WARNING: This thread is only for the Posifrickentive! Grab your trout gun, help yourself to a steamy helping of Toad In The Hole and head on in. All new TTC after MC - chin up tits out ladies!

[Parsley2506]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Parsley - nearly 4 weeks since it started with period type bleeding. I had a scan a week after and it was declared complete.

I started what has been a period flow bleed four days ago and really though once my uterus had had a good clear out (I'm spotting now) the hpts would say negative, but nope, still faint!! I guess my only thought is these are internet ultra earlies. Actually I'm going to stick one in the bath water and see if it's says the bath is pregnant.

Nope, the bath water is reading negative. I feel like crying

Sebs, sorry you're feeling . I can remember that awful limbo waiting for that -ive test. It will come.
Donna, what a bummer! Maybe try to see it as a recovery break and a chance to get to know your post mc body, af symptoms etc so that you know what's 'normal' now.
Sal, I agree, babies are easier than bumps. Well done on your benevolent babysitting!
Viper, welcome, sorry you find yourself here. Well done for toughing out the baby shower. I don't think I could go to one because I'm in post traumatic shock. My ultimate baby vs TTC after mmcs shocker was almost delivering my nephew on the bathroom floor in the summer. Paramedics arrived with 5 mins to spare. Of all the people that that could happen to...! Someone's got a wicked ironic sense of humour... shakes fist at sky

Sebs sorry you're feeling it is horrible waiting for that first negative test. I thought mine would never come but it did, as yours will.

Donna what rubbish timing. It must be so frustrating as we all know each month is so important when etc. I'll echo what others have said though, as hard as it must be try to view it as a couple of months for your body to rest and get back on track.

donna all may not be lost! Don't forget sperm are made 90 days before they come out so AB won't affect them this month. It's all down to whether he can manage TITH. Maybe a couple of five knuckle shuffle sessions and a syringe...?

Hi everyone, hoping I can join in. I am 29 ttc #1. Got pregnant by accident in aug 13, mmc in oct at 13 weeks then another mc in jan 14. Had a month off and this month been trying again, now 4 dpo. Really hoping for a bfp but then I think I'll be more scared after that. Good luck to everyone!

Welcome Lacey. Sorry to hear of your losses. Glad you found us. Everyone is so supportive and we manage to have a laugh.

sal your turn of phrase makes me guffaw with laughter

Whilst a the park with DD today I received a text from a mum from nursery saying her ds couldn't make dds birthday party as she is due no 2 around the date. this made me a bit then I remembered I told dh in that park that I was upduffed and almost lost it. Feeling brightervnow. Cooking curry from scratch and will be booking an apt with gp next week. Rather than think I'll just wait and see then regret not doing something sooner

Good morning Ladies - further to Sebs quandary, how long can it take to get that first negative test??? I hadn't even thought of that, I've just gone all guns blazing into ovulation tests as soon as mc was confirmed at the epu on Wednesday just gone. I'm not ovulating yet, but I had a headache Friday and yesterday which is usually a sign and my discharge looks promising today, but I'm holding out to check if I am until the usual time this evening.
Do all preg hormones have to be gone to ovulate? I'm such an ameture!!

Viperama I think it depends on how the miscarriage happened (ie natural or medical). At what stage it happened etc

I did another test this morn and I have to say it is pretty much negative now so I feel calmer. I had a lot of black spotting yesterday that's gone tan now. So I wonder if that was very old blood left over from the mc that was affecting my hpt tests.

Anyhow, hcg does trigger opks unfortunately and make the readings difficult to interpret.

I have read so many differing views re.whether hcg can stop ovulation. I think if your body still has enough hormone to think it's pregnant then yes. If however progesterone is down and there is a trace level then I think your body would start the ovulation process ok. It's so individual which is why it's so frustrating!!

This period I am nearly at the end of has been so crampy for days and days yet the flow has been normal.

viper the WTF cycle is called that for a very good reason! There's absolutely no reason not to ttc this cycle but I'd advise you against worrying about opks, OV symptom spotting etc. as that way madness lies! Chances are nothing this cycle will make much sense, which is super frustrating but is sort of to be expected as your body tries to figure out what happened and get back to 'normal'.

It's crap and almost impossible not to, but try not to worry about what's happening physically, things will go back to 'usual' in time.
I did a HPT once a week after my MMC and it was negative on second one (3 weeks from start of MC).

Hello ladies, how is everyone? Anyone been up to anything exciting this weekend?

I've just been out for my first run since Xmas and God it was hard!! I didn't even run that much... DH and I did the c25k last year and I went back to week 4 today and still struggled. Hopefully it'll get easier again soon though, and I do feel much better for having done it, even if I will probably ache tomorrow.

Right, here we are... [waves] I mc on Thursday, just a few hours before our 12 week scan (how cruel is that?!) I went to the scan anyway because I wanted confirmation that I had indeed passed the baby and shed loads of blood and clots. Sonographer was lovely and confirmed the worst. Consultant obs/gynae did a tiny d&c immediately too and found remaining pregnancy tissue so defo no baby left. Devastated by the news because of being so far along and just before our scan too. But actually starting to feel better and more positive already. I never thought I would after Thursday so I'm surprising myself by being here!

Bleeding seems to have really slowed down now - could this be because I passed so much so quickly and there can't surely be any left in there? Or is Mother Nature really taking the piss and dragging this whole sorry affair out as long as she can?

I have noticed today I have clear mucus mixed in with my blood. Anyone else ever have this? In the spirit of this thread and trying to find good in all of this sorry state of affairs, could this be a sign my body is healing? I've seen some of you saying about ovulating right after your mc...maybe this is my bod doing this?

