Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Welcome hope, I'm sorry you find yourself here but hopefully we can help you get through this awful time. After my erpc I bled for about a week, then got AF about 3 weeks later.

Ellis that's really tough! no wonder you're struggling.

I just had lunch with my friend and held her 4-week-old for an hour while he snoozed in my arms, it was really lovely actually. Made me even more broody of course, but I didn't feel sad or jealous at all surprisingly.

DH and I had one last roll of the dice last night with our third TITH session in a row, and tonight we're off to stay with the in laws for a long weekend so my 2ww begins here. AF is due a week before we go on holiday, so at least if I don't get my BFP this month I've got something else to look forward to.

By the way, any poas-ers tomorrow??

Thank you Gail. I understand the lingo now! I will wait until my first period come and then see how I feel.

Ellis I know the feeling, it hurts a lot but then think of the women who can't conceive or have never had an opportunity to fall pregnant. I see it as look at the people who have less than you- for then you will be grateful. Your time will soon come don't give up and I hope we all fall pregnant this year.

Hope - that's a good way of looking at things thank you

I think it's not just the fact they are pregnant but that I will be siting with them for the next 6 months and listening and talking to them about baby things. I guess I am terrified of either getting BFN or another mc and then having to chat happily about babies the next day. But still positive mind set !

Not poas this Friday but will be next week. Good luck for anyone testing tomorrow.

That will be hard and I guess it's annoying. Do they know your situation? If they do then I'm hoping they will be more considerate. I'm finding it hard looking at pregnant women down the road and I'm going crazy when I see pushchairs. My friend is expecting in June - I won't even go visit I don't think I am ready at the moment to be around babies yet. I feel sad but then again I'm still young and there's still hope!

Some women are just so blessed to have kids but you never k is their stories. Everyone has a story and is blessed in one way or the other. Hope it all goes well for you and stay strong.

Hope, you sound remarkably strong.
Thoughts are with you Ellis, it's so hard. I saw 3 of my pregnant friends while I was recently back in the UK. I was surprised by how I felt, the pangs of jealousy were there but also a massive amount of joy for them.

I know one way or another I will have my family, it's just taking longer than planned.

On another note - my fecking body is throwing another bloody curve abll. Just when I think it's behaving!! 14dpo, had 3days of brown cm, with some red blood. BFN this morning. This stupid spotting can't possibly be af, its far too light to be considered a period, but if it is I fail to see how my lining could ever support a viable pregnancy

English my periods have been much lighter post mc too, only one day of full flow followed by two days of more or less heavy spotting. Pre mc I had at least two days heavy flow followed by four or five days light bleeding. Not sure whether this is anything to worry about, but I'm choosing not to at the moment...

Mine have always been light Metal, but I couldn't even class this as light flow. It really is just spotting. Fed up!

New joiner to this thread, after hovering around the miscarriage boards all month.

I had a MC at the start of April (9 weeks, but embryo only measured 5-6 weeks when we went for an early scan just before the MC happened), and my period has started again today.

I was pretty sure I had ovulated a couple of weeks back, a few days after the MC bleeding finally finished, so persuaded DH to do the deed that weekend. Didn't really think I had got pregnant, but was feeling a wee bit hopeful till this morning.

We have an amazing DD, just turned 2, so whatever happens we have one wonderful child and we know we are beyond lucky to have her, but I don't want this to be the end of the story just yet. I'm 38 later this year, DH is about to turn 40. Argh!

Welcome marsh, very sorry to hear of your loss but you will find lots of good support here and laughs along the way. Sorry to hear AF has arrived but it's early days too.

We have a fair bit in common, I mc'd at just over 9 wks in March and also measured between 5-6 wks, turned out would've been twins. I also have a dd who is just over 2 and am 38 soon, gulp! Dh 43 so an oldie compared to yours I too try to feel glad every day for what I already have but some days it's just so bloody difficult isn't it and I am just not ready for this to be the end of the road yet so plucking up the courage to start ttc again soon once this cycle is out the way.

I believe in God and I believe that he tests whom he loves. If there was no struggle we would be the most ungrateful creatures on earth. All our calamities is just to make us more grateful for our blessings and appreciate the creator. That's how I view calamities and accept God's decree for me.

English and marsh keep being patient and God will bless you again. It's hard as we keep going on forums, googling things, take a second to thank God for all the blessings you do have and see how he opens doors for you.

I am struggling myself to remain patient but I have no other option, I am not on control of my destiny, whatever God has written for me will come to me and benefit me and whatever is taken away - there is greater wisdom that only God knows what he saved you from. God only puts burden on you which you can bear.

I think once I go back to work I will think less about conceiving I hope! I need to relax and let nature takes its course x

I don't share your beliefs hope but I'm glad you have something that gets you through the difficult times.

Thanks cakebaker, I really pray that we all get blessed again real soon and have a healthy child.

I will keep you guys posted as to when my AF begins.

Welcome newbies I'm sorry you find yourselves here! I hope it is only a short stay for you!

No AF will do a (whisper) test tomorrow morning but been having AF symptoms and no pregnancy ones but it's not over til the wicked auntie sings!

Sorry to hear people are feeling low :(

Exciting Littlemiss how many dpo are you?

Thanks Hope, while i'm not a religious person, I do believe that there is a path for me. I hope you get your happy ending soon!
LittleMiss I'll keep everything crossed for you

My AF is practically non existent since the MC too english I got excited this month when I actually had some blood when I wiped

I'm not religious, but I hope it helps you get through this, Hope.
Personally I find it easier to think that this happened to me for bad luck and biological misfire rather than this was somehow my destiny, even if it was for a really good reason. Love and understanding to all. Got AF, drank wine.

Sorry AF got you just. Littlemiss hoping for some good news everything crossed for you.

Sorry justone fingersX for next month it could be a valentines day baby

No AF but a BFN I know we keep saying it but I wish my body would play ball! It used to be so reliable before MC!!

Sorry to hear that Littlemiss could it still be quite early to test ?

Where is LittlemissSunshine? Hopefully in shock from a +ve test result!

This thread slid off my "threads I'm on" again, I am not posting because NOTHING IS HAPPENING!! I am cd14 today, no sign of ovulation approaching. Have done a fair bit of tith though, just in case

bugger, cross posted with you littlemiss No AF is still a good sign though, it might just be too early. Chin up!

Exactly - chin up Littlemiss you're not out yet! Good work there too Office, just because the signs aren't there doesn't mean you won't ov so best to just keep trying. Anyone else thinking resolve not to drink much during 2ww might be tested by Eurovision party this weekend..? Just me...?

Thanks still AF pains think it's on it's way but Im sure I will do another 1 (2) today! I was wondering that because I had a late OV this cycle do you think that could make my AF late??