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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I know where you're coming from Carly, a friend who's 12 weeks pregnant was complaining about everything to me and I, quite insensitively, told her I would gladly spend every minute, of everyday hurling and never drink another coffee or hot drink again if it meant having my baby back. I then promptly burst into tears! They have no idea how lucky they are!

Congratulations Daisy! That's awesome news, I'm going to cross everything for you :)

Boozle, good for you. Mn featured my blog on just that topic on Thurs and I was inundated with messages from people agreeing/supporting etc.
Hello Rain, nice to hear from you.
I do love that we have created a 'safe space' to rant when we need to. We are true TTC warriors. X

Thanks daisy and carly.

I know exactly what you mean boozle. My one friend is nearly 8 months pregnant and is constantly moaning and ignoring me with the excuse "I'm really grumpy".

Um.. Yeah me too. Stop moaning!!!

Finally managed to dtd. So I'm in the running for a bfp this month if we keep it up.
Going to be a challenge. I'm sensitive, my vaginismus is really bad and DH is finding it all a bit overwhelming. Neither of us want to not try though.

Treacle I think you have the right approach, it's right to try but you have to go at the pace you can. I'm 7dpo here and avoiding symptom spotting for once due to crazy workload and simply no having time! My subconscious has other ideas however and I'm waking up from vivid dreams about getting a BFP... Agh.

Congrats daisy

raindrops, so lovely to hear from you. Hope you're keeping well xxx

treacle, I'd never heard of vaginismus before so just googled. Gosh, sounds very unpleasant Can imagine it would get you down. Look after yourself x

Just I just read your blog and it made me cry. You've written the inside of my head on paper!

Morning all, and congrats on your BFP Daisy!

Nice to hear from you parsley (or TheRain), I was wondering the other day where all the ladies who were on here when I joined had gone and if they'd all had their BFPs without me realising...

As for me, I poas again with FMU and nothing, not even a squinter, so whatever I saw yesterday must have been wishful thinking. Just hope AF hurries up now to put me out of my misery for this month. This makes one year of unsuccessful ttc for us.

Oh Metal I'm so sorry. It's so fucking hard to keep seeing BFNs. In my case seeing BFPs leads to nothing good either unfortunately. Such is life, keep trying, you will get there I'm sure.

I'm on 5dpo, AF due in 7 days time. I'm not convinced I ovulated as my peak sticks were pretty weak and I got some tacky cm after ov. I can't be bothered to take my temps anymore as it doesn't make me feel any better.

My partner commented that I don't seem to care so much about TTC anymore over the weekend. I think I still care, but as time goes on I am being more and more removed from the likelihood and things like retraining for a new career start to become more of a priority.

We will see. I didn't get through to the interview stage if one of the jobs I applied for, was really grateful for the email letting me know that as I know many places just let your application disappear into the ether.

I know exactly what you mean about job applications sebs, I had a phone interview for an internal role about a month ago and never heard back! So annoying.

Funny you should say that about a new career becoming more of a priority, I was having exactly the same thoughts at the weekend. I might seriously start looking into going back to uni next year, and if I'm not pregnant by then I think I will give up on the idea of DC2 and just focus on getting a career that I actually enjoy. At the moment I'm hating both my job and my life because of all the ttc stress, and I can't go on like this forever or I fear I will slip into depression again, which would be no good to anyone.

Morning ladies.

Daisy huge congrats - that's fab news!!! Don't ever worry about sharing your news. It gives us hope.

Carly I know exactly how you feel and how upsetting it all is, I went to a wedding at weekend and was sat on table with a clearly newly pregnant woman. She kept holding her tummy, didn't touch her glass of wine and didn't eat her pannacotta pud. In fact me and DP overheard her DP say. " you can't eat that can you? ". Made me so jealous!!!

treacle really glad you are DTD again - I know it must have taken a lot to get to that point.

English smiling boozle and everyone else, hope we are all doing ok today.

