About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 3)

[Lucyjojo]

Part 3 for a chatty lot!
3 is the magic number, good things come in 3s, so here is hoping we get plenty more BFPs.....

Hi Guinness!

Utopian, thank you. I may well do that. I know it seems daft fighting for something which affects me for such a short time, but it'd be 6 weeks where I'd barely see DD, so it's worth the fight.

My employer is crap though, but hey ho!

Besides, I want to annoy them enough that they want to get rid!

Hi everyone,
First massive congratulations to Kt! Are you testing again this morning or today to be sure or are you already sure it's a definite line?
Windy - Congratulations on your 20 week scan! I am 18 weeks on Friday, it's going very quickly.
Hungry- what's going on with work ?
I think I said last time I was on that I'm not very well, well I started with cold and sore throat last Friday and yesterday my chest started to feel very sore. It does today too and I have a bit of a chesty cough so I'm worried in case it's turning into a chest infection. I know it could be viral but I'm worried as it sure if I can take anything. I don't like to take medication while pregnant as I'm worried what will of may harm the baby. I'm not sure what to do. DH is back at work today but I'm back tomorrow so going to stay in today and drink plenty of fluids etc and hope that I feel better tomorrow for work. Should I be going to work tomorrow if no better? I'm worried work will think I'm taking the piss as I've been off since 20th Dec but it has been holiday. Was going to see how I feel tomorrow and if no better go to the doctors tomorrow.

Welcome Guinness and hi Utopian. I'm not sure I could handle birthdays close to Christmas either. As it is DD, DH and DC2 will all have birthdays within 4 weeks of each other in May/June. I'm going to be broke every spring! I think it's a lovely time to have a birthday though, mine was yesterday (35 - eek) which is a crappy birthday.

Mrs, sorry you're not feeling well. I don't like to take anything in pregnancy either. Hot honey and lemon might help, but if you're not well enough to work you're not well enough to work, the fact that you've been off on annual leave doesn't make a difference. Don't push yourself if you're not up to it, rest and take care of yourself and your little boy xx

A belated happy birthday Windy!

mrsm sorry to hear you're feeling rough. If you're not better by tomorrow I would definitely go and see your GP. They won't prescribe you anything that would harm your baby! And your work will just have to suck it up; I know it's bad timing and I would feel bad too, but at the end of the day you can't help when you get ill. Don't overdo it as it might just make you worse, and you might end up having to take even longer off!

Any news this morning kt?

Welcome back utopian it can only help dropping down to one feed surely! I dont blame you missing a few weeks ttc, we'd have done the same as dds birthday is mid jan & I wouldnt have wanted another very close with it already being just after christmas. Hopefully your dates will work out well and you'll only miss one ovulation.

Oh no mrs sorry youre not well. I had an awful cold from about the week before christmas and its just gone, seems to be very hard to get rid of things when pregnant :( I know what you mean about feeling guilty about work, id be exactly the same but windy & metal are right, you cant help being ill! You dont want to get even more run down.

Happy birthday for yesterday windy did you havr a lovely day?

How are you doing today metal? And you hungry? Sickness any better?

Wow, congrats Kt - super pleased for you. Have you done another test? Is the line stronger?

Mrs, nothing is going on with work at the moment. They've missed the 14 day response deadline, but no surprise as the HR manager told me they have 28 days at the meeting. Idiots! I'm speaking to an employment solicitor I used to work with tomorrow to ask him what my best tactics are for getting what I want!

I've not even had the minutes of the meeting to sign / agree yet.

Sorry you're feeling ill. If you're too ill to work, you're too ill, regardless of whether you've been on annual leave or not. You could always call NHS direct, or whatever they're called now, and see what they think tonight. Then if you call in sick you can tell them it's under medical advice.

Better, my sickness isn't too bad now. I think I benefit from not having to drag myself out of bed early in the morning. How are you feeling? Isn't it your DD's birthday soon?

I've never considered pausing TTC to avoid a particular date, but then it's never been an issue for us. We're not too badly spaced out as it is. I'm Nov, DH in Dec, DD in June and DC2 will be August.

