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[misskgb]

The 'Um hello newbie' thread has maxed out at 1000 messages so hoping we can find the people who were on there and continue where we left of..........new people welcome too!!

Oh no that sounds rubbish. I'm currently drinking a glass of rose waiting for my takeaway pizza to be delivered. Suppose there has to be some perks of not getting pregnant!!!

H I'm so rather jealous of your glass of wine right now!

Haha it was very nice, although I would obviously swap it for a BFP in an instant!!

Hello lovely ladies

All the other threads I go on tend to have people posting from 5 or 6am, so glad to see you lot are still enjoying your lie ins while you can Having said that toddler is currently getting up at 7.30 which is amazing after months of 5.30am!

I am 16+5 now and feeling impatient to get past the 20w mark. It still doesn't feel very real. I spent a day in maternity clothes then felt stupid and went back to my normal jeans. Where is my bump?? I should count myself lucky really shouldn't I!? I have a midwife appointment on wednesday and really hoping to hear the heartbeat. I am trying to explain to my 18 month old about the baby, just little by little, hard to know how much sinks in this age. Now when I say "where's the baby?" she pulls up my top, points at my tummy and says "baba." It's SO CUTE!

I am feeling lots of movements which is awesome!!!

I had a large glass of wine the other night (got very merry watching game of thrones) and then felt horrendously guilty for days afterwards I am a bad mama… (I think an occasional small one is fine but this was definitely a large!!!)

Got some more night shifts coming up boo. They make me SO tired. Don't want to be doing them in late pregnancy so DP is nagging me to tell work and get them to do a risk assessment etc. I keep thinking "just one more week then I'll tell them…"

Hope you've all had a lovely Easter!!

Hi everyone :) Hope you all had a lovely Easter!

Hope your appointment goes well tomorrow weebairn, your daughter sounds really really cute! Do you think you feel more relaxed with your second one?! You must be very good to manage pregnancy, a toddler and night shifts!! I'm sure I'd be knackered from any one of those!

Nothing to really report from me. AF has gone, Probably going to start dtd towards the end of the week ish. Had a few wobbles over the weekend and started feeling like it was never going to happen to me! Think I need to just get some perspective and remember it takes time for quite a lot of people, whilst making a mental list of all the things I should be making the most of before I do get pregnant! (money, food, wine, sleep, raw steak, soft cheese etc etc... let me know if I've missed anything)!

poached eggs; alcohol generally; laying on your tummy; eating whenever you like; no headaches; the list goes on!!

haha- it's not a bad thing to have wobbles, just reminds you that this is what you do want. I remember getting upset when af arrived and didn't think it would bother me that much until it actually happened. Keep doing the things you're doing and I'm sure it won't be long for you!

Yes weeb- don't be upset you're not in maternity clothes yet! I've got just the one pair of leggings and when I don't wear them, everything else is either scruffy looking (joggers) or feels horribly tight. I can't believe how much I'm showing already- 11 weeks today!! Bought a nice floaty maxi dress for a wedding at the weekend and had to buy a cardigan to help me hide!!

Hi All!

6+5 today and nausea has really ramped up a gear! I’ve lost 3lbs since finding out I was pregnant – I put this down to no alcohol and now not being able to eat a lot!

So my resolve not to tell anyone until 12 week scan went out the window. Had my family (mum, nan and grandad) and DHs parents over on Sunday and my grandad is pretty poorly, plus we found out DFIL is likely to be abroad when I have my 12 week scan so we told them. Well, rather, DH tried to shut them up so I could tell them by asking if they could keep a secret. My mum said “I already know” lots of “what? What?” followed and before I could say “I’m pregnant” my mum said “she’s not drinking” and my nan had jumped up, burst into tears and hugged me. It was all a bit of a blur really but everyone seems thrilled so that’s good. I’ve warned them all not to say a word until I tell them they can and they have all promised to keep quiet.

They’re all really, really happy I told them as apparently my grandad has had a boost and has something to live for now which made me cry!

Still getting cramps but not as often, I’m covered in spots, boobs really hurt and are growing already (grr) and I am sticking to eating what I fancy, when I fancy it. I’m shattered but DH is being brilliant. He’s being so understanding with food (especially on the nights where I just want plain boiled rice!!) and is making sure I rest as much as poss. Nausea is horrendous and gets worse as the day goes on. Haven’t yet been sick though.

Midwife next Monday and then I think we’ll go for an early scan as DH is getting a bit impatient but I’m going to talk to the midwife anyway about that just to gauge her opinion. DH wants to come to the appointment but I think it’s pointless as I get the impression it’s just a load of form filling in and answering questions. I think he’s worried he’s going to be missing out

misskgb yeah I'm sure time will tell, plus I watched a OBEM last night and felt like oh my god what am I letting myself in for, so maybe that will help haha!! I had a friend who was bigger at 12 weeks than my sister was at 27 weeks so think it's just the way it goes for some people!

chilly nice to hear from you :) aww telling your family sounds really really nice! Sounds like your mum knows you very well too!!! Pregnancy side effects sound a bit grim, glad DH is being really good though :) when are you thinking of having your scan?

