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About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 3)

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Lucyjojo · 14/12/2013 00:35

Part 3 for a chatty lot!
3 is the magic number, good things come in 3s, so here is hoping we get plenty more BFPs.....

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mrsm22 · 17/12/2013 21:04

Hi Utopian, oscar is a lovely name. Does he have a middle name? DH is a taxi driver, not quite as flash as architect. Money is good but he has to work unsociable and long hours like Friday and Saturday nights. We spent a lot of money on training for DH and he passed all his truck/lorry licences (HGV and LGV etc) but then couldn't get a job in it without experience which is a bit if a joke as what's the point in doing the training and spending all that money if you can't get a job afterwards? But he's very good at driving and I think has almost every type of driving licence except tractor... Could be next.

mrsm22 · 17/12/2013 21:05

Hi Toothpaste - Good luck with your scan!

SwedeAway · 18/12/2013 05:38

So I am trying to unravel the 'mysteries' of antenatal care here. As usual, it is almost impossible to get any information. It is certainly a do-it-yourself attitude for everything. I am going to the hopsital this morning to have a blood test done, then I think I must take this test to a doctor who can then confirm that I am pregnant. After that, I am not sure at all. It is certainly not like it was in England where I just went to see my GP and after that it all happended 'automatically'. How I miss the NHS!!!

CallingAllEngels · 18/12/2013 06:27

It's so different from country to country swede!

Here (NL) we went to GP first who said, "congratulations but you need to refer yourself to the midwives yourself. This is the closest practice." Went to midwife practice who gave me an info form to fill in and blood tests form and then made me an appt for 11/12 weeks. Was quite weird as until the blood test at 10 weeks they didn't even confirm I was actually pg!

But after last mc, my mws told us to get in touch as early as possible this time so they can give me an early scan at 8w.

Haven't caught up o thread. Late home with parents evening yesterday, course today, Christmas show tomorrow(which I'm in charge of). Can't wait till Friday!

SwedeAway · 18/12/2013 08:56

Engels - yes it is so confusing. So I gave a blood test this morning. Apparently this is finalised in 2-3 hours and then sent to my GP. I have made an appointement to see my GP tomorrow morning although I suspect all they are going to do is to refer me to a Gyno (why one needs a Gyno is beyond me but apparently this is who I need to register with). Hopefully I will be a bit wiser by tomorrow but who knows...

HungryHorace · 18/12/2013 10:39

That does sound very confusing, Swede. Hopefully it'll become clear sooner rather than later.

Your system sounds far clearer, Engels.

I've got my flexible work request meeting on Monday. Joy. No mention was made in the email about my pregnancy, but I suppose it's not relevant to the request.

Still not feeling overly pregnant apart from round ligament pain, but I'm sure I'll get there as I'm only 6 weeks' pregnant. :-)

SwedeAway · 18/12/2013 11:06

Hungry - everything is always confusing and time consuming in this country. At least DH is coming with me to the dr tomorrow. I suspect we won't get much else done before the holidays:(

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 18/12/2013 16:23

Isn't it strange how things can be so different even within the same country? I wasn't even allowed a booking in appointment until 8 weeks in my previous town. Here, I saw a MW for an hour (an hour! that's longer than I saw my last one for in the whole pregnancy!!!) on Monday (at 5 weeks) and she's been texting me (texting! actually using modern technology!) to arrange things since. I have flu jab on monday, early scan on Christmas Eve Smile, bloods early in Jan, dating scan in Feb - all sorted by one lovely midwife. More reasons to love my new home!

I hope everyone else is keeping well. Are you feeling Christmassy yet?

Btw, is anyone still up for a book club?! I've just finished Gone Girl so was about to start something new. Anyone up for starting that Patrick Ness one with me?

Awakeagain · 18/12/2013 20:02

Also implant out todayGrinGrin
Donna- fingers crossed I am as lucky as you
I would be over the moon

Awakeagain · 18/12/2013 20:04

HmmMy other post disappeared
Was just askin if anyone had seen the thread some where on mn te other day which was whinging about midwives but had a great link in it
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donnas1984 · 18/12/2013 20:18

awake I tuink your super fertile as soon as its out so get busy Wink. Also id calculated wrong I had mine out 3 days and got preg! crazy stuff xx

Awakeagain · 19/12/2013 06:38

Wow donna even more amazing!!!

HungryHorace · 19/12/2013 09:46

Swede, I hope your GP appointment is more enlightening than the info received to date!

Awake, I hope you've been DTD already. :-) Get going!

Toothpaste, good luck tomorrow!

mrsm22 · 19/12/2013 09:53

Hello everyone,

Well i saw the midwife yesterday and got all my blood tests. Everything came back good. I listened to the baby's heartbeat and she felt my uterus and the baby. She said that my baby is measuring a bit bigger than 1 weeks, so maybe two weeks bigger or over. She said this was nothing to worry about but i am worrying now a bit. She said that the only concerns are you might have to be monitored to make sure the baby can pass through the pelvis. Am i worrying for nothing? The baby may even itself out but if not,is it just a case of if you are having a big baby that you might have to have a c-section?

