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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Congrats Virgo, I hope you have a sticky one this time.

Anyone going to poas tomorrow? I was going to, but don't think I'll bother now as I know it would be too early anyway. AF not due until Mon/Tue. No signs of being upduffed either. [sigh]

Congrats Virgo!!!

Sorry to hear about all the insensitivity some of you ladies are being subjected to :(

Zebra you've got nothing to feel bad about at all xx

And yep in POAS too. Not even going to pretend I'm not. I showed positive on tests from 9dpo with the two recent mcs. Still insane. I may have six frers on my counter just waiting to be opened. I definitely have a problem!!

Unfortunatly my happiness was short lived, I woke up to light spotting this morning. I this is so fucking unfair.

Oh Virgo, that is so so unfair. Huge hugs to you

Virgo, so sorry. Could it be implantation spotting? Fx it is and you're ok. Xx

oh no virgo I really, really hope it is just the bean settling in and getting comfy.

I'm back to trying to be very zen about ttc. Trying to tell myself if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, well I will just book a fuck off massive holiday somewhere exotic next year. So either way I will have something to look forward to.

mrsgingerbread have you had a scan to confirm there is nothing left lurking in your uterus? It does seem a very long time to still have HCG after an early mc. When I mc at 5-6 weeks I was back to negative tests within a week which seems fairly "normal" going by the many millions of websites I have read on the subject. Maybe push for further investigations next week when you go back?

Finally, good luck to anyone brave enough to POAS today, and THANK FUCK it's Friday!!!

Oh virgo I'm sorry that must be terrifying. But spotting really doesn't mean it's definitely all over, not at all. Still very worrying. Is it too early for a scan at the EPU?

Yes it's too early for a scan I think I'm only 5wks. I'm going to try get a GP appt in a little and see if they can do some blood tests. My not really sure what else to do. I don't really have any symptoms either so it's all filling me with dread.

Oh Virgo I'm so sorry. Can you self refer to epu? Or emergency gynae?

Virgo, really hope all is well. When I was preg with DS I got my positive on the Fri then had spotting Sat and Mon. Went to gp who referred me for a scan 10 days later and we saw a little heart beat- there is hope so don't be too despondent yet.
Good luck to every one else who is POAS. I'm going to chicken out and wait for AF. I find AF less disappointing than a 'not pregnant,' Happy Friday to everyone else x x

Virgo, that sucks but it could be ok - I spotted the first month of my pregnancy so didn't POAS, turns out I was 16 wks at first scan not 12. I would go and see doc asap, to do blood test. I can't imagine the anxiety you feel. I am rooting for you!! Let us know xx

I POAS stick, for my CBFM and whereas before I used to loathe doing it, I found myself doing a happy dance as it means I can move forward into cycle one post tfmr. One bar on monitor lets hope it's three by next week!

Morning ladies... this is going to be mammoth. Sorry in advance.

Sorry you're spotting Virgo, hopefully its just some implantation spotting and will only result in a nice comfy, healthy bean.

After reading back, it saddens me to see some of you are working with some really insensitive and unsupportive bosses!! Mine have been fabulous.. I knew they would be.
For me the first mc (natural) was infinitely worse than this one. I was so excited and confident from day one - naturally I'm ever the optimist. But as some of you may remember I was a mess. 3 friends announced their pregnancies not long after I'd mc'd - all due within days of when I'd have been. This time (mmc) although I feel sad, I'm not so lost. I hadn't allowed myself to believe I was pregnant ifykwim. I was holding back a bit, scared that I may be setting myself up for an even bigger fall.

I'm just hoping beyond hope that my cycles kick back into gear quickly. My nurse said that sometimes with a natural mc they take longer to settle. I'm hoping with my erpc booked for Wednesday, thy may get back to normal quicker than they did last time.
My nurse at epu has been so lovely, when I left her on Wwednesday she gave me a big hug and said she hoped to see me again soon with some good news. I'm to ask for an early scan at 7-8 weeks next time.

I'm back in Amsterdam at the moment. Its my 30th on Tuesday and back in December when DH and I thought we'd be living out here for far longer than we planned he arranged for a load of my friends to come out and surprise me. Surprise backfired on Wednesday... but I'm excited to see everyone. Not Amsterdam so much!!

Sending big hugs to those who need them

virgo that's a good idea, they can tell far more from hcg levels than a scan at this stage. Wishing you all the luck in the world.

english really hope the erpc goes well. I found my body returned to normal very quickly, altho I did bleed for at least a week both times.

I've woken up very sad. I just want my baby. Broody is not the right word but in the absence of any other I am just consumed by broodiness. I find newborns as hard as seeing pregnant women. It's like a yearning, right in my chest.

Count for me: 2x pregnant women this morning.

Good luck to everyone poas-ing.