H OBRM gave me complete teary wobbles of 'I cant do this' on Monday. There was nothing bad but it just got all too much at the thought of labour!

chilly it does get better! I'm 15+5 today and although I have the odd sicky moment I generally feel ok. Off so much food though now from when I was feeling ill and pretty much veggie.

Thats so nice about your family too! Esp your grandad!

Hope everyone else is doing ok!

H OBRM gave me complete teary wobbles of 'I cant do this' on Monday. There was nothing bad but it just got all too much at the thought of labour!

chilly it does get better! I'm 15+5 today and although I have the odd sicky moment I generally feel ok. Off so much food though now from when I was feeling ill and pretty much veggie.

Thats so nice about your family too! Esp your grandad!

Hope everyone else is doing ok!

Pregnant women should not be allowed to watch obem, I've decided! Mind you, watching last nights Eastenders also had me in complete tears. Poor dh thought he'd done something to upset me!

Going on holiday next week and can't wait, even if its just to wear what I want n not worry about hiding my bump! We've decided to tell our families when we get back. I'll be 12+4. Won't have had our scan but we've got a football presentation 2 days after the scan n people will start questionning me not drinking AGAIN so will tell friends then so family before. Exciting!

Hey Ladies, hope you are all well!

Helen sounds like there is going to be lots of dtd ahead of you!! Have u thought more about a night away? Really hoping it's your time this month.

Still love OBEM haven't changed towards it. I think it gives such a great insight.

I am 8+3 and have my home visit with midwife on fri which I am really looking forward to. Kinda worried I have not had any terrible symptoms. (Weird to want them eh?) I have had symptoms just not terrible feeling sick!! Suppose we are all diff. Just hope there is a healthy little blueberry (yes that's the size it is this week) in there lol. Spending lots of time with my sis who is 32 weeks has got me really excited.

Hi Lolly. Isn't it funny that it's a foodstuff they compare the size to each week?! Especially during those first few weeks when a lot of women don't like the thought of certain foods!

I got a bit emotional last night. DH is being great as are the couple of friends who know, but it's a lonely old place being pregnant in the early stages. I still think it's odd I'm 11+2 and noone has proved I'm pg. Obvs had the bfp, sore boobs, morning sickness, growing bump and other things, but noone has PROVED it yet and it's putting proper doubt in my mind.

Stupid I know, but now I see why so many of you have paid for an early scan and kinda wish I'd gone down that route too. To make things worse, my worrying is now worrying DH who is usually the sane one out of the two of us! Help!!!

Morning/Just about afternoon, everyone.

Glad to hear AF showed up in a sensible amount of time this time, Helen - I've got everything crossed for you again this month. Definitely take the time to enjoy the wonderful things you still can at the moment!

misskgb - I know exactly what you mean about the proving thing, although I think the feeling like absolute death would be enough of a clue on its own!

Lolly - you'll definitely need to let us know how the midwife visit goes! How exciting that it's so soon!

Chilly - Glad to hear it's all going well. The first appointment really is just a lot of form filling, but DH actually quite enjoyed it - mainly because he thought some of the questions were hilarious.

weebairn - that's so cute about your toddler! Though I do not envy you the night shifts! Boo indeed

binky - glad to hear you're feeling somewhat better too! It feels so momentous when the sickness goes away!

I'm 18+1 today and baba goes through a couple of periods a day of serious internal acrobatics (not surprised after the performance at the first scan!), so it's nice to have that little bit of reassurance that it's still in there doing what it should be doing. Bump has suddenly expanded, but people keep telling me that it's looking very neat so far as it's all that front (not so secretly thrilled about the fact that all weight has gone to bump so far!). We've got the second scan a week today, so hopefully that will all go well. I'm a bit scared about this one to be honest as all the paperwork about the appointment is doom and gloom-filled about the abnormalities and problems they are specifically looking for - I'm trying to ignore that in favour of being excited about seeing the baby again!

As yesterday was 23rd that means it was exactly 5 months until the due date - that was great, I was thrilled. This morning I woke up and my first thought was 'Oh....it's now 4 months and x amount of days until due date. That's somewhat intimidating...'

Hi

Misskgb - yeh the food thing is funny. I love the babycentre app for all it's little videos and updates. Blueberry graduates to a grape next week and loses its tail wahey! I am feeling exactly like you re the no one has proved this and I have only done two tests from the same pack and they were cheap from Morrisons. Aaargh. But the killer sore boobs are defo a sign. I find it hard to sleep with them, need a sleeping bra, using a cushion at mo to help.

