Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I'm still waiting for the elusive post miscarriage AF.
CD 29. No idea if I'll ovulate still got about week before I'm due on. We shall see.
I bloody hate waiting!

Good luck hope

Good luck hope

The waiting is horrid marmalade.

My temps are all over the place. After thinking maybe I was ovulating earlier and getting my solid smiley, my temp dropped below my cocerline today.
Lost now.

Oops. Wrong one.

Office enjoy dtd and dress up! Don't make it a chore.. I got really moody with DH when we first did it after mc. He was so confused haha and at the end I ended up crying! He thought he hurt me. this whole experience has really tested our patience. And it will test yours as well. I suggest you don't google anything because it will drive you crazy and waste a lot of time.

Marm I got my AF cd35! The wait for long but it came. According to my CB ov kit with dual.. I got a solid smiley and did have a lot if discharge on that day so I'm assuming it can't be wrong! You just have to wait for your AF and then wait fr your smiley.

Trea - I sugget you dtd anyway, do you have a rough idea of your fertile window, mine is roughly cd13-cd18. I'm sorry I have never done temping so I have no idea what those graphs show! I'm sure the ovk kit won't give you a solid smiley if you weren't ovulating. They are pretty accurate. I hope you dtd!

Treacle I'm no expert at all on temping but maybe you ov'd around day 25/26? Xx

Thanks ladies, I've had a read about it and looks like I'm experiencing a fallback rise. Goes way up for ov, down the next day and then back up til af/bfp.

I'm on cd18 today. We shall see what happens :)

CD19 here and getting impatient.....

cd27...... Killer wait !!!

Wow. Since my mc I have become an organising machine! My kitchen cupboards, including the horrid one under the sink sorted yesterday. Today a load of stuff has come out of the loft to be sorted and catalogued properly.

I have a month or so off before ttc again, so it is definitely being put to excellent use!!

Hello all,

I'm terrible at keeping up and it seems really difficult to look back on my phone.

How have all your weekends been? Those having nights out, that sounds great fun and a cracking idea. I hope you all had a good time.

I'm afraid I know nothing about temping, I can't do any sort of sticks/plotting without turning into a lunatic. OH has performance issues and so can't cope with planning or knowing important timing. It can be hugely frustrating and I send my sympathies to anyone else in that position.

I had the village fun day and had to do races. Argh. Couldn't get the bad back excuse out quick enough so couldn't back out

Am feeling extra cautious this time, it feels like a really big deal this time round. It's been 15 months since my last mmc and it is taking some time to get my head around being on the roller coaster again. 6wk scan is on Tuesday and am bricking it already

Hello to everyone and so sorry for not mentioning individual names

Daisy How agonising and stressful it must be for you, there is certainly no innocent joy left in scans, really hope all goes well.

Hope fingers crossed you get your BFP this month, what a fantastic way to end the school year that would be. Going back to your AF queries, mine have been rather mixed up since mmc. I had 2 at 29 days and though I'd cracked it then a very painful, early one at 25 days and most recently a symptom free 27 day one- so who knows what that all means!

Treacle I have no clue about temping either-sorry, But whatever happens well done for getting back on the horse so to speak, hopefully all will work out for you.

I shall be spending most of this week DTD. I'm (should I be saying we're? as if DH has a say!) going for the old school every other day option regardless of what OPKs say. Have a great one everyone else, fingers crossed for lots of good news this week

Thanks florence, I'm doing the same :) every other day unless we feel like more.
I am also hoping for my bfp before the end of the school year :) I'd really enjoy the last week knowing I was pregnant.

Fingers crossed.

Thanks Florence's! I really want to be pg before oct, that was my edd.

Trea I hope you get your bfp soon too!!

Hi all, sorry I haven't posted much. Hope you're all OK. Sounds like some of you are gearing up for BFPs which is wonderful news, even if it's at the beginning of the cycle - waiting for your cycle to get back to normal must be a killer wait!

I just want to say, when I felt so low last month, coming on here was the best thing I could have done. You've humbled me with your bravery and courage and never losing hope. I could hug everyone of you. I know I haven't posted much so maybe I'm not as integrated as I could have been but you're all amazing women...what some of you have been through has truly humbled me.

I've no idea when AF is due. If things are back to normal it should be Thursday. Over the last two days I've had 5 BFPs. I am absolutely shit scared - of getting my hopes up, of it going wrong again, I'm too scared to hope. Last night I had some cramping and a tiny bit of spotting - all cleared up now. Could that be implantation? IF things are normal, I would be 11 DPO. But I've no idea when anything would have happened ovulation wise.

Hi zebra, don't lose hope, bfp's means it's the real thing a d I hope it's a sticky bean!

Your AF is due on the sane day as mine.. I have been getting bfn.. I'm hoping for a miracle. Hope we miss our AF !

