New year, new thread, fresh start and a brand spanking new injection of a hot new batch of posifrickenity! This is the year where our wombs will be comfy and our babies plentiful! TTC after MC.

[Sal1977]

2014. The year of the rainbow baby. We pledge to be positive (most of the time). We pledge to cry less, shag more and swear lots. This is the one wannamummabees!

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Lol Otters, that made my laugh.

me.

I'm about to tmi you so apologies in advance. Have you ever had large flesh colour clots with AF? Got horrible cramps this pm and passed a clot of a few cms which was flesh coloured and kind of solid. Is that normal? Have never experienced it before.

Penguin are you on your wtf cycle? If the pain has gone then I wouldn't worry too much, probably just things sorting themselves out. Maybe keep any further clots in a Tupperware and take to your local EPU? There is an excellent one at uclh if you are near London, Euston. Maybe get a scan if you are worried? If you did have some retained 'products', that may have been what it was. Sorry if that's the case.

It's my third AF since erpc so would be surprised if it was retained products but like you say maybe things are just taking a while to sort themselves out. I think I just momentarily overreacted as it freaked me out but have consulted Dr Google which suggested it can be normal freaky, but normal

Seasides - The first BFP I got was when I switched from normal lube to balance activ, I had the AhHa! moment! Didn't think that non spermicidal lube was still not optimal. So after my mc assumed I'd be immediately upduffed again, nope

Have come to the conclusion/decision that it's all bollocks and that millions of women get upduffed without expensive lube so I'm not going to bother!

I'm on CD1 though and feeling philosophical about it all, i.e. decided not to ttc (beyond this week's tests) and see what happens as annoyingly what everyone has always said my BFP's have happened when I've been busy doing something else

Please don't remind me of this in three weeks time when I'm going fucking mental again!

I give up on the Chinese herbal tea/soup brew. Can't do it. Yuk. :p

just I am not surprised! they sound minging!

missh the beauty of this little gang is that no one ever reminds anyone of their foolish words of optimism! I jest of course, the posifrickintivity state of mind is essential, even if we have temporary deviations along the way, and you are leading the way at the moment!

otters your post produced a rather embarrassing snort of laughter on my train home from work! I am sending you a fish slap but its very half hearted!

penguin dr google usually scares the crap out of me. As it's during AF I wouldn't worry, but maybe mention it next time you're at dr?

I've got some of those conceive plus pipette dooberries this month, anyone tried them? What's the best technique for maximum sexiness? I can't see breaking off mid 'getting in the mood' to squirt a pipette of lube up the fanjo adding to the mood!!

Otters I am guffawing at your internet spying on yourself. The lengths we go to to convince ourselves! It's not like I make a note of each and every twinge on Fertility Friend oh no!

That's my dilemma too parsley! It does say shove it up yourself 15 mins before sex, so I'm going to make DH's day year and tell him he can just get cracking. I'm def going to squirt in private though, there's no way to make that behaviour sexy! I think I've convinced myself I'm not getting enough ewcm, so I'm hoping the stupidly expensive lube will help.

Absolutely love you stalking yourself otter!

Just realised I bought a sodding fahrenheit bb thermometer. Useless!

Haha! I think in private might be best! Have you ever tried taking chesty cough medicine? I think I read once that a certain ingredient in it increases mucous membrane activity, so more ewcm. Trufax? Lies?

I only ever use lube beforehand, not during, I think OH believes I am naturally moist!

Apologies for the use of moist ! Icky!

at 'moist'. Makes me think of my pervy old music teacher. He always used to talk about 'moistening' your throat before attempting to sing :::shudder:::

My OH tells me to go upstairs and squirt before hand! Although we don't use it much now as it made it too moist (ha ha using that icky word) for him and he took forever to deposit the goods!!!

Yep - I've done the cough medicine thing. Deffo works but only at fertile time - ie you have to have some ewcm for it to work. It thins it basically. Doesn't produce more but just thins it - and you see it more. I take it sometimes when my cm is looking a bit too thick and rubbery (sorry again tmi) and seems to help.

Eeewwwwwwwww at music teacher!!!

Continuing the eeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwww! at music teacher. And moist. Also the words ewcm - when did it become non-gross to use the word mucus?! The things TTC does to you...

Ewcm seems better this month, maybe it's the agnus castus, which also seems to have brought ov further towards where it should be - expecting it tomorrow, on cd15.

told DH about ewcm yesterday - he didn't even know such a thing as cm existed! Conversation ended with his head under a pillow begging me to stop talking. I might have put him off dtd forwever!

Haha seasides my DH also doesn't like me telling him about changes in my cm. men eh?!

Otters I love your spying on yourself. Of course I'm planning on doing that later I won't be doing that!

I'm confused and have a question. I'm starting to worry that the two random days last week (Tuesday and Thursday) where I had some brown blood in my cm only on wiping (twice only!) was in fact a really weird period?! It was 4 weeks last Wednesday since my mc so not totally out of the question. But I didn't need to wear a tampon or anything at all, nothing on my underwear, just on wiping. I had hoped it was implantation bleeding but I have naughtily poas on Sunday and still no joy. Today I'm on cd34 and I average 32 days.

Confused

I know, right?! Why wouldn't they want to talk about stretchy discharge?!

I'm guessing, of course, deus, but I would say it was just a confused bit of spotting from your body and your period will arrive soon. 34 days isn't that much longer than 32 yet, so I'd say your body's still working out wtf happened before sorting itself out with a proper ef.

*af

missh - just read back to your post. Normal lube does harm the swimmers apparently; I think it needs to be rip-off lube or nothing?

parsley, I've taken the cough medicine too and I do notice things are a little wetter down below (sorry!). It has to contain gauifenesin though. I think it might even be prescribed in America or maybe I dreamt that

Could it be ovulation spotting deus?

Thanks seasides and champagne. I had what I thought was ovulation spotting the week before along with ewcm. But the cm was also quite fertile looking with the brown blood I had last week so who knows.

I think you're right seasides. I'll just consider it to be weird mid-cycle spotting as part of my wtf cycle and keep waiting for AF and dtd just in case she takes a long time!

Of course I have spent the last week thinking I must might be pregnant. I actually feel relieved today that I'm starting to think it's just wtf cycle stuff. Hoping to be pregnant and obsessing over it was actually quite stressful!

Try not to use too much of the lube though girls, it makes the swimmers slide out to quickly and things get 'sloppy' (good word). Try using half a syringe of it first and see how it goes.

From the syringe queen!

Same boat as you Deuse! Weird bleeding last week, FF have me as ov'ing on Friday. But I don't know. Kind of given up on this cycle now! Just want it over one way or another

Thanks sal - def sounds like it's going to need to be bum in the air post-sex!