Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Late ov I think could make AF late, and mean that you'd need to test later do you know how many dpo you are?

Littlemiss when did you ov? Ideally, your luteal phase, the time between ov and af, should be about 14 days long, so that should be a reasonable guide. If you got upduffed, implantation takes about 7-12 days after fertilising and hormones start to double after that. With a sensitive stick, you would expect to see a feint line between 9 and 13 days after ov.

Sorry if you knew some of this before, but before this last year of headfuckery I had no idea about these cycles!

News in Tanny Towers is a bit depressing tbh, but I'll post more about my woes later...

Sorry Af got you Just.... Bitch!!
Hopefully it's still early for you LittleMiss
If this spotting is indeed Af Holly, I think my chances of ever getting pg again must be slim to none. How can my body ever harvest a baby, with lining that's virtually non existant

Sorry AF got you just

little you're not out til the witch shows up!

to everyone else, hope you are all feeling chin up, tits out, but if not there is always x

Well it's cd25 here and I'm feeling full of pmt, AF due next week while I'm on hols so at least I'll be away and enjoying some with friends. Looking forward to having a week away from everything, being offline, in a place with almost zero mobile signal etc, yippee.

While I'm away next week this thread is definitely due a bfp! So look forward to logging on and catching up on all the news x

Sorry for AF just, and for your BFN little. Tanny's right though, your LP should be the same every month, so if it's usually 14 days then if you ov'd on CD15 you'd get AF on CD29, but if you ov'd late on CD20 you'd get AF on CD34. I hope that makes sense?

tanny I hope you're ok?

Enjoy your holiday cakebaker, are you going anywhere nice and sunny? (I might have missed it if you said where you're going already).

2dpo here so not much to report. Really hope this is our month as we couldn't have timed our TITH any better, but at the same time trying not to build my hopes up too much. And I will NOT symptom spot or test early this month!!

Metal I'm also trying so hard not to symptom but at 9dpo it's super hard. Every weird twinge is somehow hard to ignore!

Thanks metal, nowhere hot, I'm not a fan of hot weather especially after skin cancer last year! Nope we're heading up to the Lakes for a wet and windy week I think! Keeping everything crossed for you this cycle x

Oh god just got a letter from my doctors telling me I need to have a whopping cough vaccination as i will soon be 28 weeks pregnant it really shook me up. I rang the surgery and complained and the woman who answered was so nice and apologised a lot but it has really shook me up.

Thanks cake, hope you have a lovely time away and fx AF doesn't spoil your fun!

Ellis that's awful, but sadly not surprising - NHS admin can be truly shocking at times! I hope you gave them a good bollocking.

Thanks all!
I'm 12PO CD 31 "normally" BMC (Before MC) I had a regular 14days LP I had a late OV this cycle so fingers X don't want to get my hopes up though!

Cake hope you have fun!
Ellis that's so sad must be horrid for you!

I've enjoyed having a 4 day week this week I could get used to it!

Ellis that's awful! The communication between the nhs is shocking! Hope you have them what for!!

Hi ladies, looking for a bit if advice. Came off the pill in February & found out I was pregnant at the end of April. Sadly this resulted in a miscarriage. But now I'm confused about my cycle! My last real period was march 20th but bleeding (miscarriage) started last Wednesday so does that make that cycle day 1? Meaning I'm now on cd 10? My fertility friend app is all over the place cos it was over 6 weeks since my last period so estimates I won't ovulate for another 2 weeks, I'm guessing because it thinks my normal cycle is now 6 weeks. Plus I've only had one real period since stopping the pill so I've no idea how long my cycle really is. Can't really remember before the pill, have a feeling it might have been around 30 days.
So stressed out with all of this, who knew it would be so bloody difficult?!

Thank you for the welcome...it's a strange place to be in, but oddly enough not lonely, as there is so much support on here, and (as I've found) in real life too.

I have 2 friends who had MCs around the same time as me, and talking about it openly has led to others saying that they'd had MCs in the past too, so although I'm also surrounded by friends having second babies, we are all being very supportive of each other and it's really helping me.

Felt very strange having a period again after three months as I had to dig out my tampons, I'd put them in the back of the cupboard thinking 'I won't need these for the rest of the year!'...but after a MC an ordinary period feels quite, well, ordinary. I've never had to pay much attention to ovulation and my cycle up till now, I'm going to have to start focusing on it if I want to get my BFP!

