The Elderberry Pavlovas head into 2014 which will be full of ivf, berry babies and BFPs!!! (thread 17)

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The smallprint –
Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 6+months (preferably 12+) NO instadiffers, must have a special pot and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooooh aren’t we strict!

The 17th thread, wow! This had better be it ladies, time to get off the Sofa of Pity onto the Pouffe of Positivity and beyond!

Pip don't worry there is an antenatal berry helicopter (thread) with a seat with your name on it

pip I'd be scared to leave too! Wanna stay safe in the warmth of berry HQ!

Bunny with any luck we can leave together.

I'm just lurking too! pip i still haven't left properly haha! Oh and I've hardly been on the grads thread at all! Berry ha and the copter are far more cosy!

*hq

I'm still a bit scared of the grads thread. I think they have decided to move to post natal next thread because all the pg berries are in the copter now. There's lots of sleepless nights talk over there. It scares me a bit!

Morning all!

I wish we could pip

kitty tally are the grads still in pg thread, surely they should have moved on a long time ago.

Feeling glum this morning, feel like I've been awake since the early hours, got backache and feeling really periody so my positivity has gone out the window

At least it's Friday!

Such bad cramps last night. Like really bad period pains. I was completely expecting to see blood.
Called the clinic who were happy it wasn't ohss. In fact her suggestion was it might be trapped wind. I don't remember the last time I farted.
I'm so glad I'm off work again today. And my lovely cat came and sat on my tummy. I'm sure they know how to help.

Hang in there Bunny, it's just a few more days. Aren't period pains similar to early pregnancy pains? Where did I read that? Something about how the uterus is stretching to expand...? In a few weeks you & Pip will be the ones holding the new IVFers' hands, telling us that you had x y z symptoms too and not to worry

Pip I'm glad it's not OHSS but sorry you're in pain! Hopefully you'll blow it all out soon

barking good on you for managing to avoid her bump for this long! I'm impressed!

AFM I've had massive ovulation pains these last few days - I had completely forgotten to PIMP so I did one yesterday afternoon and got a v strong line, but I think it was bc I left it too long before checking. This morning's with FMU was faint so I have no clue what's going on - EWCM on Weds, we've been DTD every night this week, so I think we're in good shape beats head against wall

Bunny, yes, they are still in antenatal clubs at the moment

hey berries, i'm in hibernation at the moment and lurking a bit. Just wanted to send the best of luck to Bunny and Pip and others who are about to start IVF. Hope everyone is keeping well!

Evening, just popping on to let you guys know I had an early 6 week scan yesterday. They found a little heartbeat. It measured a few days smaller than I thought but they didn't seem worried. I'm obviously very worried, and keep freaking out at the smallest thing (today I was in tears after carrying 2 shopping bags home in case they were too heavy and hurt the bean). After the gps lecture about never getting pregnant it feels like a lot of pressure! Anyway, I'm off to lurk again, keeping everything crossed for you all.

pip sorry about the cramps, every twinge sends you crazy panicing doesn’t it! I suffered really badly with constipation and wind from the progesterone, it’s no fun at all!

Sid Who knows! I have googled so much about pains and twinges and stitches that my fingers now hurt lol. FX me and pip can be the wise IVFers with advice, that would be nice
Good on you for DTD every day!

Thanks blue how are you?

Yay wino how reassuring for you

pip apparently my ovaries were massive after the iui. Did have slight discomfort but hopefully it's just wind in your case anyway

bunny tally I just prefer sticking to our group tbh, especially with some of the stuff we talk about. I hardly know the grads!

My friend at work was telling me about her sister today. She's been ttc for 7 years and just got pg (4th ivf, done in Prague).

I do agree kitty, I think the only grad I've actually known is Mother. Everyone else had already graduated when I joined!

another vote for the copter here! I dont recognise many of the grad berries.

I did pop in the other day to ask a question amd they were lovely and helpful but agree too much 'actual real' baby talk!

we talked about moving but just got cosy where we are

Afraid I'm quite cosy too! Not sure I'm ready to discuss farting, incontinence, cm and burgers with anyone else yet haha!

I'm worried that by the time I get in that bloody copter you will have all left and it will be empty

Oh I'm sure I'll still be here Bunny.

We DTD last night but I keep having this sneaking suspicion that it all just drools out again. Sorry for revolting mental image. I just can't figure through the mechanics of how it gets to the cervix if it's retroverted.

I think I am going to go to the GP in March if no luck before then.

Someone smack me please. Having horrible self indulgent day of sobbing and "it'll never happen" thoughts. Why is it so hard? Having a baby is supposed to be one of life's greatest experiences. Smack me now ladies, before I go nuts.

Don't be too hard on yourself - these days happen. Do what ever gives you comfort. (For me, hot bath and comedy panel shows...)

Nearly there bunny ! How are you doing?

Hi Birdy how are you?

Great news win, must have been wonderful to see

parsley we all have days like that, and you're allowed a little wallow now and again, you don't need wanging unless you're still thinking like that today!

I had a reality jolt last night. A friend was asking about whether I'd go private for IVF and I said no, we'd go for adoption if it didn't work with the NHS. She said it was a lot cheaper if you did the egg sharing as she'd looked into it. Then I realised that by the time I've had my IVF round I'll be too old for egg sharing . It's irrelevant really, as I've always said I won't go private, financially it's not a route I want to go down.

But I'm going to get a bfp this cycle as a triumph to irony - it would come just in time to ruin my hen do! And make it very obvious to everyone at the wedding that the bride wasn't drinking!!

Omg bunny is tomorrow the day? That's come around so fast (probably not for you!)

barking not that you'll actually need ivf but after talking with my friend at work I'd totally consider ivf abroad now (if iui doesn't work again). She said all her scans, work up, etc was done here and she literally went for ec and et, and it was significantly cheaper!

Kitty where exactly did your friend go for IVF?
I'm not exactly comfortable with having to pay for treatment but with the ridiculous waiting list here I feel we will have no choice. If we rely on the NHS it means that we wouldn't start treatment until I'm 37.5. Assuming it worked first time I'd be gone 38 by the time we got our baby. I really can't put up with another 2 years of TTC . Plus it would mean that my eggs would be even older and our chances of success would be less.
Barking I'm going for an ironidiff in the next few months too! It would mean a new wedding dress and a dry hen/honeymoon but guess its a small price to pay!

Oh parsley Hun we've all had days like that, the amount of tears i'ved cried since TTC could probably fill a bath to the brim!

barking kitty I am feeling sick, not sleeping, freaking out! The last few days are hideous! I am too scared to test. Maybe I won't and just see what happens

Bring on th FUFCs happy and barking!!!!!