TTC3, 2ww anyone want to join me??

[DGLLB]

Hi all,

DH & I are TTC DC3, we have DD 4 & DS 2, AF due 6th feb....

Def time to POAS woman!

Agree with wilting POAS Mabel

Okay - I think it's time. I missed my morning pee though - do you think I should wait until tomorrow morning? (I'm in LA by the way, so 8 hours behind you guys - so it's around 9.30am my time now). I didn't have a test ready and simply had to go...

I'll grab a test today - am still holding off because can't bear to get that BFN. But then I'm almost 3 days late now.

Sorry about being such a wimp. I'm not trying to add to the drama of it all! I'm genuinely slightly terrified of POASing.

POAS!!!!

Okay wilting! I did what you bid and I can't believe it.... BFP!!!!

I don't quite know how - i thought we'd missed the window - we DTD a few times in what I thought was too early for ovulation, but I guess not - or those little swimmers must have hung around inside me for a while...

I'm so pleased. And at the same time incredibly anxious. It's been 8 months since I had the MMC. And my pregnancy before that ended in a MC too - so I daren't allow myself to be too pleased yet. I guess I need to find a thread of pregnant people after miscarriage or something. But right now it's all just sinking in. Got to the point where i thought it would never happen again.

Thanks for encouraging me to POAS, DG and Wilting. And thanks for at least giving me someone to share the news with too! Obviously i will tell DH but after our rotten luck last year I'm not sure I'll tell anyone in RL until we're in a safe place with it.

Wow. Wilting, hope it happens for you next cycle. It's only been 2 cycles for you so far hasn't it? I will definitely be following your progress.

I had fertility acupuncture this cycle round - maybe that helped. who knows... a mystery. i'm still in shock. but happy shock!
x

Me! not sure if im "trying" or not DD is only 5 months but she took 4 year to conceive and DS took a year and a half he is 5yrs

Hurrah!! I'm so happy for you, so funny it happened the month you thought you'd missed the window , wow, you must be over the moon! Mind yourself carefully and please please please it will stay safe and grow healthy.

I know I know, get yourself over one worry (why am I not pregnant already) and throw yourself into another (is it healthy/ok/going to stay put) but at least you are onto worry no 2 (and I never hug people)

I am hopeful for this cycle but dh is going to visit his sick granny on the day before (probable) ovulation. Am internally debating whether to tell him he can't or not. His granny IS sick. I could go with him and bring the kids but that really means me hanging around a hotel minding the children on my own which is not much fun either but at least we'd dtd at the appropriate time!

Thanks for congrats Wilting! I am, as you say, over the moon. Although also wary. But yes, it's funny how I had resigned myself to definitely not conceiving this month. Bought pre-seed lubricant for next cycle (!), and had my laparoscopy and DH's sperm test booked in, just to make sure all was well. It just feels like a long, long stretch ahead until we're in that 3 month safety zone. And I wish I could find a way to keep my mind off things but after two miscarriages I'm now paranoid about doing any exercise (which is great for keeping my mind off it - ironic!), drinking coffee and alcohol (two of my greatest pleasures), having sex (less of a pleasure but still quite nice sometimes ;-)) etc etc. It's silly as I know a little bit of all these things won't make a difference to the outcome but twice bitten now, it's hard to be rational.

As for you - I think you should defo follow your DH on his sick granny visit, but that's me. It might be the one night that everything falls into place, iyswim. Do you have to hang around the hotel? Is there somewhere else you could go with the kids?

I wish I could press a fast forward button to two months time, so I can tell everyone, and tell the kids and exhale... but of course as you say - at least I've got past that first major hurdle. Actually getting PG.

Where are you now in your cycle wilting? just getting to end of AF?

thefalconsmistress welcome and all the best - although this is a semi-zombie thread now - but I'm still here, so's Wilting. I have two DCs aged 6 and 8 (just) and have been ttcing number 3 for almost a year with two MCs. Just got a longed for BFP. It'll be a big gap if it happens, but I'm delighted.

