Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Fantastic news penguin and such a lovely message

sebs hoping the blood tests give you some more concrete answers and today is a better day xx

To all those in jobs they hate, get yourselves out before you end up a wreck like I did! Terrible place to get to. And also won't help you conceive. Like penguin- I left good package/mat benefits but I'm convinced if I stayed I would've been way too stressed to conceive.

Cd18 here so no a lot to report here, did an opk yesterday and got only a v faint line so seems my peak was around cd15/16. We've hardly dtd so it's just a case of waiting for AF to show up, it'll be interesting to see how long this cycle is as it's my first proper one since erpc.

Any poas-ers today?

Good to hear from you penguin and so pleased for you things are going well :)

I might poas tomorrow if AF hasn't shown up, had done cramp yesterday morning so thought I was out but will see.

Hope everyone's good and anyone poas today fx for you!

sebs hope you get an answer to your email today and your blood test goes okay.

Half day at work for me today :) thank god! And then there day weekend so woohoo (sorry to anyone having to work over the weekend)

Good job it's a half day at work as I've apparently lost the ability to spell... :/

Congratulations penguin :-)

I've just found myself wiping windowsills and scribing the sink so I'm fairly sure I'm not pregnant this month. Anyone else do intensive cleaning when they Hey pmt or is that just a weird little quirk that's entirely my own?

Great news penguin.
Hope you get some answers soon Sebs.

Just popped on to sort of have a vent. Feeling so low today and yesterday despite all my efforts to focus on being in tip top health before trying again. I'm not sure if it is the fact that the due date is coming up or if its just normal or what but losing the baby suddenly feels so raw again. I don't want to eat and can't settle to any task for too long.

I really thought I was getting past it all but maybe this is a sign I'm just not ready yet, then I look at DD and think, I really want her to have a brother or sister soon.

Sorry for the splurg.

Morning can I join? I posted in the ectopic thread days ago but no reply so though I'd post here.

I suffered an ectopic pregnancy and loss of my left tube Sunday night. Very raw at the moment, physically I feel better, mentally, v v tearful and bewildered.

Really want to try again in three months which is the required wait time but oh so shit scared about it too.

X

sebs still here for you xx

Morning all,
Welcome tranquility so sorry to hear what you have been through, not suprising you're reeling from it all. Very natural to be scared,I hope when the time comes you will have support from healthcare people to try and reassure you. For now, take it easy and look after yourself.
GandT and all those having low moments, chin up, not suprising we all have those days. Just coming out of a few myself, I think you just have to try and accept some days everything seems harder/fresher but plod on, be nice to yourself and you'll get to an easier day soon.

Congrats penguin a nice reminder that positive things do happen!

Not much happening here, relieved to have ground through to the weekend, it's been a long week. I would like to order sunshine and white wine for the next few days!!

Lovely news penguin Really chuffed for you xxx

Welcome and sorry to hear about the ectopic tranquility Some of the lovely and slightly mad ladies here have successfully conceived after losing a tube and we all share the fear of TTC after MC. I am sure you will find lots of support, advice and even a few giggles here.

Let us know how you get on sebs

I am having a low day too gandt lurching from thinking maybe I should be content with DD to aching for her to have a sibling. AF showed up properly today Though on a positive this is the first time since the MC (9monthsago) that I have had blood when wiping. They have been so light I was having to go find it...

Hi all have not been around for a while as had nothing to report but started ovulating today so fingers crossed this month is a lucky month.
I have had almost constant urine infections since my mc which my doctor said is not linked but I think I may have finally beaten it after my 4 th round of antibiotics !

Penguin - that is wonderful news!

Sebsmummy- I hope you get some answers soon. You were so lovely to me on my mc thread when I was sobbing on the toilet that I am really pulling for you. Lots of positive vibes coming your way

Sorry, just a quick rant, because only you guys know how it feels... Look away now if you don't like swearing...

Fucking bastard scan photo right there in the middle of my fucking newsfeed. Bollocking fucktards. I'm 42 on Monday, I really didn't think there'd be any more of this left to come. Shitbuckets.

OK, safe to look again.

Anyway, Penguin, you made me well up too! Funny how I can hate preggo women, but feel amazing warmth and empathy for anyone here lucky enough to get upduffed! Well done for the little guineapig x

Sebs I know you'll let us know...

