New year, new thread, fresh start and a brand spanking new injection of a hot new batch of posifrickenity! This is the year where our wombs will be comfy and our babies plentiful! TTC after MC.

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2014. The year of the rainbow baby. We pledge to be positive (most of the time). We pledge to cry less, shag more and swear lots. This is the one wannamummabees!

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Omg beets! Congratulations!
Is there a special prize for fastest win ever?! You've barely joined before you'll (definitely, no doubts at all) be leaving us!

Tell us your secrets!

Oh amazing! That's fantastic beets! I hope you know what I mean when I say delighted you were with us so briefly

Oh, just read that your dh is too grumpy to be told-I hope you cheer him right up very soon.

Oooh beets whoop! That is a wonderful start to the year. Good luck, your DH can't stay grumpy for long now. Tell us what he says, please?

seasides, you guys are definitely grasping the wotsit by the horn, I hope AF doesn't arrive for you.

We are in the window, and I am trying to keep the enthusiasm up a bit. I thought a wife greeting a DH fully dressed but with no undies on might be entertaining, but after my post children to bed apocalypse pick me up bath, I couldn't figure out how to go undies free (tights and no pants, ew, jeans, ouch), so I was still naked when DH got home, pondering what to wear. Then I took DS swimming today, lost my bra, so he is about to discover a rather liberated wife when we go upstairs! It was a slightly drafty school run today Wish us luck...

Congratulations beets! Absolutely blimmin' fantastic news.

That's fantastic beets! I really hope this one sticks

Ah, you are all so nice. Thankyou for the congrats

I don't think dh will be very pleased when I tell him. He will say we can't afford it and he won't be very interested, in case I miscarry again. I know if we get past 12 weeks he will let himself be happy. In any event it's extremely rare to see him in such a bad mood, I will keep my distance till tomorrow.

Unfortunately, I have no secret. Like nordicmum I get pregnant very easily, I'm just not great at staying pregnant. Please keep your fx for me.

handsfull I hope your liberated approach has worked

All aboard the ttc express. CD9 over here and we're just limbering up for our shagathon. Aiming for roughly every other day for the next week.

How's everyone doing this fine Saturday? Our village is on the Thames so we went to have a look at the flooding today. Thankfully it doesn't look like any houses have been flooded along our section but the footpath is covered with water so deep that I got a rather icy foot bath with water spilling over the top of my wellies! Hope you're all keeping safe and dry.

Ergh, icy we'll foot bath does not sound good peng

CD22 here, so half way through 2ww and really, really trying not to symptom check, but I am having weird twangy sensations somewhere in the womb-y area. MUST NOT OVER ANALYSE.

Went to Zumba for the first time ever today, and have realised just how hopelessly uncoordinated I am! Even the old dears were keeping up better than me! Ah well, it was a lot of sweaty fun, so I think I shall persevere!
Out for a calorific curry tonight with my BF who is being induced in 10 days (gestational diabetes). Funny, hers is the only bump I like to be around, but then she's been an absolute rock throughout my unexplained infertility and then MMC so I guess that makes sense.

*welly, not we'll. stupid ipad

I feel for you Parsley. 2 ww sucks! Well done for getting out and getting sweaty at zumba as opposed to the usual staying in and getting sweaty I am so uncoordinated too but I love zumba. It might not feel like it but it gets so much easier when you've been a few times and you get to know the moves even if your instructor likes to mix it up.

Enjoy your curry tonight. Your friend sounds lovely. I think it's so important to have someone other than H to talk to about all this. Hopefully she's just the advanced party checking out the pregnancy terrain before you get your own BFP soon!

2ww does suck - cd26 here. Mostly wondering whether af will arrive tomorrow as normal, which will only be 10dpo, or hold off - not expecting a bfp, no symptoms at all. Well, only one slightly worrying one - a pressure on my RHS, roughly where I imagine my ovary/tube to be. If I do get a bfp I'll be convinced it's ectopic #2, almost hoping it's not this month.

Zumba sounds fun! I look like a drunk daddy-long-legs when I dance, but would like to give it a go. Had such a productive day including hacking the Xmas tree up for the fire and a chocolate-focused bakeathon. Super domesticated! Keeping busy is the best distraction tactic.

Also, can I ask a temping Q? This morning I took it twice under my armpit, and it was off the chart low - 35.9C I think. So I (washed the thermometer) and took it orally - 36.8. Is that normal? Which is more accurate?

seaside armpit and oral temperatures are different at an absolute level and as I recall you need to adjust the one under the armpit to directly compare with oral temp. Are you doing that and still getting a difference?