Nausea has really kicked in since the start of this week. Thought I was dodging it but omg. I made spaghetti bolognese from scratch last night and when it came round to eating it I couldn't. Even thinking about it makes me heave.

Wow Kiki 18 weeks, amazing! Are you finding out what you are having?

Infact are any of you finding out? I am 85% sure I will! DH is definitely finding out.

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Hi everyone, it's so nice to hear from you all :) I feel a bit useless though because I can't really comment or add anything to your stories. But it does make me think one of the best things about being the last to get pregnant is that there are plenty of people to who've already been through it to talk to!! I do love hearing how you're all getting on though!

Kiki Thanks, I am really nervous that I seem to be having a long cycle, then a short, then a long one so by that logic this will be a long one. But I'm trying to keep positive and hoping that it was just my body getting back to normal and from now on stuff might be a bit better! cd9 today so not much to report yet really!

Lolly we have talked about going away. I'm away with my family for a few nights in a couple of weeks so we said we'd chat about it after that! I think the break will definitely do us both good. I'm quite looking forward to having a break with my family too, I am really hoping that the distraction will do me the world of good. And possible after spending 4 nights with my Niece I might not be too keen to get pregnant after all haha!

I was reading an article with Giovanna Fletcher the other day (the woman married to Tom from McFly in case you're not in to celeb gossip like me!) and she was saying she did a hypobirthing course whilst she was pregnant and went on to have a really good labour! Heard anything about it anyone?! I'm not sure how much I believe in alternative therapies but anything that helps you to relax and feel better about the whole thing must be a good thing?!

Ah that's good you are going away Helen!! I think that's what really helped us. May have been a coincidence but do believe it really relaxed us and took the work out of dtd!

I am loving that my sis has done this before me so always texting her asking questions so I am sure we will have lots if advice H.

Oh I have read about hypnobirthing, it's a big thing just now isn't it. I think it's pretty straightforward and all about being in the right frame of mind. Which I think helps for anything that we do in life that's hard. I will defo look into it more. Xx

Yeah, it would probably be better if DH was coming, but all being well I will have already OVed by then so it won't matter anyways! Bit worried if it's delayed again so we end up missing a month but nothing I can do really! I definitely think a break in general will do us good though :)

Yeah I agree. Relaxing has to be the way forward doesn't it. I have been really enjoying my reflexology. Again I'm not sure if it helps with the cycles etc but relaxing can't do any harm. Have been forcing myself in to the bath with a book to relax as well! Is it your sister's first?xx

Ah I think you can't plan for every eventuality with regards to Ovulation. You have been doing everything right, it's defo going to happen soon! Everyone is routing for you.

Yes it's my sisters first, what about your sis? She is theost chilled person I know. She is a nurse so she is quite well prepared for all medical stuff. She is planning a home birth which may not as her placenta is misbehaving. I sure whatever happens will be best for baby and sis. Had a baby shower for her when we were together last week with all her friends she grew up with and family. Was so lovely, she was so surprised. I don't see her very often since we love so far apart. Going to have to make a special effort when baby is born.

Sorry for terrible spelling and grammar (stupid phone) x

Yeah that's what I thought. TTC puts enough pressure on as it is without restricting your life totally! Hopefully it will, thank you :)

Yeah it was her first as well! Has she found out what she's having? Aw that sounds really nice. Yeah, it's really hard when you live further apart because you'll definitely want to get to see your niece/ nephew as much as possible! That's good that she's so chilled out. Has she been helping you through stuff? Not sure I'd be brave enough for a home birth. I was born at home, but my Mum would probably have a heart attack if I said I wanted a home birth! x

p.s. just re-read the above and I would definitely find out if I was having a boy or a girl!

Lolly - No, we're not going to find out. We've decided we'd quite like the surprise at the end of it, but I completely get why most people want to find out! The midwife I saw a couple of weeks ago was telling me how lots of hospitals aren't offering the information anymore, and recently she'd heard of a couple who were told they were having a girl...months later out pops a little baby boy. I really don't mind either way as long as it's healthy and keeps letting me know its there.

Helen - Hopefully this is the return to normality now. This thread really is such a great place to be the whole way through, so no matter when it's your time there will always be people here to talk to about all of these weird things that happen to you!

My older sister has 1 and my younger sister has 5(!) so plenty of help once I get around to telling them. DH now wants to wait til after the scan 1) in case anythings wrong and 2) in case there's two in there, but I'm trying to convince him otherwise. I really don't want to have to hide my pregnancy at the presentation but we both need to be happy so we'll see. We said we'll talk about it next week when we're on our holibobs.

Lolly I've got the babycentre app too. It's hard not to read a few days ahead. I love how it pings with each new week. It's great to see the numbers go up, and what the next foodstuff is! Mine is the size of a fig and almost fully formed! I love that he's kicking and stretching even though I can't tell!