Sending you all good wishes...and for a happy weekend too x

Welcome to the newbies sorry you had to find us but hopefully your stay will be short :)

mrsc I counted my mc bleed as cd 1 but didn't ov that cycle and bled for 10 days. My first period post mc came 5 weeks and a few days after the bleeding stopped, so close to 7 weeks from when mc first started. My cycles seem to have settled now as the one I have just had (2nd post mc) was 35 days (I have pcos and cycles vary from 32-36 days). Hope that helps :) everyone is different tho, just rest assured your period will come.

As for me I finished my clomid today so hoping on the tith train :) x

I've also found a lot of support in openly talking about the mc Marshmallow. It surprising that so many people suffer without you ever knowing.
MrsCorr, sorry for your loss. I counted the first day of bleeding as cd1 and started my next (VERY LIGHT) period at cd23, didn't ovulate that cycle either. Everyone is different though. If you're eager to jump straight back in I'd gets some OPKs and starts testing, some ladies ov early the first cycle after. Good luck.

Well I've just been very naughty and poas - VERY faint line on an ic! Not excited yet, just feel like it's a cruel joke and AF will show up any day. Especially as I've had this brown cm since 12dpo. Seems to be petering off now though. We'll see I guess, nothing more I can do. Got a drs appointment on 20th so will ask for a blood test.

English fingers crossed for you! How many dpo are you now?

16dpo now... Can't help but feel that if it was viable the lines would be darker.

Welcome newbies!

English Big FingersX for you!!

AF has got me and heavy too next month would mean a possible valentines baby which seems a little strange as that is when I last found out I was pregnant. Am off to watch Jimmy Carr tonight so at least I can have some

MrsCorr I would count first day of your bleed as CD1 my cycle was 4 days longer than normal after my MC and as others have said I didn't OV that first cycle.

Sorry AF got you LittleMiss, hope nest cycle is the one for you, I think it would be a nice little nod to the baby you lost. Have fun at Jimmy Carr - I love him!! Enjoy the

Thanks for the sympathy about the letter. I did ring the doctors intending to go mad at them but the woman I spoke to was so horrified and sympathetic that I ended up crying instead! I feel fine about it now. Overall my doctors and hospital have been really good and very sensitive about everything so they were bound to make one mistake.

Still in the 2ww. Trying to keep busy and am of to a christening today which will be interesting trying to keep DS quiet

Hope everyone has a good weekend

Hi everyone, welcome to the new faces .

That's great English!! Hope your next tests are encouraging. Sebs hope you are ok? Have fun on the train carly

Well AF got me yesterday, only the first cycle post MC so not too much of a surprise but disappointing obviously, was hoping for a miracle! AF arrived at only 11dpo which is a little worrying as I normally had about a 2 week luteal phase before MC. If AF comes at 11dpo, does that mean the lp is actually only 10 days (i.e. not counting the day of AF arrival)? And did anyone else have unusual lps after MC?

Anyway, littlemiss and others, I've been thinking of reasons to be cheerful for not conceiving this month (with the firm assumption that next cycle will be the one ):

1. February is a cool month for a b'day - Aquarius, valentine's day, Chinese new year etc.
2. One month less heavily PG at Christmas time.
3. For those of us TTC#2, one month extra undivided attention for our PFBs, and they do love that!!
4. Feb was the due month of the first baby I conceived after my DD.

Thanks English and any! Sorry AF got you any they do sound good reasons and it means they would be a nice age for the summer! Positive thoughts!

Now what new things shall I try this month??

That's fantastic anyhuman I'm also holding out for a valentine's present - although I'm still in technically for this cycle - think I'm around 9-10 dpo but not going to test until much later, probably before we go on holiday a week Wednesday if AF hadn't arrived

Littlemiss as for anything new to try I'm all for a bit of old fashioned dtd every other day from cd7 to cd 21 ish. OPKs add a whole layer of stress I could do without especially the whole getting out of office to poas thing. But it's early days for me - give it a few more months and I'm sure I'll want to get more scientific.

Tentative congratulations English! Try not to worry too much about the faintness of lines, they do vary with each test I think, and it sounds like the brown cm was implantation which means it's still very early days.