Talked to dh and he pointed out we could dtd on fri, sat am and again sun pm so suppose that probably is enough !

Just coming to end of af now. A while to go beofre 2ww. Where are you in your cycle falcon?

It's hard not to get superstitious mm, small things can help you feel you are doing everything you can. Have you told your dh your news?!

congratulations!! :)

Hi wilting - ah, he's only going away one night - in that case I think you're covered! Just as a note: we dtd on day 10, 12 and 13 of my cycle - and I'm pretty sure I ovulate on day 16 as I've got a 30 day cycle. So we last dtd two/three days before I actually ovulated. From my own experience now and hearing elsewhere, catching 'too early' is better than doing it on the day or right after ovulation. You probably know all this already but I knew none of it before conceiving became an issue for us.

And yes, told DH the news on the day. He's delighted of course, but also wary like me; he saw how upset I was after my second miscarriage and I think is reluctant to all out celebrate until we're out of the 3 month woods. And boy, is it dragging... I can't believe I'm not even at the 5 week mark - I have the feeling the next couple of months are going to feel very s-l-o-w.

I've thought about telling my mum too - but may wait a while. She was so upset for me after our 2 MCs last year (partly because she's in UK and I'm in US with little support system) and I know is still worrying a bit about me and our TTC efforts, so I'd like to put her out of her misery. But at the same time - I think I'll leave it for a bit - she'll just worry about the pregnancy otherwise...

Please will you keep me posted with your TTC progress? Hope some more posters come on here with more TTC no. 3 news.

And thanks falconsmistress!

Congratulations Mabel

I mc my first & I always worry with every pregnancy but we've just got to think positive, keep us posted it's now 8 weeks since AF but I didn't get a BFP until I was 6 days late so think I'm about 7 weeks....

Poor dh's granny died last night. Poor old thing. We got word she was worse yesterday afternoon and he was going to go down today. He's gone into work, hope he's ok.

Glad to hear from you DGLBB the first weeks are slow, hope I'll be with you all moaning about it soon!

Sorry to hear about your DH's granny wilting

I pop in from time to time to see how your all doing

Oh your poor DH wilting. Hope he's okay - bummer that he's had to go to work. Will he still go up at the weekend? I guess there'll be a funeral to attend now will there? Next week?

Big sympathy to your family.

Thanks DG, and congrats on another week passed as a pregnant woman. I'm a couple of weeks behind you - but obviously the paranoia has already started - I actually had a dream I miscarried last night - well, not miscarried but that I had blood in my knickers. Had to double-check this morning when I woke. Jeez, I hope it's not going to be like this for the next few months... Wish I could just be happy, and celebrate, and plan etc.

How are your symptoms DG?

I have ALOT of white cm & have to check everytime because I always worry it's blood

I also have very sore swollen boobs and I feel sick unless I eat every couple of hours....what about you any symptoms yet?

Hi DG - when did your symptoms become more full-on? Am trying to remember from previous (successful) pregnancies but just can't. I'm a worrier since my MCs and so am worried about fact that don't have many symptoms (vaguely sore breasts although not as sore as they were right before I tested a week ago) - just that and the odd little twinge of ligaments in my abdomen. No nausea (although felt nauseous before AF due) and not that tired yet. But then seem to remember this didn't really kick in until 6/7 weeks.

I'm also a little paranoid as have passed this weird flesh colored tissued a couple of times when I've gone to the loo and had a tiny bit of pinkish colour when I wiped. It's happened a couple of times over the last 3 days but not every time. I'm calling my doctor tomorrow about it. Not that he can do much I guess.

God, I empathise re the CM. I remember that feeling - and then the enormous relief when you realise (for the 20th time) that it's not blood.

I know it's horrible feeling sick but I always take it as a very good sign. I wish I felt sick, in a funny way, as then I'd know everything was probably as it should be.