Hello and thanks to chicken for recommending this thread and hello to sebsmummy, also kicked off the September thread

Sorry, not chicken at all - I meant the lovely metal! I haven't even got baby brain to blame for my memory now either....

Welcome to the newbies. I'm a recurrent member of this thread...

Just to add to the WTF-ness of a WTF cycle, I got a positive OPK today, 13 days after I started MCing and after 5 days of EWCM. My body just doesn't give a shit. One down, never mind, let's chuck out another egg. Pfff.

The trouble is that all I really want to do is get upduffed again, but can't until I get second blood test out of the way... No TITH with intent for me this month.

Hello to Lacey and broody, sorry for your losses :( hope your stay is short an sweet.
Absolutely not symptom spotting, but ever since my erpc I've been absolutely mad for omelettes, just googled it and they have a lot of iron so I guess my bodies still trying to top up losses, did anyone else find their bodies 'needed' something post misscarridge? And do you guys think I should start on the iron tablets again? I only took them for a couple of weeks but an now thinking u should have carried on, it am I just obsessing on stuff I needn't?
Not been upto much this weekend metal was out for a friends bday last night and might have had a wee bit too much to drink but no hangover! Yay! Today's been spent DIY ing and panicking about going back to work tomorrow :( I really really need to start playing the lottery, and win big, so I can live the life of luxury I know I was destined for how about you? X

Fucking hell those antenatal threads can be insensitive. I thought it was bad enough when I lost my pregnancy early but broody I am so so sorry and I hope you find more support here than you did on your thread (I have just read the end of it).

Life is an absolute bitch at times, there are no words. I found straight after my mc I felt ok and then I was pretty wobbly and now I feel ok again. So be prepared to have good and bad days.

In regard to mucus I can only give my personal experience. My mc started with an awful lots of bloody mucus and the I had EWCM a week ago for four days but two days after it ended I had my period. So it could be your body clicking straight back into fertility (are you showing negative on an hpt) or it could be your hormones trying to regulate again. It's the WTF cycle that is discussed regularly on here and unfortunately nothing if certain at this stage.

Massive hugs to you xx

Geez, what a thread! Fuck me, how the other half live.

broody we're soooo much nicer here in the head-not-shoved-up-own-arse real world!
I knew there was a reason to steer clear of the anti natal groups.

Grrr...

Agree with the others broody, some absolute c*ws on that AN thread!

No TITH for ttc purposes here either this month tanny as the hospital advised to wait until I've had a period before trying again. At least that way we might avoid a Xmas baby, which I always think is not so nice for the kids because of presents etc.

Tea we didn't do much this weekend, just visited some friends this morning then chilled at home (which involved rather a lot of TV abd ipad for DD, I'll admit...).

I've been seriously job hunting and applied for two posts yesterday, just can't stand my current role anymore and the stress can't be good for ttc so I'm prepared to forgo the enhanced maternity pay in exchange for an easier life (hopefully). I was going to stick it out until after we'd had #2, but who knows how long it will take and I don't want to put my life on hold indefinitely.

I haven't looked, ante natal threads make me feel sad, but sorry if you've had a tough time from anyone broody and so sorry you lost your beautiful bean.
You sound like you've been extremely brave in awful circumstances, we're all here for you as you adjust through the shitshow of emotions that go with MC. Mine was a MMC only discovered at 11 + 5 weeks so I have a vague notion of the cruelty of getting to the 'safe' date only to be robbed at the last moment.

I don't think I could ever join a AN thread after the MC now. Too much innocent joy, I'd definitely tarnish everyone's happiness with (well founded) cynicism!

Lovely weekend, amazing dinner and drinks last night with MrP and today spent baking and seeing my folks. After a lazy start (bit too tipsy last night!) the SMEP roadshow starts tonight with much overdue TITH for tea!

Hope you're all doing well posifrickentivity ladies!

Thanks for the lovely welcomes everyone, it's really kind of you all xx

Yes that AN thread has unfortunately shown its true colours in recent weeks. One of them sent me a PM on Friday (day after mc) and said "do pop in to tell us if/when you conceive again as we want happy news on a nice positive thread...."

Anyway, eff them, I already feel much more at home here so thank you xx

Thread grad de-lerking, have been thinking of all you lovely ladies and keeping my fingers crossed for you all.

Triple I'm so sorry that you bfp is starting out so filled of worry. Thinking of you and hope things settle down soon.

broody my missed miscarriage was found at 11 plus 5. I can also understand the heartbreak of almost getting to 'safe' piont only to lose your precious bean. I'm also shocked and sadden to see what happened your antenatal thread. I had several friends react badly in real life (lots of well it doesn't just happen what did you do?). Even though I knew they were being idiots it hurt so much on top of the heartbreak of losing my baby. The ladies here are wonderful and will be able offer proper support.

Thanks for the welcome everyone, sorry to hear that about that broody. I agree that I would really struggle to join an AN thread now, especially after what happened to you

Hi broody new to the site so don't know how to read about what's been going on but sounds horrible :( the ladies here really are lovely, I guess a lot of people just don't understand this sort of thing :( we all have a good moan here (esp me :) ) but there's lots of poitive stuff as well so hopefully everyone here can help you through this xxx

One of mine was a MMC at 11.5 too. I started bleeding 2 days before my 12 week scan. What a kick in the teeth that was...

I'm like you, metal and desperate to get away from the dreadful organisation I work for. I've had heaps of time off due to MCs, but they have been the most unsympathetic bunch of twats ever. I've lost all loyalty and enthusiasm. Started filling in an application form this evening, and have my first day back tomorrow. I'm having to prepare myself for the comments...

Hoping to get some veggie TITH tonight to help me relax !