Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

English glad that you were able to see someone and hope the scan soon can put your mind at rest. Metal I'm so sorry the witch got you. I'm still waiting over here.... Thanks for the advice ladies I'm going to give it a go. My nearest clinic is in a crazily expensive area of North London but actually prices compare quite well. If anyone has any particular recommendations though do let me know!

Hi ladies, can I join? I've been lurking a lot after an early miscarriage on 7 May, I was 5+3 only but still feel quite shaken after it but this thread has been a real help. I've read all 627 messages!

Did a pg test this morning and it was negative. Just hoping now that my cycles will return to normal as time is against me. I'm ttc#3 since Christmas.

So sorry to read all your stories I really hope there are some more bfps soon, you all really deserve it. Also fx that the recent bfps will stick.

x

Hi wilting and welcome. Sorry to read your story hope your stay here is short

English my scan is at 8 weeks. Fingers crossed for you that you get to a clear scan

Welcome and sorry for your loss wilting.

Good luck with your scans ellis and english, I hope it all goes well for you both!

I really can't concentrate on work today... can't wait to crack open the wine tonight. Just feeling very sorry for myself today.

At least I've been cheered a bit up by a thread I started on the parenting forum when I was feeling all doom and gloom this morning about the ever-growing potential age gap between DD and DC2. Lots of lovely ladies replied with stories of 5+year gaps working brilliantly, so hopefully I will be able to stop stressing about this so much.

Little am also in London and wrote a bit about acupuncture on the May bus thread

Thanks Silverine will check that out. I'm going to see Andrew Flower in the first instance, I have read some good things about him and he's in London one day a week. I'm not hoping for a miracle, but I'm open minded. Now on cd 42 no sign of AF and bfn a new days ago. Not much happening here!

Hi. Can I lurk about for inspiration? I m/c a fortnight ago. I am not in anyway ready to consider actually ttc yet. But I did just get a negative pg test. My body is apparently ready. I am hoping hanging about will make my brain take up the ttc reins.

Hi newbies welcome to our thread. Hope your stay here is short!

I'm 10dpo today...no real symptoms apart from the odd boob twinge and being really repulsed by the smell of the bin this morning. And last night I had very vivid dreams of breastfeeding a tiny baby! what's that all about?
Have got my pee sticks ready to go on Friday of there's no sign of AF

Welcome newbies and fx for those who will poas this Friday. I'm off to Thailand which is brilliantly under martial law right now but will be checking from my advanced time zone. ION AF has arrived a little late but much welcome - slowly slowly getting back to something resembling normal.

Afternoon,
Hello to everyone and good luck to everyone who has scans coming up.
I have a quick question, how do you work out how many dpo you are? Would it be from the day I got my smiley face on my ovulation stick?

Thanks for the welcome.

I have now read through this thread completely. It is very reassuring. Not to mention how in awe I am at how brave some of you are x

Stats: 2 dc (8&6). Ttc #3 since Oct13. Mc 6/5/14 (9weeks 6 days). -ve pregnancy test Monday 19/5. Hopimg i can now be dischargef from EPAU. I am 38.

I am still in denial about ttc. I think I will pretend i can't get pregnant until AF. (i know this is silly but common sense is now awol).

Welcome sighing, sorry you find yourself here.

little sorry AF got you, but at least you can enjoy some cocktails on your holiday! Hope you have a brilliant time.

50degrees as far as I can tell (from ov pains, and the fact that on average ov takes place 36 hours after the start of the LH surge) I usually ovulate the day after I get my smiley face, so therefore I take two days after smiley face as 1dpo. I hope that makes sense?!

Thanks metal tbh this holiday with the travelling etc and heat might not have been super fun with morning sickness and the incredible early pregnancy tiredness so it's probably for the best. And wouldn't a Spring baby (for those of us working in the City with zero maternity leave) be a nice thing too?? 50degrees I'd agree with metal on counting your dpo like that.

Miscarriage. The gift that keeps on giving. Thought I was fine and not majorly emotional any more, but someone on my MN ante-natal group from first time around was due at same time as me and has just had 20 week scan and now I'm in a mess all over again.

