The waiting game

[Charjam1]

So I'm 2 days late, still no sign of af, not really many symptoms either and poas about a million times (slight exaggeration) but they are all coming up bfn. Advice please?? X

I think that is most likely. I got very excited last month when my period was 5 days late (very unusual), but a test was negative and AF arrived the next day .

Just remembered why I don't come on here very often and won't be again

I hope you get the result you want, if not this month, then very soon Charjam.
Remember it's not over till AF arrives...

Feeling your disappointment Charjam. I'm the same...poas about 6 times this month, all bfn! Which I knew but just a sucker for punishment I suppose!! Thankfully just cheap sticks :)

Charjam I feel your pain and sometimes it's nice to come to this community for gentle encouragement and mutual story swapping I know it gives me hope at least and hopefully it will for you too.

Thebuggerlugs why be so rude to someone who is just waiting someone To listen ? I love the conception forum I have made good friends and gained great support but people like you ruin it did everyone else . Why don't you just stay away from people's nice posts and take your rudeness to another post full of all the other rude people

Thank you mrs Morrison, I'm a bit up in the air ATM, sure it will sort it's self out thank you for your kind message xx

Chatham, I was late 2 weeks before my bfp with my dd 5 , sadly the same happened for me with the 4 I mc, if your levels don't raise high straight away it won't show , I don't want to raise your hope but want you to know that it's a possibility .
Bigger lugs for you your theory may be true but for me and many others your theory is not the case , I believe we all come for support of women and a little sensitivity never goes a miss.
Good luck to you on a bfp soon x

Char jam sorry - predictive text oops x

I'd hate it if this happened, it gets your hopes up doesn't it.

No advice except I did read somewhere that they say wait a week until after AF due to test - although come on, who's going to wait a week?!?

Hope you know one way or the other very soon x

Buggerlugs was blunt and to the point, but not rude. I don't think she should be told to go and hang out with all the other rude people, simply because she was blunt . And it's definitely not true that the long term TTCers spoil the Coneption boards for all the other nice people - they generally keep themselves to themselves, because they don't want to discourage the "nice" people.

I think it's a good thing if people are realistic about the chances of conceiving/not conceiving.

What did the OP want to be told - "You are definitely pregnant!!"? How can anyone know that?

TCOYF is by Toni Weschler. It's a wee bit "American" (nothing wrong with that, just might be a different style to what you are used to) but it's got some interesting information about how our insides work, and lots of good advice.

Good luck OP.

Totally agree Hester shaw- but like you said no one can know either way so a your not pregnant is also not required as there is every possibility the op could be from my experience only also. I hope I haven't offended old ttc ladies as I too have been for almost 3 years also with dd I took 3 years or more to conceive so have my greatest empathy .
I think the tcoyf book is also a great way to getting to know yourself but at same time willing to try herbal hormone balancing like angus castus as would find it a lot better coming on af if they weren't so heavy

I want to wish us all healthy for a start as everyone who would love a child is deserving on here weather they are long awaited or new ttc.

Oops sorry yes :-) especially as I am not so spritely myself

I'm bloody ancient, me

Agnus Castus is quite powerful stuff, I'm told. I tried it in the early days - no idea why

Really ? What was your experience? I have to take mefanamic acid for af so hoping I could use this and all settle? I take iron when on 630mg as loose quite a lot of blood and get heart palpitations as iron levels dip to very low thinking herbal better than drugs prescribed? But heck I have been seeing a Chinese medicine man who is Canadian Indian ( google east meets west) for medicine that can only be described as earth scrapings in which I boil down to half a pint and gag it down holding my nose and sucking an apple core lol however has regulated af but still just as heavy ?! However now about to see gynaecologist tomorrow as keep mc and Chinese medicine man thinks nk cells , ( he was a 'normal' practioner prior to weird jars of earth scrapings)

Good point Bugs. I would just avoid self medicating with it. It's not "just" a supplement, in the same way folic acid is. It's a herb. Get advice from a qualified herbalist, maybe one who has experience in fertility issues.

It was from a reflexologist , not tried acupuncture however a colleague has just tried it for an op on her jaw so maybe this is another try , reflexology I have had for some time but I don't feel it has aided getting pregnant in anyway just more relaxation to be honest, I get pregnant every 6 months or so but seem to mc at approx 8 weeks, we have saved for Ivf treatment but unsure as to weather I am up for all the intervention in that way yet as have dd5 to consider and I do count my blessings I have her , however, dp is not biological father but is 100% daddy and fab at it and would love to provide a baby we made together ? If that makes sense xx

Aged 5 , however being blessed with 5 would be awesome.

4mc now, gynaecologist appt tomorrow as first stage fertility treatment as apparently eliminating why I mc is first stage? The rest we have to go privately as have my little lady. Where are you having Ivf? We have decided the Bourn clinic for that stage if that's the way forward?!
Dp has motility of 2% which is mighty low but will not investigate him further until I am entirely eliminated from being the ' issue?' As ladies are easier to treat.

I hope all goes well with your treatment? How are you feeling with your treatment?

I am not hugely looking to Ivf and need to go to their open day with all my questions as rest and agonising treatments would have impact on home life and my existing child . So much to think about and stress about ( query my biggest issue) x

ThAnkyou will come over if that's ok as could fill this thread with questions and answers to my own questions and questions about my answers