I got out of cooking for a while during morning sickness as couldn't stomach the smell, never mind putting it in my mouth. Ate a delicious stir fry last night and actually wanted more. I've not finished a meal for weeks so that was a right treat!!

Don't know much about the therapies and hypnobirthing. I might read about it at a later date. I really want to get into aquanatal classes but there's only a couple round here and either dead expensive or during the day when I'm working!! Grrrr. Football season finishes this week so me and DH are going to try to swim together once a week from now

Hello,

had a great busy energetic day yesterday and feeling a bit wiped out and rubbish today. Just trying to take it as easy as I can.

Saw the midwife yesterday and heard the heartbeat for the first time so that was lovely. I am 17+2 now. Toddler was with me and very well behaved, played with some toys in the room and did lots of chatting and smiling, only got a bit upset with the doppler, not sure she likes someone else poking at her mama! So I only listened for a few seconds but it was still beautiful. No more appointment until July which seems AGES but Helen yes I guess I feel more relaxed this pregnancy and don't really care. I am also getting movements every day now!

My bump has turned up yay. It is quite small I guess, don't think anyone else would notice. But I'm pretty sure yesterday was the last day in my skinny jeans! Into tights & skirt combos for this weird in-betweeny period before mat clothes proper!

ah Helen you are doing so well to be so patient (not that you have any other choice! but your attitude is brilliant) I do think this thread has been very lucky and hope some rubs off on you next! But in real life, I have known lots of people take a fair few months and it's all normal (just doesn't feel like it at the time I'm sure). I was 5 months the first time round, coming off the pill, and I think that was reasonably quick really.

misskgb Lion marked eggs are vaccinated against salmonella so the risk is very very low - I eat runny eggs :) I'm sure you look lovely in your maxi dress! I think the bump-proper stage is actually easier to dress than the is-she-or-isn't-she stage!
And hang in there, I think 10-11 weeks is the wobbliest time. I didn't have an early scan either and I was very tearful for the week leading up to the scan, and it's all a bit hard to believe it's ok. But if you've had no bad signs by this point all the odds are in your favour :) When is your scan?

chillichicken that's a lovely story about telling your family. I'm sure the news will really help your grandad! I also told my family and close mates way before 12 weeks. DP came to my first midwife appointment with me (last pregnancy) -it's a bit boring though, he didn't come this time! If you go without him just check about any medical conditions in his family.

binkybunny glad the sickness is beginning to pass, it is the worst thing!

lolly I expect you're just one of the lucky ones with sickness! - oops just saw your next post, maybe not. Fingers crossed it's mild and doesn't stick around too long…. :( :(

Kiki you sound like you look fab! Bumps are lovely things. I do find scans stressful but it's very very likely everything will be fine. You're having yours early, mine's not till 15 May (i'll be nearly 21 weeks)

OBEM - you guys are brave!! I watched about a million episodes after my birth last time (during night feeds on a laptop with ear phones mostly!) and cried at every birth… but with another labour to come, I think I'll steer clear for now! Having said that I had a very straightforward (if quite long) birth so though labour is quite an experience it's not always drama (people do love to tell you horror stories - ignore!!) Oh and I did listen to a hypnobirthing cd a lot which I think helped me stay calm on the day (didn't make it hurt less though really). I did have baby at home but I think I was lucky there for a first baby. It is a lottery and if things get complicated it's not your fault - I think it's helpful to stay positive about it beforehand though. If there are problems we can be glad we live in the 21st century...

Not going to find out gender here, happy either way.

Kiki, that happened to my friend, so it has made me a bit less willing to trust what they say! I think I'd find out, but take it with a pinch of salt, which I suppose defeats the point in finding out in the first place!! But like you say, I genuinely wouldn't care either way!

misskgb I can't believe your sister has 5 kids and I'm pretty sure you're a similiar age to me?! (26) so that's some going! My sister is knackered enough with one kid, so yours must be superwoman!! My DH also said he would want to wait until after the scan. Like you say you've got some time to talk it through haven't you. I have watched some of the videos on babycentre, I'll definitely be getting the app when it's my time!!

weebairn I'm glad I'm coming off as patient, I might show your comment to DH as I'm sure he thinks I'm obsessed! I always tell him I could be so much worse but he doesn't seem to see it! I do have my moments of wanting to stamp my feet on the floor and complain that life's not fair, but like you say in the real world there are so many people who take a lot longer to get pregnant, so it's not that bad yet! I read stories on here of women who have been trying for years and have had all sorts of horrible things happen so as scary as that is, it does also help me to get some perspective. But the bottom line is that there really isn't anything I can do about it so trying to remain sane is the main thing! Bet it was lovely to hear the heartbeat :). I also cry at every birth. I blame these crazy hormones that I didn't know I had before I came off the pill!!