really out of order of you to even consider me as your "ride"!!!"

Crashing lack of awareness and sensitivity but I think people just don't think. Well, some people just don't think. What did she say when you said you didn't want to go in? Crazy.

She said "Are you sure?", yes I'm fucking sure! I'm certain that I do not want to go and sit in the place I found out my baby was dead. Thank you very much! She then came out and showed me the photos and asked if she needed to keep the various bits of paperwork they'd given her. I pointed out I didn't have a clue as I didn't get any paperwork, just silence and three options on what to do next. Argh! I'm now taking lots if deep breathes!

Oh my fuckin God that's awful!!!!!!!!!!!!! Boozle I am literally apoplectic on your behalf! Jeesus H Christ. You deserve a medal for not lamping her one. Ffs!

boozle, that is terrible :(

People just don't think do they?

I don't think I am ovulating this month. Positive opk on Friday and temp rose, then shot up on saturday but then dropped sun and today.

Gah :(

Just to have my say on this....WTF!!!! Seriously, is she for real. boozle I'm nominating you for a pride of Britain. You clearly have a heart of gold but no more nonsense if she asks for a lift again!!! Grrrrr, she has made me angry. It doesn't take a genius to work out that was a huge error on her part. Is it wrong that I wish life long stretch marks for her? Not that I'd care! I'd loooonnng for preggas stretch marks.

Oh boozle can only echo above comments that is so heartless. WTAF?!
I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

boozle WTAF??!! Is this person for real? With friends like that who needs enemies!! Hope ur ok xx

I am actually FURIOUS that one woman can do that to another boozle BFF or not, I'd have politely declined I'm afraid so you're a better woman than me. Grrrr I'm so angry!!!

boozle I'm just aghast at reading your posts, what appaling behaviour. I think you were amazing but that's one friend you could easily do without. How rude, insensitive and hurtful aaaaagh- on your behalf!

boozle I am lost for words. Wtaf???? Who is this woman?? I just can't believe that someone could be so insensitive? Does she struggle with empathy? It's the only way I can rationalise behaviour like that. Like broody I am just so furious on your behalf.

In other jtfo news, I saw an incredibly toned and gorgeous woman running in the park on my way in to work this morning wearing a tiny Lycra crop top, no hint of a bump, and a 'Baby on Board' badge. Wtf???? Why do people need to know she's up the duff when she's out jogging??! That's just showing off. She can literally jtfo.

Massive congrats zebra - every new BFP is a ray of hope. daisy good luck for your scan.

boozle your friend is an insensitive cow, im so angry that she thought it was ok to put you in that position

I would have told her to make her own way home!

oneday I had 8 weeks off of work, theres no way I could have gone back after a week. Ive been back 4 weeks now and its still hard so give yourself more time x

im in a very bad mood, dp is struggling with his asthma so we didnt dtd yesterday and wont be today, im fairly sure I ovulated yesterday. I know he cant help it but im so cross I can barely talk to him. Someone slap me because I know im being a bitch

Im having a really irrational day, it is my charges 6th birthday today, I have looked after him since he was 6mths old, I adore him but all I keep thinking is that my baby wont have a birthday. Ive made the day as fun as I could but ive definitely been faking it till I make it all day.

Boozle that is horrendous of your friend. I just can't understand it. She showed absolutely no acknowledgement of your loss and the contrast she was creating with her experience today?? It beggars belief!

Hugs smiling. I am so staggered at your outward strength and commitment to your charges, when you are hurting so badly within. You will be a fabulous mummy when your time comes xx