Penguin we're on CD9 here too! Started SMEP proper last night, and feint line is starting to appear on OPK, which is exciting as I've not used them before oh great more sticks to obsess over...

I had my first acupuncture session on Thursday and she thinks I have deficient blood, so let's hope she can get it sufficient before my definitely-gonna-happen BFP at the end of the month.

Exercise today seems to have mostly been me fishing my phone out of the loo and trying to dry it on the radiator and not giving two year old to gypsies to fund a new phone. Why do I want another DC?? Oh, yes, because he came and snuggled up next to me and held onto my ear. Little monkey

Really struggling today...just been out for a meal with my best friend who told me that she is 7 weeks pregnant.

I could cry. I'm very happy for her obviously, she's had a tough year also, but I can't help but be envious. I'm a year older, and her partner delighted in telling us it only took them 2 weeks from coming off the pull to get pg.

Just lost for words.

*pill

Oh sundance that must've been hard to get through with a smile on your face. Does your friends partner know your circumstances? A little bit insensitive if so, but the elation for them is understandable.

Still, and this is more a general comment than to do with this specific instance, I get a little bit when people announce pg's so enthusiastically so early on. I can't help but think "you don't realise what you're doing, what if....."
Awful, I know. But I can't help it!

Oh sundance that must be really tough. I always think it's the worst with people you're closer to. Big un-mumsnet style hug.

Great to have a cycle-buddy Tanny good luck with SMEP.

Ooh I'm interested in how your acupuncture goes. I've always wanted to try it. Hope it works for you.

I agree, my team mate at work just about waved her dripping test under our noses in the rush to let everyone know, she must have been all of two weeks gone I wouldn't wish the worst on anyone but when you've been through what a lot of us have it's unthinkable.

As for how your best friend told you I think it's awful, especially as she'll know what you're going through, some prior warning should have been given so you had chance to process it. I was informed by email which was much better than feigning cheer and excitement. I'm massively happy for my friend but she knew I'd need some time to get used to the idea, I have and now I'm just happy for her deeply jealous

sundance that's so rubbish. Hope you are feeling better today.. It's so heartbreaking isn't it.

I've taken to telling my friends (in a hypothetical way) that if they get pregnant I want a text or email rather than face to face so I have time to process it before I see them.

I know it's annoying too with early announcers but in my experience, they never are the ones to miscarry. Which is also annoying! not that I want them to miscarry but that I'm jealous of how blasé they are yet still turns out ok. That's just my experience tho.

Knackered at the moment. Really busy and hard work couple of weeks. Must get booking a holiday soon. We are going to the Canada in September but need something before that!!

I have to confess that I was one of those six week declarers. In the old days.

My history of pregnancy before my first mc was "get pregnant, have baby" so it seemed an even greater shock to mc the first time. And having to untell people was horrible.

Still, let's hope most of the blissfully unaware early delclarers stay that way. I wouldn't wish this on anybody...

My friend, who had 4 mcs and 2 failed ivfs before having her baby last month, is coming to see us next week with baba. I'm looking forward to seeing her, and squeezing the baby, but dreading it too. Ffs.

TBH I've always spent so much time dashing off to hospital (once in an ambulance, from school), that most people around me know what's going on. I don't like to seem flaky or unreliable, so if I have to let people down or dash off I prefer that they know why. I certainly don't expect being pg to lead to a baby (but imagine if, one day, it did!!!)

Thanks all, I knew you'd understand. To be honest, even my DH is taking it the same way. We knew they would be trying but still sort of hoped it would be us first!

Cried myself to sleep last night so my eyes and face are red raw today which will be fun going out in this frosty weather!

It's tough. I really wouldn't wish what we've all been through on anyone, but at the same time I'd feel more normal if a lot more people around me did.

sundance I completely get that. I think after a MC we all just exist in a perpetual state of conflict; not wishing the agony of MC on anyone but wishing more people had experienced it so you don't feel so alone.

At least we all have each other! And I do genuinely mean that, I think I'd have gone insane by now if not for you lot!

While I remember, Amazon are selling Pregnacare Conception (30 tablets) for £5 at the moment. I've opted for the (hopefully) tempting fate option and ordered 5 boxes! FX I'll be flogging the surplus ones on eBay very soon........