Tranquility, I'm really sorry for the crap you've been through. I really hope you are getting good care. I can totally see why you'd be scared but it is still very possible to conceive. Take these 3 months to relax and recuperate, hopefully after the break you'll be feeling more positive and your body will be raring to go.

I'm off back to the UK today for the weekend! So excited to see my family and friends! And have a few tipples at a friends wedding tomorrow! Hopefully a few days at home will take my mind off the 2ww!!

Tanny - I fucking HATE facebook for that!! Theres a few pregannt friends on there who i've blocked. Fed up of hearing about every fucking twinge, kick, puke etc!! I have 2 very good pregnant friends who have (very kindly) kept everything off fb! I will never be one of those annoying people. Until you've been through mc though, you have no idea of the private struggles people have been through. Big hug to you and the middle finger to them!!

tranqulity welcome and so sorry to hear what you've been through, it must still be so raw so be kind to yourself, plan lots of nice things for the next few months and when you decide you're ready to ttc then we'll be here for hand holding, ranting and general madness!

Sorry to all those who are having low days, it's so bloody hard isn't it, you think you're ok one minute then the next something sets you off.

tanny excellent ranting! Can I join you?! Saw a lady this a.m who is upduffed with #2, she knows what's happened to me but still kept harping on about what a nightmare being pregnant is, how nightmarish it will be having 2, urgh I had the overwhelming urge to shout fck the fck off you stupid cow in her face but managed to keep control and just walk off from the conversation. I hope I don't see her again anytime soon.

english have a great trip and enjoy those tipples. I shall be having some vino collapso this evening! X

Thank you for the lovely welcome everyone, it's much appreciated.

We have a big holiday in July so very much looking forward to getting away from it all. Then, if we're brave enough, start again.

Off to backtrack on this thread and find out what stage everyone is at. X

Cake, I don't think "fuck the fuck off" is used enough really. I'm going to try and work it into a conversation today!

tanny my user name really ought to be pottymouth I especially like your use of shitbuckets, I shall be using that more often

Hello all

Just checking in. Any news sebs?

"shitbuckets" and "fuck the fuck off" - both excellent and very descriptive! Love it!

Hello! This week I have lived mainly off wine and chocolate. 1st day back at work after the mc and feel brain dead and zonked, but chuffed I didn't cry at anyone. Well not to their face anyway. Was nice being busy and normal, but inside I feel so rubbish. God dam you body. Grrr... she says reaching for more

Its so lovely seeing everything being ok Penguin Happy for your lovely news!

Tranquility hope you are taking it nice and easy and have some RL support.

I'm sure its only the thought of starting to TTC again that is keeping me going. That and the sugar rush from ds's easter eggs.

Thank god its a long weekend!

It's now 6 days after my surgery and I've woken up to period type pains so I guess the bleeding will start soon :( Makes me realise what I've lost even more now.

On the more positive side, we bought a beautiful white rose bush to plant in the garden tomorrow, a week on. :( i can look out and see the beautiful flowers in the summer as a tribute to my little lost rosebud. X

penguin huge congratulations to you, such lovely news. Enjoy your pregnancy. Xx

seb I hope you managed to get your bloods through as urgent.

X

mrsdiddlydoo glad you got through your first day back, how long were you off? I'm dreading starting work again, going to take another week off and see how I feel.

I feel like I don't want to see people at the minute, is that normal. I feel so awkward and afraid of how I'll react, especially if said people come out with awkward unwanted comments like they do when they don't know what to say.

Tanny, its [email protected] . She will get back to you but bear in mind their clinics are in Mondays and Fridays so most corresponding happens mid week, in my experience. I get the impression there is a lot of interest at the moment so she's probably got a bit of a queue.
Tranquility, what you've been through is rubbish. The rose bush sounds nice. Don't lose hope, you only need one tube to conceive, when you're ready.
As for work, I love my job (secondary RE teacher) but it can be long hours and stressful, which I do wonder about in terms of TTC. Still, the hols are nice
I'm 10 dpo and taking my progesterone like a good girl. I have decided to do a 2 mile swim on 21st June if I'm not pg by then. I like swimming and it really helps me to relax.
Happy long weekend, everyone!

Huge congrats to Penguin, too.

Ha ha! Thanks Just! The swim sounds good...

Tranquility sorry you're feeling so much pain. I tend to hide away after a mc, I think it's natural. Take care of yourself.