Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

[Justonemoretime]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

office the line was so faint (if it was there at all) that it wouldn't come out in a picture I'm sure. Will just have to wait and retest if AF doesn't arrive tomorrow or Tuesday.

Sorry for the me me me post btw, I hope all those who are feeling down today will feel better tomorrow. We all have good days and bad, and considering what we've all been through it's no wonder that we feel down a bit more often.

oneday I became really clingy too, I wanted dp in the same room with me at all times, id even sit in the bathroom while he showered (I did draw the line at letting him go to the loo himself ) its one of the reasons I ended up having 8 weeks off of work, I couldnt bare to be alone, which is not me at all Im usually the complete opposite and prefer time on my own.

Keeping everything crossed for you metal And you're allowed to post me me me stuff - well, I hope so anyway as I often feel that's pretty much all I do when I'm on here as it's the only place I can offload x

Defo oneday. Never been more pleased to crack open the Always

Just as storms change the landscape of the earth, our hardships change the landscape of the heart.

Fingers crossed for you metal

As for me I need mega fish slaps...just been on my old antenatal thread (why do I feel like nosing on there every couple of months?!?) am now sat sobbing over their pics of huge bumps and nurseries ready for babies :,( I was so excited to finally get a turn to do that stuff and buy it for my baby rather than someone else's :( now I am back at square one....grrrrrr life sucks sometimes.x

Oh carly I did the exact same the other day. Why do we do it??! Peed me off they were moaning about the heat and other wonders that are part and parcel of being pregnant in the summer. Ungrateful bastards. The majority were in that group tbf though! I know now that mc just rips every single shred of naivety from you and if I'm lucky enough to get upduffed again, I will never ever feel that wondrous, carefree or frankly ignorant ever again.

Oh carly . It's all so very hard.

It's the comments about not bothering with nuchal testing because 'whatever the outcome I would keep my baby' that really bother me. People only say that when they can't imagine getting a bad outcome. Like choosing to end a pregnancy because you're baby has a fatal condition is easy. It's the ultimate in naivety. I know because I was that person. Grrrr.

monten it most definitely is! and even as the months pass and the heart ache lessons! from the gut wrenching pain every minute of the day! it's still so very easy for something small to put you right back there :(

broody I know right? I was so excited I went to John Lewis at 5 weeks gone just to look at my longed for bugaboo (6 years of trying I deserved a posh pram right? Lol) and I was so excited when I got a bounty pack with a little hat in (one I would never have chosen myself) but was determined my baby would wear it just because it was the first thing I had for a baby that I didn't have to give to a friend :( I couldn't bear to throw it out it's tucked safely in a box in the loft with scan pics etc x

monten I think ppl say these things because they have never (and hopefully never will) have to face the things we all have. They still have their naïveté (hope that's spells what I want it too...:s) but seriously I think some ppl should be sensored with the stuff they say, my best one was the day I lost the baby "I know it took 6 years but at least u finally know u can get pregnant"...erm yeah great I will just wait another heart breaking 6 years shall I? And stop being sad and celebrate because I "finally know I can get pregnant"!!

And now feel like I wanna just walk out the house n never come back, tried to talk to DH and he has just broke my heart by not even knowing the day our baby was due??!! WTF!! How can he not know that? I am so mad, sorry for the language but...cunt!

Oh Carly, I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I agree the naivety is so frustrating, and the way some people just breeze through it just seems to run salt in your wounds, doesn't it?

Its difficult for OHs, mine doesn't know the due dates of our losses, he's not being malicious, he just isn't good with dates. I must confess that I don't know the due dates either, I know a rough time, but I blanked everything as a coping mechanism. Could he have done similar?

Smiling - grief IS all consuming - so sorry for yours and your family's losses

Oneday, so sorry you're here, good luck for tomorrow and try and make sure they write you up for Oramorph - made a world of difference between my two erpcs.

Metal - I really hope you get more clarity in the next few days

Ladies, I have confession, I got a BFP on Friday. I didn't want to shout about it as I know I'm new, and some of you are having really hard times. I'm lurching between "this one will work out" and "its going to go wrong again at 6/8/10/20 weeks". Am overanalysing every symptom, or more often, lack of symptoms.

