TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Oops cross post there with you Victoria. Yes keep chasing up for the results, its annoying that you have to but keep doing it all the same.

I have the same thoughts about opks. I get such strong positives with the ic's around the same time each month (between CD 15 and 18) so I always just stop, but maybe I should keep going. Maybe we should do an experiment this month?!

hi all

imaginary have u had day 21 bloods yet? mine did ruebella and amh tests at the same time. fertility clinic will want those so good to get them done with GPS day 21 out of the way. good luck with the appointment. sounds like you have covered everything on your list .

Victoria happy belated birthday. re opks, if you had the surge you should have ov. I sometimes get twinges later too. I also do bbt with opks to confirm ovulation and only stop DTD after my app confirms iv ovd from my temps. takes the guess work out of everything, and also means you can get accurate idea of your lp to see that's OK. and it means I know exactly when to expect AF.

I had my second scan yesterday. all looks good, 20mm follicle 9.1mm lining, she said they like 10mm when they do ivf transfers so mine us "perfect" apparently. they prescribed sex last night and tonight! got my pos opks today so will be demanding dh performs today, tomorrow and Thursday at least. especially tomorrow as that's my birthday and based on pos opks today I should ov tomorrow so hoping for a bfp as a birthday present!

sun is shining here. hope it's nice where all of you are

Hey everyone. Name change from mama31 to mam31 due to password issues!

Need some advice. DH rang GP today for SA results- receptionist said that all it says is referral back to GP- he has to make an appointment to discuss. Due to work/appointments available, he can not get one until beginning of May. Feeling quite stressed now as sounds like something is wrong and also have to wait until May. His GP also does not do phone calls, has to be an appointment and there is no further information. I also don't want to badger DH about stalking the GP for more info as he sounds pretty low about it. Gona be a long wait til May!

Thanks lil. No not had day 21 bloods yet. I had a blood test when I had my chemical pregnancies but that was to check things like thyroid, iron etc were at OK levels, which they were. Think I might ask about that, thanks.

Excellent news about your scan, everything sounds great! Enjoy your next few days, especially your birthday good luck!

Aw mama its rubbish isn't it. This appt I've got this afternoon is one I made a month ago, its the soonest I could get with the specific gp I want to see.

I was going to suggest asking for a phone call but I see that's out. I guess you will just have to wait it out - just think, were half way through April now so only a couple of weeks til may

As for dh, I think you're right not to badger him, he's bound to be a bit worried until he knows the score. Just reassure him that whatever the results its better to know then you can take whatever steps you need to to get your bubba.

mama that really sucks. we had to wait a week just for the phone call and that was bad enough. from my experience with dhs results I'd say that means there are some issues, but that doesn't mean there are no sperm. also is it his first one? the clinic would want him to have done too as sperm can have off days! if he hasn't had second yet is there any chance you can get ball rolling on that in the meantime?

Morning ladies,

POAS this morning but nothing AF due tomorrow or Thursday.

Ive had so many symptoms and even today i have throbbing pain in right side of belly button and bad stomach last few days grrr getting annoyed but looks like im out for this month.

Imaginary your more prepared than i ever am when i go to the docs lol

lil good luck hopefully this is the month

Victoria its so annoying having to wait so much isnt it. Cant believe they still havent got the SA results back its just stupid i bloody hate doctors sometimes

ok it was morning when i started to type that lol

Thanks Lil and Imaginary. That was his 1st SA, my GP said they'd repeat it once our fertility testing comes up; won't be until August!!!! I have always thought there may be an issue with DH sperm though, as I've conceived before with a different partner....when not trying! so it did make me wonder. I just hope it's not terrible news. The waiting is the worst! At least knowing, then you can prepare yourself for what lies ahead- but the not knowing just makes me think so irrationally about things and dreading the worst case scenario.

I'm just feeling so rubbish now, and I can tell by DH voice that the next few weeks are not going to be easy.

Wow, I never realised things would come to this. I've taken so much for granted prior to this and could not have even pre-empted that this is where things would be. I'm sure a lot or all of you feel the same.

Just had a very insensitive strop with DH- however, it paid off. He rang the surgery back and his GP is calling him tomorrow to discuss results. Phew! I will know tomorrow- I can live with that. Just hope it's not awful news. Will be praying hard tonight!

Well I'm just back from the gp, not my finest hour. Got in there and just started sobbing, didn't help me trying to explain what's going on at all. Managed to blub out what's been happening since last year in terms of all the spotting but she didn't really seem concerned by it, said to take proper af as day one of cycle. I said I knew that, but this didn't used to happen before the chemical pregnancies and now it does. Anyway she said it'd be a good idea to get day 21 tests done and for dh to have a semen analysis, so got the stuff for that. She also agreed with me that it wouldn't hurt to try and loose a bit of weight.

I think she just thinks im a hysterical idiot now to be honest, she said because I'd conceived before that it'd be v unlikely that we won't get pregnant again, and she said we haven't been trying all that long really (well it bloody well feels like it!) She was nice, I think she just thinks I'm obsessed with it because I was so upset - had a heart to heart with dh just before I went which I shouldn't have done as I was totally emotional from that before I even walked in. And she had a student with her who must have thought I was mental.

Mama good job on getting a phone call tomorrow with the results. Hope your dh is OK!

