Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I've been up since 6 rearranging and sorting out my kitchen cabinets. Cleaning and organising must be therapeutic reading back to some of the comments yesterday!! :)

Hope everyone is okay today. Anyone got any fun plans for the weekend?

Morning all, this cleaning thing must be catching! Up at 7am and after an obsessive googling sesh re ovulation and cbfm (which apparently you can ovulate and not get peak which makes me think every other day is the way to go alongside monitoring) I am raring to go with the marigolds and Hoover!!
I went out with a friend on Thursday whose best friend is a GP (who sadly her first was still born at 38 weeks but who now has a healthy one - hope for us all) who recommended every 2-3 days and no more. I am putting my trust in the old school process and NOT obsessing about my monitor today.......honestly!!!

Morning all,

Hope everyone is doing okay today? The cleaning sounds like a great idea, my house is like a crack den at the moment with the weeks of ms and now this last week. Still can't bring myself to clean though which is weird as I'm normally slightly OCD!

Can sympathise with the wine too!

Now I usually am not a fan of these things, but somebody shared one of these quote things on Facebook and it east he first thing I saw on my newsfeed this morning. It just really struck a chord with me re the mc:

''Sometimes you have to be strong when you feel like giving up, have to fight whe you just want tot run away. Sometimes it's all you can do just to keep going. But sometimes you just have to let the bridge break. Let the tears flow and start over. Remember, no matter how bad things are at any one moment, no moments last forever. Good or bad, time moves on, because it has to and so will you."

Re ttc, DH did make me laugh. We were chatting the other day about ttc again and he was like 'it was just so nice last time because we didn't actively try, we just relaxed about things a bit more' Pah! I was charting, doing the cb ovulation tests and pouncing on him everyday for a week once a month. I'm glad he didn't realise though!

Morning everyone, how's everyone doing? I took DP away last night for a non-dirty night away. We went to Manchester, drank until we giggled, salsa danced really badly and ate rubber chicken out of a box and remembered why we're together. As AF is around it was a completely non-baby making stress free evening off - haven't drunk for over a year so it didn't take much! Think we're going to do it every time AF appears just as a step out of our life for one night in a place which has no link to what has happened and is happening. Can recommend it - I feel like a new lady!

Oneday good quote - very true! Xx

boozle that sounds like so much fun. I know I am definitely guilty of taking DH for granted, especially since ttc and becoming slightly obsessed with the idea of a baby. I think that so lovely that you've spent that time together and made you remember why you're together and all the things you love about eachither. After all, when the babies are all grown up, it'll just be us and them, alone again.

It's true - it was just so nice for one night not to focus on dtd or ovulation or the miscarriages and DP was the most open and honest with me than since before we lost the baby. It was just lovely to be us and not us trying for a baby and grieving the one we lost. Definitely needed! It'll also be something to look forward to after the disappointment of getting AF each month.

www.parentdish.co.uk/pregnancy-and-birth/should-you-share-scan-pictures-on-facebook/

This just popped up on my Facebook feed. Talks about the debate re posting scan pics on social media and that it does actually hurt people who've had pregnancy issues (why they couldn't say the word miscarriage is beyond me but hey ho!)

Thanks everyone. I'm a little better today.
1dpo so feel a bit excited/nervous/hopeful.

SIL isn't coming to a party at ours tonight so ive convinced myself she's pregnant.

She makes everything into a competition and I really hope she hasn't done the same with this.

Going to have some drinks tonight and just remind myself it's too early to matter yet.
Going to stop drinking after today til af comes or doesnt but don't want to raise suspicion by not drinking and could do with the escape!

Glad you had a lovely time boozle :)

broody that is interesting, I have no idea what I'll do if/when we get to 12 weeks next pregnancy. Not sure whether I could share it knowing how the announcements make me feel.

Hi all,
I've had an exhausting day helping at a local event.
I also drank at that event- daytime wine is not fine! I feel rubbish.

A night off would be amazing, I think it would a good idea.

Seems very hard to get off the tread mill.

Hope tonight goes ok, I have a similar SIL!

Broody, great blog, thanks for sharing. I will try to link it to mine when I'm back on my PC ( can't work out how from my phone.
Waves to all! X

Here are my thoughts on the fb baby bomb justonemoretimeagain.wordpress.com/2014/06/23/the-facebook-baby-bomb/. I'm such a miserable old moo! ;)

Just that was brilliant - thank you! I'm thinking of getting a cat just so I can post pictures of it...

Thanks Boozle, lol! :)

What's weirder is when they make the scan pic their profile pic, and then you just see a uterus in your friends list. Weird. Like you'd have a pic of any other internal organ as your profile pic, or address someone's uterus in conversion!! ;)

Maybe I'll bob up a picture of my lower intestines in silent protest..!

Haha you should boozle!

Hi ladies I have a question. if you have had your second AF after mc, has it come on time or is it usually late as the body is trying to get back to normal? I've read a lot of stories where AF is messed up and women get a bfn's even if they are pg. some women think they are of pg but AF arrives a lot later than their first AF.

My cycles went back to normal straight away, but I've never been totally regular (usually varies by 2-3 days).

Thanks metal! This 2ww can drive you mad and I hope my cycle is back to normal

Mine came back on time, but it took maybe three months to get my first AF afterwards so maybe my body had spent that time getting back to normal? If anything it may have been slightly early xx

3 months must have been so hard for you. Mine came back on cd35.. I'm hoping its back to normal but I keep getting bfn's! AF due in 3rd July.. Just a waiting game now

My cycle post-mc is best described all all over the fucking place. I think I've only ovulated once in 3 months but have had light breakthrough bleeds at various random times. Miscarriage has been the gift that keeps on giving for me! My last af was a bit more normal so maybe it's settling down finally. Hope I "hope" (arf - see what I did there) yours is already back to normal. Are you hoping for a BFP on 3rd July? I am on my tiny phone & can't scroll back to check - sorry.

I hope your cycle gets back to normal office. It can be so frustrating. We all have been through a traumatic time both physically and mentally..

Yes I am hoping for a bfp and a missed period on the 3rd... I've been having cramps after ovulation around -7dpo and it got worse by 9dpo. No other symtoms. The cramps have gone now. I usually get sore boobs before my AF and mild cramping that's how I know AF is coming and it usually turns up a day after. Right now I have no sore boobs at all..

I am hoping this is the month!! will keep you all updated. Office when is your AF due

Fingers crossed for you, hope. It would be brilliant if you got a BFP so quickly! I'm only on cd 9 so early days for me - got lots of shagging to look forward to at least