Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Welcome daisy. Yep you're right with the old baby bomb online. I'm a total social media whore (I blame my job!) so if it's not scan pix on fb, it's gorgeous newborns on Instagram! I suppose it's pot calling the kettle black though as I do post a lot of pix of my dd (just ask tannyloo!)

My stats - 35, east mids, ttc #2, mc feb 27 at 12 weeks. Bled for 12 weeks afterward mc until a procedure four weeks ago. I'm waiting for first AF to show up then will be bonking like mad

I only put photos of my cats on fb.... Nothing wrong with that.... Oh dear....

Lol just you did make me laugh with your "mad cat lady" comment! Glad you found her btw, can imagine it'd be mega stressful xx

For all Facebook woes - does everyone know about 'unfollow'? Go onto someone's page and then unfollow them. Means none of their updates appear on your page. But they don't know that.

Is anyone watching the World Cup? I quite like football. Also enjoying Thierry 'homina' Henry on BBC1 coverage.

Stats...

Age: 35
ttc#2 since Jan 2013
Concieved Jan 2014
MMC March 2014 at 12 weeks scan baby measured 7 wks, AF 4 weeks after ERPC.

Currently waiting for AF, OPKs all negative this month currently on CD45.

Went to DH family BBQ today, haven't seen them for over 2 years. There was a girl there who is due 2 weeks before my EDD. Brought it all back to me also she was drinking heavily I just wanted to scream at her. It's so unfair.
To top it all off her mum (someone I'd never met before) asked if we were going to have a brother or sister for our DS "because he needs one" those were her exact words. DH replied maybe one day, I just wanted to say I had a MMC as that would have shut her up but didn't as we were surrounded by lots of people.
I hate that question, why do people feel the need to ask especially when they don't know you?

Hi everyone signing in. Started miscarriage last week was 10 weeks but baby had died at 7 weeks.
Ended up back at A&E yesterday after waking up in a horrific mess, had a scan and hopefully coming to end of the bleeding so can move on and be positive!
Just been to a BBQ and had my first drink!
Am def using the unfollow button on Facebook!

Stats
TTC no 2 since Sept 2013. Miscarriage June at 9/10 weeks but baby measured 7.
I'm 34,
Manchester

My babies... :)

Aaah virgo I'm with you on that. I've never ever asked anyone if they were thinking of having a baby/second baby, even before I had dd and mc, because it's so personal - how can you know what someone is going through, what their circumstances are? I had a similar dreaded question thrown at me today at my nephew's 3rd birthday party ("will you have another?") I just said that sadly I'd recently mc but maybe one day we'd be lucky enough to have another. It was my sister's friend and I could tell she felt really bad for asking once she heard my response but I'm doing the open and honest thing because since it's happened, I just can't sensor my feelings or actually think before I talk

I'm scared of cats, dogs, any animal that's hairy !! But in loving your cats eyes haha. Ah people will always ask questions no matter what. If you don't have a child why aren't you pregnant yet? If you have one why don't you have another!? Seriously...

I don't think my hubby is in the mood but have to dtd I will force him if I have to haha I think I'm going crazy after mc. My friends sister just gave birth to a baby girl an hour ago, god bless!

monten yep love my footy so I shall be tuning in later for the big match. Might have a little sleep beforehand though - normally, I'm in bed for 10pm!

Netherlands v Spain - epic match!

Yes april was a shit month hope

my erpc was on my cousins 16th birthday

I know what you mean about people asking, I've had so many random people ask if we're going to try. I'm like "I've just had a miscarriage!"
Maybe I should just say that.

Just text my best friend to see how she is (she's 31 weeks pregnant), she replied saying "not great with sickness, heat and being at work, u?"

I give up talking to people. They just annoy me! She rarely asks how I am, and if I tell her she says oh well you can try again. The other day she text me to say someone we were at school with has had another baby (her 5th).
People do not think before they talk do they?

Heartless people

Stats:
Age 37
DD born Apr 2012
TTC #2 since Feb 2014
MC Apr 2014, 9 weeks but fetus only measured 5-6 wks.

Tried again in May 2014 & now have BFP but not done anything about it yet. Slightly in denial I think.

But I do begin to wonder...today I felt so tired I had a little catnap when DD had her sleep, and that's not like me at all!

just they are gorgeous and just like mine! Mine are sisters, one is very fat and looks every day of her 8 years, the other is very skinny and looks like a kitten. She's thick as a brick tho, god gives with one hand and takes with another ....

I'm sorry treacle, people really don't think do they? I think unless it's happened to you, people have no idea what it is like and expect you to be over it quickly.

I agree people asking is SO rude. I'm also in the telling people club. It's a very personal decision but I do think there is something unhealthy about society's expectation that we don't talk about pregnancy before 12 wks so that if it goes wrong no one ever needs to know! Odd if you think about it. The bad thing about people knowing is that they then know you're trying, which is annoying.

If anyone else is watching the Uraguay match - one of the players just celebrated a goal by putting ball up his shirt and doing thumb sucking motion. Can't even watch the fecking football without being reminded of fecking pregnant women!

Age 26
Ttc no2
BFP dec 2013 natural miscarriage at 5+4
BFP Feb 2014 mmc at 11+2
On third cycle since.... What happened to being extra fertile after a miscarriage??!!

I got so fed up with people asking me all the time that now I just tell them I need to stop having miscarriages first. And it does make them feel awkward but with any luck they will be more careful what they ask other people....!

I just tell people ive had a miscarriage, I dont actually care if it makes them feel awkward it makes me feel better to a) acknowledge that my baby existed and b) that im not having to pretend what theyve said hasnt upset me.

I also think miscarriage is something we should talk more about, ive been horrified by the reaction other people have had, especially that I should have been back to 'normal' and back to work in 2 weeks. I took 8 weeks off and decided (with the help of my counsellor) that its other peoples problem if they dont understand why not mine.

just your cats are gorgeous

Thanks :) they are not related, we had two littermates but poor Machiavelli got run over, so we got another kitten for company. They don't get on as well as this pic suggests...

I am also 'out and proud'; it is part if me, I won't deny it. I am totally against the 12 week silence. Intolerably cruel, just when you need support the most, especially from an RMC perspective, but for all our babies who existed and who we loved. #breakthetaboo (Ok, I know that doesn't work on here...)

Thanks everyone, nice to know it's not just me who thinks it's unreasonable.

smiling, I'm considering having more time off work.
Really not doing too well at the moment. I don't think I shouldve gone back but after 2 weeks back don't think I can have more time off.

Also, alongside my af (I think it is), i have sharp pain on my ride side down low by my hip/public bone.
DH says it's fine but im worrying. Can't be anything sinister can it?

Its probably wind :) I'm sure you're fine. If it becomes black out painful, seek help. But try to relax. I get random pains all the time. X