God, terrible weekend, kids both got some kid of puking bug, had to leave them with parents and go to funeral which went on all weekend.

Got home about 8pm last night and into work then this morning. Am shattered.

Thank you both for your kind wishes. She was elderly and I guess it wasn't a surprise but still somehow, these things are always a bit of a shock and the funeral was heavy enough going tbh.

Hope the two of you are doing well and not too paranoid? On my two pregnancies, I had v little symptom wise, no nausea or tender boobs. Can't remember what cm was like! I dreamed the other night I was having a little girl ...

Be strong ladies, wishing you both healthy pregnancies.

Hey wilting sorry to hear about your exhausting weekend. Losing a grandparent is really sad I think - however old they are - because it's like the end of an era - particularly if they're the last of one set of grandparents, iyswim.

I'm slightly less paranoid this evening - but it seems to come in waves - and that's because my weird tissue episode hasn't reoccured on my last few toilet trips. But I really need to find some strategies to get my mind off the pregnancy and the symptoms (or lack of) because I can't be like this for the next 7 weeks. Exercise would normally be the trick, but my paranoia prevents it.

Do you have two boys then Wilting? I do. I would love a girl, obviously - but at the same time would also be deliriously happy with a boy - anything baby and healthy will do just fine right now.

Keep us posted with your ttc progress please.

Hope all good with you too DG

Hi Mabel sorry I didn't get on to reply yesterday had terrible sickness all day, I couldn't even keep water down, but feeling abit better today so think it may have been a bug?
I had my booking in appointment this morning & can't believe how much it has changed since I had my 2yr old, they did my bloods at home....
My symptoms didn't really kick in for a good couple of weeks & some people don't get any so try not to worry to much, did you speak to your doctor about the fleshy bits you was having?

Hi wilting, sorry to hear you had a tough weekend, hope your dcs are feeling better now too

Thank you guys, I have a boy and a girl MM and while I might have a mild preference for another girl, I would be thrilled with a boy too. As you say, healthy and here is all I want.

I'll be day 10cd tomorrow so given your record MM I better get going on our TTC efforts. Had coffee with a girl here at work who has just announced her 4th pg! Lucky thing

No idea how to get your mind off it MM, can you immerse yourself in some evening time project? When I was trying to lose weight and not snack in the evenings, I made a photobook of our honeymoon, took ages and was v absorbing and distracted me from snacking! So far so good anyway. x

Wilting you must DTD now!! I even did the ridiculous lying on the ground with my legs in the air 'cycling' for 10 minutes after we DTD last cycle (have never, ever done this before - but hey whaddaya know - I got PG so feels a little less ridiculous now!)

DG sorry to hear you've been feeling so sicky. But then again, good sign for your PG hormones! I'm still relatively symptom-less (I actually punched my boobs this morning to see how 'sore' they felt ) but definitely experiencing nausea and tiredness. I feel hungry so much of the time, but the minute I put anything in my mouth my tummy starts gurgling and my body seems to want to reject it all.

Thanks for the distraction activity suggestion wilting - actually that's a great idea - I have hundreds of photos of our time here in the US since we moved out here over a year ago but they're all on my computer. Would be great to get them printed out and albumed up!

We also have a lot of guests/visitors about to descend on us over the next 5 or 6 days so hopefully just having a bunch of people around will help distract me and make the time go a little quicker.

ok, am officially on the 2ww! We were both wrecked but managed to dtd a few times over the weekend so fingers crossed...

How are both of you doing? Managing to stay sane and pregnant I hope?!

Hi wilting,

Fingers crossed it's your month please keep us posted!

I'm holding out okay currently 9+6, had to call the midwife last week due to some painful cramps they wasn't the least bit interested because I'm only 9 weeks & wasn't bleeding. So I'm getting even more impatient for the scan in 2 weeks to make sure all is okay so we're sort of both in the 2ww!