Hi Zebra,
That's great news, it's the first step on the very long road to having a baby. You will worry - we all will, all we can do is hope this is the one we're meant to meet. Keeping everything crossed for you and try and do lots of things to keep your mind off thinking too much! Xx

Sounds good Zebra! Really hope it's a sticky one for you. I know it's hard but do try not to worry. The spotting is very likely to implantation. Fx for you my sweet

Zebra - this is great news - I am truly hoping this is the one this time! - THANK YOU for sending me here as well...

Marmaladecat1 - I am with you 100% - I am in a kind of similar situation right now. I've been having spotting every day now though, since 18th June (just over a week) and today it's still going on, maybe a little bit more in the morning but now it's still back to spotting and really when I wipe.

Cramping, emotional, tender boobs, bloated - all that JAZZ, really but not really AF?????!!!!

WHAT IS GOING ON WITH MY BODY?????

WHAT CD AM I ON???? I don't know how it all works after M/C - I've read all the info on the net but all I can gather is just the whole "sit and wait" approach which is killing me and I feel like a valuable time is wasted when I should be making babies !!!

I wish you all a VERY great luck Ladies!! It will happen!!

Devastated :(

Hi all

Apologies in advance for the me me me post but I just need to vent. I really feel hopeless.

I was due to go back to work today, one week from ERPC, for a few hours to see how I got on. Did not sleep at all last night and literally had a meltdown this morning. DH has been with me pretty much 24-7 for the last week, taking really good care of me and working from home but he was back to work today. Partly why I thought I'd go to work. After a bickering argument this morning which is completely unlike us, I literally have not stopped crying. My head feels like it's going to explode. Needless to say I've not gone in to work and have a Drs appointment tomorrow to get signed off for a bit longer.

I just feel broken. I thought I was dealing with it all really well but every time I'm on my own I can't keep it together. Should I be feeling better emotionally after a week? I hate taking time off work and really thought a week would be enough.

It's almost like I've been holding it together in front of family and DH but it's all a front because as soon as I'm on my my own, even just for 5 minutes, I lose it. It makes me feel like I'm going insane, being absolutely fine yesterday and then like a woman possessed today.

God, what a ramble, I'm so sorry.

zebra - hi there. I saw your posts on another thread a while ago. Keeping everything tightly crossed for you, it's so lovely to hear of all the bfp's after such devastating losses.

Hi belt I too cannot get my head round the AF after mc thing. I took a test last night and it's still very strongly positive. Does anyone know how long it takes to go back to being negative after ERPC. I'm only having minimal bleeding now and we want to ttc again soon (I'm not even sure I'll wait for my AF) - is that a bad idea?

Oneday am sorry for the quick post but am at work and don’t have long but I just had to reply. Am so so sorry you’re finding it hard and feeling low. It’s really horrible. Going through a miscarriage is just awful but also please don’t underestimate the power of hormones. I was exactly the same as you, I was supposed to go back to work a week after erpc and the day before I was due back I could not stop crying. Literally, could.not.stop. I’m sure the hormone crash had a lot to do with it. I too thought I was going mad and losing it. I wasn’t. It just so much to deal with. You WILL feel better, I promise. Not all at once, and some days worse than others. But you WILL feel better. Am sure your doctor won’t hesitate to sign you off for as long as you need.

oneday, I second what monten said. Things are so raw right now for you, you need to relax and take each day as it comes. There's no set timescale for you to have to recover - although tbh, I don't think we will ever heal emotionally - so it's really important you take as much time off as possible. I fell out with dh not long after my mc and it was just because of emotions and us both feeling our way around territory we'd never been in before. He's your strongest ally in all this shittiness (your dp, not mine ) so just keep talking and sharing. God, I sound so preachy, I don't mean it to be like that!! Xx

oneday I want to give you a massive hug. I'm now three and a half months on and can say it does get easier - you'll never forget and I'm not sure I'm ever going to not have that gut wrenching moment when I see pregnant friends or scan photos, but it does get easier. Don't be hard on yourself, you've lost a baby, you need time to cry and grieve and shout and get cross. I remember the first day my DP went back to work, I felt so horribly alone and wandered round the house like a crazy woman. I think you need to let yourself do this or whatever it is you need to do, it's all part of the grieving process. Your hormones are all over the place and you're going through a horrible, horrible time. Bless you - stay in touch - this forum kept me afloat for the first month after my mmc - and it still is! Big hugs in your general direction xx

OneDay I'm sorry you're still struggling. If you need more time off then take it, as others have said there is no set timescale for when you "should" feel better. For me, I felt ok quite quickly after my erpc was done and dusted, although I think I kind of just stuck my head in the sand and hoped I'd get pregnant again quickly. Since this hasn't happened I actually struggled a lot last cycle, so probably better to work through all your emotions now!

As for how long it takes to get a BFN after the erpc, I think for me it was about two and a half weeks, shortly before I got my first AF. I would wait with ttc again until you get a negative.