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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I need a slap, I've just POAS and no surprise, it's BFN.

Why I thought it would be a BFP I've no idea. It's only been 3 wks since my MC. I've just feeling exhausted, peeing a lot and have quite a lot of discharge and felt quite wet (sorry waaaay TMI) which were same symptoms I had when got BFP.

I guess it was hope desperation that made me do it

Have just had a read and a catch up. Am still stopping at the insensitivity of some people in real life - i feel so sorry you have to face this. Having a newborn shoved into my arms whilst mum said midwives complimented her for doing it all so easily. Ffs.

Onto stats:

Dd 2.8
3 mcs between April 2012 and April 2013, 2 mm, 1 twin pregnancy

Referral to St Marys showed no cause but hyperparathyroidism study did. Currently waiting for endocrinologist referral to discuss next steps. Oh and on vit D treatment as levels through the floor.

Massive hugs and a tiny sardine slap for brummie.

smiling I'm so sorry. It's so fucking heartbreaking isn't it? And exhausting. Allow yourself to be bloody sad and hacked off for a few days and then before you know it it will be ov time again. Every month is a new month.

I am so sad and tearful today. I basically woke up and started crying. Really sad about my dad, he does four years ago next month and I miss him so much, we were very close.

So I know I've had a miscarriage and it's not surprising I feel sad but I feel very unlike myself and am starting to think it's these antibiotics I am on. Metronidazole. Anyone else been on them? Have been reading stuff I lime and it seems I am not the only one who has experienced very unpleasant side effects. Dizzy, sick, vacant, depressed, and very very tearful. I really want to stop taking them.

he died FFS

No slap for brummie, just hugs.

My stats- I'm 28, TTC #1 since Sept 13, although had an MMC and SMM in February and then a break til mid-May. Never got any idea when to test as my periods are so irregular, it's not unusual to not see AF for 5 months, so trying to think positive!

My DSIL is due to give birth in about a month, which is a month before my old DD which sucks for me!

brummie, don't bear yourself up about it. We all want it so much.

monten, sorry to hear about your dad. Hope you've had lots of looking after today.

I've been quite down today. Dreading being observed tomorrow but in a way want it over and done with.

monten I was on those antibiotics and was really ill on them, my gp told me to take half a tablet instead of a whole one, I was fine on that.

im a big snotty, red eyed mess, I just cant stop crying its so bloody unfair.

Its the fact im 3 days early which has thrown me I was gearing myself up for wednesday, to start today when im never early has side swiped me and I feel broken.

I want my baby, I want to be pregnant, I want another baby and I want life to stop being so fucking cruel and unfair!

Sorry that was a bit ranty

Not at all smiling , we feel your pain. That is why like a loser I POAS on a Sunday afternoon 3 wks after a mc.

What was I thinking??!!!!!

Now I just want my AF to be here, so I can get passed it, go and spend a fucking fortune on clearblue dual thingy opk's so we can DTD and try and be pregnant again.

I was pregnant and now I'm not and its so horrible and shit and unfair.

We will get through this, we will feel better, we will get our BFP and our little beans will stick.

Maybe it's because it's Fathers Day we all feel shit. Too many happy pics on fb. I love my Dad dearly (and he'd be so upset if he knew how upset I was) but I wanted to be saying to DP "it'll be your turn next year"

Big hugs and large glass of vino to everyone

Not even vino for me!!! Oh well, I'll have a large mug of fucking tea.

You're not ranting smiling it is shit.

We were pregnant and now we're not and it's fucking shit.

I'm really enjoying the swearing.

Fuck.

I agree. It's all shit.

No wine for me either. Preparing for my lesson obs. Ugh.

Monten, there's fucking tea? Got to get me some of that...! ;)

Yep there is, pour yourself a mug of fucking tea everyone and we'll all have big fat BFPs quicker than you can say fuckity fuck

Now thats why I love mn, even though I feel shit youve all made me smile, big squeezy hugs to you all x

Was about to say I love a good fuck... Which is highly inappropriate and not what I meant!! In fact what I actually meant was I love good old swearing rant.

Keeping up at the back?

I've not even had wine tonight, but I have scoffed a packet of fruit gums AND a packet of squashies. Can feel the sugar and E number high!!!

Big fat BFP's coming our way

Hugs to everyone today - after my MC started on Mothers Day I was dreading history repeating itself today, I didn't want Fathers Day to be ruined for DH.

We took DD to the park and she promptly drove into the back of my (bare) heel with her scooter which was agonising pain. Left me feeling exhausted and feeble so spent the afternoon on the sofa under a blanket with DD while DH had to do some work.

Not a fun Fathers Day for him...but the 'feeling exhausted and lying under a blanket' sensation is definitely 'early pregnancy' for me. Any symptom is good, even if I feel shattered.

Fingers crossed for us all there will be happy Fathers Days and Mothers Days ahead xx

Haha brummie!

Well cd3 of bleeding and it's calming slightly. Af would normally be a few days longer. Let's see what tomorrow brings.

Will be starting to dtd as soon as af goes. I'm nervous :/

Don't be nervous treacle

I've found DTD actually really comforting in a strange kind of way.

Thanks brummie, I'll just have to go for it and see I guess :)

Fuck, fuck, fuckity fuck and bollocks. I rather like swearing, it makes my mood slightly better...

Treacle I found dtd after my miscarriage made me nervous too - wine helped. Lots of lovely fucking wine! Good luck for your lesson obs today. I work in a school too (I think there's a few of us on here) so know the pressure to be at work and functioning normally is huge, not to mention the lack of cover for your job if you are absent. But if you are not coping, get signed off again if you think it will help. I think you need to put yourself first. Screw sports day!

I have no idea where in my cycle I am. Officially on day 25 but my temps have been a bit all over the place this month. Although I've forgotten to measure it a couple of times, and had lots of really bad nights "sleep" so probably not accurate anyway. Didn't manage to get a +ve opk mid-cycle either. My last 3 cycles have been 23 days, 20 days and 26 days. Pre mc I was usually 30 days like clockwork. Who knows what the fuck is going on! I will be POAS on Friday if no af before then.

Thanks office. That's the thing isn't it, having no cover if you're off.

Ill let you know how it goes... not got much hope as I haven't put a lot of thought into it.

Treacle completely understand but agree with others that if you're ready it can be very comforting and make you feel normal again. My cycles are clearly still crazy but had a positive opk last night and ewcm this morning! We dtd on Sat and will tonight - ladies in your (vast!) experience we should probably try through this week?

Looks like AF is finished today so shall be back to ttc again. I found last month I felt really positive after ovulation because I had hope. However it was for nothing. Now I'm just scared of it not working AGAIN! My doctor on Thursday said it's a little odd as I've gotten pregnant immediately before but I'm not now, but perhaps this tissue left was acting as a sort of contraceptive. So.... I'm hoping that was the case. But I still feel very worried somehow too!