Well AF has left the building and we've started DTD buy I admit, I am bricking it about trying again. The fear that my body won't know what it's doing, the fear of how gutted I'd be if it didn't work and AF appears and also if we are lucky enough to catch but the same happens again.

But all we can do is DTD and tomorrow morning I will be cracking open the clear blues. It says I need to start on CD7 which is tomorrow.

Come on eggs - do your stuff!!!!

Congratulations daisy - really excited for you, i hope you have a healthy pregnancy.

The women who complain have no idea how blessed they are, to be honest i was very ignorant myself and used to complain when i used to get really tired during first trimester. I would do anything to have those symtoms again.

Metal, what job do you do? if TTC is stressing you out, take it easy on yourself, one day at a time. I hope you find a job that you enjoy.

I feel down everytime I come to work, the summer term at school is nearly over, I would've been expecting in Oct and these are the days I should have been enjoying and looking forward to not going back to work in the sept term. Theres a olleague who is expcting in Nov - i'm dreading to see her bump aroud school.. unless I fall pregnant before that.....

THIS IS SO HARD.

The only thing getting me through this is the BFP's i see appearing on this chat!

I agree Hope - every single BFP I see on this thread gives me hope that it can happen again

Morning ladies,
A tough day yesterday for me. Really sad and down about my reality.
I think it's because I started spotting. I had AF for 4 x days last week then nothing. Randomly yesterday CD 8 I spotted and again today. Anyone had this first cycle post erpc. Also on my cbfm I am up to 2 x bars - cd 9. Really confused about it all??? Can you ovulate and spot at the sane time. I am cautious about the acuracy of cbfm for first few cycles so going to dtd every other day, it's just the spotting that's made me down I guess.
Oh and the fact I had to send baby girl flowers at work for a colleague. Booooo!

just I tried to find the virgin giving page but couldn't find it.

Lou my first cycle after ERPC I had a normal ish AF then on cd 10 or 11 started to bleed pretty badly again for 3-4 days. Never really discovered why and I found I weirdly upsetting, which I guess was hormones. Also possibility of womb lining being stick quite thick apparently. I thought it was ov bleeding but actually didn't on until much later, cd 25 or so.

littlelady thanks! This has really upset me for some reason but feel a little better now. I guess it's the unbearable thought of POAS in two weeks and seeing bfn. X

Sorry ladies for bombardment! Following first AF post erpc (for those that had one), what cd did all of you ovulate on?
I am driving myself bonkers today and preggas lady bump at work is practically touching my arm

Lou I ovulated cd16 after AF. I usually have a 30-32day cycle

Lou I ovulated around the same time as pre-mc, which for me is CD19-21, so was back to my usual cycles pretty quickly.

How annoying about the pregnant lady at work. At least that's one advantage I have working from home; not sure how I would cope with seeing a bump everyday, so you have my full sympathy.

AF now in full swing here btw, I'm already chilling the wine for tonight!

metal good to see AF is here and wine is out!!
If it wasn't for this forum I'd be out of control today. Usually a bit of spotting mid cycle wouldn't affect me but now it's just all too consuming. Here's hoping my 2 bars on cbfm is a true indicator that ov will happen this month

Hi

Aww, Boozle, thanks! Sorry to make you cry.x
Lou, here it is uk.virginmoneygiving.com/RossisRiding, and thank you :)
Sorry to read about all the RL pg bombs going on. Would you believe I even saw one at the swim (spectator, obviously), and a bit of my brain went 'hrumph, grumble grumble' even though I had much more pressing things to focus on, like my 2 mile swim... I think I'm a bit hard wired to notice them now.
I think if I don't get pg I might complete my MA, started a few years ago and left at a post grad cert. Or maybe I'll get an expensive hobby!
Sorry to hear so many still feeling down. Hope you turn a corner soon. X

Enjoy the wine metal! I'm abstaining almost completely in this 2ww which is a whole lot of fun during the World Cup. Anyone going to poas this Friday?

Thank you Lou. Xx