Windy, happy belated birthday! 35 isn't too bad...I was 37 last time. That's crap! :-)

Also Happy Birthday Windy for yesterday, sorry I totally missed that! Did you have a good day? Hungry is right, 35 is still nice and young. I was 32 in September so we're all around the same age.
Thank you everyone, I've made a doctors appointment for this afternoon at 2.30pm just to get my chest listened to as I want to make sure it's not a chest infection. I'm hoping it's viral and goes soon. Fingers crossed I will feel ok for work tomorrow but like you've all said, I don't want things to get any worse.
Hungry - I think it's poor of your work not to have got back to you yet. Let us know what your employment law friend advises. I finish at end of feb so it's not long but that's why I don't want work to think I'm taking the p!ss. The problem is it's this time of year when everyone is or has been ill.
Kt - we are all waiting on your pregnancy test results! I hope it's positive.
Better - I didn't realise you were at home so he's another SAHM buddy!
Metal - how are you?
Oh by the way, I know a few if you mentioned the situation with my sister . It's a big mess really and I have been very upset over it as it's causing family problems not just between me and my sister. We aren't speaking and haven't seen each other for a while but my mum and dad feel very caught in the middle and upset that we can't put our differences aside. Mum feels it's dividing the family and going to make family occasions awkward. Not sure what I can do but my DH thinks that maybe once I've had my baby in June that it may change things as my sister may decide she wants to see the baby or something. I'm not sure myself but there's just an update. It's just a shame to have all that upset and while pregnant.

Also Happy Birthday Windy for yesterday, sorry I totally missed that! Did you have a good day? Hungry is right, 35 is still nice and young. I was 32 in September so we're all around the same age.
Thank you everyone, I've made a doctors appointment for this afternoon at 2.30pm just to get my chest listened to as I want to make sure it's not a chest infection. I'm hoping it's viral and goes soon. Fingers crossed I will feel ok for work tomorrow but like you've all said, I don't want things to get any worse.
Hungry - I think it's poor of your work not to have got back to you yet. Let us know what your employment law friend advises. I finish at end of feb so it's not long but that's why I don't want work to think I'm taking the p!ss. The problem is it's this time of year when everyone is or has been ill.
Kt - we are all waiting on your pregnancy test results! I hope it's positive.
Better - I didn't realise you were at home so he's another SAHM buddy!
Metal - how are you?
Oh by the way, I know a few if you mentioned the situation with my sister . It's a big mess really and I have been very upset over it as it's causing family problems not just between me and my sister. We aren't speaking and haven't seen each other for a while but my mum and dad feel very caught in the middle and upset that we can't put our differences aside. Mum feels it's dividing the family and going to make family occasions awkward. Not sure what I can do but my DH thinks that maybe once I've had my baby in June that it may change things as my sister may decide she wants to see the baby or something. I'm not sure myself but there's just an update. It's just a shame to have all that upset and while pregnant.

Apologies, I think I accidentally posted twice!

Hey I did two more tests this morning lol IC and a FRER faint but deffo lines on them both! When should I do a digi? Really want to confirm it for definite!

Happy belated birthday windy! Hope things get sorted with your sister mrs especially for all your children's sakes.

I did a digi the day after my positive FRER, Kt. You should be fine tomorrow. :-)

Your DH sounds like he's very excited! Has it sunk in yet?

Hurray Kt! Another bfp on our thread! So glad you finally got your bfp, do you believe it yet? When was your last AF? Guess you won't be going to your docs app on the 10th? Maybe booking that app is what did it for you! What do you reckon you did differently this cycle then? Tips please!!
Happy birthday for yesterday Windy, did you/are you doing anything nice to celebrate?
Sorry you're feeling rotten Mrs, it is that time of year isn't it. DD is suffering with a runny nose and cough at the mo, which means she isn't doing a lot of sleeping. Luckily I'm not in work until Saturday so I can sit up with her! Think I might be catching it too though now...
What a crap situation to be in with your family. I hope your DH is right though and the new baby will make her see the light of day and try to make amends with you.
Utopian I was thinking similar to you, DD was born early nov and my last AF with her was 25th Jan, so I guess last AF would be feb/march for a dec baby. I was hoping to avoid a winter baby altogether, the short, dark, cold days aren't nice with a newborn are they! I'm not sure I could miss out a month or two of trying and delay it even longer though. DH is at college as well as working at the moment for another 18months so really summer holidays when he finishes would be an ideal time for us to have another baby, but that would mean waiting about 6 months before we can start trying again!!
Hungry it's good that you've got some contacts in the industry to talk this through with. I can't believe some employers still don't know all the laws surrounding mat leave and pregnancy rights! Also Mrs I agree with everyone else, if you aren't right to go to work you must stay at home and take care of yourself. Don't worry about what work think, you won't be with them much longer!!
Welcome guiness - how old is your DC?

kt that's brilliant!! Hurrah hurrah!!!

lucy it must be your turn now, are you thinking about having a break to fit in with dates or are you just going to keep trying regardless?