Hello to everyone else

I think men (some/all/most) see things differently. I know you're angry, but try not to fight with your dh. He's your ally in this, even if his way of dealing doesn't include dates. I'm sorry to read that you're hurting so much. (Hugs)

Oh carly :(

It really does make you feel like you're going it alone doesn't it? My DH keeps saying it didn't feel real to him which is why he's not so upset.

Big hugs xxx

Thanks girls I am ok, just a rough evening :( daisy first huge congratulations! praying everything works out for you :) and thank you, I was so hurt when he didn't know the day just the month, but he is useless with dates and hearing that my hubby isn't the only man that didn't know has just made me feel so much better.

Where would we all be without each other and this page to vent on? Sorry girls and thanks again :) x

treacle it definately does! I get so angry still sometimes at how hubby grieved for 48 hours and then never seemed to look back where as I am still heartbroken 4 months on and have a little cry most days. However he has always been the positive look forward type, whilst I am the worrier. But it just feels a lot of the time like our baby didn't matter to him, which I know is so far from true but I can't help feeling it a lot of the time x

daisy congrats - that's fantastic! Everything's crossed for you. What is oramorph if you don't mind me asking?

carly am sorry you're feeling so low but I do think its different for them. He wasn't the one putting his lmp into the due date calculator, it's only natural the date doesn't mean that much too him. My DP def wouldn't know our dates.

virgo have been thinking of you, hope you're okay

So sorry Daisy, i missed your post. Congrats! :)

Sounds very similar to us carly, i worry and worry and DH just looks to the future.

I'm quite worried about trying again. Can't imagine not trying for a while though.

Thank you all

Monten - I meant liquid morphine, which I heard called oramorph (or something similar!) Made a real difference to me.

Another tip I've just remembered Oneday - if you have a mp3 player or something, consider taking an audiobook in with you. I felt I needed something to distract me afterwards but I wasn't awake enough to read.

treacle I am also worried about trying again! but also desperately want to be a mummy so am focusing all my energy on trying???reading that I think what I mean is I am terrified of getting pregnant again but want it more than anything in the world too?!? I guess I will cross that bridge if I ever come to it again x

It's all so hard isn't it? X

Definitely carly. I'm on cd11 and normally would have dtd three times by now. Haven't managed once. My vaginismus doesn't help but still.

I'm so nervous about going through it all again. Sorry to those who have already had multiple losses. I must sound so insensitive. It's hard to talk to DH about it though. He just says wait and see.

Aaahyes the drugs. Absolutely love the drugs.

I knew there was something I needed to tell you lot. Months ago I ordered some pregnacare vitamins with my ocado shop. Only the once. They've just sent me a free sample of baby moisturiser. You actually do have to laugh, otherwise you'd cry.

Treacle - so sorry about your worries, but you don't sound insensitive at all. I can't speak for other ladies with BFP but being nervous about going through it all again is spot on!

Hello, long time AWOL poster here (used to be Parsley2506). I just wanted to pop in to say hello, gutted to see so many names I recognise still here (waves to just, sebs, broody, carly, metal, office and english) and that there are so many new names. Especially sorry to hear of your MMC English - really gutted for you.

I hope everyone's bearing up ok! I just got through my EDD (and the spate of births for friends/family with roughly the same) and I survived! Still no bloody sign of another BFP 2 years and 3 months down the line since starting but we're back at the fertility clinic in a week so hopefully some plans from that appointment.

I just wanted to say that even tho I don't post here much anymore, I often think of you all and wish you all much happiness and health while we wait for our sticky beans (which WILL come!).

Awwww hi raindrops aka parsley nice to hear an update :) are you on a thread for long term ttc'ers...I need to join one lol x

treacle you definately don't sound insensitive! I think that what this is here for a safe and supportive place for us all to vent! I know I use it when I am having down days and just lurk on the good days! as it's the only place where I can speak freely! without being judged and to people who REALLY understand :) x