Thanks Imaginary- I'm dreading it! But glad it's tomorrow and we don't have to wait any longer.

Your gp says the same thing as mine re the spotting- she was very unconcerned by it. At least they both say the same thing, gives us some hope! My gp also thinks we haven't been trying that long, so we have to realise that a lot of people do take longer to conceive but that we get caught up with all those lucky ladies who catch straight away!

I'm just hoping the SA results are not dreadful, hoping and praying so much. I am not ready for really bad news. Still living in hope!

Yea she trotted out the same stat she said to me last time I went to see her, that 80% will concieve in 1st year, so 1 in 5 won't (I guess that's us!),but that 90% of those will conceive in the 2nd year. Its a good stat but it's just hard when it feels like so long, coupled with other people seemingly falling pg at the drop of a hat.

Really hope it's good news for you tomorrow mama, or at least not too bad. With it being his 1st test it could they just want to discuss them regardless of whether they're good or bad? Fingers crossed.

I'm not sure imaginary, hoping it's something like that but doubtful. Thanks. And yes I guess we are still in the stats!

Crikey, there's too much to catch up on individually so will just say a catch all hi and hope everyone is well Wanted to use a bunny icon too!

Imaginary - just wanted to say I know how you feel, I felt the same speaking to a couple of my friends about it all - because I can't seem to talk about it without getting emotional or upset (because it is emotional and upsetting!!) I can almost see them thinking, ah, it's not happening because you're too wound up by it all...so then they say...just relax!!! Don't feel bad for crying to GP, it's important they know how it's effecting you, and it sounds like they're getting the ball rolling now. Thank you again for quoting the stats, I have to keep chanting them to myself! May stick them on the fridge at this rate.....

Mama, fingers crossed for tomorrow x

Glad scan went well lillady and birthday greetings all round, sounds like pretty much everyone is having a bday!

Thanks one, im sorry that you feel that way too, but I'm glad you understand. I felt like such an idiot but I'm one of those people who once they start crying can't stop. I hate it.

Yeah she said the whole 'try and relax, its amazing how many people when they do they get pg' (I wanted to scream at this cliche at this point, I know its probably true, but we have been relaxed for the most part, its only the chemical pregs and the spotting the last couple of months that have stressed me out, but with how emotional I was she obviously doesn't see that). She didn't know opk's existed but when I said she suggested stopping doing it to try and relax. I understand the logic but they're the only way I feel like I have any semblance of control in this whole crappy process.

Just wish this spotting would turn into af now after 6 days I've had enough.

excellent news on the phone call mama try not to worry. make sure you ask for the numbers and write them down. and remember GPS are not fertitllity experts, they may say stupid things. Dr told dh his were awful then fertility clinic said they weren't too bad. but the Dr thinking they were awful got us the referral so I'm all for idiot drs!

imaginary its OK to be upset. I think the mist upsetting thing is ppl saying just relax! it annoys me that ppl don't consider that doing opks keeps me less stressed as then I know when AF is due, so I'd know if I was really late vs late ov. not knowing that when we started ttc had me a mental case!

Thanks lil you ladies always make me feel better better when I'm down, you just get it

Ladies. Totally get the 'relax' thing. There is no point discussing it with anyone as people do not understand. My strategy is DO NOT discuss with anyone in RL! MN only. mama I had the same issue with gp BUT whatever they say on the phone to you, they have a print out of the result in front of them. You are entitled to a copy. Whatever is discussed, request a copy!

Let us know! I will be praying hard for you and DH. What time is the call?

Oh yeah, mama, what lil said - prepare to have stupid things said to you!

Thanks Lil and M33R. The call is some time between 11am-1pm. I will update after the call. Thank you for your support and kind thoughts. DH is under orders to write everything down that is said, request numbers/details and to ask for a printout if still not clear. He thinks I'm insane....oh actually he knows I am.

Thanks onelife, pray hard x

Good luck mama, will check in later to see how the call went, really hoping for good news for you x

Good luck mama! Thinking of you and DH today xoxo

For me, today is probably the lowest I have felt in this whole journey . After the success of last month with the good cycle length and LP, my period started yesterday after the gym on cycle day 23. It was only spotting but here fully today so we'll call it a 23 day cycle. I ovulated last Monday/ Tuesday and so I am back to a 7/8 day luteal phase. Crushing.

I felt so positive this month with our DTD timing, the fact I had more EWCM than I have seen in my whole life put together (!) and because my last cycle had such an improved luteal phase.
TTC really has the ability to make you feel like a complete idiot at times for allowing yourself to have hope and positivity, when things are probably not that great.

And of course, I am questioning if it was because I was at the gym. I pushed myself pretty hard in two classes and the air con was broken so it was really hot. It was such a shock to find out AF had started when I got home because I have had no cramps, cravings or anything else. It almost feels like the withdrawal period you get on The Pill, rather than a natural period with PMS etc.

I just know something's going on... but don't know what.

Sorry for the selfish post! I haven't been around a lot this week and to come back and be so self-absorbed is terrible, I know.

imaginary I am now facing having to go back to the GP and TRY and explain once more about luteal phases, so I know what you mean. I am considering paying to see a specialist if the next visit doesn't move things forward a bit.

Good luck today mama, thinking of you. And to echo everyone else, yes get actual numbers and request the print out if in any way it sounds vague. xx