How did you get on at the doctors mrs? Sorry to hear about your troubles with your sister. We have some experience of reducing ( or in our case totally cutting) contact with family (my husbands parents) and I know how awful it is, it plays on your mind all the time. I hope you can find a way to let it pass over you (and if you do, let me know!!!) The only useful thing I can tell you, is that from our experience, there wasn't and probably won't ever be a way for us to reconcile BUT neither my husband and I feel that this is unfair on our little girl. People we've spoken to sometimes find that hard to understand, and at first (well for about a year) I also thought we owed it to our daughter to work to keep them in her life etc. but in the end I realised that she wasn't losing out by not seeing them, as they simply aren't nice people. I think it's easy to feel you should take the s**t that family repeatedly give you for the sake of the children involved but now I truly believe that's not the case. All that being said, I remember at the time thinking how much harder I would find it with my own family as opposed to my husbands side. And yours may be a totally different situation and you may in time feel able to forgive and forget. I hope you find the resolution that's right for you, your husband and babies :)

Hi ladies, good evening
Hi Better - sorry to hear you've had family trouble too and thanks for sharing and your advice. I hope we can reconcile things eventually but at the moment I just can't see how. I feel awful tonight, just eating the roast chicken I made for tea but throat is killing. The doctor had a look down my throat and listened to my chest and said it is an upper respiratory infection, or viral infection, so bottom of my throat and top if my chest. She said she could see a red inflamed side at the back of my throat. No antibiotics but she said to take it easy and rest and plenty of fluids and hopefully it will go and not spread to my chest but to watch out in case it does. I've decided not to go back to work until I'm better. I really hope it doesn't spread or get worse and that it just goes soon. If I miraculously feel better by thurs I will go to work but I don't want to make it worse.

I posted too soon!

Please your sickness has eased a little hungry, I feel exactly the same about mornings! With dd I was sick every morning for weeks and weeks but then I was working 60+ hour weeks and out driving to work by 6.30 each morning. This time, I've had next to no sickness and I really think it's just due to being able to take my time on a morning. I'm finding the tiredness a total killer this time though! Yes, her birthday is next week! Very exciting!

Just seen your latest mrs it sounds nasty! Did she tell you you could take any medicines to help? Definitely stay off until you're recovered, going out in this weather won't help you!

I really hope so Better!! AF is due pretty much the same dates as the last AF I had with DD, 25th Jan, so maybe it will be next cycle it will happen....I don't know, think I'm just clutching at straws now!! Going to start with OPKs tomorrow and aim to dtd every other day. Not sure what more I can do really. I think I will just keep on going, but I don't know if that is selfish, I want a baby so much but if it is born in dec/jan will it hate me forever!? My Mums birthday is early jan and she always goes on about how she hates having a birthday so close to christmas and in the winter when it's cold and miserable.
Sorry to hear about your situation, but glad you have come to some sort of resolution and you feel happy about your decision. My dad has pretty much severed contact with most of his family, we had very little to do with them growing up, and still don't really, and while it would have been nice to have a big extended family growing up, I don't feel any great loss really. I think what children don't know when they are little can't hurt them. You can only make the decisions you feel are for the best and work the best for your little family.

hey everyone! sorry I've not been on for a while nothing to say really lol! happy birthday windy hope you had some cake . kt congratulations! lucy pee stickd in the posts so fx for this month xx

Meant to say in my lady post huge congratulations Kt! xx

Congratulations KT! Great news.

I'm in tww land which is about as much fun as I recall. Not much in the way of symptoms, a bit bloated but nothing more. I did have some cramping but that has settled. AF isn't due for another wee while so we'll see.

Am on my phone so a bit of a self-centred post.

Hope you're all well and recovered from the festivities.

Congratulations KT! Great news.

I'm in tww land which is about as much fun as I recall. Not much in the way of symptoms, a bit bloated but nothing more. I did have some cramping but that has settled. AF isn't due for another wee while so we'll see.

Am on my phone so a bit of a self-centred post.

Hope you're all well and recovered from the festivities.

Congratulations KT! Great news.

I'm in tww land which is about as much fun as I recall. Not much in the way of symptoms, a bit bloated but nothing more. I did have some cramping but that has settled. AF isn't due for another wee while so we'll see.

Am on my phone so a bit of a self-centred post.

Hope you're all well and recovered from the festivities.

Congratulations KT! Great news.

I'm in tww land which is about as much fun as I recall. Not much in the way of symptoms, a bit bloated but nothing more. I did have some cramping but that has settled. AF isn't due for another wee while so we'll see.

Am on my phone so a bit of a self-centred post.

Hope you're all well and recovered from the festivities.

Oops. No idea how I managed that! Sorry.

I think monster is realllllly pleased for you KT!