Eggcellent Egg Buddies - a thread for those IVFing in November, December and January

[eurochick]

New thread. Welcome back to all the regulars. Welcome to all the newbies - please come and join us if you are IVFing or thinking about. The regulars are a mine of information at this point!

Do you realise that this will take us through a year of egg buddy threads? I believe Karbea started the last one around Xmas time last year for those cycling in 2013 and I immediately jumped on it as I was about to start my first cycle in January. Blimey.

PS - chocs
Badhair - a disgraceful comment by your mother - sounds like my mum! So sorry you have to deal with that. X

Pps - think it might have been me who did the food list - I'll look for it and re-post

Hi wannabe unfort my DHs sperms tests were bad and he's had 2 sperm freezes lately and they were low too so that's pretty crappy, he was very disappointed as had hoped his lifestyle changes would have improved things. FC dr says its probably genetic for us.

fab hope you are doing ok, the time up to the funeral is always strange, will be nice to go home and see your hubby

Bug hope your dr is kind and signs you off, sometimes you just need to be away from work to feel better

In bunny-land its CD1! The 18th AF I never wanted, not long compared with most of you but it's a funny anniversary to reach

But it does mean my cycle is back up to 28 days after some weird cycles so that's good. Gonna ring FC Monday and see if I will be allowed to start jabbing if next AF arrives on time between Christmas and new year!!!
Do you think they'll let me?!?

Tame I'm gutted to hear your cycle has been cancelled. I can only imagine how frustrated you must feel. It's so weird what things seem to push us over the edge so to speak. I've had bad news on the ttc front at work too and have managed to carry on yet have had absolute meltdowns at other times over minor things. Not that this is a minor thing at all. You have been preparing and hoping for months. It's so bloody unfair. How are you feeling now? X

Bugs it really sounds like your at the end of your tether. I was signed off just after Christmas last year. The week before Christmas my work was shut unexpectedly and I was moved to a different position. It was awful. On top of that I had just started the IVF game. I was so stressed I couldn't sleep. I went to my GP who signed me off and I did lots of negotiating with my work and ended up going part time for 6 months which really helped. Is your GP sympathetic? I would get an appointment booked in with them. I didn't even go to mine looking to be signed off I went to get some sleeping tablets and my GP said I was in not fit state to work. Tbh you sound like you've got a lot more going on at the moment than I did xx

Sorry to read some people have been feeling a bit down. I think Fish has it spot on. It's a bit unavoidable at Christmas. I normally really love this time of year but I must admit our infertility seems to cast a dark shadow over all the celebrations. It's my birthday in December as well which I always find difficult as I find it hard to deal with being a year older. I always view it as a year less fertile not the most optimistic birthday girl

BadHair what an awful comment from your mum. People really don't think sometimes. My mum has said some terrible things over the years despite having ttc for four years herself. We actually stopped talking for a while earlier on in the year when she orchestrated my sister telling me her happy news on the phone in front of all our family on Mother's Day. I still feel so hurt now that she didn't understand how hurtful it was.

Euro glad to hear everything is going well so far. How are you managing with the drugs?

Any news from Rabbit? I hope you are ok x

I've just had a letter from the pct. After my last cycle I appealed to get my treatment transferred to a private clinic from my nhs one. I've finally heard that they have approved it. I don't know what to do as I'm ready to start my next cycle with my current clinic over Christmas. So if I move I'll have to wait longer and the private clinic doesn't do short protocol. On the other hand my nhs clinic stats are 19% success rate compared to 36% at the private. The private clinic is care in Manchester, has anyone got any experience of them?

Good luck with your doctor bugger. I think you're being very sensible asking for help.

AFM I've got sausage casserole in the oven, cheese and paté starters waiting, and some nice I bought 2 thermal vests yesterday. I was very excited to find them! It does get cold here in winter you know!

Hi all, de lurking to say hi and also have a bit of a wobble. No real symptoms, and it's my early scan today. I'm terrified it's the IVF drugs keeping AF away and I'm not actually pregnant.
That's what infertility means to me, the loss of any hope and joy in my pregnancy.

Have a hand to hold talulah , wishing you all the luck in the world for today x

AFM, so nervous that we will get to the clinic and they'll say that there are no embryos left to transfer. Someone please slap me!

Resounding fish slap duly administered Chocs - your embies will be wonderful :) good luck today xx

Tal, there's no doubt about it, it's a scary time but I'm sure you'll be fine - good luck and wishing you all the best xx

I'm holding both your hands

Morning all.

tal I wish you all the very best for todays scan - it will be fine. I know exactly how you are feeling as I feel the same right now . I am avoiding testing, but had to yesterday as MrFish was anxious.

choc good luck with the ET. You will be fine and I am also slapping oyu with my namesake.

AFM - wot Tal said (bar the scan of course - I am up next week).

tame if you are reading I hope you are ok.

tal good luck for the scan. I understand your fears, but the odds are on your side!

choc good luck and fish slaps to you!

fish I found testing comforting. I tried not to do it every day though.

AFM, I had my second scan this morning and it was rather disappointing. At the first scan on Friday I had 8-10 follies all growing. They are still there but most haven't grown much, however two have really taken off. This is the position I was in on my natural modifed second cycle (when I ended up with four mature eggs and two poor quality embies). It makes timing EC difficult as I think the lead follies will end up over cooked and the little ones might not catch up. The dr said that they will up the dose tonight in the hope of getting "one or two more" (in addition to the lead two). Four would be fine and if it'd been told that was what I would get at the beginning, I would feel ok about it, but it's a disappointing come down from 8-10. We'll see what happens. EC will most likely be on Thursday.

Talulah good luck. Lack of symptoms don't mean anything. Keeping everything crossed for you x

Choco good luck today. I'm sure your lovely embies are doing well.

Euro I can understand why you are disappointed. Am I right in thinking it's the first time you've stimmed? Hopefully upping the dose will get those follies growing.

Thanks for the reply Bugs. I've decided to stick with my nhs clinic for this round as I really can't wait any longer. I've spoken to my pct and they are happy for me to transfer my final cycle to care. We are also saving to self fund one round there as well.

Fish keep hanging in there x

cupcakes my second cycle was natural modified which means starting stimms on day 6. This is the first time I have started stimms at the normal time, but otherwise is very similar (same drugs - gonal F and cetrotide, same dose, etc).

Hand hold here for talulah & a nose peg for choco Good luck today ladies - sending waves of positive vibes over x

talulah how'd you get on today?

euro sorry to hear you had a disappointing scan. I know what you mean about the expectations, the seed was sown in your head that you could have 8-10, so it's bound to feel a bit of a comedown from that and there's nothing to say this cycle will be the same as the last.

cups good that you've made a decision about clinics. When will you be able to get going?

beetle how are you doing lovely? Xx

fab nice sounding recipe. Hugs for the tough time you're going through Xx

brooks how are you doing?

Hello to bugger nobeer and bunnie

Well, thanks so much for all your support when I was scared this morning. We have a BB on board(I think grade 2) - it was on day 3 anyway. Will be a call tomo morning to let us know if know if anything to freeze, but looking unlikel

Unlikely! So, a teeny bit disappointed, but hoping it will be good enough