Not helped that I have a friend who I know had a couple of miscarriages and I've been wanting to talk to her since it happened in Feb, but it's felt a bit like she's been gently avoiding me, not making any effort to chat at toddler groups or message me, anyway I (stupidly) decided to ask her if I've hacked her off and there was a long silence then she said "Well I noticed you've been acting oddly/off with me (can;t remember exactly what she said), but frankly I've just been too tired to do anything about it". No idea what she's talking about as I have actually been wanting to speak to her but Why did I have to confront her today. Just feeling too fragile for any conflict and now I'm in bits.

My poor little boy keeps asking "You sad Mummy?" and trying to comfort me and I feel terrible.

Hi Eatscake sorry to hear you're having a bad time at the moment. I know what you mean about things coming back to hit you. I had a similar situation where one of my NCT friends who was due at the same time as me had here 20 week scan and posted an 'It's a girl!' photo on Facebook. i just burst into tears, i've always wanted a little girl. Im finding it hard to talk to her when i see her, can't bring myself to ask how the pregnancy is going, its just such a painful reminder of what i should be like right now.
My MC was just after 12 weeks so they did all know about it, which hopefully means they are giving me some leeway and not thinking im a crap friend.
I take it from your post that your friend who you wanted to talk to doesn't know about the MC? I think it would be really good to tell her, sounds like she is misinterpreting you being down and quiet recently as you being 'off' with her, and i'm sure as soon as you explain she will understand and it will end any conflict. you don't have to suffer alone! You have us on MN and hopefully your friend can be there for you too
Sending hugs and in your direction xxxxx

She doesn't know. No. Not sure how to raise it without it sounding like an excuse or something

eats tell her, don't worry about how it sounds. Tell her in a text if it's too hard face to face. She will understand and if she's been through it then will be a great support in rl, she probably is mistaking you being down with being a bit off with her. This was the reason I told lots of people in the end as I knew it was obvious something was up and it is so much easier than carrying the burden of the mc around on your own IMHO.

Definitely tell her. I saw a friend this week for the first time in ages. She announced their baby was a boy the day we had our no hb scan and I just couldn't face talking to her about it. Turns out she had lots of early losses before this one and we both felt so much better for talking. Agree to an email or text if you can't face the words.

Not sure I actually want to open up the dialogue again right at the moment tbh. Feeling very bruised. Maybe in aday or two

Hello,

Can I please join your thread.

I have just had my early miscarriage confirmed at 5+2 - trying to conceive our firsy baby.

Like wilting I have read through lots of your messages and, although it may be a while before we try again I just wanted to introduce myself.

Hello and a warm welcome to our new members - I am sorry for your losses and please feel free to cry, rant, laugh and even say the most inappropriate things on this thread. I don't know how I would have got through the last 2 months without the support of the ladies on here.
My little update - had a very small amount of spotting yesterday at 10 days post ovulation. Today there was nothing. I thought that perhaps af was going to make an early appearance but it seems not. Dare I hope it was implantation bleeding? I have no other symptoms whatsoever
If I am still waiting for af on Friday I'm going to POAS - just to follow the Friday rules of course And not because if it's negative I am going to be able to have a relaxing week off work and get very drunk.

Welcome mrs gingerbread so sorry for your loss. Good luck tomorrow office.

Help! Ladies is this a positive opk? Only high on digis this morning took this after work tonight, should I bd today (we did yesterday) or carry on with smep and wait till tomoz? Argh confused x

Ok just took a digi (breaking the rules) that's also giving me a peak too, I have ewcm (never have this) and have been having low down pains (assuming ov) all day...looks like the clomids working :) x

So sorry for your loss ginger. It's such a horrid time but these ladies will bring you cheer, warmth and kindness in these sad days and be excited for you when you're ready to get back to ttc again.

Way tmi from me but..... No bleeding for two whole days!!!!! After 11 weeks and three days of blood, it's an amazing achievement Also feeling very excited about a business opportunity that's come my way and it finally looks as though our mortgage application for our new house is being processed (new regs have slowed things right down).... So by the law of sod, it wouldn't surprise me if we got upduffed again next month!