Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

You know after my first miscarriage I was so certain the next pregnancy would work out and id had a scan and it was all fine, so I signed up to all those parenting club and kiddo are emails and I didn't unsubscribe and I get all these emails and have this urge to still buy baby stuff and then feel all rubbish because I really can't. I don't know what I'll do when (if) I get pregnant again. The thought of going to tell the doctors again, more scans, filling out all the paperwork for the midwife, going through all that preparing possibly for nothing again is just horrible. How does everyone else deal with this? I am really desperate to have my baby but i am so scared to do it all AGAIN.

I mean, I know I am fortunate in that I have a daughter but at the moment all I can believe is that I lose more pregnancies than I keep. You have to be very brave I guess.

Treacle I had exactly the same. In fact at the end of my first period with my first mc I had sudden cramps and passed quite a lot if black clotty material. After that everything went back to normal.

I think I'm 1dpo now girls. Had my second reflexology appointment yesterday and she said my left ovary felt different, so we think I could have ovulated from that side. The sex has been great and well timed. We used softcups straight after and hip raised and last night I used conceive plus lube. Only thing I forgot to do was use cough medicine this cycle but I think my EWCM was good enough on it's own.

Fingers crossed for those who wander into the 2ww together xx

Hugs Redbunny That's so hard, I really feel for you. I don't think anyone ever really expects things to go wrong, and when they do, and you become in that situation you've heard others go through...it's a shock. I can't quite grasp we're having so many issues.

Broodylicious yes I remember you too - in Parenting, wasn't it? So sorry to see you here too.

I'm still in the MN group from the antenatal thread from when I had DS. So many women in that group and so many of them pregnant again, talking about being super fertile. They don't mean to be insensitive and would be mortified if they knew I felt like this but it makes me feel like absolute shit. I did NOT expect it to be like this.

Sebs - does reflexology work for you. I'm interested in it. Thoughts?
Ladies, after my pregnant woman extravaganza yesterday I am pleased to announce this mornings results...
2 x preggas women walking from tube to office
1 x email welcoming their baby girl to the world.

Lol lou

Lou, you win. I got two scan photos text to me and one pregnant lady. I am currently looking at early response pregnancy tests when I am supposed to be planning Fantastic Mr Fox enters the Tour de France... Need to focus but can't! Argh!

Boozle - lol!!!
I am a PA and will no doubt be nominated to send said baby a welcome to the world bouquet. If I didn't laugh about all of this I would be sinking!!!!
Do the 2 x scan photo senders know your situation?
I forgot to mention my next door neighbour is pregnant. I hear her moaning daily about her v veins. Oh and her best friend is a midwife. I hear tales from the garden most weekends about how many she brought into the world this week. Any other angles they can come at me from!!!

Lou - re. Reflexology I have no idea!!! There is anecdotal evidence that it can help. But to me I am just getting my feet tickled for an hour. It makes my face itch weirdly and apparently no one else has said that to her lol. So I am weird.

I know it's not a Friday, but I got sick of waiting for AF and Poas and I got a BFP.

I didn't think I ovulated this month as opk's were negative. But I did have a small amount of EWCM. I only think I'm 5wks so still a long way to go.

The sticks I used were passed on by a lovely lady on this thread and she said they were lucky for her as they have been for me. If I managed to get to have a successful 12wk scan I will be passing the luck on to whoever wants it.

Congratulations virgo x

next person that asks me how many children I have/when im planning on having children/did I wait to have children or says your not getting any younger you know, is getting a slap

7 people today have made one of those comments; wibu to tell the next one to fuck off?

Virgo congrats ?? I have everything crossed for you!!!

Gritted teeth. I can come and help out with the slaps! That really sucks. It's such a rude intrusive question to ask. I would tell them to naff off!
I remember when I decided to tfmr. I took my maternity dresses back to the shop. "What's the reason for return madam". I almost punched her.

lou its such an intrusive question and it bloody hurts

ok on school run, I can see.....

9 pregnant women
3 newborns

And just passed 1 heavily pregnant women smoking

can I cry now

Me and the hub got asked it at the bank last week. "How many kids do you want, when do you want them" I was jovial but if was KILLING me inside. Sometimes I feel it would be easier if everyone knew.
Smoking lady would drive me over the edge. I'd probably unleash all sorts of verbal abuse at her.
Try not to be sad. We already have one bfp today. Just try to smile a little bit. X

I am a fitness instructor by night/morning/lunch. If you are physically ok, I suggests you put some music on and just let loose and DANCE. Sweat and endorphins! I feel so uplifted after class - it really helps!

Congrats Virgo!!

Virgo massive congratulations! Crossing all my fingers and toes for a sticky bean. Roll on the 12 week scan.

I just can't shake this depression. I'm in such a grump. Poor DS is beginning to go through a rough time being frustrated and he's still pre-verbal and gets really frustrated really easily..but I just have no patience. I did some handstands and he was cute trying to copy me but I just can't cheer myself up.

Hoping blindly that whatever happened three weeks ago - chemical pregnancy or miscarriage? - that it wasn't enough to put a big blip on my cycle. I definitely had EWCM on Monday and we DTD Saturday, Sunday and Tuesday. But who knows. I'm sorry if all this talk of DS is upsetting for anyone yet to have a baby. It must seem so ungrateful :(

Zebra - it doesn't sound ungrateful. It was only three weeks ago. If I think back three weeks I was a mess. Just take each day by day. I was 4 months gone when I had to tfmr and almost 6 weeks has passed since. The first two weeks were a daze of tears and sadness. I am still sad today, but I'm a little less sad than yesterday. That's the way I have pulled myself through this.

zebra just because you have a son doesnt mean you cant be upset about losing your baby x

Congrats Virgo that's amazing news!!!!!

Zebra, I don't have a dc yet but I would never think that it matters you have a son. Losing a baby is devastating whatever your circumstances xx

Comgratulations Virgo! I hope you have a happy pregnancy!

Thanks ladies, I hope you all get your BFP's soon.

waves Reappearing after a little break.

Lots of spikey trays conform that my hcg is stuck at around 45 a good month after my mc (two day betas showed no movement, going back to check again in a week).

My miscarriage was very early, so confused why I am holding on to it so much.

Anyone got any ideas? Either for the cause or something I can do to keep sane until I can ttc again?

Wow, this moves so fast!

Virgo - congratulations! !!!

Mrs Gingerbread, I hope you get some answers soon

Zebra - please don't apologise, it's not ungrateful at all. I feel similar and get angry when people say "at least you've got dd". Well yes, maybe, but that doesn't ease the pain for the babies I've lost. My mumsnet group have decamped to book face and most of them have dc2 by now, it is shit, yes.

Sorry if I've missed anyone out!

Lou - i know how you feel, we've been buying a new car and everyone wants to know when we're having more kids because of the car seats, upsetting at times.

Smiling - I'd tell them to fuck off too!

Virgo, that's amazing news! Congratulations!

I ordered a load of pregnancy tests from amazon today, fingers crossed one will turn up with a bfp - although I've never had less pregnancy symptoms so I think I'm being mildly delusional! Xx