HungryHorace · 19/12/2013 10:03

It's still early days, mrs, baby could even out between now and d day. Don't worry too much yet.

And some people can give birth to big babies naturally, so even if baby is big you could still be OK.

FWIW it was the angle of DD's head which caused my EMCS, not her 9lb 7oz weight!

How lovely to hear the heartbeat. Are you 16 weeks now? They don't attempt to listen before that here, and then warn that it may not be possible.

I'm still not feeling that pregnant. 6+1 today. Time is going so slowly. :-/

mrsm22 · 19/12/2013 10:29

Hi Hungry, i'm 15 weeks tomorrow but i also thought they didn't listen to the heartbeat until 16 weeks. It could be that i'm a week further on. Is that all it means though? I mean, if you are measuring big or bigger does it just mean they might give you a c-section? I was pleased to hear the heartbeat and get all good blood test results back.
How are you feeling? You still have a little while to go until your 12 week scan, i bet you are getting impatient. It will go quick though what with xmas etc. You had a big baby with your DD. What was the recovery like afte a c section?

HungryHorace · 19/12/2013 10:42

You have to measure 3+ weeks more in the last few weeks before they do a growth scan. If you need one if those, they'll discuss your options once you've had it. IME, the growth scans are mostly wildly inaccurate! I'm not sure why they bother.

I'm fine. Wishing I didn't find out so early again as I have longer to wait for more substantive symptoms (though I am hot and sweaty and thirsty at night, and have round ligament pains, plus I'm definitely more tired, so am not symptomless entirely!).

My scan is 5 weeks on Monday and the midwife 3 weeks today.

Time does go relatively quickly, I suppose, but it could go more quickly. :-)

I've got my flexible work request meeting on Monday, which I can't really be arsed with, but never mind. I wonder if they'll mention the pregnancy, as they didn't in their email!

HungryHorace · 19/12/2013 10:44

Oh, the recovery wasn't too bad really. I could walk shirt distances quite slowly after a couple of weeks. If you have one you will need a hand as you have DS already. My MiL will assist after next time.

It all depends on how well you heal and making sure you initially take it easy, I think.

Monstersaurus · 19/12/2013 12:50

Hi all,
Glad to hear all is progressing well for those of you who have their BFPs.

I'm having a bit of a down day today, babies everywhere and I was so hopeful that I would be pregnant for Christmas. I know we're very early in our TTC story, but still. Ah well, AF is nearly out of the way for this month so here begins attempt #3.

Hope your visit to the doctor goes well Swede. Awake, fingers crossed for you.

SwedeAway · 19/12/2013 12:54

Went to see the GP this morning who confirmed that my blood test confirmed that I am indeed pregnant. I am 5 weeks which kind of fits with my calculation as I thought I would be 5 weeks tomorrow. GP told me that I can self-refer to a Gyno so I have now done this and I am going to see him on the 8th January. So not much more I can do this side of Christmas I guess.

Told my parents last night. They are over the moon. My mum had already figured it out of course. She said I was starting to look a bit fat:)

No real pg symptoms to talk about. Very bloated, super windy (sorry TMI) and hungry all the time. Also very very tired.

Last day at work today, on summer holiday from tomorrow. A million things to sort out before Sunday when we are heading to the Cape.

SwedeAway · 19/12/2013 13:07

Monster - Sorry you are feeling down today! I am really keeping fx for your third attempt!

HungryHorace · 19/12/2013 13:39

It's hard to hide it from mums, isn't it? I'm seeing my parents this weekend and I'm trying to work out what I can wear to look as slim as possible. Hmmm!

At least you've got the ball rolling now, which is exciting. It'll be interesting to see what the Gyno says at the appointment. I'm intrigued how it works!

Monster, sorry you're feeling down. When do you OV? You'll be close to a proper Christmas present baby! Third cycle lucky for you I hope. :-)

Windywinston · 19/12/2013 20:35

Congratulations on the heartbeat Mrs. I got to hear my little one today, a week late but I couldn't go to the midwife last week as was working away. It's a wonderful thing isn't it.

Honestly I would try not to worry about the size issue if I were you. It very early days and sizing by touch alone is notoriously unreliable (although I've heard the scans aren't much better). I'm sure if there is an issue nearer the time they'll send you for growth scans. I have to have them this time but because they're worried about a small baby (DD was small).

Monster, I hope you get your BFP soon, I know how disappointing it is xx

HungryHorace · 19/12/2013 20:42

Going by touch is VERY inaccurate. I had 3 separate midwives tell me that DD would be between 7-8 lbs after palpating my bump. Hmmmm!

donnas1984 · 19/12/2013 20:50

Mrsm I have the mw tomorrow cant wait to hear he heartbeat have you felt any fluttering yet I can feel it at night i love it. I love being pregnant id be a surrogate! (feel free to remind me of this when im 38+weeks greeting to get started haha)
Hungry once the festivities are over it will start flying in!
Swede glad you got a bit of clarity today. xx
I'm on my phone and wanted to say i hope your feeling okay to whoever is feeling down but im so sorry u names gone right out my head! You know who you are! xx

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