English I hope you cycles get back to normal after erpc. I was 16wk and bled for 16 days then AF came after 5 weeks post erpc which is good considering I was quite far along. I too had an amazing nurse and staff and also supportive bosses. Reading some of the horror stories makes me feel sad

Monten - I get really sad sometimes and newborns are really tough to be around. Tbh, if I see one I head the other way, if there is one in a coffee shop, I leave. A friend at work had IVF and miscarried her twins at 10 weeks. She has two boys now both IVF and she gave me some advice. She said MC is beyond sad and it's extremely difficult. She told me though never to lose sight that the goal is to be a mummy and it will happen. Obviously this may not have relevance for those with children already, or it might, not sure. I have found this helps though. Whilst I take each day by day, I don't really think about today and what I haven't got as it is just so sad. I try to be hopeful about the future and what is to come. For my angel that didn't make it, just typing it makes me well up, but I know he/she is in the right place and looking down in peace for a reason.

I am working from home today so hopeful it will be 0 x pregga spots!!

The doctor wouldn't do HGC tests he said as I'm not sure about dates (by dates I should be 7 wks, by my obversations I think I'm 5wks). It could give me false hope and not tell us anything. He said to monitor it during the day if it gets worse or I have any cramps to ring back and he will refer me to the EPU. If anything changes over the wkend he said I should ring the out of hours number. So basically I'm playing the waiting game.

Forgot to add he also said it might be nothing to worry about.

I'm hoping it is this but I feel like I'm in limbo.

fingers crossed virgo I am really hoping for you

Oh Virgo I'm so sorry to hear you have this worry. It definitely could be implantation and nothing to worry about, praying that's the case.

I know with my successful pregnancy I had a 50p black stain on my pants at about 10dpo, tested and got my BFP. Then no more blood accept once after we had had sex. With my unsuccessful clinical pregnancy I had spotting around the time my period would have started. It cleared up but then to be honest I started getting a tan discharge a week later that never really got any better etc etc. my understanding is a bleed around the time AF would have appeared is really common, then Progesterone kicks in again and it goes away.

Lou - I think that's exactly how I take things. Day by day. Trying to concentrate on the idea that I will be a mummy one day. I don't want to dwell on things too much. Sadly by being here I've come to realise how incredibly common mc is. It makes me feel less isolated.
I just think all my pg friends have no idea how incredibly lucky they are. I think until you've suffered the heart ache that is mc or infertility you take pregnancy for granted. Never did I ever imagine I'd have one, let along two mcs. When I do get my sticky one, I will treasure every moment of pregnancy, embrace any vomit, tiredness, ache and pain. I will not moan once. Because right now i'd give my left arm (and probably my right too) to have my head wedged down the loo throwing up my brekkie.

Will keep everything crossed for you Virgo, try to stay positive.

english I definitely believe that too. Awful as this is, it has brought DP and I closer together and we are so very aware now how lucky we are, in other regards. When I look back to my first pregnancy, I was pregnant for three months and spent so much time feeling sorry for myself for being unwell. I certainly was completely naive and took it totally for granted. Hopefully I wont make the same mistake again hopefully.

Lou you're right, I know I just need to stay positive and patient. But I'm almost 37 - I feel like time is running out. I know I'm not THAT old, but I'm not young either. I just hope it happens quickly.

Bleeding stopped a few days ago, had a negative pregnancy test a week ago, ladies - I may be ready to start again. Going to order some OPKs today - bring.it.on.

english Monten I took it for granted too. I didn't slow down, was doing two jobs and constantly moaning about being tired. I LONG to feel that tired again!! I have already cut my spin and pump classes from teaching 7 to 3. I am qualified to teach Ante and Post natal but reluctant to even bend down next time!!

I am 35 1/2 so know what you mean about the OLD word. You definitely feel like there is a limit. I try and put it to the back of my head and focus on the fact that we all did get pregnant so at least that bit works. I know a girl that at 39 1/2 is missing part of her ovaries and is on her first and last chance of IVF. When I think about her I feel lucky. Weird I could go through what I have and feel lucky .

Do any of you ladies use the CBFM? I would highly recommend if not. Yep, it is expensive and the sticks cost £20 per month but it worked for us cycle 2.

virgo handholding from me xxx

ginger I'd push for bloods and scans if poss. I bled for 12 weeks after my mc and although my pregnancy tests read not pregnant, the docs found a piece of baby still inside me which was the cause of the continuing bleed.

I too am 35 so I've got the fear of being a bit old for this game now. Although, an old boss of mine had her first at 42 and DH's SIL is due dc2 in September (around what should've been my edd, naturally!) and she's going to be 40 soon. Hope for us yet, ladies!

Im keeping everything crossed for you virgo x

Came home yesterday to discover that the letting agent had decided to stage the house for the perspective tenants that she was showing around, was mildly pissed off when I walked in to discover the shoe rack was missing but was devestated when I walked into the kitchen to find a yellow rose with 2 buds in a glass on the table

she had taken them from my beautiful charlotte rose, the one we bought as a memorial for our baby, the one that we had planned on cutting the first rose off of and pressing it to put it in the box with the scan pictures.

she hadnt even fucking cut it she had just ripped it off

grittedteeth That is awful